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Top sex education for adults featured posts and sexuality articles from our sex experts, sex coaches on everything from female orgasms, sexual pleasure, alternative lifestyle topics, couples sex advice and dating advice, masturbation and sexual empowerment, sexual health and wellness including men’s sexual problems like premature ejaculation and how to last longer in the bedroom.

Our Sex Ed featured articles include all the tips and techniques you need to know to make you a better lover such as the ultimate guide to anal sex, BDSM and kinky sex, oral sex, how to have the best orgasms, sexual relationship topics on how to spice up your love life, as well as female sexual anatomy and the erogenous zones including the clitoris, the cervix and cervical orgasm, all about the g spot, female ejaculation and g spot orgasms, the vagina and the vulva, penis facts and more.

Sexpert.com is an all-inclusive sex education site for adults and has many empowering articles on gender and sexuality, as well as articles for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender, sissies, and alternative lifestyles including cuckold and hotwife relationships, threesomes, polyamory and swinging. See our sacred sexuality topics including Tantra sex, yoni yoga, sexy goddess rituals, energy orgasms and more.

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The 6 Tantra Secrets to Bliss-gasms & Ecstatic Sex

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The 6 Tantra Secrets to Bliss-gasms & Ecstatic Sex

Tantra goes all the way back to the ancient language of Sanskrit which is originally from India and offers sensual and enlightening terminology. Tantra is an ancient yoga-like tradition originating in India that trains one in the ways of weaving and transforming sexual energy into altered states and awakening to enlightenment, thus carrying sexuality to unfathomable heights and depths.

The beginnings of Tantra goes back as far as 1500 BC; its writings concentrated on philosophical issues and ritualistic teachings such as the well known Kama Sutra, a sexual manual from the 14th century. The term “sanskrit” is derived from “samskrta” which means “adorned, cultivated, perfected”. Sanskrit has been maintained as the literary language of the priestly, learned and cultivated castes of India.

The 6 Tantra Secrets or Elements

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There are 6 Tantra Secrets or elements of Tantra that are used to create an orgasmic dance. These include: Breath, Intention, Attention, Sound, Movement and Muscle Locks.

“Achieving Tantric Bliss (gasms) through the six elements of Tantra will take your relationship to a whole new physical, emotional, and spiritual level.”

Here’s an opportunity for you to enjoy the quest for enlightenment together and become one with the Universe through mutual orgasms!

1. Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Breath

There are 6 elements (or Tantra secrets) in Tantra, beginning with the power of breath.

Breath regulates and relaxes the body so that it can heal. Breath can lower blood pressure. Breathing into the area of dysfunction can increase blood circulation. Breath elevates the immune and refreshes the lymphatic system. Breath is the essence of life and there is no better way to energize the body than to increase your intake of oxygen.

Our lungs can hold 6 pints of oxygen, but most people only inhale 2 pints or less. In Tantra the word Prana means energy. Breathing is about energizing your mind, body and soul. Breathing in through the mouth produces an energy charge and breathing out of the mouth releases emotions. When a person cries, they have to breathe through their mouth.

When you are sexually excited your breathing increases so if you want to delay your climax, you must slow down your normal breathing pattern. Breathing in unison with your partner can create a deeper form of unity. Synchronized breathing with your lover gives you the opportunity to connect on a conscious level, a respiratory level and breath to breath level resulting in a harmonious bonding experience.

In the following interactive breath exercises, you will learn how to control your breath and how to synchronize it with your lover so that you can make lovemaking last longer. You will find that you can connect on a deeper level of consciousness and experience harmonious bonding through breath. Breathing together is an essential element to experiencing Tantric bliss.

Tantra Breath Exercises

Tantra SecretsBreath can add variety to your lovemaking by blowing your cool breath (with pursed lips) up and down your lover’s spine, on the inside of the thighs, along the crack in the buttocks, on wet testicles and on the vulva lips.

Alternatively, warm breath (with mouth open) can be deliciously arousing. For Hot Breath, choose one of your lover’s Chakras and blow your hot breath through your open mouth for 2 minutes as you caress your lover.

For Synchronized Breathing, face each other and hold hands. Breathe in and out through your mouth at the same time for 2 minutes.

To practice Kissing Breath, hold each other, close your eyes, and share the same breath through deep kissing for 2 minutes.

2. Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Intention

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Where intention goes, energy flows. And without intention there can be no follow through. Intention is about enjoying the journey as much as the destination, to relax the mind and body reducing your stress hormones in the process.

