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Elite English Gentleman: The Feminist Sexpert Interviews Luke Hardy

He’s a former Army commando who now shines as a golden entertainer: suave, classy, funny, and refreshingly down to earth. He is strong in mind and body, muscular, classically handsome, and looks just as good in a suit as–well–out of one. And most importantly, this native Englishman is a true gentleman who treats women with respect.

OK, so now you’re probably clamoring for the name of the romance novel in which this patently fictional character appears. Ah, but Ladies, this man is real–and he stars in some romantic, sensual adult films that do indeed seem like romance novels come to life. Meet my friend and fascination, award-winning straight male porn star Luke Hardy.

“As an adult performer,” he said, “I get paid to do what I love.”

With a whopping 86 IMDB credits and hundreds of scenes to his name, Hardy is a dashing leading man who appears in top flight European productions from studios like Dorcel and Private, and Digital Playground. He welcomes the challenge of playing characters that range from superheroes to military officers. And he has worked with more than his fair share of female directors, including Liselle Bailey, and Liza Del Sierra.

“I do like to work with both female and male directors,” he said. “A woman director can make for a nice set. They listen and pay attention to the needs of the talent.”

As the Feminist Sexpert reviews many of Luke’s titles (hey, Gal’s gotta do her research!), I’m particularly struck by the elegance in form and theme presented by many of these pictures. When one sees Love, Etc., Touch, A L’Arret, Nevermore, and The Pleasure Provider, it seems a refreshing change from standard XXX fare, such as My Baby-Sitting Stepdaughter Hooker or BJs Galore.

“Many porn titles are geared toward men,” he agreed (“Men who need to up their game,” the Feminist Sexpert concurs). “I love to do films geared toward women.”

And when working with co-stars, Luke–who maintains his own website at Luke Hardy XXX.Com and has two OnlyFans channels–prides himself on respecting and pleasuring them in equal measure.

“I show respect toward everyone I work with,” he said. “Especially the women that I shoot scenes with–it’s very important to me to make them comfortable, I ask them what they do or don’t want.”

Luke also shows tenderness and affection in his scenes, demonstrates a full spectrum of pleasuring techniques guaranteed to bring a big ol’ smile to a lady’s face, and avoids overly rough content.   

“I stay away from really rough stuff,” he said.

When not making films, Luke also shines as a top flight ladies companion in England (Swoon!). He has experience as a naked butler and a personal trainer. He has active YouTube (where he presents Hardy Vision interviews, podcasts and comedic videos) Instagram and TikTok channels, while his hardcore content can be found at Porn Hub and Many Vids.

In the future, Luke plans to form a production company to create porn productions geared toward women and couples. And he has a message for us ladies.

“Respect yourself,” he says, “And find someone who respects you.”

A Night in Heaven: A Feminist Sexpert Review

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As we pause to celebrate the forty-year anniversary of that cinematic gem known as A Night in Heaven (well, the Feminist Sexpert certainly is celebrating it–I don’t know if anyone else is coming to the party, but have bought plenty of party hats and extra large airhorns, just in case), we remember what only could be called an award-winning film that had the critics talking.

OK, so the only award that the movie won took the form of a Razzie honor for Worst Actor. And a critic writing for People Magazine referred to this 80s dance film as “Flashdunce.” Ouch!

It’s true, no one ever would confuse this passionate potboiler, one featuring the talents of Christopher Atkins and Lesley Ann Warren, with Casablanca–and not just because Atkins is arguably way hotter than the legendary Bogie. Here’s lookin’ at you, Chris! So why does the Feminist Sexpert count this male stripper movie among her favorites? 

Well, you know the Feminist Sexpert and this is a male stripper movie. Must you really ask?  This film, in fact, was the first big screen motion picture to feature a male striptease artist as a main character. And if this wasn’t out and out awesome enough, this picture also ranks among the first to explore five female fetishes. Count ’em! Five!

Male Exotic Dance: Decades before Magic Mike, A Night in Heaven told the story of a gorgeous young male dancer who performs for the pleasure of women. Stunning blond Christopher Atkins portrays Rick Monroe, a free-spirited stud who is dancing his way through school; at one show encountering a female professor (Lesley Ann Warren) who–that very day–has just flunked poor Ricky out of her class. Hijinks ensue! Actually, a really hot lap dance ensues, with Rick–dressed as a sexy space alien–gyrating, undulating, pouting and preening in a blatant attempt to seduce his teach. (Spoiler alert: He so succeeds). He culminates the dance with a passionate kiss that leaves his professor breathless.

Aside from featuring this extended striptease scene, which lasts nearly eight minutes (yep, the Feminist Sexpert timed it and everything) A Night in Heaven features shorter vignettes showcasing the routines of real-life dancers, ranging from Disco King Deney Terrio (onetime host of the Dance Fever television show) to actual male strippers who ruled the nightclub stages of the 1980s.

Clothed Female Naked Male: Y’all know it’s true, Ladies; in the standard Hollywood love scene, the camera tends to focus far more on the glamorous starlet featured in the scene, as opposed to her male co-star. We ladies are lucky if we catch a stray glimpse of his elbow, his back, or (dare we dream?) his rear end–blink and you’ll miss it! The sole, but highly explicit love scene featured in A Night in Heaven flips this script–and to delightful effect. 

In this romantic, highly erotic sequence, which also features passionate kissing, delicious eye contact, and a definite emphasis on female pleasure, Lesley Ann Warren remains clothed for the duration. Chris Atkins, by contrast, gets totally nekkid. And, in case you’re wondering; yep, you see his bidness. Just for a second.  

Younger Man/Older Woman: As stated earlier, A Night in Heaven portrays a teacher/student romance–and this time, the teasing, super cute blond coed is the male of the pair. Doesn’t that just rock? And Atkins’ character does seem to be genuinely in awe of his beautiful, intelligent prof (and, really, who wouldn’t be in awe of the resplendent Warren?), showing a true desire to please her in and out of the bedroom.

At the same time, it is clearly established that Rick Monroe is a legal adult, 21 years of age–always a good thing!

Married Woman/Single Man: The main female character of A Night in Heaven, Faye Hanlon, is married to a kinda odd, astroscientist type dude who rides a really big recumbent bike, that he himself invented. Their marriage is a strained and troubled one, as Whitney Hanlon recently lost his job and is taking his frustrations out on his poor neglected Mrs.–denying her his affections, turning his back on her in bed, and rejecting her attempts at in-depth conversation regarding their future. It’s implied that Whitney is himself cheating on Faye with an old family friend, and he even rejects her offer of a freshly made chocolate brownie. The cad!    

Although initially resisting the affections of the seductive Rick, Faye eventually succumbs to his gentle but determined advances; escaping with him to a motel room on a rainy afternoon for a round of heated, truly passionate lovemaking. Hotcha!

