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Explore the Power of Tantric Foreplay to Enhance Intimacy

By
Valeriam Vincent
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Many couples struggle to maintain intimacy in their relationships. Tantric foreplay is an ancient practice that can deepen emotional and physical connection. This article explores how tantric techniques like mindful touch and breathwork can enhance intimacy.

Find out how tantric foreplay can intensify your intimate experiences.

Understanding Tantric Foreplay

Understanding tantric foreplay goes beyond physical intimacy. It involves mindfully connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.

Meaning and Purpose

Tantric foreplay redirects sexual energy from the genitals to the entire body. It enables couples to experience a full body orgasm. Tantric foreplay deepens the spiritual bond and intimacy between partners.

Tantric massage aligns individual energy, balances masculine and feminine energies, awakens the union of consciousness, form, spirituality, and sexuality, and provides a therapeutic energy-aligning experience.

Photo taken from: https://the-posh.london/services/

Benefits of Practicing

Tantric foreplay cultivates mindfulness. Partners become present and attentive to each other’s needs, deepening intimacy and emotional connection. Couples experience heightened sensuality and arousal.

Tantric techniques prolong pleasure, delaying orgasm. This intensifies the sexual journey and fulfilment.

Tantric practices reduce stress and anxiety. They promote relaxation and contentment through conscious breathing and sensual touches. Emotional barriers dissolve as trust builds between partners.

Individuals overcome insecurities and traumas related to sexuality. They develop self-acceptance and self-love.

Explore different types of massage that will awaken new erogenous zones such as yoni, whole body, lingam, etc. This arouses passion and excitement in long-term relationships. Regular tantric intimacy boosts overall well-being and happiness.

Mindful and Conscious Connection

Tantric foreplay cultivates mindfulness. Partners connect consciously, embracing the present moment’s sensations. This deepens intimacy through undivided attention on each other.

Tantric practices emphasise conscious touch and breath awareness. Eye gazing and sensual communication heighten physical and emotional bonding. Partners explore pleasure patiently, releasing expectations.

This fosters profound trust and vulnerability within the sacred space they create.

Creating the Right Environment

Creating the Right Environment section needs a tranquil atmosphere. Soft music and dim lighting evoke sensuality.

Setting the Mood

Creating a serene ambience sets the tone for a profound tantric experience. Dim lighting, candles, and soft music foster an atmosphere of tranquillity. Scented oils or incense infuse the space with alluring aromas, engaging the senses.

Ensure the room feels inviting, cosy, and free from distractions.

Adorn the environment with cosy fabrics, plush pillows, and comfortable surfaces to facilitate ease of movement. Incorporate elements that evoke sensuality, such as rose petals scattered across the bed or floor.

Establishing Trust and Communication

Establishing trust and open communication forms the bedrock of tantric intimacy. Cultivating a safe, non-judgmental space allows vulnerabilities to surface. Express emotions, boundaries and desires honestly.

Forget inhibitions and let go of expectations. Agree on mutual comfort levels before exploring new territories. Active listening and empathy breed mutual understanding.

Incorporating Sensory Elements

Heightening intimacy necessitates exploring sensual realms. Tantalising sights, scintillating sounds, alluring aromas, and sensual textures awaken passion. Caressing the body with feathers, silk, or fragrant oils ignites desire.

Integrating sensory delights during tantric foreplay amplifies erotic energy. Flickering candlelight casts dancing shadows, inspiring creativity. Soft music entrances, while aromatic oils relax muscles.

Relishing each moment kindles profound connections.

Techniques for Enhanced Intimacy

Techniques for Enhanced Intimacy” section explores mindful touch, sensual communication, and exploring different positions. Discover ways to deepen your connection.

Mindful Touch and Massage

Couples crave deeper intimacy. Tantric massage uses a conscious touch. Caressing awakens the senses. Slow strokes heighten awareness. Gentle squeezes release tension. Fingers trace energy lines.

Palms explore erogenous zones. Breath synchronises movements. Mindful techniques connect minds and bodies. Tantra embraces full-body arousal. Lingering kisses ignite passion. 

The clitoris receives loving attention. Tantric foreplay prolongs pleasure. Orgasms become whole-body experiences. Intimacy strengthens emotional bonds.

Photo taken from: https://the-posh.london/services/

Sensual Communication

Sensual communication nurtures intimacy. Couples express desires through touch, eye contact, and body language. Open discussions foster trust and vulnerability. Mindful listening deepens understanding between partners.

Vocal expression enhances sensual connection. Couples share fantasies, boundaries, and feedback. Using affirming words during intimate moments heightens arousal. Moans and sighs communicate pleasure.

Tantric foreplay embraces vocal expression.

Exploring Different Positions

Exploring different positions amplifies tantric foreplay—couples alternate positioning, aligning bodies for profound energetic connection. Lying side by side enables sensual touch, caressing from head to toe.

Seated stances facilitate eye gazing, deepening emotional bonds. Woman straddling allows access to massaging sacred spaces.

Switching positions continually redirects energy flow. Varied stances prevent stagnation, keeping intimacy alive. Creativity heightens arousal, unlocking new sensations. Transitioning seamlessly between postures maintains an unbroken connection.

