What is Love

By

Tiffany Wharton

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February 20, 2025

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What is Love?

According to Merriam-Webster.com, there are many definitions to what love is.

Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
Love is an attraction based on sexual desire and tenderness felt by lovers.
Love is devotion based on admiration, benevolence (disposition to do good), or common interests. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of solicitude towards a person.
Love refers to a feeling of strong attraction and emotions.

The emotions can be positive and negative. Love can mean trust, commitment, overwhelming feelings, joy, admiration, enjoyment and more. Love is powerful, genuine, exciting, passionate, healing, valuable, and intense.

There are 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation

Words of Affirmation are words of praise and appreciation to express love.

Physical Touch

Physical Touch is ways of showing love through touch.

Acts of Service

Acts of Service is love expressed through actions rather than words.

Receiving Gifts

Receiving Gifts is love being expressed by giving gifts.

Quality Time

Quality Time is spending time together and given attention to them.

There are quizzes online to help determine which one is your love language. Discovering your love language with your partner is a great for your relationship. If you each know what your love language is, your partner can take the time learning about you and using your love language in your relationship.

If your love language is quality time, your partner will know how important their attention and time is to you. Intimacy together is quality time spent together to express love and appreciation.

Love consists of friendship, trust, respect, passion, and communication. Without love our world would not go round. We all experience love as a part of our lives whether it’s a person or material items. Unfortunately, material items cannot love us in return. We work hard for what we want and love the things we have. It’s important to appreciate the simple things in life.

We should always love and put ourselves first. Loving on ourselves first helps us to learn how to love others in our lives. Taking the time to experience love with yourselves, tells us how we deserve to be loved. We learn how special we are and what we are worth.

When we are in love, we release oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Oxytocin is a feel-good brain chemical that helps you bond emotionally with others. Oxytocin reduces stress and increases trust. It is also associated with dopamine and serotonin. Serotonin stabilizes your mood as well as feelings of happiness. Dopamine plays a role in your increasing pleasure, motivation, learning and imprinting memories.

These neurotransmitters are usually referred to as “happy hormones”. When we’re attracted to and/or care about someone, the three work together. Our brain releases dopamine, our serotonin levels increase, and oxytocin is produced. When we’re in love, all these neurotransmitters make us feel happy and loved.

What is Not Love?

Love is not dishonesty, a weapon, sex, lust, obsession, jealously, or possession.
Love should never be used to force someone to do something they don’t want to do.
It should never be used as a weapon against someone.
Someone being jealous or controlling is never love.
Always know what love is and is not to you.

What is lust?

The definition of lust is having an intense desire for another person. When someone is in lust, it can be confused as love. Lust stems from physical attraction and sexual chemistry. When couples combine love and lust together, there is a combination of emotional and physical chemistry. They can experience capability and enrich their lives together.

Love is experienced from our loved ones, friends, and even strangers we just met. To experience love daily, creates happiness and many emotions for you to share to show to others. Learn to love yourself first before you learn to love others.

Tiffany Wharton, Tiffany’s Exotic Treasures

Websites used:

https://www.psycom.net/oxytocin

https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-serotonin-5189485

https://www.loveuniv.com

Please Your Partner With Power Play

By

Dr. Ava Cadell

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February 17, 2025

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Please Your Partner With Power Play

In the sex community, BDSM are four letters that stand for six words—Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It’s a playground teeming with games to utilize the exchange of power to heighten pleasure and tantalize the senses.

Photo taken from: https://www.amazon.com/Sexy-Little-Book-Sex-Games/

So lets explore the titillating world of these power exchange sex games from my new book, The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games, where you and your partner trade off being sexually dominant and submissive to one another.

You will need an open mind, mutually trusting hearts and a bit of imagination to let these games be fun and exciting for you and your partner. Some other key ingredients include trust, respect, consent, good negotiation skills, honesty, and great communication.

Some of the sex games may include being tied up or blindfolded, so having a solid sense of trusting your partner to have your best interests in hand is important.

Blind Love
Flip a coin to see who is going to be blindfolded and then lead your lover to the bed. Undress and ravish him or her with total abandon, which should be easy because they can’t see you.

Punishment Box
Keep a secret box of “punishments” to use on your lover when it’s time for some fun. Have a set of cards with erotic punishments written on each one so that you can pick one randomly. Punishments can range from being tied up, blindfolded, and deprived of orgasm, spanked, or humiliated by walking around naked wearing a leash.

