Make Your Sensual Massage Magical

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July 2, 2021

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When you have one of those rare nights when you have lots of time to spend with your lover, plan a sensual massage. Sensual massage is all about relaxing the mind and the body, finding new ways and places to enjoy intimacy, and it can take the pressure off performance.

Setting the Mood and Things You’ll Need

Music: Set the mood with quiet music in the background that has a slow rhythmic beat. Think of your music choices, preferably acoustic instrumentals, as if it was subliminal seductive white noise. Youtube has some great sensual relaxation music, if you don’t have a clue to where to start looking for massage music.

Lights: Dim the lights and light some candles. Aside from providing a soft glow of light, soy and hemp seed oil candles are some the best massage lubricants you can use. They melt at lower temperatures, about 100 degrees, and the oils are safe and beneficial for your skin.

Massage Candles: I recommend massage candles that are made with essential oils that are skin-safe, absorb into the skin, and scent the air with “real” aromas. The power of aromatherapy goes a long way into setting a romantic mood. Resist the urge to buy massage candles that smell overly flowery or fruity. Guys have to wear this scent on their skin, too. Choose exotic and mysterious scents, and the candles burn up to 40 hours. And, no, melted massage candle wax does not dry hard or leave a waxy residue on skin. It soaks into skin like a moisturizer.

Massage Oils: Massage lotions and oils have their benefits, too. One of the biggest advantages to using massage lotion is that you can put a big dollop of it on your shoulder and take a swipe of it when you need more. It’s a lot easier than trying to find where you left the bottle. A key to a great massage is to keep your hands on your partner at all times with no interruptions.

Heated Oils: Massage oils feel best when they go on the skin warm. There are several massage oils that have ingredients that feel warm when you rub them into the skin or blow on them. There are also several excellent scented and unscented natural massage oils that can be easily warmed by keeping the bottles in a bowl of hot or warm water. Be warned that just like cooking oils, natural massage oils should be used within 45-90 days before they start smelling rancid. You can use them as a bath or after-bath body oil to make sure they don’t go to waste.

Why make a big deal about massage candles, lotions and oils? Because It’s easier to give and more pleasurable to receive a full-body massage when hands and skin or well-oiled. And the feeling of oiled hands, fingers and forearms sliding on your body is a sensual pleasure onto itself.

Massage Techniques

If you don’t know how to give a massage, don’t worry. Erotic, sensual massages aren’t intended to be therapeutic in a musculoskeletal kind of way. It fulfills a quench for touch and making love to your partner’s body, not just his or her genitals.

Tantric Massage: Tantric massage involves gentle touches that make contact with every part of the body. It’s all about seduction through pampering, exploring erogenous zones, slow and deep breathing, and clearing the mind. For as gentle and almost passive as it seems and feels, tantric sex does wonders for eliminating muscular tension, helping to make the body more limber and responsive for sex. For some people, tantric massage takes away a lot of performance anxiety.

Start by having your partner sitting in an upright position in front of you, then into your lap, and then lying on his or her back. Start by gently and slowly stroking your partner’s head, neck and hair before working your way down the body. Tantric massage is not about applying pressure; it’s about focusing on the most unsuspecting erogenous parts of the body, even the nose and eyebrows, sometimes only using fingertips.

Nuru Massage: Nuru means “slippery” in Japanese, and nuru massage is typically the kind of massage associated with Asian massage parlors. The key to this massage is having both partners oil their bodies so the partner giving the massage can slip and slide her (it’s usually the woman, but nothing says a man can’t do this)body on top of her partner’s body while stroking arms, legs, shoulders, back and other obvious places. Extremely well-oiled skin brings a whole new dimension to body-to-body contact and movement. It doesn’t take long until both partners are massaging each other, almost bypassing foreplay, and having the Disneyland Splash Mountain equivalent of sex.

Wet makes a super slippery nuru gel that’s specifically made for nuru massage, but most massage oils and melted massage candle waxes work just as well as I’ve learned from experience. You’ll also want to use an old sheet or a nuru sheet to protect your bedding.

