Pandemic May Be Good For Your Dating Life

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September 12, 2020

Things suck right now. I normally like to look at things positively and I am a fan of the lack of traffic. But I’m right there with you in saying, I miss being able to do things. BUT dating isn’t on hold until there is a vaccine. Pandemic may be good for your dating life. Sure, there is currently an added challenge to what is already a challenging situation. But do we just go home if our freeway ramp is closed or do we reroute and head to next ramp?!

There’s a lot of guys whining right now about how they “weren’t doing well before the pandemic. And now they literally think I have the plague UGH I’m never going to get laid.”

First of all you should have taken my six week course, The Art Of Pickup, and acquired the skills to approach women with confidence and leave them wanting more. And you still can so get in the game.

Second, you’re antisocial and awkward, the pandemic is literally a godsend for your love life! Now you can take the time to think before you respond. All the women of the world have taken to the Internet to find love and you happen to have Wi-Fi!

You can control your image while showcasing the great. Remember to leave out the fact that you collect and burn your toenail clippings, which by the way is really weird and paranoid.

Things are finally working in your favor. If you’d like help setting up your profile and choosing images I’d be happy to do so. Check out The Best Online Dating Profile.

Otherwise, when you start talking to a girl online and you’re ready to meet. Remember we are in a pandemic but it’s just like adding another STD to the mix. Except you can catch COVID-19 even if she just blows you a kiss. Keeping that in mind have an open conversation and if either party has been taking risks there are testing centers everywhere. Some even have 30 minute results! Schedule a test before the date to put her mind at ease.

She’ll be swooning before the waiter brings the barcode that you need to scan to get the menu as you sit outside in the parking lot. I don’t know about you but I’m in Los Angeles and we’re only allowed to eat out if we’re sitting outside. It’s a good thing we have perfect weather!

The point is you don’t have to get a stray cat just so you have someone to cuddle. Before the pandemic lots of people were using dating websites and apps but now EVERYONE is online dating. This is your time to shine baby so find an outdoor hair salon, get rid of that caveman look and start a profile! If you would like help I’d be happy to do so!

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at Virtual Sexpert.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

5 Ways Guys Blow It After A First Date

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Carrie Borzillo

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March 24, 2020

Most guys hate being told what to do. But, whether you like it or not, gentlemen, there are still some rules and etiquette that women would really, really like you to follow – especially after a great first date.

Men often do things that drive us a little batty after we’ve enjoyed a great dinner, engaged in scintillating conversation, felt a mutual connection, and maybe even shared a passionate goodnight kiss. The crazy making is usually due to your less than exemplary post-date communication skills. You might think you’re not doing anything wrong, but women think a little different than men. It’s a cliché, but men really are from Mars and women are from Venus.

So, I’m here to remind you of what we expect, how not to blow it, and what will get you that second date. Mind you, these are not first-date tips. This is all about the follow-up and follow-through after you have a wonderful first date with a woman you actually want to see again.

1. Awkward Goodbyes

Most women find it quite bizarre after the end-of-date kiss, when you simply say, “Goodnight” and walk away. It’s awkward, and confusing to us. If you know you want to see her again, strike while the iron is hot – i.e., while she is still basking in the glow of your presence – and ask her on Date No. 2 before she gets into her car and drives away.

2. Bad Follow-Up

If you didn’t ask her out for that second date at the end of the first date, you should text her that night or the following morning. We don’t find this desperate of you. We find it sweet. Really sweet. Send a simple follow-up text that says something like, “I had a great time. I can’t wait to see you again.” If it was your best date ever, go one step further and lock it in with some specific like this: “I had a great time. Dinner, Saturday, 8 p.m.?” If you want to make her really swoon, go the old-fashioned route and pick up the phone to call her. This isn’t the norm for 2015, but it’s always a welcome surprise that will put a huge smile on her face.