Wrestle Mania
Challenge your partner to a nude wrestling match and experience foreplay the Greco-Roman way. For an added twist, consider greasing yourself up with oil and incorporating aspects of bond- age. Would wrestling blindfolded change the dynamic? Try and find out.

Lusty Shopping Spree
Go with your partner to a dollar store and each fill up your own baskets with 10 items to use for power exchange games. For example, a spatula for caning, pantyhose for blindfolding, clothespins for pinching, bobby pins for scratching, an oven mitt for spanking, and tape for tying. After 15 minutes of shopping, get together and compare. The person to reach 10 items first wins.

Top and Bottom Satisfaction
Take turns switching between being a top and a bottom so that you can be a dominant one day and a submissive the next. As a top, you can take away your slave’s senses to make any punishment experience more intense.

Take away their sense of sight with a blindfold, remove their sense of touch by restraining them, and deprive them of hearing with earplugs or earmuffs. Now you can stroke your lover’s body with ice or any other textures.

For more playful ways to add passion to your love life, get the

The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games by Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D

Exploring the Diverse Adult Scene in Canada’s Largest City

By

Valeriam Vincent

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January 20, 2025

Exploring the Diverse Adult Scene in Canada’s Largest City

Toronto, Canada’s vibrant metropolis, is known for its cultural diversity and lively nightlife. Among the city’s many opportunities, the adult entertainment scene stands out for its variety and quality of experiences. Toronto is a must-see destination for those seeking moments of pleasure and relaxation.

Exclusive Adult Clubs and Lounges

Toronto is renowned for its dynamic nightlife, and its exclusive clubs and lounges are the beating heart of adult entertainment. These venues offer refined atmospheres and varied programs that cater to every taste.

Luxury Nightclubs

Luxury nightclubs in Toronto are ideal for those who want a mix of music, dancing, and elegant company. Many of these clubs hold theme nights and exclusive events, where you can meet interesting people and experience unforgettable moments. Some clubs collaborate with luxury escorts, offering VIP services, including reserved tables and priority access.

Intimate and Refined Lounges

For those who prefer a quieter, more sophisticated atmosphere, Toronto lounges offer perfect settings for relaxed conversations and quality drinks. Professionals and travelers often frequent these spaces, creating unique opportunities for interesting encounters.

The Charm of Toronto Escorts

Toronto is one of the most cosmopolitan cities in the world, and this is also reflected in the offerings of its escorts. Local escort services offer a broad and diverse selection of professionals, each with a unique charm and ready to meet the needs of the most discerning clients.

Toronto escorts are more than just escorts. They are professionals who are experts at creating bespoke experiences. Whether it is an elegant evening, a corporate event, or a more private gathering, these women know how to adapt to any setting, offering quality companionship and discretion. Many speak several languages, have varied cultural backgrounds, and possess in-depth knowledge of the city, making each encounter a perfect blend of elegance and authenticity.

How to Choose the Perfect Escort

To find the ideal escort, careful research is essential. Escort agencies in Toronto provide detailed profiles of their professionals, with information on physical appearance, personal interests, and specializations. This allows clients to select the escort who best reflects their desires. Online reviews and feedback from other clients can be useful tools in ensuring a satisfactory choice.

Memorable Experiences to Try with a Toronto Escort

Toronto offers endless opportunities to experience unique and memorable moments with an escort. From culinary adventures to daring activities, the city is the perfect setting for turning every encounter into something special.

Gourmet Adventures in Companionship

Booking an escort for dinner at one of Toronto’s starred restaurants is an experience that combines pleasure and sophistication. Imagine sharing a delicious meal in an exclusive setting, discovering new flavours and enjoying the company of a charming conversationalist. Many luxury escorts are passionate about cooking and can recommend the best places in town, making the dining experience even more engaging.

Exploring the Bold Side of Toronto

For those who want something more exciting, some escorts offer experiences that go beyond traditional boundaries. These might include a private tour of the city’s most exclusive clubs or thematic activities that combine role-playing and entertainment. With careful planning and the right level of confidence, these experiences can become unforgettable memories.

Luxury Relaxation and Wellness

For a more relaxing experience, consider sharing an afternoon at a luxury spa. Toronto boasts some of the most renowned spas in North America, where you can enjoy massages and treatments with a professional who knows how to put you at ease. This type of activity is perfect for those looking to combine pleasure and relaxation in one experience.

