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Erika Jordan

Erika is an internationally acclaimed love and relationships expert, author, media personality, and leader in the field of Digital Romance and Online Dating. She is a Certified Love Coach, Master Sexpert, Loveologist, Relationship Expert, and ACE Certified Health & Fitness Trainer. Visit

Erika Jordan’s “Advice for Men” – Dating A Mom

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Let’s face it. If you are over thirty finding someone to date without children isn’t so easy and unless you hate kids there is no reason to avoid the women who have them. Erika Jordan tells you what you need to know before you try to date a mom.

Tales From The Strip

A pansexual male stripper tells all
By Erika Jordan

Recently I had the pleasure of interviewing Andy Espinoza Long about his new book, Tales from the Strip, a memoir and exposé about his life as a male stripper. He’s performed in over six hundred shows, and believes male strippers are misunderstood by society, often assumed to be escorts, which is not the case. Rather, he likens what he does more to drag queen shows. We begin our discussion with a question about his stripper name, Gypsy.

EJ: Andy, do you consider yourself a gypsy?

Andy: When I was considering a stripping name, I noticed how every single male dancer I’d come across chose overtly masculine names like Blaze, Macho, Skillz, and Thor. I didn’t want to be just another meathead (especially since compared to many of my counterparts I was undersized) So I started looking for something a little more androgynous sounding. I’ve been a traveler for much of my life, so the name Gypsy appealed to me on many levels. 

EJ: How did you get into stripping?

Andy: I never really intended on becoming a male stripper. About eight years ago I moved to LA with my best friend and the two of us rented a small studio apartment in Hollywood. I didn’t come from a background in the arts, so the whole experience was slightly overwhelming, and I took a job as an after-school counselor at a local elementary school. My friend adjusted much quicker than I did, and he was a go-go dancer in West Hollywood making good money. He likes girls, so when the opportunity came to dance for a bunch of Russian women at their house one night, he jumped on it. A few hours before the gig, the guy he was supposed to go with bailed on him, and he begged me to tag along. The rest, as they say, is history…

EJ: What has been your most memorable experience?

Andy: A lot has happened in my time here in LA, but one thought that always comes to mind was the time I stripped for a lady with multiple sclerosis. Her husband had hired me and it was a small gathering at their home of like eight people. I was worried, being careful not to hurt the lady, and just kinda did my best to entertain her and her friends. I couldn’t tell if she had enjoyed the show or not, but when it was all over, she used a small screen in front of her to type out what she wanted to say, and the computer called out, “I Love you.” That meant a lot to me.

EJ: What inspired you to write a book?

Andy: I always wanted to become a writer, ever since I was a kid. I went to school for journalism and political science, so I had a lifetime of acquiring skills that would make me a good writer, I just never wrote. The one thing I’ve learned is that if you’re not actively writing, you’re not getting any better at honing your craft. A year a half ago I crashed my car and got my second DUI, it woke me up because the police told me I could have easily died, or at the very minimum been badly injured. Sometimes you need experiences like that to wake you up to start living, especially if you’re a knucklehead like me.

EJ: What else do you do besides stripping? 

Andy: At the moment, I have a few jobs until this ‘novelist’ thing takes off. I manage some properties in the area I live in, and I also freelance as an editor on the side. I also recently started an Onlyfans [a subscription content service] where I post sexy content of myself. It’s a lot of fun because I have always been an exhibitionist, so I am learning to embrace that side of myself in a new, alternative way.

EJ: What’s your sexual identity?

Andy: I notice with sexual identity, our society gets caught up on labeling us and placing us in a box. Since moving to LA, I have always identified as being an active member of the LGBT community. I like the people, I like the culture, everything about it represents me in so many ways. I am beginning to refer to myself as ‘A gay man that usually dates women.’ I heard a term the other day – Pansexual – that is the closest thing I’ve come across that represents me.

EJ: Were you always this way or did a situation or realization help you find your way? 

Andy: As a kid, I was super outgoing and popular in my grade school. The best time of my life was fifth and sixth grade, if I could go back to one era, that would be it! When I got to middle school, my family moved to a nice area of town, and I didn’t fit in at all. The puberty bug bit me later than most, and I was scrawny, poorly dressed, and had to walk home from school while most kids had a nanny to pick them up. I remember walking through the canyons by myself, to stay in the shade and listen to music, but mainly because of the fact that I wanted to be hidden. My awkward stage stuck with me till Junior year of High School, where my best friend and I decided on a whim to drive to LA and attend a rave. Once I saw the culture of ravers, I felt like I finally found my place. I embraced being a rebel, and never looked back.

EJ: What’s dating like in your industry?

Andy: Dating can be tricky in my industry of skin. The good thing about me is that besides this aspect of my life, I am a nerd and I like a lot of girly things. This really helps me in the dating game, because the last person I dated I met at a pole dancing event, and before that, I asked someone out I met at the local bookstore. There’s a cute librarian I see every week when I go to check out books that I’m planning to ask for coffee when the timing is right. 

EJ: If you could change something about your industry, what would it be?

Andy: I’d like male strippers to be treated and looked at as more like Drag Queens. The drag performers are amazing and held up to a higher standard, I feel. People often regard strippers as escorts, which couldn’t be further from the truth. If anything, we are more like Drag Queens.

EJ: Do you use / and enjoy male sex toys? If yes which ones? 

Andy: Only recently have I started to experiment with sex toys, and I’m really starting to like cock rings. I also have a penis pump, but I’m worried about blowing up my dick so much that it explodes! I’m also a  big fan of Viagra, and because I’ve modeled for a lot of sex toy brands in the past, they give me all sorts of goodies every time I work for them. I’ve got dildos, nipple clamps, Fleshlights, and the list goes on. To be honest, though, nothing in this world comes close to satisfying me like my left hand. To this day, I’ve never masturbated with my right hand, only my left!