Verbalize: Verbalize your intention for yourself to your partner. Let him/her know what your short term and long term intentions are for your pleasure and the relationship itself. Then put your hand on their heart chakra and tell them how you propose to have a deeper heart connection with them. As you do this, maintain eye contact.

Write it Down: You can also write down your intentions and give them to your partner so they can remind you of your intentions when you are not keeping them. Share your relationship mission statement with your partner and include where you want to see your relationship in the next 12 months.

Exchange Wishes: Make a wish list of 3 things that will heighten your relationship and exchange the list. Take action steps to make at least one of your partner’s wishes come true each week!

Share 3 strengths in your relationship. Then tell your lover 1 weakness and how you intend to turn it into strength.

3. Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Attention

Attention is the follow through to Intention. Attention is being 100% present for your partner.

Finish this sentence, “I want you to pay more attention to my…” Then show your lover how you want them to pay more attention to that part of your body.

Eye Gazing Technique

Tantra SecretsThe eyes are the mirrors of your soul. Look into your partner’s soul for a deeper heart connection. Create emotional support so you can create trust, soothe nerves and enhance relaxation. Where the attention goes, energy flows.

Decide who will be the receiver and who will be the giver. The giver asks permission to look into his/her eyes by saying, “May I come in?” The receiver replies, “Yes” and allows the giver to look deeply into his/her soul. The receiver must open up the door and allow his/her partner to look inside and see the real you. Then the receiver becomes the giver. Discuss what you saw and how it felt when looking into each other’s soul.

4. Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Sound

Sound is like an inner massage; cells in your body respond to vibrations and release energy. Sound vibration heals the body, mind, and spirit.

Music and words have power to decrease pain. Laughter helps blood vessels expand in order to increase blood flow.

You can breakthrough inhibitions by releasing sounds and words. Sound releases energy and during lovemaking sounds release sexual energy and allows the orgasmic energy to flow through you for a full body orgasm. If you hold back the sounds you feel inside, it will manifest in resentment, anger and eventually pain. So for your own good health (and orgasms!), give yourself permission to express yourself through words and sounds and sigh, cry, shout or laugh when you need to, especially during sex!

When it comes to making love, sounds let your partner know that you are having a great time. Encourage your lover through words of praise, exhale sounds of ecstasy when you feel them and let the sounds of sex express your lovemaking.

Entraining Exercise

Entraining is when two people make the same sounds at the same time. For example, start by humming with your partner and emulate each other, then make up your own melody and let your partner follow. Feel how much of your body resonates. The deeper the humming, the more vibration your body will feel.

5. Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Movement

Lack of movement can leave your body feeling tight and stiff. It also restricts energy flow and can block your emotions. Even when you visualize part of your body moving, you are creating physiological sensations. How amazing is that?

Take turns receiving loving caresses and kisses from your active partner. When you are really truly giving you are also receiving the feeling.

To experience the full enjoyment of Tantric lovemaking, the male (Yang) and female (Yin) forces must be balanced in harmony. Yin and yang corresponds to the divine feminine and masculine spiritual life force energies in everyone, not male or female gender specifically.

Tantric Kissing

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For example, deep kissing and tender kissing is a perfect combination of yin and yang. Let’s face it, if you only kissed your lover tenderly, it would become boring, predictable, and lack excitement. On the other hand if you only kissed your lover deeply, you would probably have sore lips and get bored with that, too.

Tantric kissing is when you face your lover and moisten each other’s eyebrows, then lean into each other with brows touching. Feel the energy flow from one to the other uniting the two of you into a higher level of consciousness and kiss gently at first as you slowly build up to adding more pressure.

The Power of Touch

Rub your hands together and feel the warm energy as you slowly bring them apart. Put your hands against your partners hand and feel their heat. The energy of touch promotes blood flow, boosts the immune system, nurtures and arouses so don’t forget to incorporate different kinds of touch with your lover including:

  • A Healing Touch like a scalp rub
  • A Romantic Touch like a hug
  • A Seductive Touch like a kiss
  • An Intimate Touch like a sensual massage is an excellent way to fuse your energies
  • A Sexual Touch like oral sex
  • An Erotic Touch like finding the G-spot or the Prostate gland
  • And finally, an Orgasmic Touch by having sex in one of your favorite sexual positions.

The Best Tantric Sex Position

The “Yab-Yum” is an ancient Sanskrit term which defines the classical, heart-to-heart position of Tantric lovemaking. In this position, both partners are seated upright, with the woman on top of the man (cowgirl style). The main consideration is that the spine must be relatively straight so that the spinal energy of the Kundalini (sexual force) can travel unimpeded and a cosmic circuit can be created between lovers.

