Tuesday, June 18, 2024

Vaginal Fingering Techniques

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How to Finger the Vagina

When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman’s clitoris or pushed inside. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of Dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a “tube of lube” sitting nearby. Under no circumstance should you put pressure or blame on your partner for this if it happens; work with her to get around it.

Vaginal Massage

Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes “through” the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. Lie down side by side, and put your hand over hers while she shows you what she likes. You can also try having her hand over top of yours guiding.

External

Another technique which women are very receptive of is to have your partner lie on her back, spread her vaginal lips wide apart with your outer fingers, and use your middle finger to rapidly slide up and down her vagina rapidly and lightly grazing her clitoris. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Don’t forget to use your mouth while you are fingering, keep kissing her, her neck, and all her other erogenous zones.

Internal

An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We’re talking about that fleshy ‘mound’ over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.

Another, more intense motion is to position your hand so that you have one or two fingers inside her with your palm facing her body. Now bend your fingers inward and move them in rapid but short movements focusing on her G-Spot. This technique can quickly bring your woman to orgasm, especially when combined with cunnilingus.

Fingering Techniques

Labial Massage

Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.

A-One and A-Two and a-Three

Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back ‘hitch-hiker’ style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.

Close But No Cigar

If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.

Push Here to Start

Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she’s ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don’t insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.

Tap Dancing

Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.

Cervix Clock

A woman’s cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won’t.

From the Outside

Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner’s abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.

Off the Edge

Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman’s body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.

Ovaries

Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.

Tracing

After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman’s body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner’s feedback is positive.

Crecent Moon

Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the clitoris, and the external G-Spotbladder.

Four Directions

With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side.

Gentle Touch and Tickle

Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly.

Healing Thrust

Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed – don’t let her get tensed.

Pinch and Pull

Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris. This is definitely not for everyone.

Rock Around the Clit

With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every ‘hour’.

Tour de France

Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris.

Triple Digit Pet

Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia.

Twist and Shout

Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist.

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This post was previously published at: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/vaginal-fingering-techniques/

Best Oral Sex Tips on a Vulva

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In some ways, this is the hardest thing for me to write since I’ve never gone down on a woman, but oral sex is one of the best things in life … when it’s done right. I’ve had some bad oral sex, too, but I don’t want to knock those guys. After all, it’s not like there are classes on cunnilingus (or at least none that I know of) and I know how you guys are about asking for directions. Even if your woman tells you what she likes, sometimes verbal communication is the furthest thing from your mind when hormones have taken over.

Build Anticipation

In most cases, the pussy is the last thing you want to play with during foreplay. I know, most men would be thrilled if a woman comes right up to him, unzips his pants, and immediately gets to the business of sucking his cock. But most women need to have their minds and bodies warmed up before you plunge your tongue down below. Build anticipation by leading a trail of kisses from her lips and down her neck, sternum and belly. Take your time teasing her by swirling your tongue in her belly button. If you start from the bottom, caress, kiss and lick your way slowly up the insides of her thighs.

Start Softly and Slowly

Whatever you do, don’t rip into her labia majora (the outer lips) and the labia minora (the inner lips) like a bag of potato chips. The inner lips are very delicate and packed with nerve endings. Short, slow licks with the tip of your tongue will get her wetter and feel tingly quicker than devouring her like Larry the Cable Guy at an all-you-can-eat country buffet. Gradually work up to giving her longer and broader strokes with the palate (flat end) of your tongue. Pay attention to the way she moans, squirms between your cheeks, and raises her hips before you start with more aggressive tongue and mouth action.

Licking Her Clit

Just because her clit can get as hard as a pebble doesn’t mean that it can take a pounding. Suck on it softly. Flick it lightly and quickly with the tip of your tongue as if it’s a wing of a hummingbird. Barely part your lips and blow on it. Blowing on it up and down and back and forth is even better.

Match Your Mounts

Make sure your mount is properly placed on her pussy. A man’s (or woman’s, if she’s giving) mount is the area of his upper lip just above his teeth. A woman’s mount is the center of the pubic bone. You’ll know when you have it right; it’s a natural fit and it allows you to get to all the places you need to be.