Taking Your Intimacy to the Next Level

Increase intimacy with exercises in synced breathing and sustained eye contact. Enhance your connection by incorporating gratitude into your routine.

Integrating Breathwork and Eye Gazing

Breathwork forms an integral part of tantric foreplay. Synchronising breaths creates a profound connection. Eye gazing deepens emotional bonds, and lingering eye contact heightens intimacy.

Both enhance physical and spiritual closeness.

Controlling breaths calms the mind. Eye contact releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone. This promotes trust, vulnerability, and emotional openness. Couples achieve profound states of arousal and ecstasy.

Deepening Emotional and Physical Connection

Tantric foreplay fosters profound emotional and physical intimacy. Couples connect through mindful touch, eye gazing, and synchronised breathing, heightening sensations and allowing partners to experience each other profoundly.

Gratitude exercises reinforce appreciation, strengthening emotional bonds. Tantric techniques awaken sensuality, amplifying pleasure and orgasms.

Integrating breathwork harmonises energies, facilitating deep merging. Synchronised breathing induces trance-like states of unity. Tantric practitioners attain profound spiritual connection transcending physical pleasure.

Lingering in exquisite moments deepens closeness and vulnerability. Sensual communication enhances understanding between lovers.

Practicing Gratitude and Graciousness

Embracing gratitude amplifies intimacy. Appreciate each other’s presence, vulnerability, and willingness to explore. Express thankfulness for shared moments, fostering more profound connections.

Graciousness nurtures emotional safety. Approach your partner with kindness, respect, and acceptance. Celebrate individuality while cherishing unity. This harmonious dynamic strengthens intimacy.

Conclusion

Tantric foreplay opens doors to profound intimacy. Embracing conscious touch awakens deeper connections. Mindful exploration of sensuality ignites passion within. Breathwork and present-moment awareness deepen the journey.

Ultimately, tantric practices offer transformative experiences for couples.

 

Make Your Sensual Massage Magical

By
Bobby Morgan
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When you have one of those rare nights when you have lots of time to spend with your lover, plan a sensual massage. Sensual massage is all about relaxing the mind and the body, finding new ways and places to enjoy intimacy, and it can take the pressure off performance.

Setting the Mood and Things You’ll Need

Music: Set the mood with quiet music in the background that has a slow rhythmic beat. Think of your music choices, preferably acoustic instrumentals, as if it was subliminal seductive white noise. Youtube has some great sensual relaxation music, if you don’t have a clue to where to start looking for massage music.

Lights: Dim the lights and light some candles. Aside from providing a soft glow of light, soy and hemp seed oil candles are some the best massage lubricants you can use. They melt at lower temperatures, about 100 degrees, and the oils are safe and beneficial for your skin.

Massage Candles: I recommend massage candles that are made with essential oils that are skin-safe, absorb into the skin, and scent the air with “real” aromas. The power of aromatherapy goes a long way into setting a romantic mood. Resist the urge to buy massage candles that smell overly flowery or fruity. Guys have to wear this scent on their skin, too. Choose exotic and mysterious scents, and the candles burn up to 40 hours. And, no, melted massage candle wax does not dry hard or leave a waxy residue on skin. It soaks into skin like a moisturizer.

Massage Oils: Massage lotions and oils have their benefits, too. One of the biggest advantages to using massage lotion is that you can put a big dollop of it on your shoulder and take a swipe of it when you need more. It’s a lot easier than trying to find where you left the bottle. A key to a great massage is to keep your hands on your partner at all times with no interruptions.

Heated Oils: Massage oils feel best when they go on the skin warm. There are several massage oils that have ingredients that feel warm when you rub them into the skin or blow on them. There are also several excellent scented and unscented natural massage oils that can be easily warmed by keeping the bottles in a bowl of hot or warm water. Be warned that just like cooking oils, natural massage oils should be used within 45-90 days before they start smelling rancid. You can use them as a bath or after-bath body oil to make sure they don’t go to waste.

Why make a big deal about massage candles, lotions and oils? Because It’s easier to give and more pleasurable to receive a full-body massage when hands and skin or well-oiled. And the feeling of oiled hands, fingers and forearms sliding on your body is a sensual pleasure onto itself.

Massage Techniques

If you don’t know how to give a massage, don’t worry. Erotic, sensual massages aren’t intended to be therapeutic in a musculoskeletal kind of way. It fulfills a quench for touch and making love to your partner’s body, not just his or her genitals.

Tantric Massage: Tantric massage involves gentle touches that make contact with every part of the body. It’s all about seduction through pampering, exploring erogenous zones, slow and deep breathing, and clearing the mind. For as gentle and almost passive as it seems and feels, tantric sex does wonders for eliminating muscular tension, helping to make the body more limber and responsive for sex. For some people, tantric massage takes away a lot of performance anxiety.

Start by having your partner sitting in an upright position in front of you, then into your lap, and then lying on his or her back. Start by gently and slowly stroking your partner’s head, neck and hair before working your way down the body. Tantric massage is not about applying pressure; it’s about focusing on the most unsuspecting erogenous parts of the body, even the nose and eyebrows, sometimes only using fingertips.

Nuru Massage: Nuru means “slippery” in Japanese, and nuru massage is typically the kind of massage associated with Asian massage parlors. The key to this massage is having both partners oil their bodies so the partner giving the massage can slip and slide her (it’s usually the woman, but nothing says a man can’t do this)body on top of her partner’s body while stroking arms, legs, shoulders, back and other obvious places. Extremely well-oiled skin brings a whole new dimension to body-to-body contact and movement. It doesn’t take long until both partners are massaging each other, almost bypassing foreplay, and having the Disneyland Splash Mountain equivalent of sex.

Wet makes a super slippery nuru gel that’s specifically made for nuru massage, but most massage oils and melted massage candle waxes work just as well as I’ve learned from experience. You’ll also want to use an old sheet or a nuru sheet to protect your bedding.

Regardless of which technique you use, don’t fuss or stress out about mastering or completing it on the first, second or even 100th try. If it leads to mind-blowing sex, you’ve done it right.

Previously published at: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/make-your-sensual-massage-magical/

Welcome to Loveology University: Higher Learning & Wellness Retreat

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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From Buddhist Temple to Loveology University

The property was the Pine Mountain Buddhist Temple Retreat for the past 23 years, known for Zen Meditation in the Ventura County Mountains of Southern California.

The residents were two Buddhist Monks, Reverend Phoebe and Reverend Seikai who made this place a labor of love by opening their home for Buddhist Teachings, Meditation Workshops and Buddhist Festivals. As soon as I met them, I felt an immediate mind, body, soul connection. When they shared their desire to move to a smaller place, I knew that this magnificent land with mountains, an abundance of trees, flowers and Buddha statues would be perfect for my Loveology Retreat! The monks left their cats Ivy and Marley for me to take care of and for them to continue living at the only home they’ve ever had.

Retreat Services

You can come here to study for your Certified Love Coach training, enjoy scenic hiking trails, relax through holistic services such as massage and water therapy, focus on love, peace and happiness through yoga and meditation, practice self-love through healing workshops, boost intimacy or connect with your family at this 45-acre paradise.

Sacred Monument

This sacred Stupa statue is a pinnacle that you must see to believe. Many believe that circumambulating a Stupa purifies negative karma and fosters realizations of the path to enlightenment. When you enter the monument, you should bow to the Buddha inside the Stupa and walk around it clockwise — an experience that can prove meditative for Buddhists and non-Buddhists alike.

Buddhist Temple

It’s important for me to maintain the integrity of the Buddhist Temple property, so I have left the Meditation room the same as when the Monks lived here. I told them that they are welcome at any time that they wish to have a Meditation Retreat.

Renovations to Retreat

The renovations include a Recreation Room with gym equipment for adults and games for kids and teens. Outdoor Yoga and Meditation under a Pergola, a Swimming Pool, Obstacle Course, Children’s Playground with Trampoline. For dining, we will have a BBQ and a Pizza Oven, as well as healthy vegan dishes to enjoy under beautiful Sunsets. Accommodation will also be available in houses or caravans, so stay tuned for more photos and our opening event party.

Tantric Attention: Focused Techniques to Awaken Desire

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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In Tantra, “Attention” is the follow through of “Intention” because where the attention goes, energy glows. Attention is all about being 100% present for your lover. Attention is also about focusing intently on their pleasure and sharing your emotions with each other. In the following interactive exercises you will learn how to look into your lover’s soul, and how to make love with your full focus. Attention is an essential element to experiencing Tantric bliss.

Give your lover the full attention that they deserve.

Attention Exercises with your Lover:

1. Buttocks: Caress and feather your lover’s buttocks around the crease where the buttocks and upper leg meet with a feather or your hair.

2. Feet: Massage your lovers feet with a feather, fingers, tongue or hair.

3. Toes: Blindfold your lover and kiss his/her feet. Suck on the toes as if you were kissing him/her on the mouth.

4. Thighs: Blindfold your lover and tickle the inside of your lover’s thighs with a feather, your hair or fingernails.

5. Knees: Lick behind your lover’s knees.

6. Buttocks Contact: Sit astride your lover’s back so that your Lingam or Yoni is in contact with the buttocks and rub your genitals gently over it.

7. Fingers: Massage, kiss and suck on and in between your lover’s fingers.

8. Stomach: Rub your Yoni or Lingam against your lover’s stomach.

9. Lips: Suck on your lover’s bottom lip, and then explore your lover’s mouth with your tongue.

10. Attention: Finish this sentence, “I want you to pay more attention to my…”.

11. I Want: Pay attention as I show you how and where I want to be worshiped.”

12. The TriGasm: Stimulate her Pearl, G-spot and Rosebud simultaneously using your tongue, finger, feather or Lingam for at least 6 minutes. Then stimulate his Lingam, Jewels and Hero Spot simultaneoulsy.

13. Polishing the Pearl: Lift the clitoral hood up over her Pearl and make circular motions around it (not on it) with your tongue for at least 4 minutes.

14. Kiss Her Yoni: Kiss your woman by focusing your energy on her outer and inner Yoni lips. Explore the area around her Pearl (clitoris) for 2 minutes.

15. Penis Bliss: Stroke his Lingam with your prominent hand and stimulate his Hero Spot, Rosebud and Jewels externally by sliding your knuckles back and forth over the perineum (landing strip between the Rosebud/anus and testicles). Use plenty of lube or oil and ask for verbal feedback from your man. Do this for 3 minutes.

16. Find her G-spot: Ask your woman for permission to enter her Yoni. Then gently insert your ring finger inside one and a half to two inches. Curl your finger in a “come here” motion so that you can easily locate her G-spot. It is located on the upper vaginal wall before you get to the cervix. It will feel like a small area (about the size of a dime) with ridges on it, much like the roof of your you have found it, slowly, tap, tap, tap your finger
up towards her navel as you stimulate her G-spot. Ask your lover for verbal feedback. Do this for 6 minutes and use plenty of lubricant.

10. The Venus Butterfly: Orally stimulate the Pearl until your lover is on the verge of orgasm, and then find her G-spot simultaneously. Ask her for feedback. Use lubricant if necessary.

11. Goddess Waterfall: Starting very gently, run the tip of your tongue with varying degrees of firmness like running water down one side of her outer lips from the clitoral hood to her perineum. Then tap your tongue down the same side from the hood to the perineum like the pitter-patter of mist drops in a waterfall. Exhale warmly around the outside of her Yoni as you make sounds of pleasure to convey to her how much you are enjoying honoring her.

12. Godly Waterfall: Run the tip of your tongue with varying firmness like running water up one side of the Lingam from the base to the tip and then bring your fingertips down the other side from the tip to the base like the pitter patter of mist drops in a waterfall.

Paying Attention to Your Lover

Focus on listening to your lover the next time he/she speaks to you and acknowledge what he/she said in your own words. Give your lover a Tantric massage by focusing only on his/her pleasure. Then exchange roles. When making love, keep your eyes open and look into your lovers soul. Pay attention to your lover’s needs and be 100% present when he/she needs you.

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Excerpt from Dr. Ava’s Tantra Workbook

Tantra Sex Positions to Open Your Chakras

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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If you are looking for more intimacy and connection during sex with your partner, as well as balance your chakras, try these Tantra Sex Positions to enhance and integrate your divine feminine and masculine energies.

Tantra Sex Positions

Make a ritual to do these at least once a week with your lover and focus especially on weak or closed Chakras.

Rooted: Sit opposite your lover on the floor with legs crossed at the ankles, hold hands and look at each other as you tell your lover what makes you feel safe, grounded and confident.

Sexual Chakra: Sit opposite your lover on the floor with legs crossed at the ankles, lean in, hold hands and look at each other. Take turns speaking and listening as you share the following. When do you feel creative, sexually open and uninhibited?

Chakra Hug: Get into Yab Yum position; one lover in the other’s lap and press as many of your Chakras into each other as you can. Close your eyes and listen to each others breath for 2 minutes. Then discuss how this experience made you feel.

Intuition: Lean in, touch noses, join brows (third eye Chakras) and look into each others eyes until they appear to merge. Share an intuitive thought you’re having right now with your lover: “I love you and my intuition tells me that …. (finish the sentence)”.

Chakra Caress: Ask your lover to lie down and you kneel beside him/her. Gently caress each one of your lover’s charkas with your fingertips and express your adoration for each one.

Chakra Tune Up: Sit facing each other, ask your lover to close their eyes and take a deep breath. Ask your lover to respond to the following question for each of the following Chakras. Are you feeling strong or weak about your crown Chakra? Third Eye? Throat? Heart? Solar Plexis? Sacral? Root? Now alternate.

Confidence: Kneel in front of each other, hold hands and eye-gaze as you tell your lover what makes you feel confident and powerful.

Open Heart: Stand facing each other, heart to heart with arms around each other and take turns telling each other when you feel loving and compassionate.

Self Expression: Sit in a comfortable position facing each other, hold hands and eye-gaze. In two or three sentences, describe how you want other people to see and hear you.

Wisdom: Look at your lover in whatever position you are in, hold hands as you express one life lesson that you have learned.

Hip Circles: This exercise will open up your solar plexus, sacral and root Chakras. Stand up and face each other. With your knees bent slightly, push your pelvis forward; hands on hips. Now rotate your pelvis in large circles clock-wise 10 times and then counter-clock wise 10 times. Keep your head and feet still while moving only your pelvis area. Focus on opening up your sensuality.

Mind Over Matter: This stretching exercise will open up your crown, third eye and throat Chakras. Lie down flat on your back on a hard surface like the floor with your feet touching. Then raise your head, shoulders and back to a seated position. Place your hands on your hips or on the floor if you need support and tip your head back looking up to the sky. Breathe deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth five times. Focus on opening up your mind.

Love Talk: Put your hand on your lover’s heart Chakra and tell him/her what you love most about them.

Tantric: Lingam Worship & Pleasure Techniques for Penis Owners

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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When a man has his Lingam worshiped by his lover, he feels a deep emotional and physical connection towards her. The gratification he gets enables him to surrender himself to her
female Goddess power.

Lingam Love Strokes

1. The Secret to Moving His Sexual Energy: You can direct sexual energy from his genital area to other body parts, particularly the heart Chakra, to create more of a connection. While stroking his Lingam with your right hand, move your left hand up the center of his body to his heart.

2. The X Stroke: Move your right hand over his right hip across his Lingam to his left nipple like a giant ‘X’. Then move your left hand over his left hip across his Lingam to his right nipple in a fluid motion.

3. Spiraling the Stalk: Both hands go in opposite directions in a corkscrew motion over the Lingam. One hand twists up while the other hand twists downwards. Make sure you use some lubricant or massage oil.

4. Blended Bliss: Stroke his Lingam with your prominent hand and stimulate his prostate externally by sliding your fist back and forth over the perineum. Make sure you use some lubricant or massage oil.

5. Making the Fire: Rub his Lingam with both hands as if rubbing a stick to make a fire. Make sure you use some lubricant or massage oil.

6. The Thousand Yoni Stroke: Rub his Lingam from the top to the bottom covering the glans (head) and sliding your hands down to the base with one hand after another in a fluid motion. Make sure you use some lubricant or massage oil. This will give him the erotic sensation of entering a thousand different Yonis.

Male Oral Delights for Her to Give Him

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If you suffer from the ‘gag reflex’, leave your tongue outside of your mouth, then suck and lick his Lingam.

1. Get into a comfortable position so that you don’t get a sore back or neck and put his buttocks on a pillow for easy access.

2. Put his Lingam inside of your cheeks to avoid ‘gag reflex’, then suck and lick his Lingam.

3. Always use your hands as an extension of your mouth.

4. Try to keep eye contact with your lover.

5. Pump his Lingam up by squeezing it in the palm of your hand.

6. Use the tip of your tongue from side to side across his urethral opening.

7. His frenulum deserves extra licking, kissing and gentle sucking.

8. Wrap your lips tightly around his glans (head) and use plenty of suction.

9. Flick your tongue around his coronal ridge (around the base of the glans).

10. Lick and lap his raphe with the flat of your tongue (underside/seam of his penis).

11. Change your rhythm from long, slow sucking to short, fast, milking action.

12. Shake and wiggle his Lingam in your mouth.

13. Hold the base tight while making spiral motions around the glans.

14. Gently tug his scrotum while sucking him from the shaft to the glans.

15. Push on his perenium (between the Rosebud and the Jewels) while sucking.

16. Put your finger (palm up) inside his mouth, while giving him oral love.

17. Stroke his ‘Hero Spot’ (just inside the Rosebud) while sucking.

18. For ‘deep throating’ keep your head back and let him straddle you.

19. Stimulate his glans with your index finger while you are sucking.

20. Suck on an ice cube prior to oral love.

21. Drink some hot liquid prior to oral love.

22. Make humming sounds during oral love for some extra vibration.

23. Rub fruits and juices on his Lingam and lick them off.

24. Put his Lingam between your Pillows of Compassion/breasts (cleavage fornication) for variety.

25. Wrap beads around his Jewels tugging gently while sucking.

26. Stroke his Lingam lovingly with your hair and
your face.

27. Gargle with mouthwash or suck on a mint prior to oral love for a tingle.

28. Don’t change your rhythm just before he climaxes unless he asks you to!

29. Ask him how he wants to be sucked; gently, hard, slow, fast, deep…

30. Enthusiasm is more important than technique!

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Excerpt from Dr. Ava’s Tantra Workbook

 

Sexy Sounds: Aural Sex Tantric Style

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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Photo by Yaroslav Shuraev from Pexels

Tantric Sounds

Sound releases energy and during lovemaking, sounds release sexual energy. Sound will also amplify sensation, as the sound waves vibrate throughout the body. If you hold back the sounds you feel inside, it will manifest into inhibitions, resentments and anger. So for your own good health, give yourself permission to express yourself through words, sounds, sighs, cries, shouts and laughter.

In the following interactive sound exercises you will learn how to communicate through humming, the sounds of sex and how to articulate your sexual wants, needs and fears. Sound is an essential element to experiencing Tantric bliss.

Making love without sound is like watching a movie on mute.

The Sound of Your Chakras

Each Chakra has its own sound and when you chant the matching sound or Mantra, you will energize, empower and open each Chakra. Make it a ritual to ‘voice activate’ each of your Chakras every day. This exercise should be done facing your lover. Synchronize your chanting for at least five minutes.

Root: Place your hand upon your perineum (the strip between the Rosebud/anus and the Jewels/testicles on men and the strip between the Rosebud/anus and the Yoni/vagina on women). Squeeze your sphincter mus- cles and chant ‘Lam, Lam, Lam, Lam.’

Sacral: Place your hand over your sacral (sexual organs) and as you chant, squeeze your Love Muscles/ PC muscles (the muscle you use to stop the flow of urine) and chant ‘Vam, Vam, Vam, Vam’.

Solar Plexus: Place your hand over your navel. Inhale and exhale feeling your belly expand and chant Ram, ‘Ram, Ram, Ram.’

Heart: Place your hand over your heart and chant ‘Yam, Yam, Yam, Yam’.

Throat: Place your hand around your throat and chant ‘Ham, Ham, Ham, Ham’.

Third Eye: Place your hand in between your eyebrows and chant ‘Oooh, Oooh, Oooh, Oooh’.

Crown: Place your hand on top of your head and chant ‘Mmm, Mmm, Mmm, Mmm’.

Creative Visualization

This time place your prominent hand over your lovers Chakras, chant the matching sound while visualizing the color of the Chakra with your eyes closed.

Chakra Sound/Mantra
Root
Sacral
Solar Plexus
Heart
Throat
Third Eye
Crown		 Lam
Vam
Ram
Yam
Ham
Ooooh
Mmm

 

Tantric Colors & Visualizations

Root: Visualize a deep red color. Red represents physical strength, vitality and stability.

Sacral: Visualize a bright orange color. Orange is associated with warm creative energy that nourishes us.

Solar Plexus: Visualize a golden yellow color. Yellow stimulates the emotions and enhances our power within.

Heart: Visualize a crisp, green color. Green represents life, nourishment, balance and harmony.

Throat: Visualize a sky blue color. Blue is associated with peace, calm, confidence and clarity.

Third Eye: Visualize an indigo color. Indigos’ deep color represents positive, intuitive strength.

Crown: Visualize a violet color. Violet is the regal color of your higher power and it represents acceptance and understanding of the Universe.

Sound Exercises with your Lover

1. Mmm: Tell your lover what sounds you want to hear during lovemaking.

2. Yes: Tell your lover what words you want to hear during lovemaking.

3. Oooh: Pretend you are building up to having a climax and make those sounds for your lover to hear.

4. Turn-on: Tell your lover 2 of your greatest turn-ons.

5. Turn-off: Tell your lover 1 sexual turnoff.

6. Fantasy: Whisper a sexual fantasy that you have in your lover’s ear.

7. Blend: Hold each other, close your eyes and blend the sounds of love for 2 minutes.

8. My Body: Tell your lover what parts of your body you love the most.

9. Position: Tell your lover your favorite sexual position and why.

10. Worship: Ask your lover how he/she wants to be worshiped and then comply.

11. Lover’s Appreciation: Exchange a physical, an appreciative and an emotional compliment with each other. (An emotional compliment is one that let’s your lover know that they are making a difference in your life and it makes the heart sing).

12. Name that Yoni/Lingam: Name each other’s genitals in a way that honors your lover’s sacred sexuality. If they already have a name, give them a new nickname.

13. Tantric Lovemaking: Get into Yab Yum position or Missionary position and simulate the movements and sounds of making love. Use moans, whispers, panting, giggling, growling and heavy breathing. This can be done dressed or naked.

14. Happy Sighs: Get into Yab Yum position or Missionary position and hold each other cheek to cheek, then sigh gently, lovingly into each other’s ears for 2 minutes. Express yourselves through the sound of your sighs and the touch of your bodies only.

15. Yoni/Lingam Talk: If your Lingam or Yoni could talk, what would it say? Have a conversation between the Lingam and Yoni to discuss what you want sexually from each other.

16. Sexual Hum: Put your mouth over one of your lover’s erogenous zones; navel, breasts, buttocks, Lingam or Yoni; their choice. Make sensual humming sounds combined with breathing for 2 minutes. Let him/her feel the vibrations of your sexual energy.

17. Share a Fantasy: Start telling your lover about a sexual fantasy that you have, and after 2 minutes your lover must finish the fantasy.

18. Memorable Erotica: Look at your lover and finish this sentence: “The most memorable erotic experience that I have ever had with you was when we….”

19. Significance: Ask your lover to name 3 of the most significant times in your relationship. Then share your most significant times with your lover.

20. Lovable: Tell your lover what makes him/her so lovable for at least 2 minutes. Then it’s his/her turn to tell you what makes you so lovable.

21. Rate your Erogenous Zones: Blindfold your lover and then kiss 4 major erogenous zones (such as lips, ears, nipples, Yoni, Lingam, testicles). Ask your lover to rate them from 1 to 10 with 10 being the most pleasurable. Do this for 2 minutes.

22. Finger Licking Good: Blindfold your lover. Suck on each one of his/her fingers in slow motion. Make the kinds of sounds you would make when you are enjoying a delicious meal. Feel free to exaggerate with slurps and sensual noises.

Sing Like No-one Is Listening!

Hum to yourself every day, say words you find embarrassing out loud, sing like no-one is listening, make love without restraining your sounds.

Chant OHM (for the crown Chakra to open), AH (for the heart Chakra to open) and HOM (for the sex Chakra to open). This chant will unite these physical areas.

Practice asking your lover for what you need, compliment your lover and praise him/her when they do something you enjoy. Don’t hold back resentments, communicate hurt feelings and create closure with your lover.

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Excerpt from Dr. Ava’s Tantra Workbook

The Art of Sensual Touch: A Guide to Tantric Massage

By
Valeriam Vincent
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A tantric massage is a form of touch that has been practiced for thousands of years and is rooted in the ancient traditions of Tantra. This form of massage is more than just a physical experience; it is a mindful and intentional practice that can be a powerful tool for enhancing intimacy, pleasure, and spiritual connection.

In this guide, we will explore the art of sensual touch and how to give and  receive a tantric massage.

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Setting the Mood

Before you begin a tantric massage, it is essential to set the mood. This means creating an atmosphere that is relaxing, comfortable, and conducive to intimacy. This can include dimming the lights, lighting candles, playing soft music, and using scents such as essential oils or incense.

It is also important to create a space that is free from distractions, such as phones or computers. This will allow you to be present and focused on each other.

Preparing the Body

To prepare for a tantric massage, it is essential to create a sense of relaxation and comfort in the body. This can involve taking a warm bath or shower, practicing deep breathing, or engaging in gentle stretching or yoga.

It is also important to communicate with your partner about any physical or emotional boundaries, preferences, or concerns. This can help to create a sense of trust and safety, which is essential for intimacy.

Exploring the Body

A tantric massage involves exploring the whole body, not just the erogenous zones. This can include the scalp, face, neck, shoulders, back, arms, hands, legs, feet, and genitals.

It is important to approach each area with care and sensitivity, paying attention to the body’s responses and needs. This can involve using a variety of techniques, such as gentle touch, firm pressure, or circular movements.

Communicating with your partner throughout the massage can also help to ensure that you are both comfortable and enjoying the experience.

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Techniques and Tips

There are a variety of techniques and tips that can enhance the experience of a tantric massage. Here are a few to consider:

  1. Slow and Steady: Take your time and move slowly, allowing your partner to fully relax and enjoy the experience.
  2. Vary the Pressure: Use a variety of pressures, from gentle to firm, to stimulate different areas of the body.
  3. Use Your Whole Body: Use not just your hands, but your whole body to provide touch and pressure, such as using your arms, chest, or legs.
  4. Experiment with Temperature: Try using warm or cold objects, such as warm oil or ice, to provide different sensations.
  5. Pay Attention to Breath: Encourage your partner to breathe deeply and focus on their breath, which can enhance relaxation and pleasure.
  6. Build Anticipation: Tease and build anticipation by alternating between a light touch and firmer pressure, or moving from one area of the body to another.
  7. Explore the Whole Body: Don’t focus solely on the genitals or other obvious erogenous zones; explore the whole body to discover new areas of pleasure.
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Benefits of Tantric Massage

In addition to enhancing sexual pleasure, tantric massage can have a variety of physical and emotional benefits. These can include:

  1. Relaxation: Tantric massage can be deeply relaxing, helping to reduce stress and tension in the body.
  2. Improved Circulation: The stimulation of the whole body can increase blood flow and circulation, which can have a variety of health benefits.
  3. Enhanced Intimacy: Tantric massage can help to build trust, connection, and intimacy between partners.
  4. Emotional Healing: The mindful and intentional touch of tantric massage can help to heal emotional wounds and promote self-love and acceptance.
  5. Sexual Healing: Tantric massage can also be a tool for sexual healing, helping to overcome sexual trauma, shame, or dysfunction.
  6. Increased Body Awareness: Through the exploration of the body’s erogenous zones, tantric massage can increase body awareness and help to cultivate a deeper sense of self.
  7. Increased Sensuality: By exploring the senses and focusing on touch, tantric massage can enhance sensuality and pleasure in all areas of life.

Conclusion

A tantric massage is a powerful tool for enhancing intimacy, pleasure, and connection between partners. By creating a relaxing and comfortable atmosphere, exploring the body’s erogenous zones, and using a variety of techniques and tips, you can give and receive a tantric massage that is both pleasurable and healing.

Remember to communicate with your partner throughout the experience, respecting their boundaries and preferences, and paying attention to their responses and needs. With practice and mindfulness, the art of sensual touch can become a valuable tool for enhancing your sexual and emotional well-being.



Tantric Sex for Braingasms, Kundalini and More!

By
Dr. Ava Cadell
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Tantric Sex for Braingasms, Kundalini and More!

Sex & Brain Chemistry

Tantra is an enormous topic with many facets, but I’ve learned over the years that there are a few elements that are easy to understand and are immediately helpful.

Margot Anand, best-selling author of The Art of Everyday Ecstasy, describes the power of Tantra this way, “Truly, at the peak of orgasm, we pierce through the illusion of fragmentation and separation, and glimpse the unity and interconnectedness of all beings. And through the other–our partner–we fall in love with life.”

Tantric sex has a rejuvenating effect. It affects brain chemistry by igniting the endocrine glands for more HGH, serotonin, DHEA, testosterone and oxytocin. (For a more thorough overview of the various brain chemicals at work, please see Chapter Three, BrainGasm: Understanding the Science of Love & Sex). Tantra can also improves sexual health, and many scientific studies point to physical benefits such as stimulated blood circulation, body detoxification, and strengthened cardiovascular, endocrine, immune and nervous functions.

