Secrets Of A Professional Seductress

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September 12, 2016

Amy Taylor is a blue-eyed brunette with a glowing smile, a body fantasies are made of and classic beauty that defies age. She looks like the wife next door – the wife you wished lived next door, if you lived in Beverly Hills. Amy is also a woman of many coveted secrets. Why? Because Ms. Taylor is a professional seductress. Her rates begin at $2,000 for up to 3 hours of time. A weekend with her is priced at $10,000. Some may call her an escort, while others refer to her as a VIP companion. However you refer to it, she’s got what it takes for men to pay big money for a brief encounter with her. So what makes her able to charge these fees and what advice might she have picked up in her career as a professional dream girl? I had the opportunity to chat with her, and what she revealed could help provide you with insight to help you evaluate your own situation and even possibly save your relationship.

In this interview, Amy shares some of what she’s learned about staying desirable and keeping love alive as an elite entertainer to her select clientele.

VB: What makes a highly desirable woman so desirable?

AT: I think physical beauty is obviously desirable…but confidence, intelligence, kindness, generosity of spirit, and interest in and connection with others are also desirable. People are attracted not only to beautiful women, but women who make the feel attended to, heard, valued and connected.

VB: What secrets do beautiful women have?

AT: Being beautiful is a full-time job; from product knowledge and use, to investment in diet/trainers/surgeons/clothing/makeup/hair and skin products, it’s expensive and time-consuming, no question. But none of it is “secret;” like most other things, it’s about educating oneself and devoting time and resources to it. Beauty is somewhat genetic, sure, but most women can become more beautiful if they learn and execute things learned. Which can sometimes be a hassle, I’ll admit…but which does reap rewards of society’s obvious preference for beauty.

VB: Why do clients come to you?

AT: Some tell me they like my brilliance (I hope this is the truth), all of them acknowledge that I have a great body (I do, thanks DNA/diet/trainer/surgeon), they all like that I have integrity (I operate 100% honestly, my ego can’t tolerate being anything less than trustworthy in any area of my life), and I think some like my openness (I have nothing to hide, and am utterly content with my lifestyle…in my opinion, this takes some of the stress away from men who want to enjoy these interactions but are held down by idiotic social stigma of a world which it utterly natural and harmless).

VB: What do your clients complain about most in terms of their intimate lives?

AT: Lack of frequency, enthusiasm, and sadly, youthful looks of their partners…

VB: What do men secretly want in their relationships that they’re not getting?

AT: Attention, flattery, acknowledgment of their efforts, more sex almost always (!), and their partner to spend more effort being fun/sexy/attractive. Some women seem to forget that what it took to get the guy, is what it takes to keep the guy. I’m not sure why this happens, and I’m glad it doesn’t always, but it seems sadly rampant.

VB: What are the most popular requests from your clients?

AT: Weekends spent together.

VB: Do your clients have special requests because wives/partners refuse to do certain things?

AT: Yes, I have 2 clients whose wives would rather stay home with children and church, than travel the world with their husbands. I find this ridiculous, but it’s great for me, as I get to go with him on business and personal trips. I suppose truly, I’m outsourcing for her, servicing a part of her marriage she’d rather not do. Strange, but not everyone loves travel and dating, I guess…

VB: Do you consider yourself a threat to your clients’ marriages?

AT: Not at all. I have never wanted to break up any marriage, and none of my clients have ever wanted to leave their wives (for me or anything else).

VB: Do you ever feel sorry for your clients’ partners (girlfriends/wives)?

AT: Yes, when they’re physically sick and that’s what preventing them from fully being the wife their husband needs. It’s unfair, fate-wise, that a couple in love makes life plans and then sees them somewhat derailed by medical problems. My clients handle this the best way they can, but it’s a very difficult situation with no perfect solution.

VB: Are most of your clients one-offs or repeats?

AT: Repeats.

VB: What do you feel people find the most difficult to say to their partners that they aren’t afraid to say to you?

AT: That they aren’t physically attracted to them anymore, and while they love them and want to stay partners, that they want to date someone newer, younger and hotter. Biology is brutal.

VB: Have clients taught you anything that you feel you’ve grown personally from?

AT: Sure, so many things. I’ve learned about business, politics, cultures, languages, foods, love, aging, health, and happiness. I’ve been so lucky to see what life is like down the road; it’s made me realize how short and beautiful life is no matter how you choose to live it, and that connection is everything.

VB: What do you believe drives men wild?