Romance: Again, I repeat; when it comes to the most romantic couples in screen history, Rick and Faye likely will not be remembered alongside the likes of Bogie and Bacall, Heathcliff and Cathy, Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy, or even Fred and Wilma Flintstone. Indeed, in lieu of a swoonworthy tango scene, A Night in Heaven features one heckuva long lap dance. And instead of an intimate dinner sequence by candlelight, we get a brief and rather uncomfortable scene in which the hero and heroine enjoy light refreshments in a motel cafe; where they are served by a waitress who does double duty as Rick’s mother. Awkward!

Still, in its own way, the film does indeed qualify as a sexy erotic romance. Its lead couple enjoys hot, passionate kisses and shares some sumptuous eye contact. Rick showers Faye with the attention that her husband denies her, praising her beauty, presenting her with red roses, and telling her that he has erotic dreams about her; dreams he eventually realizes in her arms.

So aside from all of these pesky feminist fetishes, does A Night in Heaven feature other good points–assets that render this motion picture a solid, perfectly watchable film? Absolutely! The film’s soundtrack is superb, featuring songs that include the original, in my opinion superior version of the song Obsession, performed by Michael Des Barres and Holly Knight, and The Best Was Yet to Come, the beautiful ballad performed by Bryan Adams.

And speaking of Adams–his classic hit Heaven actually debuted on the soundtrack of this movie. I also love Rita Coolidge’s version of Sugar Don’t Bite, Dirty Creature by Split Enz, and Jan Hammer’s smoking hot Like What You See, also heard in this film.

The film also isn’t short on humor, as Faye attends Rick’s strip shows in the company of natural born comics that come in the form of her sister Patsy (Deborah Rush) and their good friend Shirley (Alix Elias). Their bawdy one-liners and general high energy add a great deal to the proceedings, and demonstrate the communal, sisterly atmosphere that is part and parcel of the male strip show experience.  

Although not a motion picture classic, A Night in Heaven is a sexy ’80s time capsule as well as a sensual romance; one written by Joan Tewkesbury (the Oscar-winning screenwriter of Nashville) and directed by John Avildsen, director of Rocky. Best of all, it remains one of the few softcore films custom made for the female gaze. All in all, a heavenly watch! 

How to Prevent Your Sex Drive Plummeting in Your 40s With Tantra

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Sex in your 40s often goes downhill. A busy life, stress, low self-esteem and poor diet can lead to a low libido. Don’t worry! Help is at hand. If middle-aged sex is getting you down, there’s an ancient technique which can get things moving again.

Tantra is all about delaying orgasm which leads to better sex, enhanced intimacy and improved body confidence. Improving your sex life in your 40s doesn’t need to be a chore. Tantra or tantric massage is a technique which aids relaxation and awakens your sexual being.

This erotic massage is a form of holistic therapy, taking you down a path of spiritual enlightenment to give your more intense orgasms and more passionate sex.

How to perform a tantric massage on your partner

Start with a long, hot shower with your partner. You can then move to comfortable surroundings – music, candles, hot oil and dimmed lights will get you in the mood for lovemaking.

Begin the tantric massage by rubbing warm oil over your partner’s body, gently moving your hands over their body. Start with large, circular movements on the chest before slowly moving to the genital area. Your partner can then begin to massage your body as you both become aroused.

Look into each other’s eyes as you perform playful touches. Give long, lingering kisses. Sit on your partner’s lap if you feel comfortable. Gently rock with each other and start to make love. Focus on the sensations you feel as you caress each other – smell, touch, taste!

How does tantra boost your sex life?

Improved confidence

Both couples and individuals will relish the confidence tantra brings into your life. You’ll start to feel comfortable with intimacy and have the self-assurance to express what you like and what you don’t like in the bedroom.

Tantric massage uses the movement of sexual energy throughout the body to build a connection with the mind and body. Using breathing techniques, touching and eye gazing, you’ll build an intimate bond with your partner. You’ll find new ways of pleasure and adore feeling seductive and playful in the bedroom.

Control

Tantric massage is beneficial for men with premature ejaculation issues. Tantra helps you to ride the wave of arousal, taking you to the edge of orgasm and back again. This improves your sex life and you’re able to control ejaculation.

By learning to respond to your sexual energy, you’re able to gradually build up this energy throughout the body until an explosive happy ending occurs. With your new found confidence and the ability to control your orgasm, you’ll last longer in the bedroom for endless hours of lovemaking with a partner.

Better orgasms

A sensual massage like tantric massage promotes relaxation. Additionally, tantra gives you the sexual freedom to experience new erotic pleasures which allows you to awaken your sexual appetite. Both these aspects give you the potential for better orgasms.

Breathing techniques that you perform with your partner, alongside teasing touches, will give you hours of pleasure.

Tantra isn’t about having a quickie – it’s a slow form of lovemaking which focuses on the spiritual connection. However, most people find they experience enhanced orgasms with this ancient technique.

Improved intimacy

Relationships in your 40s can be at different points. Some couples have been married for years and find their sex lives dwindling, whiles others may be divorced and looking to start a new relationship. Whatever situation you find yourself in, intimacy can be uncomfortable for many.

Luckily, tantric massage offers a way of healing your intimacy issues. Both you and a partner are able to enjoy being naked together in a stimulating and exciting manner. The pleasure you give and receive brings contentment, and you’ll learn that sex is an amazing part of a relationship.

Sexual awareness

Tantric massage is the spiritual awakening you need in your life. You’ll enjoy being sexually pleasured once again and you’ll love watching your partner being stimulated.

Everything goes in tantra – you can try different types of positions, enjoy role play and uncover your fantasies. Give your sex life a boost by sharing an intimate moment with your partner.

This nude massage is a steamy delight. Feel the erotic energy running through your body until you explode with a mind-blowing ending.

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About the author:

Erica Suarez-Hillingdon is a sex therapist and expert on everything related to tantra, tantric sex, and tantric massage. She is the editor at Karma Tantric, London’s premier tantric massage agency and writes about how tantra can help men, women, and couples improve their sex lives.

 

10 Tips for Better Sex & Overall Health

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Numerous Health Benefits of Having Sex

by Dr. Ava Cadell

I believe that regularly occurring and frequent sex will produce certain emotional and physical health benefits.

It has long been established that there are numerous health benefits related to sexual activity, an awareness that has been recorded in our culture for centuries in the form of such old wives’s tales as “use it, or lose it.”  Just as if you don’t use your household appliances regularly, they become rusty and break down.