EJ: What are some things you want females to know before going into a strip club? Etiquette?

Andy: Please, TIP! Act as crazy and goofy as you want, but remember to bring lots of ones. Working as a stripper has made me so aware of how the service industry works. I tip everybody for everything now. You want to jump on stage and ask for a lap dance? I’d love to, but come prepared. 

Tales From the Strip now available on Amazon.

EJ: Where can we find you and your book?

Andy: My book is available on Amazon. Also, I host book signings, my first of which is September 1st at Just Fabulous Bookstore in Palm Springs, and November 25th I’ll be holding a signing at the world-famous Book Soup in West Hollywood. If you’re local, come on by! And if not, purchase the trade paperback or kindle edition of Tales From The Strip on Amazon. There’s even an audiobook version, narrated by yours truly. 

Social media: Twitter: @AndythaGypsy

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IG: @AndytheGypsy 

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What is Cuckolding?

People have been asking for more information on cuckolding in relationships. Our article “Cuckold Relationships” by Dawn Michael is one of the most-read pieces on the site, because people hear about the practice and want to know what it is, and whether it’s right for their relationships. Most people know it has something to do with wanting to “watch” as your partner has sex with another person, but how does it work and what is the lingo? Who’s doing it and why? In this video, I explain the basics of cuckolding.

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How To Get A Woman To Touch You

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Human touch produces oxytocin, the bonding chemical in our brains that increases attraction and leads to intimacy. So how do you get to that first step? In this video, I give advice on how to get a woman to touch you, whether it’s a kiss on the cheek or feeling the fabric of your sweater. It’s not as hard as you think if you just use a few simple tricks and tips, but the rewards are definitely worth it because she’ll find herself more attracted to you, and let’s face it, more likely to touch you again! And definitely more likely to go on a second date.

Check out my other Advice for Men videos on this site, or on the Sexpert Media YouTube channel where I talk about everything from how to get a better erection to how to get a second date. You’re sure to find something you didn’t know about what women think and how we act. It’s my pleasure to share these secrets with you.

Erika Jordan’s “Advice for Men” – How to Use Touch on a Date

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In this video, I give valuable advice and insight into how women want to be touched on a date. Find out what they expect, what they crave and what they require to stay interested and find you very attractive. It’s a lot easier than you think if you just keep a few rules in mind, and learn how to go with the flow to keep the momentum going in a positive direction.

How can you read her body language? I’ve got tips for that. Make sure you’re not misreading signals and going in for a kiss when she’s not ready. There are sure-fire ways to know how to act and react, so get informed and get out there!

Erika Jordan’s “Advice for Men” – Why Nice Guys Don’t Get The Girl

In this video, I tackle the subject of “nice guys.” Are you a nice guy? When someone calls you a nice guy, does it feel like a put down, or an accusation?

What does it mean to be a “nice” guy? Does it mean that you have so little else going for your personality that people describe you as “nice” as your defining characteristic? That’s something you might want to evaluate, and I’ve got some tips and advice to overcome that perception. It doesn’t mean you have to transform into a bad boy, or give up basic manners – not at all. It just means that you can benefit from improving your game to transform “nice” into “sexy,” “interesting,” “in shape” or “exciting.”

Women are attracted to men who are charismatic and appear to have something going on besides an easy-going nature. Take the time to figure out what you’re bringing to the table, whether it’s a killer body or a great sense of humor, a sense of adventure or a searing intellect. Everyone’s different, so discover your strengths and play to them so that you can stand out in a crowd.

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Erika Jordan’s “Advice for Men” – 4 Ways to Get to the Second Date

Are you good at first dates, but can’t seem to get that second chance? It could be one of these four things that I outline in this video. You’ve got to show confidence and be positive, or else what’s in it for her? Make sure you’re leaving her with the impression that you’re a fun person to be around and you’ll be having fun with or without her. That’s the moment when she’ll be texting for a second time around.

People want to be involved with someone who makes them feel good, and someone who – perhaps ironically – doesn’t need them to be happy. No one wants to be responsible for making someone else happy, they’d rather be lifted up themselves! It just makes sense.

So take a look at these four tips and let me know in the comments what works for you to get to that second date.

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Erika Jordan’s “Advice For Men” – How To Get Her To Be More Adventurous In Bed!

Please enjoy this video with my advice to men on how to get their partners to be more adventurous in bed. It’s all about communication and consent.

Everyone has their dealbreakers – such as threesomes for example – and you have to respect that some things may not ever be okay. But for the activities that are ON the table, how can you make them happen? I’ll give some tips here on how to gently bring it up by encouraging conversation around exciting new sexual adventures, and discovering your partner’s deep desires.

Men ask me lots of questions, and one of the most common one is, How can I get her into bed? Then right after that comes How can I get her to be more adventurous in bed? Keeping things hot is very important to make relationships work, so take the time to find out what turns her on, and what she might be thinking about trying, but is nervous to bring up with you!

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Erika Jordan’s ‘Advice for Men’ – Should You Have Sex on the First Date?

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In this video, I share some questions you can ask yourself before you jump into bed on a first date. It’s not about what’s good or bad, right or wrong – it all depends on the individuals involved and how they feel.

Erika Jordan’s ‘Advice For Men’ – Get Her Off Her Phone & Into Bed

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I’m a licensed Loveologist and health coach and I’ve got some great advice for men on how to get a woman OFF THE PHONE and into bed.

We’re all distracted by our phones, but what is she looking at? Can you engage with her? Or better yet, can you create a no-phone day for some lusty romance instead? Let me know in the comments below how it works for you, because your sex life suffers when you can’t get her off the screen!