AT: Oh heavens, I don’t pretend to know about all men. What I have seen is that they’re unique, and their desires differ as much as that of women. So it’s best to get to know a partner deeply (a life of one-night stands is a sure way to end up craptastic in bed, I promise you) and learn what HE likes.

VB: What’s a good way to talk your partner into being more experimental?

AT: Just ask…most men are totally open to trying new things. Phrase it as a fun experiment, rather than a suggestion that he’s inadequate (male egos are very fragile since society has never required much of men other than them being men…so flatter him, rather than pointing out that things are boring or insufficient).

VB: Is there anything that women should be doing more for their men?

AT: Paying more attention, being more “girlfriend” and less “roommate” when appropriate and possible. Trying to stay as physically attractive as possible (difficult in the face of aging, I know), and remaining interesting (have hobbies and interests outside him and the kids, so you aren’t boring). And articulating their sexual needs, instead of simply refusing to have sex with him (it’s your fault he’s rubbish in bed, ladies, if you aren’t teaching him anything and he’s clueless).

VB: Is there anything that you think men should be doing more for their women?

AT: Learning to be better in bed (stop watching porn, that’s not a real female orgasm!), staying physically more appealing to whatever degree possible (your wife wants someone hot as much as you do), paying attention and listening to her (women need to be heard; studies show men talk over us and actually don’t even realize they talk more than we do…). Share chores and errands, and thank her for the life she has given you (don’t take her for granted).

VB: What could people do to step up their game for the opposite sex?

AT: Remember how you behaved when they weren’t yours. Don’t take the other person for granted. Don’t assume that someone new will be better, simply because he or she is new. Put more effort into your appearance, your focus on and connection to your partner. Basically, act the way you acted when you knew they could easily choose someone else…because guess what? They still can, even if they’re yours right now.

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What people tend to overlook about the world of gentlemen’s entertainment is that it’s filled with important lessons about love, sex and society. Those on the providing side are gifted with rare insight that most people never learn. As a provider, it becomes easy to pinpoint exactly what “real world” issues people are facing that they hope to fix in the “fantasy world”. If you’re in a relationship, or if you aren’t but you think you might be one day, the lessons provided to us by entertainers are important to consider, and lessons from women like Amy are critical to remember.

How To Improve A Woman’s Chances Of Orgasm During Penetration

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David Carreras

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August 25, 2016

The female orgasm during penetrative sex is elusive for many, and nothing but a folk tale for others.

Sex Therapist Al Cooper states in Understanding the Female Orgasm that up to 75% of women cannot orgasm with regular penetrative sex alone. And sexologist Robert Birch has reported that 10 – 15 % of American women have never even experienced an orgasm, via penetration or otherwise!

This makes bringing a woman to orgasm a very tough job for guys!

For men, having an orgasm is easy. Simple, straightforward stimulation to the penis, and the VAST majority of guys are “off to the races” in just a few minutes.

Women require much more to have an orgasm… they require:

Clitoral stimulation
Comfort / completely at ease
Strong mental arousal
Stimulation of other erogenous zones in many cases

When everything combines correctly, a woman can have an orgasm. (Note: g-spot orgasms and cul-de-sac orgasms, are possible, but for sake of ease, I’ll just focusing on clitoral orgasms).

And with the way we were built as humans, both male and female, we don’t “match up” very well anatomically during sex, in order for a woman to have an orgasm. Many women have some distance between their clitoris and vaginal opening, so regular penetrative sex just doesn’t provide direct enough stimulation for them to get off.

And watching porn doesn’t make men any wiser, or more educated as to giving a woman an orgasm… a guy “banging” away at a woman, slapping at random parts.

So How Should We Penetrate To Give a Woman an Orgasm?

The clitoris is most important when it comes to a woman’s orgasm, so pressure must be put on the clitoris.

There are a few methods to accomplish this during regular intercourse.

The “Rough Rub”

This is the way to penetrate that I have experienced the most success with.

Ever see how a woman gets herself off when she’s on top? Rather than an in-and-out banging, it’s a rough, swift, back-and- forth rubbing of her clit on your pelvis… your penis is almost just an afterthought on the inside. And notice how she doesn’t even separate herself from your body.

Now try and replicate this motion when you are on top.

Rub your pelvis ROUGHLY and VERY QUICKLY into her clitoris (after you’ve eased into it, of course…). Don’t let the pressure up, and make sure you are doing as long of a rub as possible… not a short range. Speed, pressure and friction is important here.