There has been an enormous amount of psychological research focusing on the relationship between sexuality and mental health.  Recent medical studies by the American Heart Association have confirmed the physical benefits of an active sex life.  The American Association of Urologists and significant medical school studies at the Universities of California and Indiana, just to name two, has documented studies about the health aspects of sexual activity.  The Touch Institute in Florida has evidence that touch is the most powerful form of communication and maintenance of good health, physically and emotionally.

Now you can tell your lover, spouse, significant other, or even yourself what you’ve hoped to hear for years!  Not only is sex fun and exciting – it’s healthy.  “Sexercise” your body and see the benefits.  Do it alone or with someone you love (try Sexycises!), but do it.  Some of the same physical benefits you seek by working out at the gym are literally right at your fingertips.

Are you tired of waiting in line to use the barbells?  Is the treadmill tearing up your kneecaps?  Does that personal trainer show no mercy – no pain, no gain?  Tone those muscles, improve your health, and give your body a boost with Dr. Ava’s Sexercise Tips.

Tip 1: Change sexual positions to stimulate different muscles.

If you think you’re overweight and need to lose a few pounds, there’s no more fun way to do it than with increased sexual activity.  It won’t counteract the effects of overeating, but it does burn up calories and can also help turn fat into muscle more quickly than other forms of exercise; plus, working on that muscle tone can’t be more fun then while having sex.  The natural tensing of your muscles while engaging in sex can work on the shoulders, neck, biceps, thighs, abs, stomach, and buttocks.  The relaxation that follows helps work as a natural sedative.

Use your core muscles during missionary to strengthen you abs by thrusting and lifting your pelvis. While you’re at it, include some glut squeezes to tone up for a sexy bottom.

Doggie style is perfect for an arm workout, as you push yourself backwards into the thrust with sexy push-ups.

Ride em Cowgirl engages your legs, highs, butt and core. Depending on how fast you bounce on top of him or slowly grind will depend on the type pf workout you get. Bouncing gives you strength and stamina, while grinding engages the muscle longer for muscle building. Switch it up for interval training.

Pump up your love muscles doing kegels and the world will look a whole lot brighter.

Tip 2: Exercise your mouth and tongue

This is a hot oral sex trick! Use the tip of your tongue to write the alphabet or even love letter on your lover’s body. Get real intimate as you lick her clit or the tip of his penis in various patterns.

Make out with a sexy kiss to keep our lips, mouth and face in shape and contoured. Pucker up for the perfect pout!

Tip 3: Have Sex to Cure Headaches

By enjoying ourselves sexually we can actually improve our bodies both physically and mentally.  Did you know that during sex, the flow of blood throughout the body not only improves circulation but also eliminates headaches?  The improved flow of blood along the spinal column to the brain that results from an orgasm may just be the right thing to get rid of that migraine.

No more cliche excuses!  The next time your partner says, “I’ve got a headache,” you can say “Good, let’s make love and get rid of it.”

Even that heavy breathing with someone you love is healthy as you regulate and exercise your respiratory organs.

Tip 4: Have Sex to Cure Insomnia

Having trouble sleeping?  Well, take Dr. Ava’s advice.  There is no better cure for insomnia than good sex.  You feel so relaxed that it naturally leads you into a deep sleep. Wrap your arms around your special someone and cuddle them off to dreamland. Imagine the magic of waking up in the morning by lovemaking at dawn.  It gets both your hearts and minds racing and it’s healthier than caffeine anytime.

Tip 5: Sex Can Work as a Laxative

Believe it or not, sex can also work as a laxative, toning and controlling the lower abdominal muscles.  The muscle relaxant post-orgasmic state has so many benefits that it can solve a host of problems, even constipation.

Tip 6: Stressed? What better cure than sex?

If you’re feeling tense, set aside some quiet time and shut out the deadlines and pressures, if only for a “quickie.”

You will find that many of the symptoms of stress will disappear with a little loving.  Not only will you feel a lot looser, you’ll breathe better, and some of those other problems relating to stress – poor judgment, short temper, or a sense of helplessness, will begin to fade into oblivion.

Tip 7: Sex Improves Self-Esteem

Feeling good sexually is a natural high that helps make all those little problems of the day seem a little less important. The physical and emotional aspects of sex can, and do work together in improving self-esteem and adding to a sense of well-being.  The unique sense of intimate connection with your lover cannot be duplicated by any other activity.

And you don’t even need a partner to enjoy their sexual boost! The next time you need a little relief and there is no one else around, masturbation is as good alternative.  While my “sexercise” prescriptions are a lot of fun for couples, use your most erotic organ (your brain) and all the same physical benefits I’ve mentioned can be yours alone.

Tip 8: Explore the G-spot for More Powerful Orgasms

Women have a multi-orgasmic capacity that may remain untapped without a little help from a “friend”.  Explore that illusive G-spot area and you might discover a longer, deeper, more powerful orgasm then you ever imagined.

Regular orgasms help keep your libido healthy and active, by engaging your PC muscle on a regular basis, keeping the vagina muscles toned, and helping maintain vaginal lubrication.

An orgasm a day will also keep menstrual cramps away by providing a natural decongestion, resulting in less of the pain that can be so… well, irritating.

Tip 9: Fantasize for Better Brain Function

Since sexual fulfillment also involves your brain, it can improve your concentration and contribute greatly to your powers of imagination and creativity.  If your work is getting you down, close your eyes and think about that ideal lover.  I assure you, when you finish fantasizing, your mind and body will be ready to tackle the challenge that moments before seemed impossible.

If you trust each other implicitly, and love your partner with abandon, nothing will embolden your relationships more than the sharing of fantasies.  What safer way for you single people to begin to share sexual intimacy than watching each other masturbate or helping each other to reach an orgasm without intercourse.

Experiment when that live partner isn’t around.  This is the time to let your fantasies run rampant; use sex toys, erotic audios, or videos to stimulate your senses and heighten your arousal.

Tip 10: Tantric Sex for Healing

The ultimate “sexercise” to practice with your lover may be Tantric sex.  A sacred kind of love, Tantric sex helps you concentrate on both the healing and energizing effects of harmonious breathing.  While making love in the lotus position, you breathe out as your lover breathes in, hypnotically relaxing, it aids in the exchange of yin and yang (male and female energy).

One of the oldest Tantric exercises which combine a physical, mental, and spiritual way of life is the Venus Butterfly Technique which was first practiced in India around 3000 B.C.  By simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and tapping on the G-Spot (located approximately two inches inside, on the upper wall of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix), it is possible for the woman to reach both an internal orgasm and an external one which may result in multiple orgasms.

Tantric exercises share a deeper ability to communicate.  It is the purest way of sharing the best prescription for health – SEX!

