The Feminist Sexpert actively dislikes playing the drinking game Never Have I Ever, because–well–I never get to drink! I’ve pretty much tried everything on the sexual spectrum, and (as my icon Mae West phrases it) “Twice if it feels good!” But the one thing I’ve never done–and that I never plan to do–is have an affair with a married man.

Why? Well, I attribute this decision to a mixture of both modern and traditional values. Modern in the sense that–well–I’m the Feminist Sexpert damn it, and I refuse to break the Girl Code by dallying with somebody else’s man. Traditional in the sense that, the times that I’ve attended weddings, I take the ‘forsaking all others’ bit pretty darned seriously.  

But, some might ask: What if he’s in an open marriage? Nope. What if he isn’t legally married but is in a serious relationship? Nope. What if he’s really, really hot? Sigh, it physically wounds me to say this, but….No. Look, I’ve even surrendered crushes on favorite male models and adult actors once I found out they were hitched or seriously committed.

Is it always easy? No. I’ve turned down some major league hotties, with my clit and pussy screaming–no, make that wailing–a chorus of protest every step of the way–but at the end of the day, my heart and my mind stay good.

To any sisterfriends out there who have trouble resisting the charms of bewedded baes, here are a few tips that might help:

1. Get to know their spouses and families. If this isn’t possible, at least locate photos of them on social media. Once you see that smiling sisterfriend or that adorable kid, you wouldn’t dream of doing ’em dirty.

2. If you have to interact with Tommy Tempter at work or in a social group, be sure not ‘go to the barbecue hungry,’ if you catch my meaning. If you have a partner yourself, work with him/her/they to heat things up in the bedroom so that you don’t leave home unsatisfied. If you are happily self-partnered like myself, hit up your friends with bens, hire a male companion (my favorite remedy for just about any sexual issue–ride ’em Cowgirl!), attend a male strip show, buy a new toy and some porn, etc.

3. Avoid developing deep, close friendships with married men–unless they’re married to other men and are not tempted by female you, or bear such a strong likeness to Quasimodo on Quaaludes that you’re not even remotely tempted. A fun friendship date that seems like just a lunch or just a movie could become more. Restrict social messaging to work-related topics or quick hi/byes.

4. Seek some artistic inspiration.  See the Jill Clayburgh classic “An Unmarried Woman” to see the story of a woman who bravely survives her husband’s betrayal and abandonment. Or listen to the classic Shirley Murdock song “Husband.” The powerful lyrics include:

“My desire for you is strong, but I won’t do wrong. You’re that lady’s husband…

My decency prevails… Well I’m a lady with class and I know my desire will pass…

This cannot [be] because you are her husband.”

5. Think about what it would be like if the high heel was on the other foot. Imagine the pain and anger of finding out that the man of your heart was breaking yours–with the help of another woman.

6. Don’t believe his bunk. Of course he’s going to tell you his wife is so darned evil, she makes Maleficent look like Doris Day. What is he going to say? “My wife is a sweet, wonderful woman, which I’m sure will make you feel just wonderful about helping me betray her?” If she is indeed such an awful person, he needs to divorce her. But if his come on starts with the line, “My wife doesn’t understand me,” then the ultimate cool reply is, “Then the poor dear and I have something in common. Think I’ll call her up, and we’ll do coffee.”

I call it SES. Sexy Elbow Syndrome.

I rent a XXX feature in anticipation of seeing my favorite male porn hunks. Only to see their arms and elbows as they clasp and support the focal point of the scene: The woman.

It is very rare in porn that the male form is highlighted in any aspect. You still don’t see them on too many DVD covers, and their names always appear behind those of the actresses–if at all. Sometimes they don’t bother to choose male talent based on looks or charm, but simply on if they can last the duration of The Bohemian Rhapsody or thereabouts in the wood-wielding department.

We’ve all seen it, Ladies–and suffered through it. You’re watching a flick starring your favorite hunk and you think, “When is the camera going to focus on him? Oh wait a minute, the angle is changing, the lens is shifting in his general direction, yes yes ye–nope, denied. Urgghhh!”

