How to Prevent Your Sex Drive Plummeting in Your 40s With Tantra

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Sex in your 40s often goes downhill. A busy life, stress, low self-esteem and poor diet can lead to a low libido. Don’t worry! Help is at hand. If middle-aged sex is getting you down, there’s an ancient technique which can get things moving again.

Tantra is all about delaying orgasm which leads to better sex, enhanced intimacy and improved body confidence. Improving your sex life in your 40s doesn’t need to be a chore. Tantra or tantric massage is a technique which aids relaxation and awakens your sexual being.

This erotic massage is a form of holistic therapy, taking you down a path of spiritual enlightenment to give your more intense orgasms and more passionate sex.

How to perform a tantric massage on your partner

Start with a long, hot shower with your partner. You can then move to comfortable surroundings – music, candles, hot oil and dimmed lights will get you in the mood for lovemaking.

Begin the tantric massage by rubbing warm oil over your partner’s body, gently moving your hands over their body. Start with large, circular movements on the chest before slowly moving to the genital area. Your partner can then begin to massage your body as you both become aroused.

Look into each other’s eyes as you perform playful touches. Give long, lingering kisses. Sit on your partner’s lap if you feel comfortable. Gently rock with each other and start to make love. Focus on the sensations you feel as you caress each other – smell, touch, taste!

How does tantra boost your sex life?

Improved confidence

Both couples and individuals will relish the confidence tantra brings into your life. You’ll start to feel comfortable with intimacy and have the self-assurance to express what you like and what you don’t like in the bedroom.

Tantric massage uses the movement of sexual energy throughout the body to build a connection with the mind and body. Using breathing techniques, touching and eye gazing, you’ll build an intimate bond with your partner. You’ll find new ways of pleasure and adore feeling seductive and playful in the bedroom.


Tantric massage is beneficial for men with premature ejaculation issues. Tantra helps you to ride the wave of arousal, taking you to the edge of orgasm and back again. This improves your sex life and you’re able to control ejaculation.

By learning to respond to your sexual energy, you’re able to gradually build up this energy throughout the body until an explosive happy ending occurs. With your new found confidence and the ability to control your orgasm, you’ll last longer in the bedroom for endless hours of lovemaking with a partner.

Better orgasms

A sensual massage like tantric massage promotes relaxation. Additionally, tantra gives you the sexual freedom to experience new erotic pleasures which allows you to awaken your sexual appetite. Both these aspects give you the potential for better orgasms.

Breathing techniques that you perform with your partner, alongside teasing touches, will give you hours of pleasure.

Tantra isn’t about having a quickie – it’s a slow form of lovemaking which focuses on the spiritual connection. However, most people find they experience enhanced orgasms with this ancient technique.

Improved intimacy

Relationships in your 40s can be at different points. Some couples have been married for years and find their sex lives dwindling, whiles others may be divorced and looking to start a new relationship. Whatever situation you find yourself in, intimacy can be uncomfortable for many.

Luckily, tantric massage offers a way of healing your intimacy issues. Both you and a partner are able to enjoy being naked together in a stimulating and exciting manner. The pleasure you give and receive brings contentment, and you’ll learn that sex is an amazing part of a relationship.

Sexual awareness

Tantric massage is the spiritual awakening you need in your life. You’ll enjoy being sexually pleasured once again and you’ll love watching your partner being stimulated.

Everything goes in tantra – you can try different types of positions, enjoy role play and uncover your fantasies. Give your sex life a boost by sharing an intimate moment with your partner.

This nude massage is a steamy delight. Feel the erotic energy running through your body until you explode with a mind-blowing ending.


About the author:

Erica Suarez-Hillingdon is a sex therapist and expert on everything related to tantra, tantric sex, and tantric massage. She is the editor at Karma Tantric, London’s premier tantric massage agency and writes about how tantra can help men, women, and couples improve their sex lives.



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