Conclusion:

The emotional fulfillment that comes from a healthy sex life results in the relaxation of your muscles and your brain.  Sex is good for your heart and lungs.  Orgasms can alleviate certain headaches, the pain of menstrual cramps, act as a laxative, and help to burn calories, keep muscles toned, and organs healthy.  It can have the effect of an anti-depressant, a mild sedative.  Better Sex can stimulate creativity, improve concentration, and reduce stress.  And… most importantly, it feels good!

The Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue Controversy: What the Protestors Are Getting Dead Wrong

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“Hey, girls, you’re beautiful. Don’t look at those stupid magazines with sticklike models. Eat healthy and exercise. That’s all. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not good enough. You’re good enough, you are too good. Love your family with all your heart and listen to it. You are gorgeous, whether you’re a size 4 or 14. It doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside, as long as you’re a good person, as long as you respect others. I know it’s been told hundreds of times before, but it’s true. Hey, girls, you are beautiful.”

― Gerard Way, author and lead singer of My Chemical Romance

So the much anticipated (but not by the Feminist Sexpert) Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue debuted this month to much chagrin and controversy–this owing to the choice of cover models for this year’s edition. Joining performers Megan Fox and Brooks Nader are trans model/singer Kim Petras and famed lifestyle guru Martha Stewart.

Petras’ cover in particular has generated a great deal of outrage, this owing to the fact that she is a transgendered model. Longtime subscribers are wringing their hands and tossing their mags out of the window, enraged that a woman who does not conform to their traditional concept of femininity put on a swimsuit and posed for a photo. Horrors!

Having typed this, I understand as to why some people have a problem with Petras and I do as well, seeing that she has chosen to work with a music producer facing severe SA accusations. 

A few also object to Stewart’s inclusion, as she is the first octogenarian model ever to appear on the celebrated (but not by the Feminist Sexpert) cover of this year’s swimsuit issue. A woman over aged 65 wearing a bathing suit and venturing out to the beach, as opposed to staying home and playing bingo as she cleanses her dentures? Terrors!

This entire controversy is ridiculous. All four of these women are absolutely ravishing; and if a reader doesn’t favor one cover model, they have three others (count ’em, three!) from which to choose. Ah, but noooo; instead some people are protesting SI and cancelling their subscriptions, saying that the publication has gone woke.

Sorry Dudes, but Sports Illustrated is not even close to woke; and the fact that they are finally acknowledging that a lady doesn’t have to be a skinny white cis 25 year old woman to be attractive does not render them as such. 

If someone wants to whine and moan about Sports Illustrated, why not point out the fact that of 716 issues in 11 years, only 35 female athletes have been displayed on the cover– of which only 18 featured a female as the focus of the primary or sole image.

And regarding the ever-lovin’ swimsuit issue; where are the male models posed for the female gaze? They are few and far between. The brilliant xoJane tried to rectify this problem a few years back, with their own male swimsuit issue. Where are the plus-sized models? Again, few and far between–with the stunning Ashley Graham and Yumi Nu standing among the notable exceptions. Women of color? A few here and there, and Tyra Banks has made the cover three times.

Some say that, by tainting the swimming pool of Baywatch-style models for which the SI swimsuit edition is known, the magazine is ruining tradition. Well what about the ‘tradition’ of proud, strong woman athletes denied the cover of the most prominent sports magazine in the nation, because they may not have preferred to pose in a swimsuit? What about the tradition of selling a single beauty standard to men, while their wives or girlfriends stand in front of their mirrors and literally weep because they feel that they are not slender, young, busty, bronzed, white, etc., enough to meet this standard? Some traditions should go down in flames–but in this case, the flame is barely a flicker.

Kudos to Sports Illustrated for featuring unconventional beauties on the covers of this year’s swimsuit issue. But you still have a lot of work to do, Dudes. And for the ladies, the FSI (Feminist Sexpert Illustrated) swimsuit issue cover is printed above for your pleasure.

 

Who? What? Where? When? Why?: How to Talk to a Sex Worker

Everyone has varying levels of social skills. While one may be a natural born charmer another may be at a loss for words, trying to remember to breathe in a sex worker’s or even just another person’s presence. Remember one thing first, sex workers are humans! Yes, we have emotions and feelings and that is what you want too – to build a connection with whomever it is (whatever type of connection that may be). Regardless of the fame or status, we are all individuals who work in the adult industry.

Who talks to sex workers?

Everyone! Literally everyone and anyone can speak with a sex worker. From CEOs and celebrities to Uber drivers, everyone is looking for a connection. Humans love to chat, about literally anything. The range of individuals of those who speak to individuals is drastic too! Perhaps you just turned 18 and have all of these hormones that you have no idea where to direct or you just turned 80 and looking to feel young again. Sex workers are everywhere in the world and with the internet nowadays can be reached from anywhere in the world. It doesn’t matter who you are, there is a sex worker out there who is best suited for what you are looking for. Just remember, do the research find the correct sex worker for you – don’t push our boundaries and try to mold us to become the sex worker for you.

What to talk about with a sex worker?

Anything! Sure you can ask us questions about sex and whatever comes along with it, but making a connection involves a whole lot more than just one thing in common. Find out what our favorite things are – see if you can bond over something more. Ask to see if we are a foodie? Music/al lover? Nature enthusiast? Hot spring ho? Book worm? League of Legends gamer? Pokémon trainer? Sounds boring to you? Think about how we can now turn whatever your favorite thing is into something sexy and use it against you (ahem to elevate the experience). The more information you share, the more creative we can get and the more the connection grows.

Not everything has to be super sexual and intense all the time either. Sex workers appreciate it when you check in with a casual hello or a peep to ask how our day is going. It shows us that you care about us as a whole and not just as someone who gets you off with a “session” every time. Just be sure when you do pop in, it’s with a gift or tribute to really make our day. If it is a session – respond! Sure, you may be typing with one hand, but it takes two to build a story together. Include your fantasies, thoughts, ideas to make it amazing! Otherwise, we will be the one carrying the whole thing and it is extra exhausting. You want to be seduced? Well, we do too! Why are we the ones that are constantly having to turn everything on?

What to start with?

Do not just say hi. That is the lowest effort you could possible give. Especially when the h in the ‘hi’ isn’t even capitalized. You may think that you have completed the first hurdle and that the ball is in our court, but no. This is your first impression, make it a good one. Do your research about who you want to talk to and offer us something we would find interesting. What we do not find interesting is what you want. People seem to think that sex workers are machines/bots here to please an individual because they have a burning desire in between their legs. Nope, sex workers are so much more than that. That thing in between your legs can’t even last that long so start using something else that would be pleasurable for us too. Do not be selfish, open with something that we like or on some neutral ground. When you notice us, we notice you in return. If you’ve outshined the rest of the people that have messaged than you will have captured our attention.

Do I have to pay?