Exclusive Trips and Weekends

The demand for luxury escorts for out-of-town trips and weekends is an emerging trend. Many female professionals can accompany clients on vacations or relocations, offering pleasant and discreet companionship. This service requires careful planning and is often handled with great care by agencies, ensuring a smooth experience.

How to Prepare for a Perfect Experience:

To best experience Toronto’s adult scene, it is helpful to follow some practical tips.

Planning and Communication

Before booking a service, it is essential to communicate your expectations. Whether it is a meeting with a luxury escort or an evening at a club, having a clear vision of what you want helps ensure an enjoyable experience.

Respect Boundaries

Respect is a key element in any interaction. Toronto escorts are professionals who deserve consideration and courtesy. Being respectful enhances the experience and fosters a more authentic connection.

Conclusion

Toronto’s adult entertainment scene offers an irresistible mix of luxury, diversity, and professionalism. From luxury escorts to exclusive nightclubs, this city has something to offer anyone seeking moments of pleasure and sophistication. Exploring these opportunities with an open and respectful approach can turn every experience into an unforgettable memory. If you’re looking for tailored expertise that combines elegance and authenticity, Toronto is undoubtedly one of the best destinations.

Understanding Barriers to Intimacy and Desired Outcomes

By

Debra Shade

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January 19, 2025

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Understanding Barriers to Intimacy and Desired Outcomes

Currently experiencing communication issues with my partner, low self-esteem affecting my confidence in the bedroom, and struggling with past trauma that hinders emotional connection during intimate moments. Seeking therapy to improve communication, boost self-confidence, and address trauma to rebuild emotional connection and intimacy with my partner

Interactive Self-Assessment Tools – Develop interactive self-assessment tools on the website that allow clients to input information about their concerns, goals, and preferences. Based on the results, personalized therapy recommendations can be provided, along with educational resources and tips for overcoming barriers to intimacy.

Specific Incidents or Triggers Related to Past Trauma – Experiencing anxiety or panic attacks when intimate situations arise, feeling disconnected or emotionally numb during physical intimacy, and struggling with intrusive memories or flashbacks during intimate moments.

Desired Outcomes through Sexual Wellness Therapy – Learn communication strategies to express needs and boundaries effectively, develop coping mechanisms to manage anxiety or triggers during intimate moments, and cultivate a deeper sense of intimacy and connection with my partner

Incorporating communication strategies into your daily routine can significantly improve dialogue with your partner and help you express your needs and boundaries effectively. Here are some ways to do so:

Practice Active Listening – Make a conscious effort to listen attentively to your partner without interrupting or formulating your response while they are speaking. Repeat back what they’ve said to ensure understanding and show that you are engaged in the conversation.

Use “I” Statements – When expressing your needs and boundaries, focus on using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory and promote open communication. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try saying “I feel unheard when my opinions are dismissed.”

Schedule Regular Check-Ins – Set aside time regularly to discuss important topics with your partner. Use this time to share your feelings, concerns, and needs openly and honestly. This can help prevent misunderstandings and promote a deeper connection in your relationship

To incorporate communication strategies into your daily routine to improve dialogue with your partner and effectively express your needs and boundaries, consider the following:

Reflect on Your Communication Style – Take time to reflect on how you typically communicate with your partner. Are there any patterns or habits that may hinder effective dialogue? How can you adapt your style to better convey your thoughts and feelings?

Practice Active Listening – Make a conscious effort to actively listen to your partner during conversations. Are you truly hearing and understanding their perspective? What steps can you take to ensure you are listening attentively and empathetically?

Set aside Quality Time for Conversation – To foster open communication, schedule dedicated time for meaningful conversations with your partner. How can you create a conducive environment for discussions that allow both parties to express their needs and boundaries comfortably?

By incorporating these strategies into your daily routine, you can enhance communication with your partner and create a more supportive and understanding relationship.

Now, here are three questions for you to consider:

How can you proactively address any communication barriers that may arise in your relationship?
What specific communication techniques or tools can you implement to improve dialogue with your partner?
In what ways can you encourage open and honest communication to effectively express your needs and boundaries within the relationship?

Did I leave you with a question? Send them to me via X, IG, or FB, and keep watch for my response.