Regardless of which technique you use, don’t fuss or stress out about mastering or completing it on the first, second or even 100th try. If it leads to mind-blowing sex, you’ve done it right.

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Tantric Kissing to Re-ignite Passion & Keep the Juices Flowing

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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July 11, 2021

A sexy kiss can be one of the most erotic exchanges between lovers. A kiss is often the first intimate physical contact with a new lover and some people believe they can tell a lot about a person’s lovemaking skills by the way they kiss. Some people can reach orgasm through kissing alone.

Not wanting to be kissed by your lover is a signal of trouble in the relationship. Making kissing a daily ritual will embolden and re-ignite passion in your relationship and keep the juices flowing. There are many different kinds of kisses: slow, quick, deep, wet, hard, soft, breathy, and then there is Tantric kissing. Kiss your lover at least twice a day and experiment with the different kinds of kisses from below.

Tantric Kissing Techniques

Eye brow kissing: Face your lover in Yab Yum position, either ‘Woman On Top’ or man on top, moisten each other’s eyebrows and then lean into each other with brows touching. Touch lips and feel the energy flow from one to the other uniting the two of you into a higher level of consciousness.

Yin Yang kissing: Take turns kissing each other tenderly and then deeply, alternate back to tender and back to deep for 2 minutes. This will create the weaving of the Yin and Yang energy that you and your lover can both experience simultaneously.

Synchronized kissing: Embrace in your favorite lovemaking position with Lingam and Yoni touching, but not inserted. With your lips slightly open and touching, inhale together gently and exhale together, sharing and synchronizing the same breath.

Orgasmic kissing: In a loving face-to-face Maithuna/intercourse position with Lingam inserted into Yoni, lock lips, eye-gaze and take turns inhaling and exhaling alternately. Share the deep level of intimacy and feel your lover’s sexual breath enter your body and spirit.

More Tantric Kissing Tips

1. Build sexual anticipation by kissing all around your lover’s face with soft, baby kisses and use your hands to caress the face, hair or body.

2. Use your nose to nuzzle and your lips to caress to your lover.

3. Tease your lover by tracing the outline of your his or her lips with the tip of your tongue.

4. Now put your heart and body into a slow kiss alternating the pressure from gentle to deep with mouth slightly open.

5. Take your lover’s bottom lip between yours and suck gently. Vocalize some sounds of pleasure.

6. Take turns licking your lover’s upper and lower teeth with your tongue. Then alternate.

7. Wrap your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately alternating your speed from slow to quick.

8. Explore the inside of your lover’s mouth with your tongue by running it in small and large circles. Alternate.

9. Dart your tongue in and out of your lover’s mouth rapidly and then slowly. Remember to use your entire body and make all those wonderful sounds of love.

10. Use hot or cold liquids to create new kissing sensibilities.

5 Tantric Handjob Techniques for Happy Penises

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Carrie Borzillo

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July 12, 2020

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Tantric Handjob Techniques… Its all about the penis aka lingam massage…

Before I stepped into “Snake Charming” class (aka Tantric Handjob Techniques) on my trip to Hedonism II, the clothing optional, adults only resort in Negril, Jamaica, I thought there is no way I’m going to learn anything new. At the risk of sounding cocky, my boyfriend says my hand-job skills are quite epic.

But, we were at Hedo to try new things, like going nude 24/7, having sex on the beach, and taking the week-long courses in Tantric sex for couples. So, epic skills aside, we gave the art of learning how to give a tantric lingam (which means penis in Sanskrit) massage a go.

Well, kudos to Kim and Brad Walker of Houston, Texas-based Tantric Hearts, who have been teaching tantric sex and couples workshops at Hedonism II for 17 years, for proving me oh so wrong. They taught this old dog a few new tricks – 16 new Tantric Handjob Techniques in fact, five of which I’ll share in detail.