When taking breaks, try a forceful push into the clit for a few seconds (another penetrative technique on its own)…

Throw in some extracurricular stimulation (playing with her erogenous zones), dirty talk (or sweet talk, if she prefers), and the VAST majority of women will be having an orgasm in no time.

The Coital Alignment Technique

With the Coital Alignment Technique, rather than penetrating in an in-and-out fashion, you penetrate in more of an up-and-down fashion, with the base or top of your penis (your least sensitive part) rubbing against her clitoris (her most sensitive part).

While my success with this technique has been a bit off and on, it does serve as a nice change up when performing the other techniques, and you never know… it may work perfectly for both you and her.

The Hot and Ready

Warming up a woman’s clitoris before penetration is your best bet, regardless of what technique you will be going for.

Oral or manual stimulation to her clitoris will make your job much quicker / easier when actual sexual intercourse begins.

Even the good old fashion “banging” form of penetration can work if you get the clitoris aroused enough before beginning.

Hopefully together we will be making bedrooms all over the world much happier places.

Tips For Writing Your Dating Profile

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Valerie Baber

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August 20, 2016

One of my services as a dating coach is to create online dating profiles for my clients. Although fun and rewarding, it can also be disheartening to learn just how bad people are at personal marketing. Sometimes, even basic communication can be a challenge for them. This doesn’t mean they’re bad or uninteresting people. It just means their strengths are somewhere outside of written intercommunication.

Unfortunately, our written communication is often the first (and possibly only) impression we get to make, so if we don’t know how to effectively communicate on the page or screen, we lose valuable opportunity.

If you’re ready to pick up a few tips to help you come across as a more dateable person, read on. As your coach, I want to see you discover your inner magnetism, so here’s a little freebie to get you on the right path and to avoid making these three common mistakes.

Rule #1

We all have pet peeves and deal breakers, but it is important that we focus on the positive when creating our personal marketing campaign. Studies show us that people respond better to those who are positive, so yes, while there will be some dislikes that will inevitably be addressed, these are not the comments that are going earn us the attention of great people. Remain pleasant and focus on what you do like and what makes you a fun and interesting person to be with. Later on, you and your date(s) can discover the rest, but if you begin on a negative note, you’ll never have the opportunity to discover that you both have a fierce hatred of green M&M’s together.

Rule #2

A rule for good writing in general, is to treat your paper like a canvas and paint a picture. For example, you can say “I like steak. I can make it pretty good”, or you can say, “I love the sumptuous, caramelized deliciousness of a steak when cooked by the hands of a skilled chef who understands the importance of temperature. I’m no Cordon Bleu alumni, but I’m a pretty impressive novice.”

Which sentence structure offers a more enticing, entertaining, sensory experience? Which helps you demonstrate your personality and lifestyle better? When it comes to words, be a painter. You will see more interest from prospective dates when you communicate like a passionate and dynamic person.

Rule #3

Do NOT say you like or expect physical relations. Unless you’re on Asexual Finders or PlatonicFriends.com, the expectation of a physical relationships developing after getting to know each other is a given. If the chemistry is right, intimate activity will follow, but stating this in your dating profile makes you sound like you’re focused on the wrong thing. Don’t be a creep.

The way we express ourselves can make or break us. Learning how to deliver an effective message will greatly increase your success rate. If you’re ready to see a difference today, take a look and see if you might be guilty of one of these three common mistakes, and when you’re ready to get really good, call me.

Casual Intimacy: Can There be Intimacy with Casual Sex?

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Alison Miller

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July 28, 2016

Here are a few things that make me happy:

Sunshine
Chocolate
Cold Beer
Good Sex
The Golden Girls

Because I enjoy happiness, I spend a lot of time outside. I eat a small piece of chocolate every night after my kids go to bed. There’s always beer in my fridge, and I own every episode of The Golden Girls.

Also because I enjoy happiness, I pursue good sex. Because the best sex involves another person, attaining it can be more complicated than a trip to the grocery store or stepping into my backyard.

For me, the search for good sex extends beyond pleasurable genitalia, impressive stamina, and even a pretty face. Beauty and technique matter, but not as much as a person’s ability to inspire me or make me smile. Sex toys have come a long way–if a firm, sizable cock was all I required, I’d have run off with Alan long ago.

The necessity of a great personality is a somewhat regrettable complication. Tindr, that abomination, unites a bazillion people each day. It strips folks down to a few favorable pictures and a brief, self-imposed synopsis. Matches are easy and uncomplicated. If somethings goes wrong, swipe left (or is it right?) and it’s onto the next.