Yes, yes, yes. Sex workers are sex WORKERS. This is how we make a living. So if you wish to take up our time, pay for it. If you are a fan, just in awe of us – tell us, with a tip. Complimenting one’s work is great to hear, but empty compliments do not pay our bills. The tribute does not have to be bank breaking either. Something that genuinely shows your adoration is appreciated. With so many people trying to get our attention, we prioritize those who pay us the most. It’s a business. Can’t afford our rates? Then swallow your pride and save up so you can. Never negotiate, that’s the quickest way to turn off a sex worker. Or you can find another sex worker who is within your budget.

Why am I paying just to chat?

Chatting with people expends emotional energy. Creating a connection and bond with someone requires a lot of it. Whilst you cannot see the materialistic form of energy, realize that it is being used. Did you use up all of our mana so that we need potions to refill? Pay for those potions with those coins. The time you are chatting with a sex worker, you are taking time away from other things that we could be doing for our business. Things as, editing content, filming, recording, photoshoots, etc. All those things that you enjoy for a low price takes time for us to create. Whilst you consume that up like a starving beast at a buffet, it is time to pay not just for the food you consumed but the time it took for you to chat with the chef who curated this experience for you.

What can I share with a sex worker?

Whilst you have established a connection and are now comfortable enough to share many things with a sex worker, realize that sex workers are not your therapist. We may guide you through life choices and do provide an ear for when you need it but we are not there to work through all of your childhood gunk. Some sex workers may be licensed professionals that can help you through whatever you are going through, but not all are best suited for emotional repair. Whilst we do not want you to tip toe around the things you can discuss, just be cognizant of how we are feeling in the moment.

Where to talk to a sex worker?

Be mindful of where you are talking to a sex worker. Are you on a platform online? Be in the know of the terms of service. What is allowed to be spoken about on that platform and what isn’t, not all kinks and fetishes are allowed on these platforms. Nothing is more annoying than someone discussing things that goes directly against it. Speaking about other platforms whilst on that platform goes against the Terms of Service. It’s business 101, of course that platform wants to keep you on there, so they’ll ding you if you bring up anything about competitors. If you didn’t know, now you’ve put a sex worker’s stream of income at risk. Do NOT be that person. Think of it like Fight Club – know the rules so that you can play within those rules. Sex workers are inundated with messages all day long and you do not want to annoy us with being another person that we put into line.

Are you in public? Be mindful of your surroundings. Let us take the lead as to what we are comfortable with sharing in those spaces. Some prefer to be discreet and others like to boast. If you want a sex worker to respect your privacy and level of discretion, do the same for us.

When to talk to a sex worker?

Communication is key to any relationship. Keeping that line of communication open is necessary to keep the connection going. But realize, we are humans – we eat and sleep. Do you know what time zone of whom you’re talking with is in? Just like with any business, know our hours of operations. Would you want to work first thing in the morning right when you wake up? Or how about working until you fall asleep at night with no time to yourself to live a life of your own. If we haven’t responded to you, give us time. We may be busy. Or try tributing, sending us money so that it bumps your message to the top. Sex workers don’t have weekends or vacation days. We have to create them for ourselves. So whatever may be convenient for you, check in and see if it is beneficial and convenient for us too.

Why would I talk to a sex worker?

Do you find yourself unable to chat with anyone else about certain things in life (fetishes, transformations, sex, etc.)? Are you curious about building social skills to take with you into your everyday life so that you may foster a healthy relationship? Are you looking for a professional to make your fantasy come true without any integration into your personal world? Do you have questions about sex that are too embarrassing to ask anyone else? Do you have a fantasy you’d love to act out? The reasons could be anything or ones that you do not even know yet. If you’ve been curious for so long, why not just give it a try and find out for yourself. Be sure to do your research to find an actual sex worker to chat with. There are catfishes and scammers out there. Be open minded and who knows, a sex worker could change your life.

How to talk to a sex worker?

Sign up for a platform that sex workers use, tip and chat away on there, or we’re just a phone call away. Looking for in person? Do your research and apply through our website (there will be plenty of protocol for you to follow to ensure everyone’s safety and fun – read them all). Be generous and kind. Put your best foot forward and we will do the same. As with any connection, be true and authentic, there’s no point in lying to someone whom you’re paying. The lie only harms yourself in the end. The more you open up, the more you send, the more effort you put into spreading happiness into someone else’s life – the more it’ll come back at you, even exponentially! We are all humans searching for a connection in this world, just be kind. And do not waste our time.

Want to speak with the sex worker who wrote this post? You can do your research and find out more about Mae Ling on her website here. Also follow her Twitter and Instagram for a whole picture of who this professional dominatrix is.

Biird Survey: Gifting a Sex Toy to a Friend or Family Member

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Over Two-Thirds of Americans Say They are Comfortable with Gifting a Sex Toy to a Friend or Family Member, according to a Biird survey.

Valentine’s (and Galentine’s) Day draws near, many people explore the idea of gifting a pleasure device to their significant other, friend or family member. However, are people ACTUALLY comfortable with gifting or buying a sex toy? A recent survey by the innovative pleasure brand Biird unveils some kinky gifting trends.

“At Biird, we’re on a mission to break down barriers and challenge the lingering taboos in the sexual wellness industry. Our recent survey gets deep into the intriguing world of sex toy gifting, exploring the forthcoming attitudes towards it and uncovering just how open people are about owning these intimate accessories. Through our innovative designs that blend functionality with aesthetics, we want to redefine the narrative around sex toys, turning them from a taboo into a topic of open conversation. Because, let’s face it, sharing is caring — especially when it comes to pleasure!” – says Andrea Rey, Co-Founder at Biird.

Biird surveyed 2,450 people worldwide to gain a better understanding of gifting and owning sex toys. Below are some key findings:

Most Americans and Australians would gift a sex toy to their friends and family.

When asked about their sex toy gifting preferences, 32.81% of respondents from the U.S. said they would gift a sex toy to their friends, while 34.84% said they would gift one to both friends and family members. Australians appear to be even more open-minded, with 80.49% saying they would gift toys to both friends and family and 12.20% saying they would gift a toy to friends only.

French, Italians and Dutch are happy to gift a sex toy to their friend but not a family member.

It seems that French, Italians, and Dutch don’t have any taboo topics among their friends but are much more private about their intimate lives regarding family members. 60.50% of survey respondents from France indicated they would gift a sex toy to a friend, and only 1.83% would gift it to a family member. A similar trend appears for survey participants from Italy – 48.15% would gift to a friend and 3.70% to a family member. A whopping 68.63% of those from the Netherlands state they are comfortable with friendly sex toy gifting, but only 1.96% would dare to gift a pleasure object to a family member.

More than half of Brits feel uncomfortable gifting sex toys but love sharing them with their partners.