16 Penis (Lingam) Massage Techniques

During class we learned how to massage the penis with these Tantric Handjob Techniques:

the Thank U
Sausage Roll
Polish the Helmet
The OK
Windshield Wiper
Fire Starter
Ring N Tickle
Peace Grip
Thumb PPT (PPT=Pressure Point)
Knuckle PPT
Bendy Thing
Sextension
Press N Pull
Peace Press (not to be confused with the aforementioned Peace Grip)
Vas Press
and the Thumbs Up.

Top 10 Interesting Penis Facts

Here are five of my boyfriend’s favorites Tantric Handjob Techniques:

Windshield Wiper

Put oil on your man’s belly just above the pubic bone and pull gently down on his scrotum. With your hand placed flat on the outside shaft of his penis, you move the penis from left to right like a windshield wiper (the oil helps it glide with ease). This one evoked a bit of a giggle from us. My boyfriend thought it was “exciting” because it was new, but didn’t quite love it as much as other techniques.

The OK

Make the “OK” sign with your thumb and first finger in the shape of a circle and your remaining fingers straight up and place the tip of the penis in the circle. Focus the massage on the ridge and tip of the head. Some men are too sensitive for this, so be aware of how your partner is responding.

Sausage Roll

Grasp the base of his cock with one hand and layer your other hand in a grip on the top of his penis so that the edges of your fists are touching. Hold this penis tightly, but don’t squeeze too hard. Stroke the penis with both hands going in unison up and down. This makes a guy with a small penis feel bigger.

Polish the Helmet

For this Tantric Handjob Techniques grasp the penis tightly with a full-hand grip. As you are stroking it up and down, place your other hand over the tip of the penis with the head in the middle part of the inside of hand and move that hand in circles. It helps if the inside of that hand is oil-ed up. It’s kind of like the thing we all did as kids where you’re patting your hand and circling your belly to test your coordination.

Fire Starter

Don’t attempt this dry! Coconut oil is your best friend here or you can cause some serious friction to your man’s skin. Place one hand on one side of the penis and the other on the other side and move your hands back and forth as if you are starting a fire with a stick, or when one rubs their hands together to generate heat. This works best when the penis is placed between closed-fingers so that the fingers feel like ridges.

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Tantra Sex Positions to Open Your Chakras

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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July 4, 2021

If you are looking for more intimacy and connection during sex with your partner, as well as balance your chakras, try these Tantra Sex Positions to enhance and integrate your divine feminine and masculine energies.

Tantra Sex Positions

Make a ritual to do these at least once a week with your lover and focus especially on weak or closed Chakras.

Rooted: Sit opposite your lover on the floor with legs crossed at the ankles, hold hands and look at each other as you tell your lover what makes you feel safe, grounded and confident.

Sexual Chakra: Sit opposite your lover on the floor with legs crossed at the ankles, lean in, hold hands and look at each other. Take turns speaking and listening as you share the following. When do you feel creative, sexually open and uninhibited?

Chakra Hug: Get into Yab Yum position; one lover in the other’s lap and press as many of your Chakras into each other as you can. Close your eyes and listen to each others breath for 2 minutes. Then discuss how this experience made you feel.

Intuition: Lean in, touch noses, join brows (third eye Chakras) and look into each others eyes until they appear to merge. Share an intuitive thought you’re having right now with your lover: “I love you and my intuition tells me that …. (finish the sentence)”.

Chakra Caress: Ask your lover to lie down and you kneel beside him/her. Gently caress each one of your lover’s charkas with your fingertips and express your adoration for each one.

Chakra Tune Up: Sit facing each other, ask your lover to close their eyes and take a deep breath. Ask your lover to respond to the following question for each of the following Chakras. Are you feeling strong or weak about your crown Chakra? Third Eye? Throat? Heart? Solar Plexis? Sacral? Root? Now alternate.

Confidence: Kneel in front of each other, hold hands and eye-gaze as you tell your lover what makes you feel confident and powerful.

Open Heart: Stand facing each other, heart to heart with arms around each other and take turns telling each other when you feel loving and compassionate.