What Tantra Is

Many people are unclear about what Tantra is and what it is not. Tantra is not a religion, a sexual cult, a new age spiritual philosophy, exhibitionism, swinging or sex therapy. And there are different kinds of Tantra including White Tantra, which directs energy to expand our spiritual awareness (His Holiness the Dalai Lama practices White Tantra), but you can also practice White Tantra while meditating or doing yoga with your partner. Black Tantra is the opposite as it directs energy to manipulate another person sexually. But we are going to focus on Red Tantra, which directs energy between two lovers that include our thoughts, feelings, physical and sexual actions. Tantra is a Sanskrit word that means “to weave energy”, defined by the Yin (feminine) and Yang (masculine) energy between two partners.

Kundalini Energy

The sexual energy is often referred to as Kundalini energy that is very powerful and can be used:

♥ For a couple to heal a hurt relationship.
♥ For women, Tantra can empower and fulfill their sensual needs.
♥ For men, it can open up a whole new world to intimacy and it can give them the tools to become multi-orgasmic.
♥ For couples, it’s also an opportunity to create a more meaningful and intimate connection.
♥ Mindful loving.
♥ An art.
♥ Sexual enlightenment.

A Brief History of Tantra

About 5,000 years ago, Lord Shiva’s followers developed 112 methods of meditation,
through which one could enter the state of super-consciousness. Some of them included the act of sex. Lord Shiva’s symbol, the Lingam (“the wand of light”) represents the penis and rests in a Yoni (“the sacred place”) that represents the vagina. Very simply explained, the entire path of Tantra is the harmonious union of the masculine and feminine principles in all of us.

Yin and Yang

Like most forces throughout the world, light and dark, hot and cold, wet and dry, positive and negative, there are two essential principles to lovemaking: yin and yang. Yin means feminine and Yang means masculine.

We all have yin and yang attributes and qualities. It would be easy to say that all men are sexual, strong and assertive and all women are sensual, sensitive and submissive, but we know that’s not true. Lots of women are sexual, strong and assertive and many men are sensual, sensitive and enjoy being submissive. A healthy person has a combination of yin and yang attributes and qualities, and looks for someone to complement them, not complete them.

To experience the full enjoyment of Tantric lovemaking, the male and female forces must be balanced in harmony. For example, deep kissing and tender kissing is a perfect combination of yin and yang.

Let’s face it, if you only kissed your partner tenderly, it would become boring, predictable and lack sexuality. On the other hand, if you only kissed your partner deeply, you would probably have sore lips and get bored with that, too.

“We will make love an art and we will love like artists.”– Marianne Williamson

We don’t always need a big production when it comes to lovemaking, but we do need
to be prepared for Tantric sex. When you and your partner have the right ambience, you will have a greater opportunity to enjoy a fulfilling and romantic sexual experience.

One of the best ways to set the mood for love is to incorporate all five of your senses in your lovemaking. If you don’t utilize even one of your senses, you deprive yourself of 20% of the pleasure! That’s why it’s best to prepare something to enhance all five of your senses prior to your lovemaking session.

The Sacredness of Sex

By
Joyce Modie
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By Joyce Modie

I have always looked at sex as a goal-based thing, a physical act for pleasure, to get pregnant and a stress reliever. Then through research I’ve learnt that sex can be a meditative act with the aim of moving sexual energy throughout the body for enjoyment and sensations of the body. This makes sex to be sacred in my view based on this new knowledge I have acquired.

Sex is a sacred connection of openness between two souls that proclaims love for each other. The pleasure and orgasms we should get requires vulnerability between involved parties. Energies are shared in a more spiritual way but not churchy at all. A deep bonding is birthed with possibilities of a deep-rooted romantic love in the hearts of both parties. Igniting the fire of our sexual energy, passions, and desires with our heart, spirit, and a sense of completeness in our life.

What makes us miss the sacredness of such intimacy is the carnal mind we have towards it. We have mostly been raised culturally or even religiously to believe that sex is a very wrong and dirty act to be ashamed of.  A secret act to be done behind closed doors to curb the urge and never to be discussed openly. These beliefs cause us to not be open to the sacredness sex could be.

To fully bask in the special experience, we have to know our bodies and communicate it to our partners. This will help us look at ourselves and partners as divine fountains of powerful intimacy energies, intentional energies expressed as the experience leads but not pre planned. At that moment nothing else matters as partners are immersed deeply. Bodies reacts as the energy felt, that allows vulnerability and openness. No thoughts of shame but an explosion of pure love is exchanged.

Culture and religion put aside; sex is a sacred act of humanity to be embraced and explored by us all. We just have to be open-minded to the capabilities of our bodies. This can help us build blissful relationships full of joy and love. Dr Ava Cadell reminds us that, “sex can be a beautiful journey not a destination”. This is a journey to be taken with great trust to help us release the shame and hurt around sex that could be in our heads and hearts to create a bond with a sense of belonging.

To connect with our sexual energy, we need to explore with openness to experience.  Being intentional about sacredness of sex through practice will help us be aware of the sexual energies and magnify our dimensions of pleasure in our relationships.

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