Or you watch a flick starring your man’s favorite starlet–and when you take a good look at her possibly hygienically impaired co-star, you’re suddenly thanking every saint you know that the camera does not focus on him.

This first occurred to me when I developed my first porn crush, on Gerald Pike. Pike was an absolutely stunning ex-stripper and Playgirl model who appeared in at least 157 films, including my all-time favorite XXX romance, Immortal Desire.

Now just look at that man. He should be featured on the cover of, like, every erotic movie made, even those in which he does not appear. Plus he is Australian, and his deeply voiced accent is to die for! Yet of his 157-film oeuvre, he has appeared on only four DVD covers–Immortal Desire, Homo Erectus (in which he plays a caveman), The Fuckingdales and Reverse Gang Bang–in which he has one big ol’ sex scene with 10 women. And where was I on casting day? 

He did appear in a starring vehicle, Sex Part One, in which he shows some real acting chops while portraying an actor trying to make it in Hollywood. But without knowing this, I walked right by the movie the first time I saw it at an adult video store, because (shocker) he did not appear on the cover. And he was the star. Any semblance of sense, this does not make.

With his looks and acting skill, Gerry Pike should have been the male Jenna Jameson–or, at the very least, the subject of his own spotlight DVDs. And if he had been female, he surely would have been.

I had much better luck with my second big crush and all-time fave, Jean Val Jean. A sweet, beautiful man with whom I had the pleasure of conversing during my time at PlaygirlTV. Playgirl had the good sense to showcase this stunner in a number of showcase titles–and on a number of classy box covers; as did several other studios that produced couples fare. Ah, but alas; Playgirl is gone, and Jean has retired–though he is now enjoying a fruitful mainstream career in movies and TV.

Along the same lines–has anyone heard of Damian Duke? This beautiful blond British dynamo appeared in specialty titles in the early 2000s. Arriving on the scene in his early 20s, Duke happily submitted to many a dominatrix in a number of his films. In others, he performed alongside BBW women and older ladies, always showing them the utmost respect and investing true passion in his performances. He retired much too quickly for the Feminist Sexpert’s taste–but perhaps with more money and acclaim, he would have stayed.

We find a most interesting case in Ryan Ryder, the Scottish pantomime actor who was fired from a production of Cinderella, where he was portraying Prince Charming, when it was discovered that he was making hardcore films.

If Ryder had been a female, a major porn studio would have cast him immediately in a XXX version of Cinderella. Instead the gorgeous Scot hunk appeared at first in motion pictures such as Big Tits in School and College Whores. Now, in a refreshing twist, he was eventually cast in fairy tale porn, playing Peter Pan in an Axel Braun film, and as a sexy superspy in Spyfall and a British lord in Down On Abby. And in 2015 came Ryan Ryder: Stud on Tour. Now that’s more like it! 

On another positive note, more and more hot male stars–like my current faves and muses, Nathan Bronson, David Lee and Jay Smooth–are showing sexy photos and clips, along with custom vids, to ardent followers through OnlyFans accounts.  

Still and all, attractive male actors have yet to reign as stars in straight XXX stars. I have heard a good number of women voice my complaint–others even watch gay porn in an effort to 1. see men 2 see attractive men, even. And indeed, I have heard male talent say that they do gay porn, not because they like having sex with men, but because they make more money and get more attention by doing so.

What’s a woman to do? Well Ladies, for starters….

1. SOS–Support Our Studs. Support their Only Fans, write letters to porn studios requesting your guy’s presence in their films, follow them on social media, buy their pics and customs. For that matter…

2.  Buy your porn. If you owned a sandwich shop, you probably wouldn’t appreciate someone just running into your store, grabbing a hot turkey with cheese, and running out the door without paying. How is your stud going to pay for his workout equipment and styling products, if you’re bootlegging his movies? Same difference.

3. Start fan pages for your faves, helping them spread their fame.

4. Write and direct your own films. But that’s a whole other blog…

Down with SES! Up (most literally) with SOS! Support Our Studs!

When it comes to fulfilling women’s fantasies on film, the gorgeous Nathan Bronson says he’s here to help. Ladies, take heed!

Ladies, we’ve all been there. Your guy suggests the viewing of a porn film as your evening’s entertainment, and suddenly you remember a whole pile of dishes in the kitchen that simply must be done. Oh, it’s not that you dislike erotic films–quite the contrary. It’s just that you don’t favor the concept of spending two hours staring at an intimidatingly beautiful woman, who screams with pleasure at the touch of a man who may be hygienically/aesthetically impaired, and who may not (despite all that enthusiastic hollering) be responsive to her needs and desires.

But what happens when you press play, and you see a dream man?

He’s gorgeous–and I mean, drop dead model gorgeous. He relaxes you with his sense of humor in the sequences leading up to the sex scene–but in the scene itself, his intensity, seduction, and pleasuring of the actress blows you away. Sending hubby away to do those blasted dishes, you park your chair in front of that screen and enjoy a hot fantasy affair.

Chances are, you just witnessed a Nathan Bronson film. Oh, and did I mention he cooks too?

With a little more than five years’ experience in the industry, Nathan has performed more than 900 scenes for top-shelf sites, including Pure Taboo, Adam & Eve, MissaX, Nubiles, Wicked Pictures, Penthouse, Evil Angel, Kink.com, Adult Time, Naughty America, New Sensations, Girlfriends Films, Sweet Sinner, Hustler, Burning Angel, Team Skeet, Reality Kings, and Cherry Pimps. He’s one of the most requested male performers and has a non-stop work schedule. Nathan has scored some top-notch awards nominations from the XBIZ, AVN, Inked, XRCO, XBIZ Cam, and AltPorn Awards, including Male Performer of the Year, Best Actor, Best Leading Actor, Best Supporting Actor, Clip Artist of the Year – Male, and Best Newcomer, as well as accolades for his scene work. Nathan has been featured in multiple editions of Hustler Magazine’s Sex Boot Camp, where adult performers dole out advice on everything sex, and AVN Magazine.

The Feminist Sexpert would like to add another accolade to this list: one of the most women-friendly male porn stars on today’s XXX scene, one known for putting her pleasure first. And this applies equally to his co-stars and fans.

“I always ask my co-star what I can do to make her feel good, to make her comfortable,” he said. “It’s my first priority.”

Nathan’s work with Bellesa Films, a leading women’s porn company, is the stuff of a feminist porn fan’s dirtiest dreams.

“Nathan brings the romance and hot passionate sex in two new titles from Bellesa Films previously exclusive to their site. In First Times & Second Chances 3, Nathan’s roommate Alex Coal comes home from a horrible date and needs to vent. Nathan knows just what to do to soothe her frustration and give her what she wants. First Times & Second Chances 3 also stars Abigail Mac, Emma Starletto, Victoria Voxxx, Ryan Mclane, and Damon Dice. Try before you buy and get a sneak peek at adultempire.com/3144979/first-times-second-chances-3-porn-movies.html.” read a related news release. “Nathan’s second Bellesa Films offering is Going for It. The title lives up to its name. Lulu Chu has been training Nathan for a while and pining after his hard body. Her attraction is undeniable, and at the end of their session, she can’t hold back. Going for It also features Vanna Bardot, Aidra Fox, Ana Foxxx, Codey Steele, Damon Dice, and Johnny Castle.”

I’ve always said that, more than any other film genre, good pornography must provoke the viewer to think and feel. The legendary female film critic Pauline Kael was sometimes accused of ‘holding her typewriter between her legs’ when she gave a favorable review to an erotic film–a nasty thing to say about a legend, but I say, so be it. When one watches a Nathan Bronson film, one often sees his female co-stars screaming, whimpering elatedly, smiling dreamily and rolling their eyes back in their head in response to his attentions. And many of his viewers feel the same way. He makes us feel real, real good.

And he has worked with a number of prominent female directors, including Jacky St. James, Missa X, and Serena Blair. St. James is a particular favorite of his, owing to both her strong work ethic and positive attitude. .

“Although all directors are different, working for a female director can make a difference,” he said. “In some cases, they can be more sympathetic.”

In regards to his fans, who he communicates with through numerous platforms that include OnlyFans and many more, he also aims to please.

“I was once in a heavy metal band, and I always knew that it’s all about the fans–the people who come to the show. It’s their energy that makes the show,” he said. “I want to get to know my fans. I’m always asking, What do you want?”

One thing that concerns but sadly does not surprise the Feminist Sexpert. Nathan says that both his fans and co-stars sometimes fail to provide complete answers to these questions–which leads me to repeat my frequent admonition: Ladies, don’t be afraid to express your needs and desires!!!

…but back to Nathan. Aside from achieving mainstream success as a stuntperson, he’s currently attracting more fans via his YouTube channel Hanging with Nathan youtube.com/channel/UC1zn3U6TYtTrzkKjm2L50KQ. Here you see him cooking, talking with guests from all facets of the industry, taking viewers on the set of his films, answering fans’ questions, making his audience laugh, doing daredevil stunts, and more.

“I started the show because I missed cooking in the kitchen,” said this professional chef, who counts Anthony Bourdain as a role model. “Also, I wanted to be able to talk with people in our industry, not so much to interview them but to give them a chance to talk–for people to get to know them.”

The culinarily challenged Feminist Sexpert enjoys these cooking segments so much, she might even attempt to try out one of the recipes herself. Someone stand by with a fire extinguisher!

Nathan’s new releases include MissaX’s “Sister’s Bad Date” Penthouse’s “Mommy Has Big Big Boobs”, both available on VOD; new scenes “Heat Wave Pt. 1” and “A Family Affair,” both featured on the MissaX.com website. On July 3, his Devil’s Film scene Ebony Anal Queens #02: Alexis Tae was made available exclusive to site members.

Nathan would love to make more content for his female fans, and wants to encourage them to express their needs and desires for their own quality adult entertainment.

“Ladies, this is a new day,” he tells us. “You are empowered. It’s a new world. Grab your sexuality by the balls.”

The only way that women will ever command their own genre of the pornographic industry, he says, is to speak up and demand what they want in terms of content. Buy your porn, write to the studios, make your voice heard.

And tell Nathan. He wants to know your desires–and act on them via his films.

“Tell me what you want to see,” he said. “Daddy Bronson will film it for ya.”

Good Gawd, Ladies. What are we waiting for?! Here are his links, let’s go:

onlyfans.com/nathan_bronson. Subscribe to his Verified Pornhub and “like” his videos pornhub.com/pornstar/nathan-bronson. Purchase his one-of-a-kind clips on ManyVids manyvids.com/Profile/1000382864/Nathanbronson and Clips4Sale clips4sale.com/studio/115048/hanging-with-nathan. Vote him for Best Actor in this Year’s Night Moves Awards (https://nightmovesonline.com/vote-now/). And subscribe to his YouTube channel Hanging with Nathan youtube.com/channel/UC1zn3U6TYtTrzkKjm2L50KQ

Businesswoman Holly Corbella is a first-time nominee for the XBIZ Awards, featured in the category of Retail & distribution – home party company of the year for her amazing company PARTIES BY BELLAS. This fun, vivacious woman has turned Girls’ Nights In into an art–which makes her a prime candidate for a Feminist Sexpert Interviews profile!

FS: What first inspired you to get into the pleasure products industry?

HC: It was not something I ever thought about actually. I wanted to have some fun with my girlfriends so I hosted a girls night in. The party was a huge hit and the lady asked me if I wanted to join so I said sure I’m up for that challenge. It was an amazing 3 years working for passion parties then they unfortunately closed. I was devastated and so was my team. We had 7 days to decide to move over to the company that bought passion parties or cancel our consultant ids. As a team we decided to move over to the new company as we loved The little family we created. It was completely different, so many rules to learn and ways of doing things. Two weeks into the new company I was fired. I hosted a couples party which I was told later on was against the rules. I didn’t know at the time as this was a party I had previously booked. I was told when starting with the new company we had 30 days to complete previously booked partied and transition to the new company. I hosted a mini pity party for myself for about two or three days not being able to leave the house. Then people started to reach out and tell me to start my own business. This was never something I had previously thought of and well the rest is history.

FS: What inspired you to start your own company, and how do you go about it?

HC: My inspiration to start parties by Bellas was my customers, family and fiends. My support system is why parties by Bellas is in Business today. I am truly honored and grateful for all the amazing people in my life. I took my anger and all the sadness I had about losing my business with another company and decided to make a positive spin. I was going to start my own company the way that I wanted it to be!! I was under a one year noncompete so during that time I slowly put together my business. I took online business courses which was some thing that I’ve never done before. I was researching all types of adult products and all sorts of other companies. I just wanted to see what was out there and what was out there and what was missing. From that I started my little family a company that is consultant friendly.

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FS: The toy domain is one arena of the adult industry in which women hold great power. How do you feel this industry has inspired women?

HC: It feels great as a women to be taking control of my life and my sexuality. I think it takes a strong women to open a business let alone a sex related business. I absolutely love meeting other like minded women and helping them to grow their careers with me. This industry is a great career for women not just because let’s face it Sex is going no where so we never have to worry about that and if covid taught me anything I am an essential worker when everything is shut down lol. Also from my experience unlike any other field I have belonged to these women I have met in the “sex industry” are not ones to tip toe around things they express how they feel. They are having as much fun as I am so the positive vibes surround us. We all help each other to grow and it’s just a great industry to be a part of. We stick together.

FS: How do you feel the party format promotes toy sales? How do you feel that it promotes female bonding?

HC: I feel in-home adult parties is the best way for a woman to find an adult product that is perfect for her. She is able to see the item an how it works before purchasing it. It’s also in a comfortable atmosphere either by herself or surrounded by friends who might have some inside perspective to add to the conversation.Talking about sex is one of the hardest things for people to do. I’ve been told at my parties because I am so open and comfortable about this particular subject it makes partygoers feel comfortable talking about things that they’ve never felt comfortable talking about before. This then brings the women who are at the party together opening up about their most secret of thoughts. Now creating a bond only they will have with each other.

FS: I understand that you’ve been nominated for an XBiz Award? Tell me about it!

HC: Yes, I have been nominated for a XBIZ award! I am beyond excited about this as this will be the first time for me. I was nominated in the category for best in-home parties. I know everyone says that just being nominated is enough and it doesn’t matter if I win. Of course I want to win but this nomination for me made me have my “I made it” moment. I’m up against companies that have been around much longer than parties by Bellas and have many more consultants. Parties By Bellas is still very much seen as a small business as we are just under 30 STRONG.

FS: What are some of your favorite products that you offer, and what are your product categories?

HC: It’s really hard to pick just a few items. I do love our new Bellas kick ass self defense line. I feel it’s very important for a women to be able to feel dave and be able to protect herself. As for the adult line I’d have to say my favorite sex toys are on my website under hollys picks. Just too many to list.

Parties by Bella’s is not just a sex toy company. Yes we have a great selection of sex toys but we have an array of other items such as; self-defense Products, Bath and body items, CBD, Pet products, sexual enhancement items and much more.

FS: How can people learn more about your business? List all relevant websites, social media, etc.

HC: How to connect: I am also a sex life and business coach. I also own an event planning company.

Website: www.partiesbybellas.com
Email: [email protected]
Facebook: Holly’s Parties By Bellas
Facebook: Bellas wedding & event planning
Facebook: Bella Lady Boss Life & Business Coaching
IG: Parties By Bellas

What’s a ‘Bro’dello?

We as women have come a long way, Baby–and, in doing so, we’ve learned so many new ways to come!

Back in the 1960s, when men got to enjoy their own nifty little sexual revolution, women basically served coffee at the event. At that time, no one could imagine the concept of male exotic dancers who catered to women, femme porn, women’s literary erotica, and male companions for women. Yet with the 1970s came the Chippendales and LaBare, with the 1980s came the release of the film American Gigolo and the arrival of a number of exotic male companions who catered to women. And throughout these decades, women’s written erotica has become a multimillion dollar industry–and, finally, the porn industry is catching up.

Yet in the world of women’s sexual liberation, we have one final frontier to conquer: the male brothel for women. Or, as the Feminist Sexpert would very much prefer to call them, brodellos!

Many people still insist that ladies are simply not interested in the concept. This despite the fact that a number of popular romances have concerned the topic of ‘houses of pleasure’ directed at women; from Kathryn Harvey’s Butterfly (1989) to Lynne Kaufman’s Slow Hands (2003) to my own Under Cover of the Night (2008)–as has a popular femme porn film, Inpulse’s Erection Services (see what they did there, Folks?).

Around 2010, some concrete plans were set into motion to at least integrate male employees into the staff rosters of legal brothels in Nevada. Yet these facilities reported low turnout among female customers, and folks jumped to the conclusion that, while they might see male companions in private, women simply weren’t interested in going out in public and seeking erotic pleasure at public facilities. Um, have these folks ever been to a male strip show? A swingers club? A showing of Magic Mike?

I believe that a legal, ethical male brothel for woman is a workable business model–one that is not without precedent. At least two of these establishments have found great success in South Africa, for example. Yet it must be done right. Read on as The Feminist Sexpert tells you how to run a safe and successful “Brodello” for Women!!

1. The Brodello Must Be an Establishment that Offers Men Only for Women Only

Many women are not going to feel safe or comfortable venturing alone into a brothel teeming with men in search of female providers. They need to step into a safe space shared with and hopefully operated by other women, staffed by a wide selection of beautiful, respectful men devoted to their pleasure. 

2. The Brodello Must Be Ethically Operated.

Like any business establishment, the ‘bro’thel should be ethically and legally operated, with absolutely no abuse, human trafficking, dangerous working conditions, secret filming, or disrespect allowed.

3. The Brodello Must Be Beautiful

A classically designed home would be the best setting, designed in a feminine style and clean-lined, attractive manner. Fantasy suites would also be a plus. Want to dress up as a female gladiator or empress, while lots of inordinately handsome servants and harem dudes dance to your attendance? Go ‘head. The Feminist Sexpert won’t judge.

4. The Brodello Must Be Secure.

All staff members should undergo a complete screening prior to their hiring, to ensure that they are safe and healthy, discreet and gentle. By the same token, a staff member should always have the discretion to end an appointment if they feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

From the pages of erotic books to the frames of adult films, brothels for women have existed for years in the dark corners of the female imagination. Yet, with any and all things related to female sexuality, it’s time for the ‘brodello’ concept to see the light of night!

Award Winning Erotic Filmmaker: Ms. Naughty

A pioneer and top creator in the field of feminist pornography, Ms. Naughty is a winner of multiple Feminist Porn Awards and was named an Indie Porn Icon in 2017. This amazing lady is also, as I can attest, a fantastic promoter and supporter of other female creators in the business. Long renowned as a writer, critic and webmistress in the feminist adult industry, she is now the owner and director at the amazing Bright Desire films–a revolutionary indie/couples studio poised to celebrate a decade in the business.

The Feminist Sexpert is proud to profile a premiere Feminist Pornographer: Ms. Naughty!

Feminist Sexpert: First I would like to say, Bravo! I loved my visit to Bright Desire and loved all of the clips, with Tease and Linger ranking among my favorites. As with other films of yours that I’ve seen, the clips were sensual, poetic and not at all vulgar. I felt naughty but not dirty after watching. Is this the formula that you strive to achieve with every scene?

Ms. Naughty: I’ve always wanted to portray sex in a positive way. I find that a lot of porn has a really negative vibe to it. When you watch it, you’re left feeling uneasy or maybe “mentally turned off”. So I’ve made an effort to avoid that. I want to show people sharing intimacy, interacting in positive, joyful ways. In my films people don’t “do” sex to each other in a competitive or negative way, they *have* sex together. It’s about a shared experience. Even in situations with power play, there’s respect for everyone. Nobody has to be the loser in my films. I’m big on showing consent and communication before and during sex.

And it’s really important to show a less serious side – the laughter, the mistakes, the less-than-glamourous moments. Because that’s what sex is like. It’s supposed to be fun.

Tease, a Bright Desire film

Feminist Sexpert: You’ve worn so many hats in the adult industry–reviewer, webmistress, writer, filmmaker. What first drew you to the industry, and what inspired you to make your own adult films?

Ms. Naughty: I was originally writing articles for an Australian women’s porn magazine and found my way into the online industry in 2000. I’ve always been interested in sex from a feminist perspective and this has informed everything I’ve done over the last 21 years. I always wanted to show female pleasure and show a woman’s perspective of sexuality. This was almost non-existent when I started out. Over the years I’ve expanded my philosophy and learned from others which is why I’ve included a more diverse range of perspectives and people in my porn. But as a straight cis woman I’ve always been keen on making a space online for women like me. We’re still ignored or misunderstood by the industry.

When I started out, I was working with photos and erotic fiction. I started making my own films in 2009 because the internet had moved into video and it was time to move with it. Being in Australia meant it was a lot harder to get started in this area, otherwise I would have done it sooner. It was a steep learning curve for me. I took a weekend filmmaking course, got some tips from a friend in the industry and just went from there. I was very much making it up as I went along. It’s only ever been me and my husband doing the work. We’re very low-budget, very DIY. I’m pretty proud to have won so many awards, given that we’re not a major production company.

Linger, a Bright Desire film

Feminist Sexpert: I recently shared my column with you about the need for more beefcake porn for women–and in your films, you cast gorgeous, sensitive actors like Ryan James and Parker Marx. What criteria do you look for in your male stars, and do you strive to spotlight or highlight the male form in your scenes?

Ms. Naughty: It’s always tricky casting male performers because of the “penis problem”. You usually need guys who are able to be erect and comfortable in a room with other people and cameras. It’s not easy – and kudos to every guy who does it. Not every scene I’ve done has required it, of course, but it is something you have to be aware of. Beyond that, I like to work with male performers who are in tune with my feminist philosophy. I want to know they’re on board with what we’re doing. I’ve received thousands of emails from men who are just keen to turn up and fuck. But I need male performers who are more enlightened and open to ideas. It also helps if they can act… but there’s ways of setting up scenes where that’s not vital.

I’ve shot a lot of real-life couples and usually I make sure the female partner is totally on board and comfortable with the shoot before I go ahead. She calls the shots. So in those cases, I’m not choosing the male partner according to how they look. It’s all about the couple and their needs.

In terms of shooting, I like to give equal camera time to the male and female form. Too often porn will cut the guy’s head out of the frame and focus only on the woman. I won’t do that. I want to show the audience what he’s feeling as well. And when I’ve shot films that do focus on the male form, I take a holistic approach. It’s not just about his cock. It’s about his face, his muscles, the tiny movements of his toes, everything. I’ve shot male solo masturbation films with voiceovers because I want to both admire their body and also get an idea of who they are, even as we’re watching a very intimate moment.

Trinity, a Bright Desire film

Feminist Sexpert: From my interactions with you over the years, you are always one of the most approachable and helpful adult industry professionals, particularly in support of other women. And if anything, I would like to see more networking and support among female content creators and performers. What are your thoughts?

Ms. Naughty: When I started out in 2000 there was a group of female webmasters who were very supportive of newcomers and we all promoted each others’ sites. I was so very grateful for that and I’ve tried to pay it forward. I’ve always felt that we’re better off supporting each other, even though we may be commercially competing. The industry is still male dominated and still caters to men so it’s useful for women, nb and queer producers and performers to network and communicate. We can collectively make a bigger space for ourselves by helping each other out. And also, our perspectives are all different, we all have something new or interesting to offer. The more choices women producers and performers offer, the better it serves the audience.

Spider Woman, a Bright Desire Film

Feminist Sexpert: Bright Desire will celebrate its 10th anniversary next year. What does the future hold for this amazing studio?

Ms. Naughty: Covid has put a dampener on production for a lot of the adult industry and we haven’t been able to make new films for a while. I’m hoping to change that in the future, once we can reliably travel (although the vaccine rollout here in Australia is a disaster so who knows when that will be). In the meantime I’ve been featuring the work of other producers whose films fit with the vibe of Bright Desire. I’m also looking at taking amateur couples self-filmed submissions sometime in 2021. Everyone has an amazing camera in their pocket now and this means we can see many more perspectives and ideas and sexualities.

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