According to the survey, 57.14% of UK respondents appeared to be quite private and indicated they would not be comfortable gifting a sex toy to a friend or family member. However, when it comes to using pleasure objects, 62.35% of them are open to using a toy with their partner, while only 37.65% prefer indulging in self-pleasure alone. It appears that the British believe in the philosophy of ‘sharing is caring’ when it comes to using pleasure objects.

Most Canadians and Germans feel no shame in buying their first sex toy.

When it comes to sex toys, 50.67% of Canadians and 58.33% of German respondents revealed they either were not ashamed or anticipated no shame in the future when making such a purchase.

More than two-thirds of Americans and Spanish use sex toys with their partners.

Pleasure only gets better when shared – and as it seems, most Americans and Spanish apply this philosophy to sharing sex toys. 67.19% of respondents from the U.S. and 76.19% of respondents from Spain stated that they ‘sometimes’ use sex toys with their partners. Add to this that 24.39% of Australians and 15.83% of French indicated they would always use a sex toy with their partner.

20 Things You Don’t Know About Dick

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Penis Facts–20 Things You Don’t Know About Dick!

You know… Anaconda, Baloney Pony, Chopper, Ding-a-ling, Fire Hose, Gherkin, Hairy Canary, Johnson, Knob, Love Muscle, Meat Puppet, One-eyed Snake, Pecker, Rod, Schlong, Tube Steak, Unit, Viper, Wang, Yardstick, and finally Zeppelin!

Praise the Penis!

Okay… Guys, how many of you know more about tail pipes on a car or the pipes in your house than you do about your own plumbing?  For as often as we have sex or want to have better sex, isn’t it about time that you knew and understood the penis?

Can I get a “Hell Ya!”

1. Think of Masturbation as a Healthy Workout

You need to have erections regularly to keep your penis in shape. To maintain a healthy tone, the smooth muscle of the penis must be periodically enriched with oxygen by the rush of blood that engorges the penis and makes it erect. Without regular erections, penile tissue can become less elastic and shrink, making the penis 1-2 centimeters shorter.

2. Smoking Can Stunt Your Growth

Here is a penis fact you’ve probably heard of before. Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good blood flow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation.

Lighted Cigarette Stick and White Smoke Wallpaper

3. A Penis Can Be a Grower or a Show-er

Among men, there is no consistent relationship between the size of the flaccid penis and its full erect length. In one study of 80 men, researchers found that increases from flaccid to erect lengths ranged widely, from less than a quarter-inch to 3.5 inches longer. On average, a limp penis will increase in volume 300% when it is erect. It will also contain more than 8 to 10 times its normal amount of blood.

Related: 5 Tantric Handjob Techniques for Happy Penises

4. Sweet Dreams

Impulses from the brain cause on average 11 erections during the dreaming phase of sleep, known as the REM phase. It doesn’t matter if you’re having a hot sex dream or a zombie apocalypse nightmare — the penis just gets hard during that period of the sleep cycle regardless. It kind of has a mind of its own that way!

5. Want to Appeal to a Man’s Most Sensitive Side? It’s Likely Not in His Head.

The head of his penis, that is. In a study published in the British Journal of Urology International in 2009, the underside of the glans and underside of the shaft had the highest sensitivity rating for a significant majority of men, followed by the upper side of the glans, left and right sides of the glans, sides of the penis, upper side of the shaft, and foreskin (for the minority of men who were uncircumcised).

6. Every Penis Was Once a Clitoris

Every penis in the womb starts as a clitoris before hormones ‘sex’ the brain of the to-be male. The penis retains the mark of its female heritage with the dark underskin and the thin ridge or seam, known as the raphe, which runs from scrotum to anus, which is a fusion of the vaginal lips.

7. Sensitivity Declines with Age

From age 25 on, sensitivity in the penis starts to decline. The sharpest decline in sensitivity is seen between ages of 65 and 75. However, it’s not known if most men are aware of it. They rarely report this condition to their doctors.

Related: Penis Exercises for Stamina & Harder Erections

8. Vibrators Work on the Penis, Too

Vibrators aren’t just for women. They work on the penis, too. In fact, vibration is so effective on the penis that often men with spinal cord injuries can ejaculate with the aid of a special medical vibrator. For this kind of treatment, the vibrator is usually held against the underside of the head of the penis.

9. It’s Bigger Than You Think

Most guys would be proud to know that their penis is twice as long as they think it is. That’s because half the length of the penis is inside the body. Just like you don’t see all of a big oak tree above ground, you don’t see the root of a penis tucked up inside your pelvis and attached to your pubic bone.

10. Most Men Aren’t Circumcised

Worldwide, approximately 30% of males aged 15 and older are circumcised, according to a 2007 report from the World Health Organization (WHO) and UNAIDS. According to the report, rates vary greatly depending upon religion and nationality. Almost all Jewish and Muslim males in the world have circumcised penises, and together they account for almost 70% of all circumcised males globally. About 80% of American men are circumcised, but circumcision has been in decline for about 30 years now.

11. Sometimes Bigger Isn’t Always Better

An enlarged prostate gland can cause both erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, reduced sex drive, decreased sexual satisfaction and difficulty in urinating.

12. Women Usually Win Out

Sorry, guys. The average male orgasm lasts six seconds. A woman’s typically lasts 23 seconds. However, long lasting male multiple orgasms are possible with a bit of education and practice! But, a study, called “Differences in orgasm frequency among gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual men and women in a U.S. national sample”, found that heterosexual males have the more orgasms than anyone else. Obviously a case for quantity over quality.

13. Suck My Dick?

Sadly, only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself a blow job. It’s a safe bet that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.

Come on guys and girls, shake your dix!

14. Yes, a Penis Can Rupture

The most common cause of penile rupture is vigorous masturbation. Ouch! Sounds very painful!

15. Once you go Black?

The Kinsey Report verified the longstanding rumor that black men have larger penises than white guys, but not by much. The average black male’s hard-on measures 6.3 inches, leaving the white man in a close second with a mean of 6.2 inches.

16. The Way to a Man’s Heart is Through His Nose

The smells of licorice, pumpkin pie, lavender, donuts and chocolate are reputed to increase penile blood flow. (Note that beer and bacon didn’t make the cut.)

17. Funky Spunk

Asparagus, red meat and dairy are reported to produce the least pleasant-tasting jizz. So much for Steak and Blow Job Day? Try pineapple instead.

18. It Really Doesn’t Pay to be Big

The largest penis ever to be medically verified was 13.5 inches long and 6.25 inches in circumference, owned by Jonah Falcon. Just to put that in perspective, the average vagina is three to four inches deep. Reportedly, Falcon had up to 3000 dates by the time he was 30. Yikes! Falcon sometimes lives with his mother in New York City, in between jobs.