Self Expression: Sit in a comfortable position facing each other, hold hands and eye-gaze. In two or three sentences, describe how you want other people to see and hear you.

Wisdom: Look at your lover in whatever position you are in, hold hands as you express one life lesson that you have learned.

Hip Circles: This exercise will open up your solar plexus, sacral and root Chakras. Stand up and face each other. With your knees bent slightly, push your pelvis forward; hands on hips. Now rotate your pelvis in large circles clock-wise 10 times and then counter-clock wise 10 times. Keep your head and feet still while moving only your pelvis area. Focus on opening up your sensuality.

Mind Over Matter: This stretching exercise will open up your crown, third eye and throat Chakras. Lie down flat on your back on a hard surface like the floor with your feet touching. Then raise your head, shoulders and back to a seated position. Place your hands on your hips or on the floor if you need support and tip your head back looking up to the sky. Breathe deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth five times. Focus on opening up your mind.

Love Talk: Put your hand on your lover’s heart Chakra and tell him/her what you love most about them.

Explore the Power of Tantric Foreplay to Enhance Intimacy

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Valeriam Vincent

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March 15, 2024

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Many couples struggle to maintain intimacy in their relationships. Tantric foreplay is an ancient practice that can deepen emotional and physical connection. This article explores how tantric techniques like mindful touch and breathwork can enhance intimacy.

Find out how tantric foreplay can intensify your intimate experiences.

Understanding Tantric Foreplay

Understanding tantric foreplay goes beyond physical intimacy. It involves mindfully connecting on a deeper emotional and spiritual level.

Meaning and Purpose

Tantric foreplay redirects sexual energy from the genitals to the entire body. It enables couples to experience a full body orgasm. Tantric foreplay deepens the spiritual bond and intimacy between partners.

Tantric massage aligns individual energy, balances masculine and feminine energies, awakens the union of consciousness, form, spirituality, and sexuality, and provides a therapeutic energy-aligning experience.

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Benefits of Practicing

Tantric foreplay cultivates mindfulness. Partners become present and attentive to each other’s needs, deepening intimacy and emotional connection. Couples experience heightened sensuality and arousal.

Tantric techniques prolong pleasure, delaying orgasm. This intensifies the sexual journey and fulfilment.

Tantric practices reduce stress and anxiety. They promote relaxation and contentment through conscious breathing and sensual touches. Emotional barriers dissolve as trust builds between partners.

Individuals overcome insecurities and traumas related to sexuality. They develop self-acceptance and self-love.

Explore different types of massage that will awaken new erogenous zones such as yoni, whole body, lingam, etc. This arouses passion and excitement in long-term relationships. Regular tantric intimacy boosts overall well-being and happiness.

Mindful and Conscious Connection

Tantric foreplay cultivates mindfulness. Partners connect consciously, embracing the present moment’s sensations. This deepens intimacy through undivided attention on each other.

Tantric practices emphasise conscious touch and breath awareness. Eye gazing and sensual communication heighten physical and emotional bonding. Partners explore pleasure patiently, releasing expectations.

This fosters profound trust and vulnerability within the sacred space they create.

Creating the Right Environment

Creating the Right Environment section needs a tranquil atmosphere. Soft music and dim lighting evoke sensuality.

Setting the Mood

Creating a serene ambience sets the tone for a profound tantric experience. Dim lighting, candles, and soft music foster an atmosphere of tranquillity. Scented oils or incense infuse the space with alluring aromas, engaging the senses.

Ensure the room feels inviting, cosy, and free from distractions.

Adorn the environment with cosy fabrics, plush pillows, and comfortable surfaces to facilitate ease of movement. Incorporate elements that evoke sensuality, such as rose petals scattered across the bed or floor.

Establishing Trust and Communication

Establishing trust and open communication forms the bedrock of tantric intimacy. Cultivating a safe, non-judgmental space allows vulnerabilities to surface. Express emotions, boundaries and desires honestly.

Forget inhibitions and let go of expectations. Agree on mutual comfort levels before exploring new territories. Active listening and empathy breed mutual understanding.