When a couple comes into union consciously, they move their energy simultaneously. The Yab-Yum position draws the partners into an “auric egg” or circle on eternal union. The Auric Egg is an energy field created by a man and woman in the Yab-Yum position of lovemaking, in which both partners are sitting upright and creating a circle of energy that flows evenly up and down their spines.

Tantra Secrets to Sex Through Muscle Locks

Bandhas are muscle locks used to cleanse and energize the body and organs.

A common type of bandha in Tantra are kegels, which restore muscle tone, as well as increase length of orgasm, and separates orgasm from ejaculation in men.

The pubecocous muscle (Pubo- Cock -ssih- Gee-ous) or PC muscle is the support muscle for the genitals in both men and women. There is a correlation between good tone in the PC muscle and orgasmic intensity and control. Squeezing and releasing the PC muscle during kegels using repetition helps increase blood flow to the genitals, increases awareness of feelings in the genitals, restores genital muscle tone and control over orgasm, strengthens the penis, while increasing duration and orgasmic pleasure during the sexual experience.

To identify the PC muscle you urinate then stop the flow of urine mid-flow. Women can also insert their finger inside the vagina to feel the inside walls as they contract and relax. Look at your genitals in a mirror and watch them contracting.

Simultaneous Orgasms

Achieving simultaneous orgasms with your partner is like doing the Tango. It’s a sensual dance made for two people working together, communicating with their bodies and responding to each other’s movements.

The PC muscle control raises a woman’s libido, makes her wetter and more turned on, while at the same time, teaches men how to last longer before orgasm (or ejaculation).

Tantric Erogenous Zones

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The male and female sex organs in Tantra are called lingam (penis) which means “wand of light” and the yoni (vulva and vagina) which translates to “sacred space”.

The Goddess Spot is an area of female genitalia is better known as the G-Spot which was named after Ernest Grafenberg who first clinically identified it in the early 1950s. It is the fleshy area in the vaginal wall, right behind the pubic bone and between the opening of the urethra and the cervix. It swells when stimulated, and creates a heightened energy response in women. In some women, female ejaculation may happen, or Amrita – which means “nectar of the Gods”. It is the female ejaculatory fluid that flows from the urethra of some women during orgasm. Some people believe this fluid to have mystical powers; ancient tribes used it to make healing balms and aphrodisiacs.

The Million Dollar Point is the hollow point in the perineum (between the anus and the scrotum) that, when pressed firmly, will block the outward flow of the seminal fluids. It is said that when this technique is used properly, the man will “feel like a million dollars”. Pressing into this area with the pads of your fingertips also stimulates the male prostate glans and can result in non-ejaculatory full body orgasms in men. Men can train themselves to have longer, more full bodied orgasms, using Tantric methods, as well as help overcome premature ejaculation and erectile issues.

Maṇipadme, is a term meaning “The jewel in the lotus” which is a significant eastern expression referring to penis (jewel) inside the many folds of the lotus (vagina). The language of lovemaking!

Take Away

As you learn more about Tantra, there are some important things to keep in mind. Be open to exploring new sexual territory, enjoy the journey of sex, allow yourself to be vulnerable, don’t judge, and most of all – have fun

 

 

What is Love

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What is Love?

According to Merriam-Webster.com, there are many definitions to what love is.

  • Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
  • Love is an attraction based on sexual desire and tenderness felt by lovers.
  • Love is devotion based on admiration, benevolence (disposition to do good), or common interests. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of solicitude towards a person.
  • Love refers to a feeling of strong attraction and emotions.

The emotions can be positive and negative. Love can mean trust, commitment, overwhelming feelings, joy, admiration, enjoyment and more. Love is powerful, genuine, exciting, passionate, healing, valuable, and intense.

There are 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation

  • Words of Affirmation are words of praise and appreciation to express love.

Physical Touch

  • Physical Touch is ways of showing love through touch.

Acts of Service

  • Acts of Service is love expressed through actions rather than words.

Receiving Gifts

  • Receiving Gifts is love being expressed by giving gifts.

Quality Time

  • Quality Time is spending time together and given attention to them.

There are quizzes online to help determine which one is your love language. Discovering your love language with your partner is a great for your relationship. If you each know what your love language is, your partner can take the time learning about you and using your love language in your relationship.

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If your love language is quality time, your partner will know how important their attention and time is to you. Intimacy together is quality time spent together to express love and appreciation.