3. Text Back Quicker

It’s a scientific fact that women are better multitaskers than men. This is why we can return texts and emails while also working, getting our nails done, or running errands. Hell, I’ve even returned a text in the shower! We realize men aren’t quite as lickety-split on the texting front. But, it’s crucial if she texts you, text her back the second you see it. Sure, you can be busy. Then a simple, “I’m busy. Talk later?” is welcome. Otherwise she might think you are playing games or just not that into her. Showing interest doesn’t mean you are chasing after her. It will actually set you apart from most of the men women date.

4. Premature Hook Up

Be careful not to go from 0-60 too fast…even if you had mind-blowing sexual chemistry or hooked up on a first date. (I don’t recommend that, by the way, but it happens). So, unless you met her on Tinder and she’s made it clear that she’s not looking for a relationship, do not booty call her for a second date. And, do not send a “dick pic” unless she asks for one.

5. Last Minute Plans

Guys might think we’re playing games when we refuse a last-minute date. But, really?! It’s presumptuous and rude to think you can call a girl on a Saturday to ask her out for THAT same night. We do have a life too and like to plan ahead a bit. Personally, I sometimes need a little time to get some primping appointments in, like nails, hair, or waxing. It’s hard to do that on short notice. Remember: A man with a plan is attractive to women. Try to plan at least ahead by a few days. But once you are boyfriend/girlfriend, spontaneity and last-minute dates are more than A-Okay, and can make for an exciting time together.

Who You Date vs Who You Marry

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Erika Jordan

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August 14, 2022

Have you guys seen the show on Netflix called Sex Life? I binge watched it! A suburban Mother’s attempts to settle for a life of stability and comfort after years of wild passionate craziness. Can you relate?

You’re wild, you’re passionate, you have wild kinky fun and do shit you don’t want your mother to know about. But then you get to a certain part of your life and you feel the need to get it out of your system and settle down with a nice girl. The girl from the church book club wasn’t appealing last year why do we suddenly think that is who we should settle down with?

This societal norm could be contributing to our high divorce rates. If you are passionate, sexual, wild and crazy. Why do you think it’s just a phase? What is wrong with incorporating that passionate fun into your life? Why do we feel we cannot have love, family and stability without eliminating the kinky passion we once lived for?

In my years as a Love Coach I have encountered numerous men who were unable to settle down, slept with multiple women in a week, and avoided commitment like the plague. Yet they got to a point in which they felt it was time to settle down and then instead of choosing a female similar to the ones they were attracted to they seek out a completely different type. The good girl. The girl their mom wants them to marry. Two years later they are cheating and unhappy.

I understand the logic. Insanity is someone who dates the same type of person over and over again expecting different results. Someone who is good for fun might not be good for a long-term relationship. But to go in the complete opposite direction of what excites you is a recipe for disaster. There is a middle ground! Yes, you can have it all.

Most of us want the comfort and safety of a long term relationship while still wanting to hold onto the excitement of our youth. Trying new things together, leaving your comfort zone, and communicating your desires and fears can help relationships maintain their passion.

One of my favorite suggestions for couples is to write a list of things you’d like to try together. Perhaps it is a sexual list, perhaps it isn’t. Try to come up with at least 10 activities each and have them approved by your partner. You can’t decide to have a threesome or go skydiving with an unwilling participant. Write each one on a piece of paper, fold them up and put them in a jar. Once every other week close your eyes and take one from the jar. Routine can be comforting but it can also lead to boredom. We humans have a need for certainty but we also have a need for uncertainty.

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9 Reasons Why Abstinence Messages Fail

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Dr. TaMara Griffin

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November 7, 2020

Over the past few decades, the federal government has sunk millions of taxpayer dollars into abstinence programs and interventions which have yet to be proven effective. Stopping teen pregnancy, the spread of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases among youth takes much more than a pledge, purity ring or a bogus abstinence message that only focuses on delaying sex until marriage.

Now don’t get me wrong, abstinence works well if you use it! But reality and statistics show that kids just don’t. It’s time to get real about abstinence messages and explore the reasons why they continue to fail our children.