Getting in Deep

In some ways, a man’s tongue can feel more exciting than his penis. Don’t just stick your tongue inside of her vagina; play with it. Push it in and out like you’re fucking her. Dart it in as far as it can go. Swirl or circle your tongue around her inner walls. Wiggle the tip of your tongue around as if you’re tickling her when you’re lapping up her love juices.

Change Things Up

Don’t just stick to one area or one technique. Change things up between clit, labia and vaginal play. Go faster. Go Slower. Don’t forget to let your fingers to some of the caressing, fondling and prodding some of the time. Rub her clit in a circular motion.

Other Techniques

Cup your mouth over her vulva when you’ve got your tongue inside of her. Suck on it as if your mouth is a giant suction cup.

Place the flat end of your tongue on her vulva and over her labia and let her ride your tongue.

Pull your tongue back and then lick her senseless with long and fast diagonal strokes with quick bursts of energy. Pull your tongue back again and return to her pussy with a still tongue until she pants and begs for more.

Invest in a vibrating tongue ring.

Savor; Don’t Gnaw

Whatever technique you’re using, use finesse. Think of eating pussy like licking an ice cream cone or sucking on a marshmallow. It’s not a hamburger, and it’s certainly not beef jerky. And teeth have no role in savoring this delicacy.

Stay Hydrated

Keep your mouth, lips and tongue moist by keeping a glass of water on the nightstand in case you need it, especially if you have been drinking alcohol or smoking weed. Dry mouth can be a real deal breaker both for her and you.

Show Your Enthusiasm

Even if you don’t say how much you enjoy going down on her, she can tell by the way you are totally into the act. If you’re going down on her just for the sake of getting it over or just to get her wet enough to fuck, she’ll sense that and chances are that you’ll be cheating yourself out of ultimate pleasure.

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Previously published in- http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/female-oral-sex-what-your-wife-or-girlfriend-probably-isnt-telling-you/

Yoni Massage: What is it and How to do it?

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What is Yoni Massage?

A yoni massage, is a Neo-Tantric therapeutic, healing practise for vulva owners. Its purpose is not orgasm exactly, but to awaken the sexual energy of the vulva (Shakti pussy power!), to heal past trauma and blockages, and to deepen connection to one’s own sexual pleasure potential and self-discovery, as well as deepen intimacy between two lovers.

How Does Yoni Massage Help the Receiver?

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Yoni massage allows the receiver to let go and open more to pleasure. It is a way for them to learn more about their sexual anatomy and potential, and how to build pleasure slowly to orgasm. It can result in more pleasure, as well as multiple full-body orgasms, although it is not goal orientated, and orgasm if it happens is just a bonus.

Yoni massage can heal the receiver by releasing stored emotions and trauma, on a cellular level, such as shame, using a technique called de-armouring. The vagina stores trauma and emotions, so yoni massage helps to release those blockages that the receiver may experience which holds them back from expressing their sexual authenticity. This awakens pleasure and sensuality and can boost the libido as well.

For some people, yoni massage can be a deeply spiritual experience, for in Tantra, orgasm is considered as a glimpse of enlightenment. That’s what makes yoni massage a practice for deeper soul connection.

How to Give Yourself a Yoni Massage

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Genital massage not only aids in sexual stimulation, but it promotes blood flow to the vulva which is beneficial for genital health.  So by taking the time out to relax and give yourself a genital massage, you are doing your body as well as your sexual libido a favour!

Find a quiet room and lock the door so you won’t be interrupted.  Put on music, light candles or incense to get you in the mood.

Lie down in a comfortable position, propping yourself up with pillows beneath your back and letting your legs hang loosely open, or try lying on your stomach to aid in accessing the genitals easier.  Immerse yourself in erotic thoughts or simply concentration on your body’s sensations.  Breathe deeply, for this increases the flow of blood to the genitals and helps you to relax.

Next, use a mirror to explore the beauty of your own vulva, opening the labia lips and finding the clitoris as your massage yourself.  Betty Dodson recommends trimming or shaving beforehand for a heightened sense of awareness, but that is totally up to you.