Staying Secure While Meeting IRL and Navigating Online Dangers

By

Valeriam Vincent

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January 18, 2025

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Safe Dating: Staying Secure While Meeting IRL and Navigating Online Dangers

In today’s digital age, safe dating has become more important than ever as online dating continues to grow in popularity as a way to meet new people and build connections. With countless apps and websites dedicated to matchmaking, finding a potential partner is now incredibly accessible. However, the convenience of online dating also brings unique challenges and risks, making it essential to prioritize safety both when chatting online and when meeting someone in person for the first time.

Here are some crucial tips to ensure your dating journey remains safe and enjoyable.

Protect Your Personal Information

When starting a conversation with someone online, avoid sharing sensitive personal information. Details such as your full name, address, workplace, or phone number can make you vulnerable to scams or unwanted contact.

Use the in-app messaging features instead of sharing your phone number immediately.
Avoid connecting your social media profiles to your dating account, as this can reveal too much about you.

Be Cautious of Red Flags

Online dating platforms are not immune to scammers or individuals with harmful intentions. Be vigilant for these warning signs:

Too Good to Be True: If someone appears overly perfect or showers you with compliments too soon, proceed with caution.
Requests for Money: Scammers often develop trust and then ask for financial assistance under various pretenses.
Inconsistent Stories: Pay attention to inconsistencies in their background or details about their life.
If anything feels off, trust your instincts and consider blocking or reporting the individual.

Vet Your Match Before Meeting

Before agreeing to meet someone in person, take time to verify their identity. A little research can go a long way in ensuring your safety.

Google Their Name: If they’ve shared their name, conduct a quick online search to see if it matches their story.
Reverse Image Search: Use tools like Google Image Search to check if their profile pictures appear elsewhere, indicating stolen photos.

Discover a New Frontier in Sexual Wellness and Education

By

Debra Shade

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January 17, 2025

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Discover a New Frontier in Sexual Wellness and Education with Debra Shade.

Debra Shade has pioneered an unparalleled sanctuary for mental health and modern sex education, offering a rare and transformative approach to understanding pleasure, intimacy, and healthy sexuality. She has officially been given the honor of being the first Pleasure Education and Healing Center in the state of Ohio.

Shades Oasis is a space to overcome sexual barriers resulting in pleasure on purpose. At this innovative center, individuals and groups can explore barriers to pleasure while learning about 12 vulva and 3 penile releases developed through an intricate understanding of 52 erogenous zones.

With classes, workshops, retreats, and movement sessions, the programs are designed to empower participants to cultivate and sustain consensual, substance-free, shame-free sexual experiences. Debra Shade’s holistic approach bridges the gap between physical wellness and emotional intimacy, fostering environments where education and exploration lead to a more liberated, fulfilling relationship with oneself and others.

This unique space stands as a beacon for anyone seeking to embrace sexual health and redefine the art of connection. Its hours are appointment only except 7p to midnight on Thu-Sat. You can book a private session(s) at debrashade.youcanbook. Check out more about Debra and Shades Oasis at www.shadesoasis.com.

Sex Resolutions

By

Dr Sparkle

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January 8, 2025

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Sex Resolutions

At this time of the year, people find themselves making resolutions about anything and
everything, including sex. On that topic, it can be everything from how many times a day
or week they want it, to where they want it, and with whom. Some of those resolutions
may be attainable, but other desires might be shooting for the stars. Do not get me
wrong, shooting for the stars can be a good way to try to reach your goals with sex. My
point is to make sure your expectations are reasonable. The one thing that can hinder
your sex drive is the pressure you put on yourself.

Like with any goal, you start out small and work your way up. For example, you go to
the coffee shop every day and you see the girl of your dreams working as the barista,
but neither one of you have said a word, nor has she even made eye contact with you.
You cannot expect to walk in and ask her to sleep with you. You would come off creepy
and probably not be allowed back into the establishment.

In this scenario, you first need to try to make eye contract. The eyes can say so much.
The eyes can give you hope, but they can also take the hope away. Let us say that you
had success with making eye contact, maybe even exchanged a smile. Next time try to
talk with her, even if it is to just tell her you like the way she works the expresso
machine. Demonstrate kindness within the business. Maybe buy a cup for a complete
stranger or leave a nice tip. Kindness and generosity go a long way. If successful, it may
be just a week before you get her number.

Next comes the date, by now you are really crazy for her, but remember she is not on
the same page as you are. It is important to note that most of the time each person is
not on the same page as the other. I am not saying it does not happen once in a while,
but not often.