Sex is Natural

Teenage hormones are real. When human beings discover the joy of sex and orgasm, it’s a impossible to stop that desire in its tracks and reverse the pursuit of pleasure. In fact, as young sexual beings, the pursuit of pleasure supersedes our rational mind, and the desire to orgasm clouds our common sense! We are sexual beings from the time we are born until we die. The desire to explore our sexuality is as natural as the desire to eat or sleep. These desires are embedded deep within our subconscious and begin much earlier in life than puberty. Curiosity surrounding sexuality is a natural part of development beginning with the exploration of the body. Teaching abstinence is like asking someone to stop eating or sleeping.

Peer Pressure is Real

Peer pressure is a hallmark of the adolescent experience. The desire to fit in during teen years can be overwhelming! No matter how influential you and other trusted adults are in children’s lives, their friends’ thoughts and opinions will weigh heavily on their decision making, including the decision to have sex. According to research conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation, the majority of children in the U.S. ages 13-18 reported that they get a lot of their information about sexuality from their peers. The report also found that one of the biggest reasons that they engage in sexual activity is because they believe that their peers are also having sex. No amount of saying “just don’t” is going to convince them that shouldn’t keep up with their peers.

The Media Sells Sex

The media perpetuates specific social scripts and conceptual frameworks about sexuality. Television, magazines, movies, and music continue to shape thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes about how men and women should behave sexually, promoting the “player” status for men, and “using what you’ve got to get what you want” for women. The Real Housewives, Love & Hip Hop, The Bachelorette – just to use a few examples – are all filled with the same old narrative featuring unhealthy relationships, lack of meaningful friendships, low self-esteem, and overt sexuality as a tool or a weapon. There are very few healthy sexual dynamics presented in the media for teens to look up to and admire, and shows aimed at kids are so chaste and abstinence-assuming, that issues surrounding sexual peer pressure are avoided like the plague.

Social Media Has Opened Pandora’s Box!

Children have a natural curiosity when it comes to sexuality. Google, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter and all the other social media sites have increasingly become the primary source of sex education and information. Children are turning to the internet instead of parents or trusted adults, to answer their questions about sexuality. Unfortunately, the accuracy and reliability of the internet is, at best, questionable. Searching for sex education websites online can result in inaccurate information, and at worst, redirects to pornography which is massively inappropriate as a sex education tool, showing no emotional context or basis for intercourse.

The Church Sends Mixed Messages

Most churches preach one thing: refrain from sex until marriage. But churchgoers are human and you can bet that pretty much everyone in the congregation is engaging in some form of “sinful” sexual activity. There is also often a focus on female shame, where pregnant young women need to admit their her sins of fornication before the church, while the male partner does not, sending the message that only women bear the burden of sexual ‘sin’. It’s long established that religious guilt-tripping and sin shaming isn’t very helpful. It teaches children to lie, hide and be ashamed of their own sexuality, a silence that puts children at risk. When we silence them for speaking about sexuality beyond abstinence, we miss an opportunity to save their lives, or improve them.

Fear-Laden Messages Don’t Work!

Showing pictures of sexually transmitted infections or telling children that they’ll go blind if they have sex are fear-based tactics that have adverse effects. Categorizing sex as dirty and nasty, or something only bad people do, sends the message that embracing your sexuality is wrong. Not only that, it teaches intolerance for sexual diversity among the beautiful spectrum of sexuality. As a result, kids carry these unhealthy messages into adulthood and they play out in the form of unhealthy relationships, low self-esteem, depression, domestic violence, substance abuse and so much more! In addition, because the teen brain is less developed than an adult’s, they lack the biological mechanism to properly determine the possible negative outcomes of a certain action. So often times they live with a false sense of security and take risks because “it’s not going to happen to me,” or “I’m invincible.”

Do as I say and not as I do

The unspoken messages from adults regarding sexuality are oftentimes more powerful than their spoken messages in shaping children’s perception of sexuality. The behaviors adults model to children can have a significant impact on the choices they make, how they view things and even how they behave or not behave. Parents, it’s time to lead by example! If you want to send the message of abstinence, then perhaps you need to do the same? Or if you want to send a message of healthy safer sex with emotional attachment, practice that! Or if you want to sleep around, but don’t want that for your teenage daughter, you need to have that discussion too.