Incorporating Sensory Elements

Heightening intimacy necessitates exploring sensual realms. Tantalising sights, scintillating sounds, alluring aromas, and sensual textures awaken passion. Caressing the body with feathers, silk, or fragrant oils ignites desire.

Integrating sensory delights during tantric foreplay amplifies erotic energy. Flickering candlelight casts dancing shadows, inspiring creativity. Soft music entrances, while aromatic oils relax muscles.

Relishing each moment kindles profound connections.

Techniques for Enhanced Intimacy

Techniques for Enhanced Intimacy” section explores mindful touch, sensual communication, and exploring different positions. Discover ways to deepen your connection.

Mindful Touch and Massage

Couples crave deeper intimacy. Tantric massage uses a conscious touch. Caressing awakens the senses. Slow strokes heighten awareness. Gentle squeezes release tension. Fingers trace energy lines.

Palms explore erogenous zones. Breath synchronises movements. Mindful techniques connect minds and bodies. Tantra embraces full-body arousal. Lingering kisses ignite passion.

The clitoris receives loving attention. Tantric foreplay prolongs pleasure. Orgasms become whole-body experiences. Intimacy strengthens emotional bonds.

Sensual Communication

Sensual communication nurtures intimacy. Couples express desires through touch, eye contact, and body language. Open discussions foster trust and vulnerability. Mindful listening deepens understanding between partners.

Vocal expression enhances sensual connection. Couples share fantasies, boundaries, and feedback. Using affirming words during intimate moments heightens arousal. Moans and sighs communicate pleasure.

Tantric foreplay embraces vocal expression.

Exploring Different Positions

Exploring different positions amplifies tantric foreplay—couples alternate positioning, aligning bodies for profound energetic connection. Lying side by side enables sensual touch, caressing from head to toe.

Seated stances facilitate eye gazing, deepening emotional bonds. Woman straddling allows access to massaging sacred spaces.

Switching positions continually redirects energy flow. Varied stances prevent stagnation, keeping intimacy alive. Creativity heightens arousal, unlocking new sensations. Transitioning seamlessly between postures maintains an unbroken connection.

Taking Your Intimacy to the Next Level

Increase intimacy with exercises in synced breathing and sustained eye contact. Enhance your connection by incorporating gratitude into your routine.

Integrating Breathwork and Eye Gazing

Breathwork forms an integral part of tantric foreplay. Synchronising breaths creates a profound connection. Eye gazing deepens emotional bonds, and lingering eye contact heightens intimacy.

Both enhance physical and spiritual closeness.

Controlling breaths calms the mind. Eye contact releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone. This promotes trust, vulnerability, and emotional openness. Couples achieve profound states of arousal and ecstasy.

Deepening Emotional and Physical Connection

Tantric foreplay fosters profound emotional and physical intimacy. Couples connect through mindful touch, eye gazing, and synchronised breathing, heightening sensations and allowing partners to experience each other profoundly.

Gratitude exercises reinforce appreciation, strengthening emotional bonds. Tantric techniques awaken sensuality, amplifying pleasure and orgasms.

Integrating breathwork harmonises energies, facilitating deep merging. Synchronised breathing induces trance-like states of unity. Tantric practitioners attain profound spiritual connection transcending physical pleasure.

Lingering in exquisite moments deepens closeness and vulnerability. Sensual communication enhances understanding between lovers.

Practicing Gratitude and Graciousness

Embracing gratitude amplifies intimacy. Appreciate each other’s presence, vulnerability, and willingness to explore. Express thankfulness for shared moments, fostering more profound connections.

Graciousness nurtures emotional safety. Approach your partner with kindness, respect, and acceptance. Celebrate individuality while cherishing unity. This harmonious dynamic strengthens intimacy.

Conclusion

Tantric foreplay opens doors to profound intimacy. Embracing conscious touch awakens deeper connections. Mindful exploration of sensuality ignites passion within. Breathwork and present-moment awareness deepen the journey.

Ultimately, tantric practices offer transformative experiences for couples.