Causal sex becomes less casual when personalities get involved, but without personality, what fun is sex? Physical release is intense, amazing, healthy, and necessary, but I don’t know that I’d call it fun. Fun is eye contact pulling you towards a first kiss. Fun is a full body spark emanating from a bare knee. Fun is exchanging breath while laughing.

Fun is intimacy. Intimacy is arousing. Is it also inherently non-casual?

If I have sex with you, I like you. I might like you like I like sunshine, gaining from you a warmth that fills me and sends me straight to sleep. I might enjoy you like I enjoy classic TV, relaxing fully when we’re together and delighting in your good humor. I might close my eyes and savor you like you like a Hershey’s Kiss.

Whichever form it takes, like differs from love. Likewise, a desire to have sex with someone only sometimes coincides with wanting to form a committed relationship. There’s an obvious, glowing overlap in the Venn Diagram of sex and attachment, but there are singular spaces, and they don’t all represent anonymous sex.

I seek happiness, and I know what it is. It’s coconut yogurt with chocolate chips. It’s sunny cheeks. It’s cheap beer in a baby pool. It’s a flower the day before its death.

And it’s the sweat behind his neck. It’s the arch of my back. It’s frantic fingers and shuddering thighs. However intense and however intimate, sex can also just be happiness.

When we’re truthful with ourselves and with our partners, we’re granted the freedom to enjoy what we enjoy. When coyness morphs into game playing, we only limit ourselves. Too often, we restrict pleasure out of fear or perceived obligation. I’m not suggesting irresponsibility or hedonism. Contrarily, I’m casting a vote for honesty.

The best sex is shared between people who understand each other’s relevant needs. If you’re forming a relationship, you may want to discuss future goals. If you’re embarking on a one night stand, find out how he likes his dick sucked. And if what you want falls somewhere in between, say what’s honest, do what’s true, seek pleasure and harm no one.

Nothing could be more simple, or more casual.

How To Talk About Sex On A Date Without Being Creepy

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Valerie Baber

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June 24, 2016

Conversations about sex can be just as sexy as physical play. Since our greatest sex organs are our minds, taking the time to talk about sexual activity before you engage in it can build the intensity of your overall connection. It also allows you to discover what your partner enjoys and fantasizes about, which will give you valuable tools to work with during your upcoming encounters.

So how do you talk about sex without sending the wrong message or being seen as a pervert? It’s not about what you say, it’s how you say it. The communication techniques discussed in this article rely on tact and syntax.

Syntax is defined as “the arrangement of words and phrases to create well-formed sentences in a language”. Tact is defined as “adroitness and sensitivity in dealing with others or with difficult issues”. In dating, it’s important that we remember, develop and practice these two skills together. Let’s call the blend of skills “syntact”.

A skilled practitioner of syntact in dating knows many things, perhaps the first rule is to never get too personal too quickly. Talking about sex isn’t synonymous with dirty talk and a partner who is willing to speak about sex isn’t necessarily giving you an open invitation to cross personal boundaries. On a first date, you probably don’t want to ask someone what their favorite position is, if they’ve ever participated in a group sex or how often they masturbate. Instead of bringing up topics that could be too graphic or personal, try asking your date what attracts them to a partner.

If they mention something physical, like clean hands or nice grooming, you could say you understand how cleanliness is important, not just because it shows that a person pays attention to detail, but because you wouldn’t want to be intimate with someone who had jagged fingernails or bad breath. This opens the opportunity to discuss other important factors in intimate settings, which is essentially a discussion of turn-ons, turn-offs, and sexual preferences. The beauty of this tactic is that, to learn the answers, you don’t have to say anything about sex or make your date feel uncomfortable. You selected a topic that effects everyone at a certain age (previous relationships), you’ve expressed interest in understanding what drives them (what did you/didn’t you enjoy about your previous relationships), you’ve shown empathy and understanding (I appreciate your desire to have a partner with good hygiene! I wouldn’t want to kiss someone with bad breath), and you’ve also shown your vulnerability/put yourself on equal footing by sharing something about yourself. The language you choose, the way you phrase your questions, and how you respond to your date will determine how receptive to the conversation your partner will be.

So next time, although you may be secretly wanting to ask, “what do you like in bed”, try approaching the topic from a genteel perspective and ask something like, “What were you most and least satisfied regarding chemistry in your last relationship?” You’re much more likely to receive positive outcome.

Dates Look Most Attractive After 3 Drinks

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Anka Radakovich

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June 22, 2016

We all thought people looked better after a few drinks, but now a new survey proves it’s true! SLO Down Wines commissioned a dating survey of “drinking and dating” asking “extremely personal and invasive questions” to a group of approximately 325 men and 325 women. The company’s “Sexual Chocolate” wine began in the garage and blew up across the country, so they figured who would know better about dating and drinking than the peeps drinking their sexy brew.

Key findings include the fact that 46.2% men and 41.8% women find their dates to be the most attractive after 3 drinks. And 60% of everyone said drinking puts them in the mood for sexy time.

They also asked “Have you ever experimented with any kind of sexual activity that you’d consider out of your norm, after a few drinks?” 81.9% of women said “No” and 18.1% said “Yes.” 78% of men said ‘No” and 21.5% said “Yes”. Just make sure you talk and agree about any weird or new stuff you’re gonna do beforehand, before whipping out anything you haven’t whipped out before.

Sexual Chocolate, a California Syrah/Malbec combines “ripe red cherry, dark berry and an array of exotic spices. It combines flavors of blackberry, cherry cola, plum, dark chocolate and a leathery richness. It retails for $24.99.

In the end, consuming three drinks makes everyone else seem more attractive, “except, well yourself”, they say. We say stop at three drinks, because by the time you get to your fourth, your personality does not become any more attractive. Drink responsibly-ish.

What Dating Apps Have The Highest Percentage Of Women?

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Anka Radakovich

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June 6, 2016

Last year during the scandalous Ashley Madison hack, it was revealed that the super popular “married but cheating” site had an overwhelming majority of men on it. Some estimates claimed it was as much as 90% as the site was accused of posting fake female profiles. Since then, online daters have started to question what the exact ratio of male to female daters on dating sites really is.

SurveyMonkey Intelligence analyzed the data and found out. Their analytics showed that Christian Mingle had the most ladies using it at 58.6%. Coffee Meets Bagel came in second with 57.3% and eHarmony third at 55.2%. OKCupid was fourth with 48.3% and Bumble, where women get to call more of the shots, came in at 46.2%. Match was 44.7% and Tinder was 43.3%.

It’s estimated that about 25% of the general population has met their match on a dating app or dating website. Just a few years ago, it was embarrassing to even tell anyone you met someone on a dating site, but no more. Almost every single person I know told me they got laid on Tinder or something similar. Even the New York Times Wedding section, which reveals how each couple met, is filled with lines like “The couple met on Match.com” or “It was not love at first site when she first saw her OKCupid date.”

Here are the numbers:

Embarrassed To Buy Condoms? Safer Sex, Delivered

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Carrie Borzillo

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June 1, 2016

Is anyone really embarrassed to buy condoms at the store anymore? Apparently so. If you search Google for “too embarrassed to buy condoms” 1.76 million results appear. You’ll find countless articles titled along the lines of “How To Buy Condoms Discreetly” or “10 Things More Embarrassing Than Buying Condoms,” and terrified teens tearing up the message boards on Reddit and Yahoo! Answers with cries for help like “I’m too embarrassed to buy condoms. Help!”

Here’s a thought, kiddos: Buy them on Amazon! Or… have a little more fun with your online shopping and subscribe to CupidQuiver, a monthly condom subscription service (like Birchbox for beauty products, BarkBox for doggie goods, or HelloFresh for recipes, this is a box for sex) that delivers you condoms before you need them. What CupidQuiver offers that Amazon doesn’t are fun little extras like free lubes, little role play cards, sexy tips on using lube, and/or other miscellaneous product they decide to throw in for fun.

“Remember the Saturday Night Live skit, D**k in a Box? We like to think of ourselves as Sex in a Box,” quips Todd Harris, President of CupidQuiver, which launched in mid-March.

But in all seriousness, the beauty of what CupidQuiver provides is that they reliably deliver what you need before you need it. “The goal for our clients is to have fun, safely, and to always be prepared. Nothing is worse than getting intimate only to realize you are out of protection! Remembering condoms after-the-fact is not ideal,” says Harris.

Here’s how it works: You choose the type of ID Condoms condom that you want: Studded, Extra Thin, Extra Large, or Superior Feel Lubricated. Then you choose your package: No Strings Attached (1 condom for $1 plus $2 shipping and handling), Friends with Benefits (3 condoms for $5), Singles Mingle (6 condoms plus 1 ID lube for $7), or Lucky You (10 condoms plus 1 lube for $10). The latter three packages include shipping and handling. And, you can easily change your subscription based on how fast or slow your sex life is moving.