Love consists of friendship, trust, respect, passion, and communication. Without love our world would not go round. We all experience love as a part of our lives whether it’s a person or material items. Unfortunately, material items cannot love us in return. We work hard for what we want and love the things we have. It’s important to appreciate the simple things in life.

We should always love and put ourselves first. Loving on ourselves first helps us to learn how to love others in our lives. Taking the time to experience love with yourselves, tells us how we deserve to be loved. We learn how special we are and what we are worth.

When we are in love, we release oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin.  Oxytocin is a feel-good brain chemical that helps you bond emotionally with others. Oxytocin reduces stress and increases trust. It is also associated with dopamine and serotonin. Serotonin stabilizes your mood as well as feelings of happiness. Dopamine plays a role in your increasing pleasure, motivation, learning and imprinting memories.

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These neurotransmitters are usually referred to as “happy hormones”. When we’re attracted to and/or care about someone, the three work together. Our brain releases dopamine, our serotonin levels increase, and oxytocin is produced. When we’re in love, all these neurotransmitters make us feel happy and loved.

What is Not Love?

  • Love is not dishonesty, a weapon, sex, lust, obsession, jealously, or possession.
  • Love should never be used to force someone to do something they don’t want to do.
  • It should never be used as a weapon against someone.
  • Someone being jealous or controlling is never love.
  • Always know what love is and is not to you.

What is lust?

The definition of lust is having an intense desire for another person. When someone is in lust, it can be confused as love. Lust stems from physical attraction and sexual chemistry. When couples combine love and lust together, there is a combination of emotional and physical chemistry. They can experience capability and enrich their lives together. 

Love is experienced from our loved ones, friends, and even strangers we just met. To experience love daily, creates happiness and many emotions for you to share to show to others. Learn to love yourself first before you learn to love others.

Tiffany Wharton, Tiffany’s Exotic Treasures

Websites used:

https://www.psycom.net/oxytocin

https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-serotonin-5189485

https://www.loveuniv.com

Please Your Partner With Power Play

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Please Your Partner With Power Play

In the sex community, BDSM are four letters that stand for six words—Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It’s a playground teeming with games to utilize the exchange of power to heighten pleasure and tantalize the senses.

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So lets explore the titillating world of these power exchange sex games from my new book, The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games, where you and your partner trade off being sexually dominant and submissive to one another.

You will need an open mind, mutually trusting hearts and a bit of imagination to let these games be fun and exciting for you and your partner. Some other key ingredients include trust, respect, consent, good negotiation skills, honesty, and great communication.

Some of the sex games may include being tied up or blindfolded, so having a solid sense of trusting your partner to have your best interests in hand is important.

Blind Love
Flip a coin to see who is going to be blindfolded and then lead your lover to the bed. Undress and ravish him or her with total abandon, which should be easy because they can’t see you.

Punishment Box
Keep a secret box of “punishments” to use on your lover when it’s time for some fun. Have a set of cards with erotic punishments written on each one so that you can pick one randomly. Punishments can range from being tied up, blindfolded, and deprived of orgasm, spanked, or humiliated by walking around naked wearing a leash.

Wrestle Mania
Challenge your partner to a nude wrestling match and experience foreplay the Greco-Roman way. For an added twist, consider greasing yourself up with oil and incorporating aspects of bond- age. Would wrestling blindfolded change the dynamic? Try and find out.

Lusty Shopping Spree
Go with your partner to a dollar store and each fill up your own baskets with 10 items to use for power exchange games. For example, a spatula for caning, pantyhose for blindfolding, clothespins for pinching, bobby pins for scratching, an oven mitt for spanking, and tape for tying. After 15 minutes of shopping, get together and compare. The person to reach 10 items first wins.

Top and Bottom Satisfaction
Take turns switching between being a top and a bottom so that you can be a dominant one day and a submissive the next. As a top, you can take away your slave’s senses to make any punishment experience more intense.

Take away their sense of sight with a blindfold, remove their sense of touch by restraining them, and deprive them of hearing with earplugs or earmuffs. Now you can stroke your lover’s body with ice or any other textures.

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Exploring the Diverse Adult Scene in Canada’s Largest City

Exploring the Diverse Adult Scene in Canada’s Largest City

Toronto, Canada’s vibrant metropolis, is known for its cultural diversity and lively nightlife. Among the city’s many opportunities, the adult entertainment scene stands out for its variety and quality of experiences. Toronto is a must-see destination for those seeking moments of pleasure and relaxation.