Penis Play Equals Notches!

Boys are socialized from a very early age to embrace their penis. They are encouraged to sow their oats and have as much sex as one man can have. This message has been passed down as if it’s a rite of passage. Society supports a very unhealthy and sometimes misogynistic view of women, relationships and sexuality, as the recent ‘locker room banter’ political discussion has proven. All these things combined create an unhealthy framework of male sexuality that promotes promiscuity, shuns abstinence, and misses out on important discussions about relationship building and intimacy.

Keep Your Panties up!

This antiquated adage gets an epic fail. How can boys be promiscuous while girls are abstinent? It doesn’t make sense, and it contributes to shame and dangerous secrecy. Back in the day, it created confusion and resentment from kids who grew up to find that their “big sister” was really their mother and other complicated scenarios arising from lies, and currently it’s wreaking havoc on young women all over the country, resulting in damaged wombs or infections from back alley abortions, and of course deep emotional scarring.

So, You Want an Abstinence Message That Works?

We need to rethink, reframe and replace the current abstinence message with one that offers an integrated approach. It must be developmentally appropriate, medically accurate, gender considerate, culturally competent. The message must be clear, concise and consistent and teach knowledge, tools and skills. In addition, effective abstinence programs must including the following:

Teaching what it truly means to abstain, including abstain from substances
Teaching how to choose abstinence – even after being sexual
Teaching that the body is a temple that needs to be protected
Identifying sexual triggers
Understanding peer pressure and establishing healthy friendship
Setting personal boundaries
Defining the characteristics of a healthy relationship
Teaching about informed consent
Teaching communication skills
Teaching critical thinking skills
Teaching decision making skills
Teaching negotiation and conflict resolution skills
Identifying how morals, values and beliefs influence sexuality

Discussing the mental, emotional, social, spiritual, physical, biochemical, energetical, political, institutional, legal, systemic and financial consequences of sexuality

Finally, parents and other trusted adults who have chosen the abstinence talk must continue the abstinence talk. It is not a one-time discussion. The abstinence talk is an ongoing evolving discussion that changes with the needs of the child.

It can be scary to talk to your teen about sex. However, we live in a world where not teaching your child about sexuality can be even more frightening! We must acknowledge that an abstinence-only message is not working. We have to create a message that prepares them for life by acknowledging the truth that children are indeed having sex!

Chicago: Dating after Covid (Vaxxed and Waxed!)

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Ely Torres

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June 29, 2021

Over a year later and finally, many Chicago singles are fully vaccinated and ready to get back out there, in person, and start dating.

Apps like Hinge, Tinder, Match and Bumble are offering special incentives to people who roll up their sleeves, including badges showing vaccination status and free access to premium content. BLK and Chispa will boost profiles of those who are vaccinated, to make them more visible to potential matches. And OKCupid will even let users filter out potential partners based on whether they’ve gotten a vaccine.

The White House says the apps will also direct users to learn how to get vaccinated, including connecting them with educational materials and information on how to find the nearest vaccination site.

With incentives swirling, does this mean more people will get vaccinated in hopes of matching with a future potential partner?

One thing is for sure, with dating app use increase the past year, it’s safe to say dating online isn’t going to be affected by the pandemic ending and people dating in person again.

Priti Joshi, vice president of marketing strategy and operations at Bumble, has the data to back up the popularity of dating apps during the pandemic.

“Online dating has been widely normalized for some time, but I think that this time of social distancing really put a spotlight on the tools and platforms that help people feel connected to others without having to meet IRL,” Joshi said in an email. “For example, Bumble’s Voice Call and Video Chat feature had a nearly 70% increase in use after the State of Emergency was declared in the US last spring.”

With a dating pool as massive as the one Chicago has, it’s hard to limit yourself to only vaccinated singles. After all, many people assume statistics are on their side (Chicago Covid cases have been dwindling, now at positive rate of .4%, as the number of vaccinated rises, now at 55% vaxxed) and won’t limit themselves to dating only the vaccinated.