Your hands should be clean and nails should be trimmed or kept away from soft tissues by using the pads of the fingers.  Begin with a very light touch on the genitals, using one hand for stimulation and the other to hold your labia lips open.  Some women find direct stimulation of the clitoris painful, or ticklish, so slowly increase the amount of pressure only as you become more aroused.  Use a lube, which enhances all sexual activities by making the genitals slick and slippery.

Rest the heel of your hand on the pubis mons, where the pubic hair begins.  You can begin by stimulating the labia lips with your fingers, using light rubbing and tickling techniques.  You can gently grasp the shaft of the clitoris and slide the hood back and forth or gently move the tissue under your finger around in small circles.

Gradually, you can increase the stimulation and may be able to apply pressure to the clit itself by tapping it lightly.  Many women find that the top, right side of their clitoris is more sensitive than other areas.  You can work around the clit in a circular motion as well.  You can try inserting a finger or two into the vagina and using your palm to stimulate the clit. Experiment with different strokes or speeds to see what feels best, building a repetitive rhythm.

More Yoni Massage Techniques

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Here are a few more yoni massage techniques you can experiment with to rev up your arousal and libido.

Womb drumming: where you lightly drum over your womb area, thighs and labia with the palms of your hands to stimulate blood flow.

Pussy Petting:  This technique uses both hands to alternately stroke up the vulva in a slow, rhythmic motion, warming up the tissue to get the blood flowing.

The Squeeze Tease:  This technique involves softly pinching the outer labia together, working up and down the lips.

Outer and Inner Labia Massage: This method involves opening the labia and squeezing along each side of the outer lips.  This is then repeated with the inner labia.

In Closing

The purpose of Yoni Massage is to awaken your libido;to get to know your beautiful pussy in a more intimate and loving manner; to explore your genitals slow and sensually; and to find new ways to stimulate yourself (especially if you rely on a vibrator for masturbation).

We hope you have enjoyed this short guide on how to do yoni massage for an empowered pussy!

 

Coochie Confidential: 24 Things You Must Know About the Vagina

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For as fascinated as society is with sex and the female body, you’d think we’d be a little more informed about the vagina. A 2010 Cosmo poll found that 60 percent of women didn’t know a lot about their vaginas. Heavens knows how many men don’t know much about the love canal. Knowing it and understanding it can lead to better sex and health.

Being Anatomically Correct

1. The first and most important thing to know is that the vagina is an internal structure. The outer portion of a woman’s privates is called the vulva, which includes the inner and outer labia, the clitoris, clitoral hood and the opening to the urethra and vagina.

2. The average length of an unaroused vagina in a mature woman is between 2.5 and 3 inches wide and 3.5 inches long. The vagina can expand up to 200% during sexual intercourse and giving birth.

3. Inside the vagina is a series of ridges produced by folds of the vagina called the vaginal reggae. They allow the vagina to extend and stretch.

4. The length of the labia minora can be between 3/4 inch and 2 1/3 inches.

5. Both sharks and vaginae have a substance called squalene. Squalene exists in shark livers and is also a natural vaginal lubricant.

About Those Smells and Discharges (Yeah, I know, it’s unpleasant and uncomfortable to talk about, but it’s important to be sexually healthy.)

6. The vagina is self-cleaning and, consequently, physicians discourage douching. The vagina has colonies of mutually symbiotic flora and microorganisms that protect against dangerous microbes. Disrupting this balance can cause yeast infections and abnormal discharge.

7. While vaginal discharge can help lubricate the vagina, it is different from the vaginal lubrication produced during sex. The lube comes from special, pea-sized ducts called Bartholin’s glands, which are located around the vaginal opening.

8. Vaginal discharge does not contain any waste products. It contains fluid that seeps through the walls of the vagina, cervical mucus, uterine and tubal fluid, secretions from glands in the vulva, oil and sweat from vulvar glands, old cells from the walls of the vagina, and healthy bacteria. Vaginal discharge contains mostly salt water, mucus, and cells.

9. The average amount of vaginal discharge a woman of reproductive age secretes over a period of eight hours is ¼ teaspoon. Every woman makes different amounts of vaginal discharge, though it varies depending on where a woman is in her cycle. A woman procures the greatest amount of discharge, .40 teaspoon, around the time of ovulation.