Exclusive Adult Clubs and Lounges

Toronto is renowned for its dynamic nightlife, and its exclusive clubs and lounges are the beating heart of adult entertainment. These venues offer refined atmospheres and varied programs that cater to every taste.

Luxury Nightclubs

Luxury nightclubs in Toronto are ideal for those who want a mix of music, dancing, and elegant company. Many of these clubs hold theme nights and exclusive events, where you can meet interesting people and experience unforgettable moments. Some clubs collaborate with luxury escorts, offering VIP services, including reserved tables and priority access.

Intimate and Refined Lounges

For those who prefer a quieter, more sophisticated atmosphere, Toronto lounges offer perfect settings for relaxed conversations and quality drinks. Professionals and travelers often frequent these spaces, creating unique opportunities for interesting encounters.

The Charm of Toronto Escorts

Toronto is one of the most cosmopolitan cities in the world, and this is also reflected in the offerings of its escorts. Local escort services offer a broad and diverse selection of professionals, each with a unique charm and ready to meet the needs of the most discerning clients.

Toronto escorts are more than just escorts. They are professionals who are experts at creating bespoke experiences. Whether it is an elegant evening, a corporate event, or a more private gathering, these women know how to adapt to any setting, offering quality companionship and discretion. Many speak several languages, have varied cultural backgrounds, and possess in-depth knowledge of the city, making each encounter a perfect blend of elegance and authenticity.

How to Choose the Perfect Escort

To find the ideal escort, careful research is essential. Escort agencies in Toronto provide detailed profiles of their professionals, with information on physical appearance, personal interests, and specializations. This allows clients to select the escort who best reflects their desires. Online reviews and feedback from other clients can be useful tools in ensuring a satisfactory choice.

Memorable Experiences to Try with a Toronto Escort

Toronto offers endless opportunities to experience unique and memorable moments with an escort. From culinary adventures to daring activities, the city is the perfect setting for turning every encounter into something special.

Gourmet Adventures in Companionship

Booking an escort for dinner at one of Toronto’s starred restaurants is an experience that combines pleasure and sophistication. Imagine sharing a delicious meal in an exclusive setting, discovering new flavours and enjoying the company of a charming conversationalist. Many luxury escorts are passionate about cooking and can recommend the best places in town, making the dining experience even more engaging.

Exploring the Bold Side of Toronto

For those who want something more exciting, some escorts offer experiences that go beyond traditional boundaries. These might include a private tour of the city’s most exclusive clubs or thematic activities that combine role-playing and entertainment. With careful planning and the right level of confidence, these experiences can become unforgettable memories.

Luxury Relaxation and Wellness

For a more relaxing experience, consider sharing an afternoon at a luxury spa. Toronto boasts some of the most renowned spas in North America, where you can enjoy massages and treatments with a professional who knows how to put you at ease. This type of activity is perfect for those looking to combine pleasure and relaxation in one experience.

Exclusive Trips and Weekends

The demand for luxury escorts for out-of-town trips and weekends is an emerging trend. Many female professionals can accompany clients on vacations or relocations, offering pleasant and discreet companionship. This service requires careful planning and is often handled with great care by agencies, ensuring a smooth experience.

How to Prepare for a Perfect Experience:

To best experience Toronto’s adult scene, it is helpful to follow some practical tips.

Planning and Communication

Before booking a service, it is essential to communicate your expectations. Whether it is a meeting with a luxury escort or an evening at a club, having a clear vision of what you want helps ensure an enjoyable experience.

Respect Boundaries

Respect is a key element in any interaction. Toronto escorts are professionals who deserve consideration and courtesy. Being respectful enhances the experience and fosters a more authentic connection.

Conclusion

Toronto’s adult entertainment scene offers an irresistible mix of luxury, diversity, and professionalism. From luxury escorts to exclusive nightclubs, this city has something to offer anyone seeking moments of pleasure and sophistication. Exploring these opportunities with an open and respectful approach can turn every experience into an unforgettable memory. If you’re looking for tailored expertise that combines elegance and authenticity, Toronto is undoubtedly one of the best destinations.

Understanding Barriers to Intimacy and Desired Outcomes

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Understanding Barriers to Intimacy and Desired Outcomes

Currently experiencing communication issues with my partner, low self-esteem affecting my confidence in the bedroom, and struggling with past trauma that hinders emotional connection during intimate moments. Seeking therapy to improve communication, boost self-confidence, and address trauma to rebuild emotional connection and intimacy with my partner

Interactive Self-Assessment Tools – Develop interactive self-assessment tools on the website that allow clients to input information about their concerns, goals, and preferences. Based on the results, personalized therapy recommendations can be provided, along with educational resources and tips for overcoming barriers to intimacy.

Specific Incidents or Triggers Related to Past Trauma – Experiencing anxiety or panic attacks when intimate situations arise, feeling disconnected or emotionally numb during physical intimacy, and struggling with intrusive memories or flashbacks during intimate moments.

Desired Outcomes through Sexual Wellness Therapy – Learn communication strategies to express needs and boundaries effectively, develop coping mechanisms to manage anxiety or triggers during intimate moments, and cultivate a deeper sense of intimacy and connection with my partner

Incorporating communication strategies into your daily routine can significantly improve dialogue with your partner and help you express your needs and boundaries effectively. Here are some ways to do so:

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Practice Active Listening – Make a conscious effort to listen attentively to your partner without interrupting or formulating your response while they are speaking. Repeat back what they’ve said to ensure understanding and show that you are engaged in the conversation.

Use “I” Statements – When expressing your needs and boundaries, focus on using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory and promote open communication. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try saying “I feel unheard when my opinions are dismissed.”

Schedule Regular Check-Ins – Set aside time regularly to discuss important topics with your partner. Use this time to share your feelings, concerns, and needs openly and honestly. This can help prevent misunderstandings and promote a deeper connection in your relationship

To incorporate communication strategies into your daily routine to improve dialogue with your partner and effectively express your needs and boundaries, consider the following:

Reflect on Your Communication Style – Take time to reflect on how you typically communicate with your partner. Are there any patterns or habits that may hinder effective dialogue? How can you adapt your style to better convey your thoughts and feelings?

Practice Active Listening – Make a conscious effort to actively listen to your partner during conversations. Are you truly hearing and understanding their perspective? What steps can you take to ensure you are listening attentively and empathetically?

Set aside Quality Time for Conversation – To foster open communication, schedule dedicated time for meaningful conversations with your partner. How can you create a conducive environment for discussions that allow both parties to express their needs and boundaries comfortably?

By incorporating these strategies into your daily routine, you can enhance communication with your partner and create a more supportive and understanding relationship.

Now, here are three questions for you to consider:

  1. How can you proactively address any communication barriers that may arise in your relationship?
  2. What specific communication techniques or tools can you implement to improve dialogue with your partner?
  3. In what ways can you encourage open and honest communication to effectively express your needs and boundaries within the relationship?

Did I leave you with a question? Send them to me via X, IG, or FB, and keep watch for my response.

Staying Secure While Meeting IRL and Navigating Online Dangers

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Safe Dating: Staying Secure While Meeting IRL and Navigating Online Dangers

In today’s digital age, safe dating has become more important than ever as online dating continues to grow in popularity as a way to meet new people and build connections. With countless apps and websites dedicated to matchmaking, finding a potential partner is now incredibly accessible. However, the convenience of online dating also brings unique challenges and risks, making it essential to prioritize safety both when chatting online and when meeting someone in person for the first time.

Here are some crucial tips to ensure your dating journey remains safe and enjoyable.

  1. Protect Your Personal Information

When starting a conversation with someone online, avoid sharing sensitive personal information. Details such as your full name, address, workplace, or phone number can make you vulnerable to scams or unwanted contact.

  • Use the in-app messaging features instead of sharing your phone number immediately.
  • Avoid connecting your social media profiles to your dating account, as this can reveal too much about you.
  1. Be Cautious of Red Flags

Online dating platforms are not immune to scammers or individuals with harmful intentions. Be vigilant for these warning signs:

  • Too Good to Be True: If someone appears overly perfect or showers you with compliments too soon, proceed with caution.
  • Requests for Money: Scammers often develop trust and then ask for financial assistance under various pretenses.
  • Inconsistent Stories: Pay attention to inconsistencies in their background or details about their life.
  • If anything feels off, trust your instincts and consider blocking or reporting the individual.
  1. Vet Your Match Before Meeting

Before agreeing to meet someone in person, take time to verify their identity. A little research can go a long way in ensuring your safety.

  • Google Their Name: If they’ve shared their name, conduct a quick online search to see if it matches their story.
  • Reverse Image Search: Use tools like Google Image Search to check if their profile pictures appear elsewhere, indicating stolen photos.

Discover a New Frontier in Sexual Wellness and Education

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Discover a New Frontier in Sexual Wellness and Education with Debra Shade.  

Debra Shade has pioneered an unparalleled sanctuary for mental health and modern sex education, offering a rare and transformative approach to understanding pleasure, intimacy, and healthy sexuality. She has officially been given the honor of being the first Pleasure Education and Healing Center in the state of Ohio.

Shades Oasis is a space to overcome sexual barriers resulting in pleasure on purpose. At this innovative center, individuals and groups can explore barriers to pleasure while learning about 12 vulva and 3 penile releases developed through an intricate understanding of 52 erogenous zones.

With classes, workshops, retreats, and movement sessions, the programs are designed to empower participants to cultivate and sustain consensual, substance-free, shame-free sexual experiences. Debra Shade’s holistic approach bridges the gap between physical wellness and emotional intimacy, fostering environments where education and exploration lead to a more liberated, fulfilling relationship with oneself and others.

This unique space stands as a beacon for anyone seeking to embrace sexual health and redefine the art of connection. Its hours are appointment only except 7p to midnight on Thu-Sat. You can book a private session(s) at debrashade.youcanbook. Check out more about Debra and Shades Oasis at www.shadesoasis.com.

Sex Resolutions

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Sex Resolutions

At this time of the year, people find themselves making resolutions about anything and
everything, including sex. On that topic, it can be everything from how many times a day
or week they want it, to where they want it, and with whom. Some of those resolutions
may be attainable, but other desires might be shooting for the stars. Do not get me
wrong, shooting for the stars can be a good way to try to reach your goals with sex. My
point is to make sure your expectations are reasonable. The one thing that can hinder
your sex drive is the pressure you put on yourself.

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Like with any goal, you start out small and work your way up. For example, you go to
the coffee shop every day and you see the girl of your dreams working as the barista,
but neither one of you have said a word, nor has she even made eye contact with you.
You cannot expect to walk in and ask her to sleep with you. You would come off creepy
and probably not be allowed back into the establishment.

In this scenario, you first need to try to make eye contract. The eyes can say so much.
The eyes can give you hope, but they can also take the hope away. Let us say that you
had success with making eye contact, maybe even exchanged a smile. Next time try to
talk with her, even if it is to just tell her you like the way she works the expresso
machine. Demonstrate kindness within the business. Maybe buy a cup for a complete
stranger or leave a nice tip. Kindness and generosity go a long way. If successful, it may
be just a week before you get her number.

Next comes the date, by now you are really crazy for her, but remember she is not on
the same page as you are. It is important to note that most of the time each person is
not on the same page as the other. I am not saying it does not happen once in a while,
but not often.

Now, you could get lucky on the night of the date. So, have you thought it out? Where
will you be having sex with this girl of your dreams? Will it be in the back seat of your
car or a nice hotel, or somewhere in between? Everyone is different regarding where
sex is going to happen. What one must have, another might find uncomfortable.

The next question is, what type of sex are you going to have or want? According to
Planned Parenthood, here is a list of types of sex.

  •  Vaginal sex (penis-in-vagina intercourse)
  • Oral sex (mouth-to-genital contact)
  • Anal sex (penis-in-butt intercourse)
  • Fingering or hand jobs (hand-to-genital contact)
  • Dry humping or genital rubbing.
  • Masturbation (touching yourself in front of each other)
  • BDSM (erotic practices or roleplaying)

Now you need to ask yourself, will you be happy with any one of these? Next, she must
be okay with it too. Sex is a mutual act. Both parties need to be satisfied with it. It is a lot
of pressure that one can put on themselves – the key is not to do that. Have you heard
that old line “it will happen when it happens?” Try to keep this thought in mind. I am a
big believer that life happens for a reason. Sometimes we go through the worst
situation, but if we can hang in there, we come out of the darkness into the light. The air
is not so thick and heavy. We can see clearer. We just might find a playmate along the
way.

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The take away is this, please do not make a resolution about sex. More often than not,
people find themselves being disappointed because it never goes as planned in their
head. Sometimes our thoughts do not match the reality before us.

So, enjoy the hunt, then the chase, and then savor the catch. Get to know the person, making sure you do not find yourself in the ‘friend zone’.

A tip to make sure you stay out of the friend zone when dating is to keep it romantic. There will be no mixing things up. What do I mean by keep it romantic? Write a poem, buy flowers, complement her. By doing it this way, you have reduced your stress levels and the pressure is off your shoulders. Enjoy your sex life in 2025. As always, have fun and keep it consensual.