In fact, 65% of Chicago singles say they won’t stick to dating only vaccinated singles, which shows they trust in the science behind the vaccinations.

Alison Baker, a 12-year resident of Chicago, is fully vaccinated as of May and says she has already been on 2 in-person dates and is looking forward to a summer of dating.

“I had already timed out my first in-person dates for the weeks after I was fully vaccinated, according to CDC standards, at least. I was a bit nervous to see if I would get butterflies for someone again, that spark that hits you when you meet someone you’re already interested in. I sort of knew what to expect since I video dated both of them before agreeing to meet in person,” said Baker.

Tinder and Bumble were quick to roll out video-chat features when the pandemic first started, and they highly contributed to dating app downloads and usage.

Sixty percent of those surveyed said they will continue to use dating apps going into summer, as much as they were in spring.

It seems that it will indeed be the summer of fucks for many Chicago singles.

No vaccine? No problem.

This article originally appeared on ElyShouldKnow

How To Negotiate With The Guy Who Doesn’t Like To Wear Condoms

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Anka Radakovich

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July 20, 2020

There are 19 million STD’s reported to the CDC every year, and a whopping half of them are reported by 15-25-year-olds. How did that happen? Somehow the old line “When I wear a condom I can’t feel anything” has resurfaced, along with higher rates of STD’s. The worst line I heard from someone trying to have sex with me without a condom was “My last girlfriend didn’t make me wear one.” In a perfect world. we should not have to negotiate this issue; if someone wants someone else to wear a condom before sex, they should do so out of respect.

For anyone in this situation, I recommend saying “Put this on your wang if you wanna bang!” Or “Put this on your willy, silly.” If he doesn’t get the hint by this point, then say “Okay then, you’re not getting laid. Like ever.” I promise it will on his schlong in seconds. And make him give you a massage first to get you back in the mood.

There are so many condoms out there, including super thin, but strong polyurethane condoms that feel natural, and Extra Large ones for monster dicks, so there is no excuse anymore for saying that condoms don’t feel good. Studies have also shown that using a condom with lube increases the pleasure for both men and women. So lube it up and get it on. Koitus Kit offers a mini safe sex “kit” that fits into a back pocket or purse–in case you get lucky and don’t even want to think about having regretful, unsafe sex. It features two condoms, two wipes, and a toothbrush. Great for spontaneous hook-ups, camping, or the upcoming Burning Man.

Best Sex Toys For Long Distance Relationships

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Erika Jordan

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July 9, 2020

I’m Erika Jordan certified love and health coach and NLP practitioner. Some of you might be in a long distance relationship. And some of you might be self isolating and your lover happens to be 3 miles away so it kind of feels like you are in a long-distance relationship. Whatever the case maybe I’ve got you covered with my top three most mind blowing sex toys for those of you in long-distance relationships or basically anyone because these toys are awesome.

Lovense is a long distance sex toy manufacturer. I call them that because all of their toys connect to an app, meaning that either you or your partner can control the sex toy from thousands of miles away. This means you can make your partner have an orgasm while she struggles through a zoom meeting or while walking the dog. Incorporate a bit of sexy talk maybe some imagery and you’ll be loving life with all the possibilities that come with app controlled sex toys!

Top 3 most mind blowing sex toys for those of you in long-distance relationships!

•1 The Hush is a vibrating butt plug. I really like this one because it has a stronger vibration than the majority of other butt plugs currently on the market.

•2 Lovense also has a masturbation sleeve which is controlled by your partner! The Max 2 has vibrations and constrictions so it’ll feel like your partners giving you a hand job from anywhere in the world!

•3 The Moxie is a wearable clitoral vibrator by We-Vibe. Much like the Lovense toys this little piece of heaven can be controlled from anywhere with the We-connect app. The Moxie is designed to be worn discreetly underneath your clothing and stays in place with a magnetic clip. Providing powerful but quiet vibrations so it can be worn out and about, to the grocery store, to Target, the post office, restaurants or anywhere else! Spice up your trip to the DMV while reigniting the spark in your relationship!

Long-distance couples need to be more aware of each other’s attempts to connect. We need love and affection no matter where we are. Just thinking “I’ll see them in 3 months” will only lead to your partner feeling neglected and possibly ending the relationship before you have a chance to show her how much you appreciate her. If you’ve scheduled a time to talk with your partner, make that call a priority, just as you would any work meeting or doctor’s appointment. If your partner has an important day, call or text to find out how it went. By weaving your partner’s needs into your day, you’ll demonstrate that you’re there for them, no matter how far apart you might be. Long distance relationships are tricky but they can work and even lead to a stronger relationship when you’re back to being in the same area code.. or home!

Stop settling for mediocre!

Since dating will need to be creative for awhile check out Erika Jordan’s advice in How Dating Will Be Forever Changed By Covid-19

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at Virtual Sexpert.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

6 Things to Look for in a Dating Site

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Valeriam Vincent

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March 27, 2021

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Choosing which dating platform to sign up for is like picking out a car. Are you looking for something that’s loud and fast, or are you interested in the safety ratings? What about a good sound system, or a roomy interior?

Choosing the right dating platform can be a pretty similar process. While they all operate on the same basic idea – helping people match up with each other – you can find loads of different options. Some sites are geared towards finding longer-term relationships, while others let users choose the type of match they’re looking for. With all these choices, it can be tricky to know how to choose the right one – here are the 6 features you should be looking for.

How much detail is needed to sign up?

This often depends on what the sites focus on. Eharmony, for instance, is often used by people who are looking for a dedicated relationship. Since people on the site want to know the specifics of what they’re getting into if they start talking with someone, new users will spend a good chunk of time putting together their profile. There’s even a personality questionnaire with around 80 questions – be prepared to spend 20 to 60 minutes on that part alone.

On the other end of the spectrum are dating apps like Flingster. The minimum amount of information is essentially a photo of yourself, your first and last name, and your date of birth. Usually you can also add your interests or personality traits in your profile, but you may not even need that much to get started.

How many people are using the platform?

The more users there are on a dating platform, the more likely you’ll be to find a match, right? Well, sort of.

Dating is all about the numbers, so in most cases you could join a platform with millions of registrations and be confident in getting a decent match in your area pretty quickly. This is especially true for platforms that emphasize location in how they match people. If a smaller site or app just hasn’t taken off in your city – or if you’re out in the sticks – it probably isn’t the right choice.

That being said, niche dating sites can offer something that big-time sites can’t – a much higher chance of compatibility. Instead of offering “lots of fish in the ocean”, these niche sites center themselves around a value or background type that users would have in common. It could be for people who share a specific political orientation, fans of a certain TV show, or enthusiasts who like to bond over a particular music genre. If you do find someone in your neck of the woods, you’ll have an automatic connection with them.

Does the platform let you integrate with social media?

Even if it’s not a requirement for sign-up, users of some platforms can connect their social media accounts to their dating profiles. For one thing, this makes it easier to set up your account – the relevant data on your social media account is used to automatically generate a suggested profile. For another, it adds an extra layer of trust for other users. If they can see that you’ve connected your dating profile with social media, they’ll feel more confident in your authenticity.

What are the requirements for photos or videos on your profile?

Just about every dating platform will require at least one picture to start out with. Match.com, for instance, wants each user’s primary photo to show their face without a mask or sunglasses. Many platforms focus on pictures, but some also allow users to upload flirty video clips – as long as they comply with the site’s guidelines.

Adult dating platforms don’t have a problem with more revealing pictures; mainstream sites, on the other hand, keep an eagle eye out for nude photos. Since a lot of sites want to stay family-friendly, they often employ moderators whose only job is to remove photos that don’t fit the site’s requirements.

Does the platform offer safety features against scammers?

Just like with real life, the people you’re talking with on a dating platform won’t always have the best intentions. Dating scams are on the rise, especially for people who are over 40, widowed, divorced, or disabled. If you think you’re being targeted, any good dating platform will let you block or report the suspicious user.