10. Each vagina has its own smell. The smell depends on a variety of factors, including the combination of normal bacteria that live in the vagina, diet, types of fabric a woman wears, level of hygiene, how much a woman sweats, and gland secretions.

11. Bacterial vaginosis (BV) causes the classic fishy smell in a vagina and is sometimes associated with discharge, odor, pain, itching and burning. Researchers don’t fully understand how a woman develops BV, but know it is associated with an imbalance of the bacteria that are normally found in a woman’s vagina. Increased risk includes having a new sex partner or multiple partners and douching. A woman cannot get BV from toilet seats, bedding, or swimming pools. Women who have never had sex can also be affected.

12. Different vaginas have different smells at different times of the day. Right out of the shower, a vagina may not smell. After running or exercise, a vagina might smell musky from all the sweat glands. A menstruating vagina may smell like iron, and when a vagina has an overgrowth of yeast, it may smell like bread. After intercourse, a vagina may smell faintly like bleach, as semen has a smell of its own. If there is an overgrowth of bacteria, the vagina may smell like fish.

13. There are natural ways to make a vagina smell fresher without douching. Tactics include removing pubic hair; wiping with baby wipes instead of toilet paper, drinking cranberry juice, going panty-free or wearing cotton panties, eating probiotics, avoiding panty hose and tight jeans, and eating a vegetable-based diet. Foods such as coffee, asparagus, beets, alcohol, broccoli, onions, garlic, and curry can affect the smell.

14. Sweating down there isn’t only normal; it provides a necessary function. Just below the skin of the labia and clitoral hood are hundreds of tiny glands that secrete oil and sweat. This can protect your delicate areas from friction and overheating.

15. A vaginal fart, also called a “queef,” is common. Unlike gas expelled from the rectum, which contains fecal waste and has an odor, vaginal flatulence is odorless and unrelated to the rectum.

More Healthy Stuff

16. It’s possible for a woman to develop an allergy to the proteins in semen. This condition is known as human seminal plasma protein hypersensitivity. Most cases only involve itching and swelling after sex, but in some cases it can be life threatening. Research shows that certain women are allergic to certain men but not to others.

17. Vaginas — like breasts, knees, and butts — can get saggy. Pregnancy, childbirth, age, hormonal changes, genetics, and years of gravity can weaken the supports of the female genital tract can cause sagging. Kegel exercises, maintaining a normal weight, avoiding constipation, and not smoking are ways to keep vaginas from sagging.

18. A woman’s vagina can fall out and hang between the legs. It’s a condition known as pelvic prolapse. In most cases it can be fixed.

19. Painful sex (dyspareunia) is normal after a woman loses her virginity. But if the pain does not lesson and resolve after a while, other conditions may be involved, including vulvar vestibulitis (inflammation of the vestibule), vaginismus (involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles), allergic reactions to things such as latex condoms or spermicide, and endometriosis (when lining from the uterus gets on the ovaries, bowel, and pelvic lining). As women age, lower levels of estrogen can cause atrophic vaginitis, or thinning of the vagina.

The Sexy Stuff!

20. The first inch or two of the vagina has the most nerve endings and is the most pleasure receptive.

21. The G-spot (Grafenberg spot) lies two to three inches inside the vagina, on the anterior wall (near the belly button), just under the urethra. Researchers believe this area has a different texture than the rest of the vagina because it may be a remnant prostate gland.

22. Increasing evidence suggests that the G-spot feels good because it lies right over a deep part of the clitoris. Although experts describe the G-spot as being inside the vagina on the anterior wall, just under the urethra, the crura of the clitoris actually runs right there.

23. The A-spot is a tender bit of tissue at the end of the vagina, just in front of the cervix. You can find it past the G-spot along the upper wall of the vagina almost to the cervix. The A-spot produces lubrication and orgasmic contractions. The recommended technique is to stimulate it, along with the G-spot, in long strokes on a regular basis to build up the response in the area.

24. Like the clitoris, the labia minora also contain erectile tissue that gets slightly stiffer when things heat up.

 

This article originally appeared on A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind.