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Sexpert.com has the Best Sex Education Articles for Adults from an expert line up of certified sex experts.

Top sex education for adults featured posts and sexuality articles from our sex experts, sex coaches on everything from female orgasms, sexual pleasure, alternative lifestyle topics, couples sex advice and dating advice, masturbation and sexual empowerment, sexual health and wellness including men’s sexual problems like premature ejaculation and how to last longer in the bedroom.

Our Sex Ed featured articles include all the tips and techniques you need to know to make you a better lover such as the ultimate guide to anal sex, BDSM and kinky sex, oral sex, how to have the best orgasms, sexual relationship topics on how to spice up your love life, as well as female sexual anatomy and the erogenous zones including the clitoris, the cervix and cervical orgasm, all about the g spot, female ejaculation and g spot orgasms, the vagina and the vulva, penis facts and more.

Sexpert.com is an all-inclusive sex education site for adults and has many empowering articles on gender and sexuality, as well as articles for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender, sissies, and alternative lifestyles including cuckold and hotwife relationships, threesomes, polyamory and swinging. See our sacred sexuality topics including Tantra sex, yoni yoga, sexy goddess rituals, energy orgasms and more.

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Figuring What You Are Worth, and Sticking To It

In quite a few of these sex writing columns, I’ve either skirted past what a writer should charge for his or her time and work, tried to wax poetic while giving salient advice, or have skipped over the subject entirely. And while you can find plenty of formulas for calculating your time, what this or that website advises this or that kind of writing might be worth in the marketplace presently, knowing what to charge and sticking with what you charge, needs to be taken on a case-by-case basis.

Not just from one writer to another but even from the same writer considering one job over another.

Let me give you a recent example of something that was proposed to me:

An agent I had worked with a while ago, somebody who hits me up across Skype every so often or I’ll send a “Hey, how you doin’?” to every couple of months, left me a message that he has a new job for which he thinks I might be suitable. I had worked about a year-and-a half on a massive project for this guy where I had to employ six other writers to handle the workload. I made some good money, got to spread a little cash around to some writers I knew who could use it, and had some fun traveling a bit for the job. It also made me crazy in that I was locked at the computer all the time and, quite frankly, was scrambling to produce more content than was probably healthy for me to do, all because I was being paid so little I had to make it up in volume.

Hey, I had signed up. I knew what I was getting myself into, and at the time, I needed the dough badly.

The new job the guy is presenting? Well, the price for the work is, again, way too low. But these days, ten years on from the last job I did for this dude, my circumstances are a bit better (or maybe I just give less of a shit and really don’t want to aggravate myself now). These days I can choose to be slightly more picky with the work I may take (slightly) and once again, the price the agent quoted me is so low I can’t see clear to expending the time and energy on this job. I countered with a ‘family-and-friends,’ rate but I doubt the client will come up as much as I need them to… and believe me, I’m being very reasonable. I really would like to help the agent and a few more jingles in my old coin purse would not hurt, but I can’t take steps backwards.

But even when you are desperate for work, or know what you’ll be doing might be kinda fun (this new job would be writing dirty evergreen articles, a job that’s right up my back alley, so to speak) there are just some jobs that are not going to be right for you.

Working as hard as I have over these years I have found what I feel I am worth and generally I try and stick to this price quote. Assuredly this calculation wasn’t easily come by and making it for yourself will be one of the harder aspects of the freelance writing life you’ll come to. Like I mentioned, you can rely on formulas and calculations, or even simply assume what you’re worth, but you could come to price yourself out of jobs well before you have the skills or experience to handle them. Or you could quote yourself too low.

I’ve done both.

Consider how long you have been at this, what your unique skills are, and what the job will entail. Think hard on the job presented, will it require you to bend to a learning curve, or is it something you could jump right into? Has the time come now for you to up your quote? Have you just completed a bunch of work that you feel has really increased your skills and even your reputation? Or are you feeling the bite of a tough personal economy and think it might be prudent to adjust your quote, at least for a little while?

Get what you think what you are worth my dear fellow writers but always think hard on what that might be.

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The Feminist Sexpert Interviews The Stud Boss: Elaina St. James Gets Her Man In Her First Boy/Girl Scene

Gather around now, Ladies! The Feminist Sexpert would like to tell you an adult Cinderella story–with a twist. In this, ultra cool version of the classic fairy tale, Cinderella chooses The Prince. And she ain’t just a princess. She’s a queen.

Meet my sister-friend Elaina St. James, OnlyFans’ most-wanted 50+ model on the platform. Aside from absolutely slaying as a solo performer, “THAT OnlyFans Mom”, a Social Media Influencer, proud Feminist, and The Author of “How To Date Hot Older Women,” this beautiful, talented lady recently decided to film her first B/G scene; actually conducting a Bachelorette style talent search to find just the right co-star.

“I want women to know what an empowering process this was for me,” she said. “Like everything I’ve done in this industry, I did this my way. It was all my choice.”

Once Elaina put out the call for her Prince of Porn, she was inundated with submissions.

“I got tapes from professionals and amateurs,” she said. “Ultimately, I decided to go with a porn guy.”

Ah, but it couldn’t be just any porn guy.

“I wasn’t just looking for a (well-endowed) guy,” she said. “The face and body were just as important. His energy and body language. Most important of all was a good attitude and personality.”

“I looked at it from a business lens first and foremost; my fans love the dynamic of younger men and older women, so that was a major factor in my decision-making,” she continued. “Personally, I was only comfortable with a certain age gap, but the most important part was the professionalism and integrity of the man.”

Elaina found her perfect Porn Prince (say that three times fast, Ladies) in noted industry hunk Lucas Frost, a gorgeous, popular performer whose past titles include Sensual Seductions from Erotica X, and whose previous roles include The Other Man in feminist porn director Jacky St. James’ feature Exposed. He was all her man in Elaina’s scene, working with her to create a romantic, sensual work of erotica sure to please fans of both. 
 

“When I saw Lucas being interviewed on Holly Randall’s show, I was impressed by his great attitude, and especially his statement that he found something to like about every scene partner, regardless of the way she looked. He’s a gentleman,” explained Elaina. “He’s also gorgeous, professional, and experienced….As an older woman, I pick up on energy and body language of both performers in a scene, and it was clear to me that Lucas showed respect and care for the female talent he works with. Safety is paramount, and from Lucas’ interview, it was clear that it was his priority as well.” 

As particular and exacting as Elaina was in her selection of co-star, she took equal care in custom designing a classy, romantic scene.

“I didn’t want to include any corny porn dialogue or plot lines. The story was about my first boy/girl scene,” she said. “I wanted no rough stuff in the scene. I don’t like rough sex, and I really don’t think that most women do. What I did want was a lot of kissing and passion.”

The first resulting scene is available now exclusively on St. James’ (elaina_stjames) OnlyFans page, with a second POV title set for release in the coming weeks. 

From the first time she picked up a Playgirl magazine in college to the cultivation of her current reputation as the Stud Boss, Elaina St. James is a porn star for the new age. The Feminist Sexpert is glad she knows her–I encourage all of you ladies to get to know her too! 

To learn more about Elaina St. James, visit:
ElainaStJames.comTwitter.com/ElainaStJamesTikTok.com/@elaina_stjames
Instagram.com/ElainaStJames
 

Beducated Reveals Different Desires in the Bedroom

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Beducated Reveals Different Desires in the Bedroom: Men Want More, Women Want Better

(Los Angeles, CA / September 3, 2024) – Top digital sex-ed platform Beducated recently conducted an in-depth survey examining the sexual satisfaction and desires of men and women – uncovering distinct differences in what each group seeks to improve within their intimate lives.

Men and women are equally satisfied with their sex lives, but men want more of it and would also love for their partner to open up about their wants, needs and boundaries. 57% of all respondents expressed a desire for more frequent sexual activity, highlighting a common sentiment across genders.

Individuals’ quality of sexual experiences over time fluctuates by gender as well, with nearly 25% of men polled expressing that “Our desire for sex never matches anymore”, but a more illuminating outcome reveals that more than 30% of men believe “Sex has gotten better over time”, while more than 40% of women feel the same way.

“Our latest survey sheds light on the nuanced needs and desires of individuals in their intimate relationships,” said Beducated founder Mariah Freya. “Understanding these differences can help partners communicate more effectively and work towards mutual satisfaction.”

To learn more, visit Beducated.com to discover an insightful censor-free variety of 100+ pleasure-based sex education courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration, with subscriptions starting at $9.99 a month for an annual pass. Non-subscribers can also explore the service with a 24-hour free trial.

ABOUT BEDUCATED:

Beducated is the biggest pleasure-based sex education platform on the internet, with 100+ courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration. The library hosts thousands of lessons and extensive learning materials curated by world-class sex educators, coaches, and experts.

Founded by Mariah Freya and Phil Steinweber in 2018, Beducated began as a “Netflix for sexual education,” offering online access to sex and sexuality master classes via subscription. Their latest venture, the AI Sex Coach, is a comprehensive ‘intimacy assistant’ that provides detailed advice on sex and relationships, leveraging extensive training from thousands of sex education lessons and materials to foster an environment of shame-free sexual exploration. To learn more, visit Beducated.com.

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Press and media contact: Brian S. Gross | BSG PR | 818.340.4422 | [email protected] | @bsgpr

Top 5 Sex Toys For Couples Who Are New To BDSM

BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, can be a great bonding experience, no pun intended. It requires each person to completely surrender themselves to their partner and give in to their own desires. It also promotes healthy communication within the relationship as each person will have to vocalize if they enjoy the sexual act.

If you and your partner are curious about the world of BDSM, you may want to try some of the sex toys on this list. They’re great for beginners and can provide pleasure for either partner. Remember to always establish a safe word before you start pleasuring each other and ask for consent before trying out anything on your partner.

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To safely navigate the world of BDSM, try the following toys:

1. Restraints
Restraints are designed to limit or stop mobility during BDSM play. Different types of bondage sex toys are available on the market, such as rope, bondage tape, binders, and handcuffs. You can tease your partner with restraints by keeping them in view, but taking your time before tying them up. The anticipation can really heighten the sexual attraction between partners and is great for those who completely want to submit to their dominants.

If you decide to choose rope as your restraint, learn how to make different knots. Different knots can have different effects on your partner when pulled and twisted.

2. Collars and Chokers
In a BDSM scenario, there’s always a dominant and a submissive. Establish the roles before starting your scenario and get comfortable with your respective roles. Collars and chokers are usually reserved for submissive partners and can signify that the scenario has started. Collars can also show commitment and can be seen as a promise ring.

The submissive lets the dominant know that they’re committed to their partner and the scenario. Collars and chokers are placed around the neck of the submissive and can also be used to restrict breathing during BDSM play.

They can come in various cool colors, materials, and styles. When the two of you go shopping for one, allow your submissive to choose the collar or choker they want to make the scenario more comfortable for them.

3. Blindfolds and Hoods
Blindfolds are a great way to tantalize the senses during a BDSM scenario. By eliminating one sense, you heighten the effects of the other senses, like touch, taste, or smell. This is also great for partners who are a little shy at first.

Hoods can be used similarly, and they also hide the face. These can be useful if you’re roleplaying with your partner and want to fully embrace your role for the session. Blindfolds and hoods also come in a variety of material options, like silk, cotton, or cashmere, so you’ll be able to find one that suits your preferences.

4. Nipple Clamps
Nipple clamps are great for those who find pleasure in pain. You’ll be able to achieve different results depending on how tight the clamps are on the nipples. This is where having a safe word comes in handy. If the pain gets too much to bear, say the safe word, and action should stop immediately.

You can also pull and twist the nipple clamps during BDSM play to create different degrees of pain and pleasure. Nipple clamps also come in various styles, so you’ll be able to pick the perfect one for your submissive.

5. Paddles
If you’d like some variety of intensities in the pain department, consider getting yourselves a pair of paddles. You can use them to spank your submissive during BDSM play or when training them to get more comfortable with the kink. They look like your traditional ping pong paddles that have been repurposed for the bedroom. They’re designed to cover a larger area as opposed to nipple clamps.

They’re also very compact and inconspicuous. If someone were to happen upon them, they’d think you just own a pair of really cute paddles. Like most sex toys, they come in a variety of designs and material choices. 

Conclusion
BDSM play can be a very intense and freeing experience, and when navigated safely, it can be the glue that can keep you and your partner intact. With it, you’ll be able to learn how to communicate more openly and effectively, as well as learn more about yourself in terms of what brings you the most pleasure. There are many more sex toys available on the market today, and as you get more comfortable, you’ll learn that there’s actually no limit to pleasure and your fantasies.

The Causes of Mismatched Sex Drive by Dr. Ava Cadell

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What is “Normal” Sex?

How much sex in a relationship is considered “normal?”  There are many couples that have sex one or two times a month, and are completely satisfied.  The only time there could be cause for concern, is when a couples sex drive is unparalleled. According to one 2015 study, 80 percent of couples experienced a desire discrepancy in their love lives.

Reasons for Mismatched Sex Drive in Couples

There are several reasons why a couple may not be in the mood at the same time.

Physical: It could be physical: too tired, a medical condition, or certain medications certainly affect arousal.

Emotional: It could be emotional: too stressed, feeling emotionally deprived by a partner, unresolved issues.

Boredom: It could also be just plain boredom.  Look, its no secret that a relationship can get stale after a while.  Just like anything else, if we don’t put effort into creating a great sex life, it could all be over once the “honeymoon phase” ends.  You know, the first 2-3 months (if you’re lucky) in the beginning when attraction seems effortless.

Most Couples Have Sex More Than Once a Week

According to a 2002 study by the highly respected National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, married couples say they have sex 68.5 times a year, or slightly more than once a week.  That may not sound like a lot, but contrary to popular belief, married people have 6.9 more sexual encounters a year than people who have never been married.  After all, you can’t underestimate the value of having an (occasionally) willing partner conveniently located in bed next to you.

Problems that Arise from Mismatched Libidos

Couples who have a mismatched libido can often have problems in their relationship.

If one member of the couple is attempting initiation, and the other constantly refuses, the person with the lower sex drive can tend to feel barraged and possibly even harassed.

The one who is feeling the desire more often can feel neglected, unattractive, and unloved.  Arguments occur, and the sex slowly slips away.

When the sex slips away, so does the casual affection like kissing, caressing, hand holding, laughing at each others jokes, and the playfulness that comes with intimacy.

It all comes down to negotiation, communication, and making the decision to be receptive to your partner’s advances.  Easier said than done, but there is hope!

12 Ways to Deal with Mismatched Libidos

  1. Be empathetic to your partner ad try to think about how they may feel.
  2. Don’t remain silent, communication is important in a healthy  sexual relationship.
  3. Try to remember what it was like when they were having great sex and reproduce that.
  4. Masturbate, self-pleasure and practice self-love so you are not relying on your partner for all your sexual needs.
  5. Expand your meaning of sex and try other types of sexual intimacy that doesn’t always include penetration. Kissing, making out, cuddling, oral sex, fingering, sensual massage, Tantra, and more. Also try adding something to spice up your regular routine, such as shades of kink.
  6. Focus on quality versus quantity!
  7. Schedule sexy time and date nights with each other.
  8. Try doing other adventurous activities together that boost adrenaline, dopamine and testosterone like bungee jumping, or rock climbing. Even just having sex in a different place can raise adventures, desire and libido.
  9. When you do make time for sex, make sure to set the mood so there are no interruptions, have lots of foreplay, and take time to enjoy each other.
  10. Consider going to a sex therapist to talk about the issue if you can’t resolve it on your own.
  11. Perhaps try a consensual non-monogamous relationship. While this doesn’t work for everyone, it is becoming increasingly popular as a way to improve sexual satisfaction in a relationship.
  12. If it is a real deal breaker, consider breaking up.

There Are More Than Two Genders

Newsflash! There are more than 2 types of gender.

I felt the need to clarify after encountering numerous videos pointing to text that says, “there are only 2 genders.” This misinformation is dismissive of real live human beings who just happen to not fit into our societal gender norms.

There are many different gender identities. Such as male, female, transgender, gender neutral, non-binary, agender, pangender, genderqueer, two-spirit, third gender etc. But first let’s talk about your definition of gender?

What’s a male? Anyone who has a penis? What 1s a person who was born with ovaries and a penis?

Some people conclude XY chromosome means male and XX chromosome means female. Well then what about XXY chromosomes or XXXY?

Whatever your definition of male or female it is simply your interpretation. It is wrong to not accept something simply because you do not fully understand it. Our societies need to force people into male or female is not universal. Australia recognizes a third gender, in South Asia they call the third gender hijra.

Intersex is a term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with sexual anatomy or a reproductive system that doesn’t ft the typical definition of male or female. 1-2 out of 100 people are born intersex. There are more intersex individuals than red heads and we would not think to deny their existence. Our closed mindedness not only refuses to acknowledge the existence of over 70 million people in the world. But we shame them and attempt to force them into choosing male or female. In an attempt to make their child “normal” some parents even opt for surgery that can create irreversible physical and psychological harm.

If a person is born with XXY chromosomes or XXXY it does not necessarily result in a condition where there is discrepancy between internal and external genitalia. There might be problems with sex hormone levels, sperm count, overall sexual development, or altered number of sex chromosomes. A person could go their entire life not knowing they do not fit into the gender norm.

The people who deny the existence of a third gender, often consider themselves conservative and religious implying that God has a plan. And yet somehow messed up with anyone who does not fit neatly into the male or female category. Other cultures celebrate the third gender. Perhaps they have a perspective that the average person can’t understand. Whatever the case may be at the very least we should all acknowledge that there are more than two genders. This is not an opinion this is based on facts. People that don’t fit into the gender norm deserve to be acknowledged and accepted the way they are.

If this is still confusing time to go back and let Erika Jordan help. Let us explore the differences in the two most common genders in Men and Women Are Different.

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at PlaymatePickup.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!

Erika Jordan

Certified Love Coach, NLP Practitioner

What You Should Know About Consensual Non-monogamy?

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What You Should Know About Consensual Non-monogamy?

Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy (also referred to as ethical or responsible non-monogamy). In responsible polyamory, everyone knows that there are other partners, and each person gets to negotiate their involvement in the relationships. Romantic, emotional, and/or sexual involvement may differ in each relationship. Polyamory literally means many loves (poly = many, amor = love). Polyamory is not cheating or polygamy.

  • Polygamy: involves marriage between multiple people
  • Open relationships: involve sexual relationships among multiple people
  • Swinging: entails couples “swapping” sexual partners
  • Triads or throuples: where three people all date one another
  • Polyfidelity: all partners in a group agree not to have romantic and sexual relationships outside the established group
  • Casual sex: people have sexual relationships without any romantic relationship or commitments, possibly with multiple sexual partners
  • Casual dating: people date multiple people

What’s the difference between ethical non-monogamy and infidelity?

Infidelity, or what many experts refer to as “breaking a relationship agreement,” involves deception and/or betrayal. With ethical non-monogamy, all partners are aware of one another and consent to the relationship. That’s not to say that infidelity can’t happen in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. Sometimes, people in these relationships overstep boundaries and betray or deceive their partners. This might be considered infidelity.

It can also include relationship anarchy, although many people consider this a philosophy or a political approach as opposed to a relationship style. Relationship anarchy challenges assumptions around relationships and the idea that one relationship (like a married relationship) is more important than other relationships (like friendships). Relationship anarchy might include having multiple intimate partners.

Ethical non-monogamy is an umbrella term, and polyamory is just one way to practice it. Polyamory is having intimate relationships with multiple people at the same time. In other words, you can have more than one romantic partner at the same time.

How do you introduce this subject?

This depends on your situation. Everybody “starts” ethical non-monogamy in a different way. Sometimes, a couple opens their relationship to others. Sometimes, people meet other non-monogamous people and form a throuple. Others join couples in a committed or casual way. If you’re already partnered, it’s a good idea to talk with your partner about your feelings. Discuss why you’d like to try ethical non-monogamy and emphasize that it’s not that they’re “not enough” for you. Commit to learning more about it as a couple.

Consider connecting with other non-monogamous people without the expectation of sex or relationships. This is a good way to process your feelings, learn more about ethical non-monogamy, and form friendships with non-judgmental people. Apps and dating sites are a great place to start.

Ethical non-monogamy can become complex because there are so many ways to practice it. For this reason, it’s a good idea to continually learn more about it. New terms and concepts are constantly being developed to help people describe relationship styles more accurately, so it’s important to be open to learning those new ideas.

Partner Abuse

Red flags for partner abuse in a polyamory relationship.

  • Insist that their way of practicing polyamory is the only way to practice polyamory?
  • Prevent you from joining a polyamory community or learn more about non-monogamy?
  • Threaten to “out” you to friends, family, or co-workers?
  • Violate your safer sex agreements?
  • Try to control your other relationships?
  • Isolate you from your friends and family?
  • Ridicule you when you try to express limits or emotions?
  • Force you to choose between partners or control your contact with other people?

 An abusive partner might say:

  • “Why are you acting so jealous? You must not really be poly…”
  • “Everything you say to me will be reported to my other partners.”
  • “You need to impress my primary partner…”
  • “Group sex is the only way to build group intimacy.”
  • “You owe me for spending so much time with your other partners.”
  • “If you don’t do this… I will tell your family that you are poly.”

Just as with any other red flag of abuse, you need to immediately remove yourself from the threat.  Seek the help of friends, family, and authorities if necessary. Relationships steeped in pleasure are possible in so many methods and if you are looking to explore ethical non-monogamy, some resources can help you do so.

Did I leave you with a question? Send them to me via X, IG, or FB and keep watch for my response.   Don’t hesitate to reach out to me – it would be my honor to assist you in navigating this aspect of your sexual health and empowering you to experience the pleasure and fulfillment you deserve. debra.shade.youcanbook.me

Debra Shade – 2024 ASN Awards Finalist

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Exciting News!  Debra Shade – 2024 ASN Awards Finalist

I am thrilled to share that I have been chosen for the October 2024 cover and feature of ASN Lifestyle Magazine, a premier publication dedicated to the lifestyle community.  The magazine is known for celebrating authenticity, wellness, and connection in every form, offering readers insights into healthy living, social behaviors, and sexual freedom.

ASN consistently pushes boundaries, tackling important issues around intimacy and self-expression while also providing tips for living your best life.

I would like for you to introduce myself to those who do not know me.  I am an ABS Clinical Sexologist and owner of Shades Oasis, located in Columbus, OH.  

At Shades Oasis, our pleasure education center bridges the worlds of sexual arousal and whole-body wellness, showing how intimacy is more than just physical—it’s essential for emotional and mental balance too!

In this feature, you’ll find details on how arousal and hormone release (think dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins) enhance your overall health and well-being. ASN has been a true leader in helping people explore these topics safely and with joy.

Dive into the latest issue for my full feature!

Catch the article on ASN and check out Shades Oasis and more about Debra 

Don’t hesitate to reach out to me – it would be my honor to assist you in navigating this aspect of your sexual health and empowering you to experience the pleasure and fulfillment you deserve. debra.shade.youcanbook.me

Unique Orgasms With Dr. Ava Cadell & Dr. Hernando Chaves Video

The first ever Sexual Health Expo was a huge success with a dazzling trade floor and enlightening, entertaining panels filling each day’s schedule. Hosted by Emily Morse, there were talks by dozens of renowned sexologists like Charlie Glickman, Jaiya, Elle Chase, Sex Nerd Sandra, Ashley Manta and many, many more. My presentation was on Unique Orgasms and Dr. Hernando Chaves was my co-presenter. We had two life-like torso dolls, donated by Pipedreams and Sextoy.com, which we called Quasimodo and Esmerelda – they were the life of the party, allowing us to demonstrate everything from a perineum orgasm to a quadra-gasm and beyond.

Watch the highlight reel of our standing-room-only presentation, and don’t miss the hilarious cameo appearance by Ron Jeremy!

Are You Autosexual?

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I often tell my clients who want to learn about self-love and acceptance, that you need to treat yourself as if you are madly in love with you! That includes being kind to yourself, replacing negative self-criticism with positive affirmations and celebrating your accomplishments with rewards. Even taking yourself out on dates is a healthy expression of self-love.

However, some people have taken this a step further by discovering that they are sexually attracted to themselves and prefer Autosexuality rather than having sex with anyone else. There are speculations that it has become more common with the impact of COVID 19 pandemic and social distancing. There is a positive aspect of being Autosexual, such as feeling confident about your self-image and always being there for yourself.

If you are Autosexual, then masturbation in front of a mirror is your most favored form of sexual satisfaction with intense erotic arousal for the way your body looks and feels. Watching your fingers touch your body as you experience orgasmic pleasure that only you can provide is what makes Autosexuality so intensely erotic and addictive.

Your sexual fantasies are either memories of masturbating or you are the star performer and everyone else is watching you masturbate.

It is possible to be in a relationship where one person is Autosexual if the other person is supportive. In fact, encouraging your partner to masturbate with or without you can enrich your partnership and lead to more trust, respect, passion, friendship, and intimate communication, not to mention the best sexual relationship of your life!

The act of stimulating yourself sets off sparks in 80 different regions of the brain and releases feel-good endorphins that cause feelings of physical and mental wellbeing. When you fully harness this power by masturbating in different positions and places, you can encourage the growth of brain cells that can literally make you smarter.

For men, stimulating the prostate with a prostate milking toy and learning how to separate orgasm from ejaculation are powerful tools that strengthen the mind and make for incredible partnered sex that can be mind-blowing! There are step-by-step instructions on prostate play and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation in the Loveology University’s Self Pleasure course but essentially, it’s a practice which requires withholding ejaculation for measured intervals, which heightens pleasure and orgasmic intensity. I have many male clients who highly recommend the experience and report that it has improved their stamina and transformed them into better lovers.

Women have the pleasure of experimenting with different types of orgasm, which is a real brain turn-on. Of course, the clitoris and its 8,000 nerve endings usually steal the spotlight, but women should also have fun exploring their U, A and G spots manually or with sex toys to trigger new sensations and heighten their sexual awareness. A detailed description is available in the Masturbation course at https://www.loveuniv.com/store/FULtE655

Masturbation is also great for dealing with sexual anxiety and insecurities often caused by sexual guilt or shame. Taking the time to explore your own pleasure and knowing what turns you on is the key to overcoming these emotional blocks. When you remove the stress of performing for a partner, you invite your brain to consider all the erotic stimulants and your body can surrender to orgasmic bliss.

Masturbation is also an erotic safe sex couple’s activity and is the perfect way to see where and how you both like to be touched. I highly encourage mutual masturbation as it can create more eroticism and intimacy in a relationship that results in more satisfying sex.

Mindful masturbation allows your brain the freedom of expression it requires for regenerating itself and for you to live a fulfilling sexual life, whether you are single or in a relationship and any sexual orientation!