It’s also helpful if the dating site verifies its members’ photos. Since most scammers use fake or stolen identities, they won’t be able to get the verification. If someone starts acting sketchy, the verification status of their photos will help you figure out whether or not they’re a scammer (or spammer).

In any case, don’t give in to emotional pleas for help. This is a common scam tactic – once they start asking for money, you know what they’re really up to.

What matching criteria does the dating platform use?

Some sites make recommendations based on distance or membership status; others focus on shared interests or personality traits. If you’re considering a certain site, find out beforehand how you’ll be paired with people. The matches might be totally random, or the algorithm could use your dating profile as the starting point for every suggestion. Some platforms even adjust their recommendation strategy based on the profiles you show interest in, as well as the ones that get a hard pass.

With the right matching system, you’ll have a better chance of finding the right match. Platforms that let you send a wink, like or favorite someone’s profile, or message people directly are pretty quick on the uptake; the more you interact on the site, the more accurate your matches will be.

Make sure the dating site you choose matches your priorities.

After all, this is all about you. Not all dating sites are created equal, so it pays to do a little homework beforehand. With all the dating sites out there, it shouldn’t be too long before you’re signed up and ready for romance.

Chocolate to Sex Up Your Holidays

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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December 12, 2020

If you’re planning to have a holiday party, be sure to include chocolate or take a box for the host or hostess, as chocolate can increase sex drive and sexual satisfaction. According to a study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, just one cube of chocolate a day can raise your libido!

You can even use individually wrapped chocolates as game pieces to make your board game even more fun.

If you just want to share this aphrodisiac with your lover, then hide a dab of chocolate sauce on your body while your lover is blindfolded and tell them to find it using only their tongue. Or give them a sensual massage using some edible chocolate flavored body cream.

To sex up a home cooked dinner, for desert feed each other a variety of chocolate treats as a prelude to making love.

Still not convinced that this deeply rich, flavorful substance is associated with love?

Here’s some history that might convince you otherwise.

When the Aztecs drank chocolate back in the fifteenth century, they believed in its power to elevate sexual power and vitality, likely because of its calming serotonin properties and mild stimulant effect. They would offer it to newlywed couples at wedding ceremonies, and use it as an aphrodisiac.

After the Spanish brought it back to Europe in the sixteenth century and added sugar and butter, a whole new world of chocolaty delights was born and became abundant around the world for consumers.

By the 20^th century chocolate was being produced in millions of different forms to titillate our taste buds.

Why chocolate is good for the body:

Chocolate is good for your physical health as it offers the same health benefits as vegetables and fruits, namely flavonoids that act as anti-oxidants. These same flavonoids also produce nitric oxide, which can help to reduce high blood pressure and lower the “bad” LDL cholesterol. Chocolate also contains theobromine that can increase heart rate and contribute to overall heart health.

You may be interested to know that chocolate cocoa has eight times the number of antioxidants found in strawberries.

Chocolate is also rich in vitamins such as B1, B2, D & E, as well as potassium and magnesium, so it does a body good.

How chocolate works on the mind:

Eating chocolate can increase the pleasure center of our brain and links to the positive experiences via the hippocampus as it possesses phenylethylamine, part of a group of chemicals called endorphins, which make us feel like we are on a natural high!

Chocolate also releases neurotransmitters such as Dopamine and Serotonin that can work as an anti-depressant and make us feel like we are happier or even in love!

The caffeine found in chocolates can act as a stimulant to make you feel more energetic or awake, so it’s a great foreplay food that can help boost your energy and focus on making passionate love to your lover.

chocolatefountain — Try a chocolate fountain at your holiday party this year!

Senior Dating: Essential Factors For Choosing The Website

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Tamara Bell

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September 26, 2022

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When you become older, it becomes harder and harder to find a couple. More challenges appear, and you never know where is your only desired partner. For this reason, many senior dating sites appeared. However, the number of them might make the choice really difficult, so you have to know the main factors of choosing a proper website.

In this article, we are going to show you what are the main criteria for choosing a dating website for older people, and what you should do to find a match.

Why Is That Important To Use A Correct Website?

When you are only about to join the world of online dating, you have to make sure that your experience would be joyful. Choosing relevant senior dating sites is really essential because they come as platforms for finding a soulmate. As Dating Services USA claims, “One of the greatest things about most dating websites is that they do not restrict you in anything. The best dating sites offer a plethora of features and provide members of any age group with endless benefits”. But that is only about proper websites for senior dating.

Many senior users might have issues using modern dating services because the interface is targeted at more experienced people. For this reason, it is crucial to find the best solutions for yourself.

Paid Websites: Why They Are Your Solution

When you are looking closer at senior dating sites, you can see that they are divided into two major groups: free and paid. The majority of users would rather use free websites because they seem like a great option for trying dating without much effort.

And there are two main groups of free senior dating sites:

Fully free. When using a fully free website, you have to be aware of the fact it might not be fully safe. Of course, it would be a mistake to claim all the free websites are fake or bad, but you have to keep in mind that high-level dating websites usually charge users for some services to make them better.
Partly free. Some websites have free functions. These come as a good solution, because they create beneficial conditions for your dating. However, premium accounts, some chatting features, or sending romantic letters might be paid.

All in all, it might be difficult for a novice user to find a great and legitimate dating website for free. And that is why paid services would be the best solution.

Paid senior dating sites provide you with excellent services, which are not overpriced mainly. Such platforms give you an opportunity to test all the functions of the dating service to see how satisfying they are and to let you decide whether you want to use the functions or not.

For this reason, you should take a closer look at paid websites online, because they would grant you a majority of demanded features.

What You Should Expect

When visiting senior dating sites, you have to make a sort of list of expectations. Being a novice user, it might be hard to know what modern dating websites are. You have to make sure that the website you have chosen contains everything you need. Pay attention to the following factors:

Simple registration. Good dating websites don’t try to hurt you with a complicated registration process. The registration window is usually the first thing you see, and it requires not that much personal data.
Simple interface. When attending a website, senior users would be glad to see a really simple interface that would create no issues for managing the service. Usually, there are not many tabs that include chat, letters, some paid services, search engines, and the main page.
Support services for everyone. A support team is a thing that is really essential. Some issues are common. You can see several inappropriate profiles, or just have some difficulties using the website. The support service team on senior dating sites has to cover all the nuances of your work with the website and provide you with help if needed.

These are the main points regarding the website’s structure you should pay attention to. However, there are also plenty of details including payment methods, data security, and verified profiles. And here you can learn more about the profiles.

Choose The Websites With Real Profiles

Real profiles are the main reason to use senior dating sites. Moreover, if you are paying money for the website you use, it is important to make sure that all the profiles are real, and that you are not chatting with someone fake.

Most of the paid senior dating sites give you an option to chat with real ladies, but there are several ways to check if the profiles are real. They include:

Casual photos available. When you first visit a website, you will be able to recognize the authenticity of the profiles. Photos usually prove that, because manually compiled photo sets usually contain some pics from common life, photos from travel trips, and several photos made by professionals in a studio.
Nudity means fake. If the website is full of photos of naked women, it would rather mean that the profiles are fake. The vast majority of reliable senior dating sites don’t allow posting naked photos in profiles, which comes as a great indicator.

When you are sure that the profiles are real, you can start looking for a sweetheart. However, it is also essential to mention that the majority of paid websites provide you with real profiles. It would be just one more way to learn whether the people you are talking to are real.

Is It Possible To Get The Best Dating Experience Nowadays?

The creation of a long-lasting union is a popular demand. Many people want to have a strong bond with their partners, and it’s awesome that senior dating sites give you such option. With them, you will be able to start relationships with the people you like and experience all the joys of having a loving match at your golden age.

And with DatingServiceUSA you will be able to enjoy a desirable high-level dating experience. Make use of professional relationship tips gathered there to make sure that senior dating can be as much fun as in your youth!