Now, you could get lucky on the night of the date. So, have you thought it out? Where
will you be having sex with this girl of your dreams? Will it be in the back seat of your
car or a nice hotel, or somewhere in between? Everyone is different regarding where
sex is going to happen. What one must have, another might find uncomfortable.

The next question is, what type of sex are you going to have or want? According to
Planned Parenthood, here is a list of types of sex.

Vaginal sex (penis-in-vagina intercourse)
Oral sex (mouth-to-genital contact)
Anal sex (penis-in-butt intercourse)
Fingering or hand jobs (hand-to-genital contact)
Dry humping or genital rubbing.
Masturbation (touching yourself in front of each other)
BDSM (erotic practices or roleplaying)

Now you need to ask yourself, will you be happy with any one of these? Next, she must
be okay with it too. Sex is a mutual act. Both parties need to be satisfied with it. It is a lot
of pressure that one can put on themselves – the key is not to do that. Have you heard
that old line “it will happen when it happens?” Try to keep this thought in mind. I am a
big believer that life happens for a reason. Sometimes we go through the worst
situation, but if we can hang in there, we come out of the darkness into the light. The air
is not so thick and heavy. We can see clearer. We just might find a playmate along the
way.

The take away is this, please do not make a resolution about sex. More often than not,
people find themselves being disappointed because it never goes as planned in their
head. Sometimes our thoughts do not match the reality before us.

So, enjoy the hunt, then the chase, and then savor the catch. Get to know the person, making sure you do not find yourself in the ‘friend zone’.

A tip to make sure you stay out of the friend zone when dating is to keep it romantic. There will be no mixing things up. What do I mean by keep it romantic? Write a poem, buy flowers, complement her. By doing it this way, you have reduced your stress levels and the pressure is off your shoulders. Enjoy your sex life in 2025. As always, have fun and keep it consensual.

Beducated’s Mariah Freya Shares Expert Tips

By

Tamara Bell

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December 23, 2024

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Beducated’s Mariah Freya Shares Expert Tips for Better Sex in New Daily Mail Article

(Los Angeles, CA / December 23, 2024) — Mariah Freya, sex coach and founder of top sex-ed platform Beducated, is tackling the silent epidemic of bedroom apathy in a new Daily Mail article for Femail, “Are You Having Enough Sex?”.

In the first-person piece, Freya shares research-based insights from and highlights common challenges like mismatched libidos, lack of confidence and stress, collaborating with Dr. Juliana Hauser, Beducated’s libido and desire expert, to offer actionable advice on reigniting desire—from daily ‘intimacy charging’ rituals to the importance of open communication and exercise in boosting sexual satisfaction.

“A large survey published earlier this year by my online sex education platform, Beducated, found that a paltry 40 per cent of us rate our sex lives positively,” writes Freya. “Almost two-thirds of the 1,800 respondents said they felt ‘neutral’, ‘dissatisfied’, or ‘very dissatisfied’ with their sex lives. One in five confessed to being completely out of sync with their partner.

“It seems there’s a silent epidemic of apathy and miscommunication in the bedroom, which is hitting mid-life couples particularly hard. The good news? If you’re stuck in a sex rut, or struggling to find any semblance of desire, there are solutions.”

Freya and Hauser emphasize that small, intentional acts of connection throughout the day — a kiss, a touch or a flirtatious text—can build the foundation for deeper intimacy, and also encourage couples to challenge routines and explore new experiences to keep their sexual connection fresh and satisfying.

To read Freya’s Daily Mail article in full, visit DailyMail.co.uk.

Visit Beducated.com to discover an insightful censor-free variety of 100+ pleasure-based sex education courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration, with subscriptions starting at $9.99 a month for an annual pass. Non-subscribers can also explore the service with a 24-hour free trial.

On Twitter / X: @beducated_com.

ABOUT BEDUCATED:

Beducated is the biggest pleasure-based sex education platform on the internet, with 100+ courses covering everything from self-pleasure to kink exploration. The library hosts thousands of lessons and extensive learning materials curated by world-class sex educators, coaches, and experts.

Founded by Mariah Freya and Phil Steinweber in 2018, Beducated began as a “Netflix for sexual education,” offering online access to sex and sexuality master classes via subscription. Their latest venture, the AI Sex Coach, is a comprehensive ‘intimacy assistant’ that provides detailed advice on sex and relationships, leveraging extensive training from thousands of sex education lessons and materials to foster an environment of shame-free sexual exploration. To learn more, visit Beducated.com.