Beducated’s Mariah Freya Shares Expert Tips

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Beducated’s Mariah Freya Shares Expert Tips for Better Sex in New Daily Mail Article

(Los Angeles, CA / December 23, 2024) — Mariah Freya, sex coach and founder of top sex-ed platform Beducated, is tackling the silent epidemic of bedroom apathy in a new Daily Mail article for Femail, “Are You Having Enough Sex?”.

In the first-person piece, Freya shares research-based insights from and highlights common challenges like mismatched libidos, lack of confidence and stress, collaborating with Dr. Juliana Hauser, Beducated’s libido and desire expert, to offer actionable advice on reigniting desire—from daily ‘intimacy charging’ rituals to the importance of open communication and exercise in boosting sexual satisfaction.

“A large survey published earlier this year by my online sex education platform, Beducated, found that a paltry 40 per cent of us rate our sex lives positively,” writes Freya. “Almost two-thirds of the 1,800 respondents said they felt ‘neutral’, ‘dissatisfied’, or ‘very dissatisfied’ with their sex lives. One in five confessed to being completely out of sync with their partner.

“It seems there’s a silent epidemic of apathy and miscommunication in the bedroom, which is hitting mid-life couples particularly hard. The good news? If you’re stuck in a sex rut, or struggling to find any semblance of desire, there are  solutions.”

Freya and Hauser emphasize that small, intentional acts of connection throughout the day — a kiss, a touch or a flirtatious text—can build the foundation for deeper intimacy, and also encourage couples to challenge routines and explore new experiences to keep their sexual connection fresh and satisfying.

To read Freya’s Daily Mail article in full, visit DailyMail.co.uk.

Visit Beducated.com to discover an insightful censor-free variety of 100+ pleasure-based sex education courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration, with subscriptions starting at $9.99 a month for an annual pass. Non-subscribers can also explore the service with a 24-hour free trial.

On Twitter / X: @beducated_com.

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ABOUT BEDUCATED:

Beducated is the biggest pleasure-based sex education platform on the internet, with 100+ courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration. The library hosts thousands of lessons and extensive learning materials curated by world-class sex educators, coaches, and experts.

Founded by Mariah Freya and Phil Steinweber in 2018, Beducated began as a “Netflix for sexual education,” offering online access to sex and sexuality master classes via subscription. Their latest venture, the AI Sex Coach, is a comprehensive ‘intimacy assistant’ that provides detailed advice on sex and relationships, leveraging extensive training from thousands of sex education lessons and materials to foster an environment of shame-free sexual exploration. To learn more, visit Beducated.com.

Tracy’s Dog Surreal Vibrator Review

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Tracy’s Dog Surreal Vibrator Review

The Tracy’s Dog Surreal is cute, compact and has the look of a lipstick vibe, but thicker in size than most on the market.  I loved that I could carry it with me, and no one would know what it was.  The app capability is a plus it is powerful, has 10 modes of vibrations, is 100% waterproof, made with body safe 100% silicone and has an app capability for better functionality.  The packaging is beautiful with instructions to use inside the package.

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In my opinion, it delivers a powerful orgasm, the Surreal is great for first time users and those who use vibes regularly. The rumbly vibrations are moderate but deep, making for satisfying experiences with every use. The travel-friendly design is a big plus for those on the go, as it’s also quiet and easy to clean.  And did I mention, it is 100% waterproof, for fun water play!

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One of the standout features is the storage cap.  It is a simple but clever addition and easy to take off and put on.  Not only does it keep the stimulation tip clean when it’s bouncing around in a drawer, but it also allows you to cover it right after use if you can’t rinse it immediately. This cap is a significant upgrade from fabric pouches, which tend to leave behind lint on silicone toys.

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I like that the body of this toy is flexible, allowing for movement during use.   Some users like the hard stiffness of other vibes, but I feel the Surreal is more satisfying and put pressure where it is needed.

The app was easy to install and is very user friendly.  It has fun features and allows you to connect via remote with other users, how cool is that. The app has a VIP membership that allows you to add additional features but is not required to use basic functions.  You can earn gems or purchase them like in other online games you play.  For long-distance use, users pay a per-minute fee, it can be an expensive choice for couples looking to stay connected from afar.

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Overall, the Tracy’s Dog Surreal is a game changer to app capable and remote toys. It is quiet, travel-friendly, and has a handy storage cap. The bendable body and app add to the experience. It is great for solo or couple use but may be costly to add VIP or long-distance use.  It delivers a satisfying experience whichever way you choose.