19. Yet Size Does Matter

According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2012, women who are more likely to have vaginal orgasms say it is easier to orgasm with men who have longer penises. Though it’s not clear exactly why, a longer penis may be better able to stimulate the vagina and the cervix.

20. Men will go limp if they drink too much

How much is too much? About 3½ drinks for a 150-pound man. Big guys, go ahead and drink up.

Featured Photo by Dainis Graveris

This article originally appeared on A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind. The article has been updated with new content and sources.


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31 Valuable Vagina Facts

For as fascinated as society is with sex and the female body, you’d think we’d be better informed about the vagina. A 2010 Cosmo poll found that 60% of women didn’t know a lot about their vaginas. (I’m convinced that 60% of the people that write for Cosmo don’t know much about the vagina, too.) Heavens knows how many men don’t know much about the love canal. Knowing it and understanding it can lead to better sex and health.

There’s a lot of know and learn about the vagina. That’s why I broke down this adult sex education lesson about the vagina into 31 little mini-lessons so it would be a lot easier and a lot more fun to take in.

Being Anatomically Correct

1. The first and most important thing to know is that the vagina is an internal structure. The outer portion of a woman’s privates is called the vulva, which includes the outer labia (the labia majora). The inner and or usually concealed parts include the inner labia (the labia minora), the clitoral hood, the clitoris, the urethra and the vagina.

2. The average length of an unaroused vagina in a mature woman is between 2.5 and 3 inches wide and 3.5 inches long. The vagina can expand up to 200% during sexual intercourse and giving birth.

3. Inside the vagina is a series of ridges produced by folds of the vagina called the vaginal reggae. They allow the vagina to extend and stretch.

4. The vagina is tilted at roughly a 130-degree angle. That will change with time if it hasn’t already. The vaginal angle flattens a bit, which may make vaginal intercourse feel different to women as they age and go through menopause.

5. Both sharks and vaginas have a substance called squalene. Squalene exists in shark livers and is also a natural vaginal lubricant. No wonder why people are so into Shark Week on the Discovery Channel! #SharkPorn!

About Those Smells, Discharges and Lubrication

(Yeah, I know, some of this stuff is unpleasant and uncomfortable to talk about, but it’s important to know in order to be sexually healthy.)

6. A woman’s vagina is designed to clean itself. Douching is completely unnecessary and can actually do more harm than good. In fact, most physicians discourage douching. The vagina has colonies of mutually symbiotic flora and microorganisms that protect against dangerous microbes. Disrupting this balance can cause yeast infections and abnormal discharge. After menstruation, it cleans itself out and continues to do so throughout a woman’s monthly cycle. It also will clean itself out after sex. However, a funky smell or discharge is usually a sign of a yeast or bacterial infection. These can usually be treated with over-the-counter creams.

7. While vaginal discharge keeps the vagina lubricated, it’s different from the vaginal lubrication produced during sex. The lube comes from special, pea-sized ducts called Bartholin’s glands, which are located around the vaginal opening.

8. Vaginal discharge does not contain any waste products. It contains fluid that seeps through the walls of the vagina, cervical mucus, uterine and tubal fluid, secretions from glands in the vulva, oil and sweat from vulvar glands, old cells from the walls of the vagina, and healthy bacteria. Vaginal discharge contains mostly salt water, mucus, and cells.

9. The average amount of vaginal discharge a woman of reproductive age secretes over a period of eight hours is ¼ teaspoon. Every woman makes different amounts of vaginal discharge, though it varies depending on where a woman is in her cycle. A woman procures the greatest amount of discharge, about 0.40 teaspoon, around the time of ovulation.

10. The vagina signals when it’s baby making time. The cervical mucus during ovulation gets clear, rubbery and stretchy.

11. Each vagina has its own smell. The smell depends on a variety of factors, including the combination of normal bacteria that live in the vagina, diet, types of fabric a woman wears, level of hygiene, how much a woman sweats, and gland secretions.

12. Bacterial vaginosis (BV) causes the classic fishy smell in a vagina and is sometimes associated with discharge, odor, pain, itching and burning. Researchers don’t fully understand how a woman develops BV, but know it is associated with an imbalance of the bacteria that are normally found in a woman’s vagina. Increased risk includes having a new sex partner or multiple partners and douching. A woman cannot get BV from toilet seats, bedding, or swimming pools. Women who have never had sex can also be affected.

13. Sitting in a wet bathing suit or sweaty workout underwear can give you a yeast infection. So can drinking a lot of alcohol or eating a ton of sugar. Being on antibiotics can kill off good bacteria in your vagina and cause an imbalance that is hospitable to the fungus. Eating yogurt with live cultures may help restore that balance.

14. Vaginas have can different smells at different times of the day. Right out of the shower, a vagina may not smell. After running or exercise, a vagina might smell musky from all the sweat glands. A menstruating vagina may smell like iron, and when a vagina has an overgrowth of yeast, it may smell like bread. After intercourse, a vagina may smell faintly like bleach, as semen has a smell of its own. If there is an overgrowth of bacteria, the vagina may smell like fish.

15. There are ways to make a vagina smell fresher without douching. Tactics include removing pubic hair; wiping with baby wipes instead of toilet paper, going panty-free or wearing cotton panties, avoiding panty hose and tight jeans, and eating a vegetable-based diet. Eating lots sweet fruits like pineapple or drinking cranberry juice will make it taste and smell sweeter, which can be great for your partner when they are going downtown. Probiotic foods like yogurt help to keep the vagina smelling fresh, too. Foods such as coffee, asparagus, beets, alcohol, broccoli, onions, garlic, and curry can make your va-jay-jay smell funky.

16. Sweating “down there” isn’t only normal; it provides a necessary function. Just below the skin of the labia and clitoral hood are hundreds of tiny glands that secrete oil and sweat. This can protect your delicate areas from friction and overheating.

Female Ejaculation

17. Female ejaculation DOES exist! Women, in addition to men, can ejaculate varying amounts of fluid during orgasm. It can be a few drops or enough to soak through a large section of a mattress. This is not an urban legend. I can personally attest this can happen. Some skeptics, even clinical researchers say that the ejaculate that comes from a woman isn’t actually ejaculate at all, but urine. However, I can tell you from first-hand experience it is not pee. There are other scientist that say that the components of female ejaculate are separate and different than the ones found in urine and comes from the paraurethral ducts, not the bladder. So, whenever the medical and scientific communities can pull their heads out of their asses and stick them into some vaginas to give us some definitive answers, I’ll be one of the first to let you know if this happens in my lifetime.

More Vagina Facts

18. Birth control pills can have an effect on how wet you get. So can breastfeeding and menopause. That’s because the vagina’s ability to lubricate is partially tied to estrogen levels. The lower your estrogen levels, the harder it is to get wet naturally. Using lube will help and it can even make sex more enjoyable even if you don’t need it.

19. A vaginal fart, also called a “queef,” is common. It often happens when the vagina contracts after penetration or sexual arousal. Unlike gas expelled from the rectum, which contains fecal waste and has an odor, vaginal flatulence is odorless and unrelated to the rectum.

20. It’s possible for a woman to develop an allergy to the proteins in semen. This condition is known as human seminal plasma protein hypersensitivity. Most cases only involve itching and swelling after sex, but in some cases it can be life threatening. Research shows that certain women are allergic to certain men but not to others.

21. Feel like you have to pee during sex? Sometimes a male partner might be stimulating the urethra or bladder during sex, which can make you feel like you have to pee. There’s also a thing called nerve cross-talk. It’s what happens when there’s so much is going on down there that your nerves can become confused about what exactly it is they’re experiencing when you get aroused.

22. Vaginas can get saggy. Pregnancy, childbirth, age, hormonal changes, genetics and years of gravity can weaken the supports of the female genital tract. Doing kegel exercises and using kegel balls, maintaining a normal weight, avoiding constipation, and not smoking are some ways to keep your vagina fit and healthy. So does having sex. Like the rest of your muscles, the vagina needs to be used and exercised or it will become weak and brittle. During prolonged periods of abstinence, the delicate tissues inside will thin and can begin to break down. Regular sex, however, will help keep a woman’s genitals in peak form. If you don’t have a sex partner or a male sex partner, this is when dildos aren’t just toys. They’re essential for your health as well as pleasure.

23. A woman’s vagina can fall out and hang between the legs. It’s a condition known as pelvic or vaginal prolapse. It happens when the uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes or vagina (or a combination of all of these) moves downward from its natural place in the body. This condition is common following surgeries such as hysterectomies, but can also happen without any prior event. In severe cases, this medical condition will cause the inner tissues to protrude through the vaginal opening. In most cases, it can be fixed.

24. Painful sex (dyspareunia) is normal after a woman loses her virginity. But if the pain does not lessen and resolve after a while, other conditions may be involved, including vulvar vestibulitis (inflammation of the vestibule), vaginismus (involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles), allergic reactions to things such as latex condoms or spermicide, and endometriosis (when lining from the uterus gets on the ovaries, bowel, and pelvic lining). As women age, lower levels of estrogen can cause atrophic vaginitis, or thinning of the vagina.

It’s also common for women to occasionally and unpredictably feel pain while having sex like if your partner rams your cervix, if the fit is too tight, you aren’t quite lubricated enough, or during or even a few days after rough or aggressive penetration. This can often be remedied by finding a more comfortable position, using lube, or getting your partner to spend a little more time getting you aroused.

The Vagina is Pleasure!

25. The first inch or two of the vagina has the most nerve endings and is the most pleasure receptive.

26. The G-spot (Grafenberg spot) lies two to three inches inside the vagina, on the anterior wall (near the belly button), just under the urethra. Researchers believe this area has a different texture than the rest of the vagina because it may be a remnant prostate gland.

27. Increasing evidence suggests that the G-spot feels good because it lies right over a deep part of the clitoris. Although experts describe the G-spot as being inside the vagina on the anterior wall, just under the urethra, the crura of the clitoris actually runs right there.

28. The A-spot is a tender bit of tissue at the end of the vagina, just in front of the cervix. You can find it past the G-spot along the upper wall of the vagina almost to the cervix. The A-spot produces lubrication and orgasmic contractions. The recommended technique is to stimulate it, along with the G-spot, in long strokes on a regular basis to build up the response in the area.

29. Guys, because a woman’s vagina expands 200% when she’s aroused, this is why it pays to take your time during foreplay. When your lady is aroused before penetration, you’ll get to go a lot deeper and she’ll be much more comfortable during sex.

Vagina Crazy Facts

30. Vaginas are strong enough to clamp down on penises. This is known as penis captivus. This can happen intercourse when the muscles in the vagina clamp down on the penis so intensely that makes it impossible for the penis to withdraw from the vagina. This usually subsides when a woman is no longer aroused. It’s a pretty rare occurrence.

31. People get things stuck in their vaginas sometimes. Actually, often. Crazy but true! The most common items that get stuck are condoms and tampons, which can be tough to retrieve on your own. If this happens to you, and you can’t get whatever it is out by yourself, go to your doctor, urgent care or to the ER. Leaving things in for long periods of time can cause infections or injury.

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Pandemic May Be Good For Your Dating Life

Things suck right now. I normally like to look at things positively and I am a fan of the lack of traffic. But I’m right there with you in saying, I miss being able to do things. BUT dating isn’t on hold until there is a vaccine. Pandemic may be good for your dating life. Sure, there is currently an added challenge to what is already a challenging situation. But do we just go home if our freeway ramp is closed or do we reroute and head to next ramp?!

There’s a lot of guys whining right now about how they “weren’t doing well before the pandemic. And now they literally think I have the plague UGH I’m never going to get laid.”

First of all you should have taken my six week course, The Art Of Pickup, and acquired the skills to approach women with confidence and leave them wanting more. And you still can so get in the game.

Second, you’re antisocial and awkward, the pandemic is literally a godsend for your love life! Now you can take the time to think before you respond. All the women of the world have taken to the Internet to find love and you happen to have Wi-Fi!

You can control your image while showcasing the great. Remember to leave out the fact that you collect and burn your toenail clippings, which by the way is really weird and paranoid.

Things are finally working in your favor. If you’d like help setting up your profile and choosing images I’d be happy to do so. Check out The Best Online Dating Profile.

Otherwise, when you start talking to a girl online and you’re ready to meet. Remember we are in a pandemic but it’s just like adding another STD to the mix. Except you can catch COVID-19 even if she just blows you a kiss. Keeping that in mind have an open conversation and if either party has been taking risks there are testing centers everywhere. Some even have 30 minute results! Schedule a test before the date to put her mind at ease.

She’ll be swooning before the waiter brings the barcode that you need to scan to get the menu as you sit outside in the parking lot. I don’t know about you but I’m in Los Angeles and we’re only allowed to eat out if we’re sitting outside. It’s a good thing we have perfect weather!

The point is you don’t have to get a stray cat just so you have someone to cuddle. Before the pandemic lots of people were using dating websites and apps but now EVERYONE is online dating. This is your time to shine baby so find an outdoor hair salon, get rid of that caveman look and start a profile! If you would like help I’d be happy to do so!

Come find me at PlaymatePickup.com My six week course, The Art Of PickUp is available with personalized guidance at Virtual Sexpert.com. Acquire the skills to approach women with confidence and get them to want you!