Tracy’s Dog Surreal Vibrator Review

By

Valeriam Vincent

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December 5, 2024

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Tracy’s Dog Surreal Vibrator Review

The Tracy’s Dog Surreal is cute, compact and has the look of a lipstick vibe, but thicker in size than most on the market. I loved that I could carry it with me, and no one would know what it was. The app capability is a plus it is powerful, has 10 modes of vibrations, is 100% waterproof, made with body safe 100% silicone and has an app capability for better functionality. The packaging is beautiful with instructions to use inside the package.

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In my opinion, it delivers a powerful orgasm, the Surreal is great for first time users and those who use vibes regularly. The rumbly vibrations are moderate but deep, making for satisfying experiences with every use. The travel-friendly design is a big plus for those on the go, as it’s also quiet and easy to clean. And did I mention, it is 100% waterproof, for fun water play!

One of the standout features is the storage cap. It is a simple but clever addition and easy to take off and put on. Not only does it keep the stimulation tip clean when it’s bouncing around in a drawer, but it also allows you to cover it right after use if you can’t rinse it immediately. This cap is a significant upgrade from fabric pouches, which tend to leave behind lint on silicone toys.

I like that the body of this toy is flexible, allowing for movement during use. Some users like the hard stiffness of other vibes, but I feel the Surreal is more satisfying and put pressure where it is needed.

The app was easy to install and is very user friendly. It has fun features and allows you to connect via remote with other users, how cool is that. The app has a VIP membership that allows you to add additional features but is not required to use basic functions. You can earn gems or purchase them like in other online games you play. For long-distance use, users pay a per-minute fee, it can be an expensive choice for couples looking to stay connected from afar.

Overall, the Tracy’s Dog Surreal is a game changer to app capable and remote toys. It is quiet, travel-friendly, and has a handy storage cap. The bendable body and app add to the experience. It is great for solo or couple use but may be costly to add VIP or long-distance use. It delivers a satisfying experience whichever way you choose.

Writing for Different Genres Could Make You a Better Writer

By

Ralph Greco

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December 1, 2024

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Writing for Different Genres Could Make You a Better Writer

In the past two weeks I have been humbled/lucky or maybe my talent won out (nah, it’s not that!) seeing quite a few pieces published. From erotica, to an essay about a recent survey on the good and bad or pornography (I’ll let you guess how the survey skewed, for or against and who was most at fault) to a satirical/naughty/sci-fi jaunt, to my usual round of blogs, and selling a bunch more of the various children’s books I am the writer of, I managed to get up or publish a bunch ‘o stuff in the past few weeks, all of it I am very proud of.

Now, I have no idea if you write more than one kind of thang. If you do, wonderful. Knock yourself out. Furrow ahead. Have at it. All my best to you. But, if you are like me and happen to work a more diverse oeuvre, than I’d say go forth and multiply, publish as much divergent stuff as you can. Enjoy your varied output. Writing this way has done nothing but make me a better writer and has saw me gain the small amount of traction I have.

Again, not every writer dips his or her toe in different depths of water. And again, this is perfectly fine. You can’t push yourself to write stuff that’s just not in you. Ok, strike that… you can push yourself, and in doing so you might find some things about your writing that surprises you. Mainly, that you can push yourself to try other kinds of writing. But unless you are open to trying or might be one the gifted few scribes who does everything well–and I ain’t one of them by a long shot–you’ll probably gravitate time and again to that which you like or are most comfortable with.

Which again, is perfectly fine and suits many a writer.

But if you have tickled the idea of giving some type of writing a try that you have never tried or if you find stuff is pouring out of you that you never expected, I say go with it. This pours-out-of-you-that-you-never-expected stuff usually comes to writers who have never tried erotica but are suddenly taken with getting some wild and naughty words down, surprising themselves that they have the ability to write so dirty.

I see this all the time with budding erotica writers.

(To this end, if you want to read a fantastically naughty tale that covers this kind of ‘oh-my-God-I-can’t-be-thinking-this-but-it’s-changing-my-career’ kind of story, I refer you to Ann Rice, writing as Ann Rampling, and her book Belinda.

I say, let the stuff come, whatever it is. Different than what you usually write, by all means, Same, sure. A little to the left of your usual, ok. I just know that I have found some success and a sure amount of pleasure in diversity. And there are plenty of places that do indeed published cross-genre work.

Remember, you cannot be it, whatever it is that you want to be, if you restrict it.

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