Harris tells Sexpert.com that they are shooting for a late-July launch of curated “Fun Boxes.” “They will include sex toys, more tips, and other bedroom goodies,” he says.

How Not To Get “Catfished” While Dating Online

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Anka Radakovich

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March 10, 2016

For anyone who meets people through online dating sites, which is now close to half the single (and married but pretending to be single) population, the concept of being “catfished” is just part of the game. It happens everyday.

One online dater, Kerrie Sackville, a journalist in Australia, says she got catfished by a guy using a stock photo! She chatted with the handsome silver fox who told her he was a venture capitalist, but became suspicious when they started emailing back and forth and she noticed he could barely spell. She busted him by using reverse Google image search, that lets you upload the image and see if it has been used elsewhere on the internet. In her case, it was an actor’s head shot that was sold by a photographer to Getty, a stock photo agency.

Catfishing is practiced by both sexes, but women report it happens to them more than men. The gay men I spoke to about this phenomenon say they avoid it altogether by asking the guys they are chatting with to send them a selfie, along with a bunch of recent photos. Like more than a handful. After 8 or 9 photos you can get can an idea of what the person looks like. And I recommend asking for an “ugly photo” — a more unflattering shot with bad lighting, where you can really see what the person looks like. And not the one where he’s wearing a ski mask. This keeps you from being shocked when the person you just spent hours talking to, shows up and looks 20 years older and 30 pounds heavier than his “stock” photo.

Stop Faking Orgasms

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Dr. TaMara Griffin

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March 7, 2016

Have you ever faked an orgasm? Lots of women do it, and I’m here to tell you: STOP!

When we do not communicate our authentic sexual desires, it sends the wrong message to our partners. When we do not tell them exactly how we feel about our sexual experiences, both parties suffer. Our partner will think they are pleasing us when in fact they aren’t, and then in turn they will have no motivation to change their moves, making your orgasm even further away from reality!

The goal of sex and intimacy is to receive the most pleasure that we can from our sexual experience, and the most important factor in achieving this is to be responsible for our own pleasure! WE are responsible for our sexual pleasure. No one else. So with this in mind, why should you stop faking orgasms? Here are three excellent reasons:

1. Enhance Your Sexual Pleasure

Now I know at some point, we all have faked an orgasm! We laid there moaning and groaning and even making a face or two while our Beloved partners thought they were pleasing us when actually they were not. As a result, we left the experience feeling more frustrated and sometimes even hornier than before. But whose fault is that? Ours! Yup, ours! When we fake an orgasm, it sends a powerful message to our partner. It teaches them two things: that we were sexually satisfied and what they are doing sexually works for us. Once that message has been received by our partners, they will continue to operate in the same manner because they feel that they have been successful! If you want to experience real orgasms, then you must be willing to communicate your sexual desires.

2. Empowers You To Take Control

Communicating your sexual desires not only enhances your pleasure but it puts you in control of your experience. When we look to other people to satisfy us, we are often times left unfulfilled and even resentful. But who is to blame? We are! We have to be willing to speak up and advocate for our pleasure. We have to be courageous and bold enough to tell our partners, in a loving way of course, what’s working and what’s not working for us. We have to be able to say, “I love it when you do this. It feels so good and turns me on.” When you say things in a loving manner, you are less likely to bruise their ego, and more likely to build them up by telling them all the things that they are doing that make you feel good. The bottom line is that you’re more likely to get what you want every time!

3. Builds intimacy

Intimacy is so much more than hot, steamy sex! It is an essential building block of relationships, and the glue that binds two individuals together. It is a choice to expose the very depths of your mind, body, spirit and soul! When you make that choice, you reap the rewards of deeply shared experiences. Tell your partner if you’re not able to reach orgasm – I promise you that it will bring you closer together. It will infuse much more meaning and truth into being intimate in general in your relationship, including kissing, holding hands, eye contact and more. Expose your sexual vulnerability to build deep emotional connections.

The essence of communicating your sexual desire lies in your ability to be open, honest, and respectful of your partner. It also requires you to trust, feel safe and vulnerable enough within the context of your relationship to allow your Beloved to see the real you – because after all, your sexual desires define a significant part of who you are.

Get involved and participate in your pleasure instead of just lying there, hoping that your partner pleases you, which by the way is not their responsibility. We must show up and be present in every experience of our lives in order to reap the total benefits. Sexual activity is no different. At the end of the day, your partner is going to make sure that they are satisfied, so why wouldn’t you? So stop faking, start communicating and begin enjoying your sexual journey!