Happify, a website and app that offers “science-based activities and games to improve emotional well-being”, has gathered a bunch of statistics on what makes people the happiest in bed. In their latest, “Everything you need to know about sex and happiness” findings, they have reported at what age people say they have the “best” sex. At what age do people feel they have the “happiest” sex life?
Happify specializes in “positive psychology” and the “science of happiness”, which they say can change your life and make it happier! While women reported having “the best sex of their lives” at age 26, men said it was 32. But most revealing were the older and wiser peeps in their 50’s and 60’s who looked back said they had the best said at age 46. And a recent AARP study reported that people had the “best sex” in their 50’s. At that age, you not only know what you like and don’t like, but you (hopefully) know what you’re doing down there.
So how do you be happier in the bedroom? According to Happify;
1.) “Tell your partner what you like and couch it in positive terms”. (Be kind; you don’t want to put someone’s lights out.)
2.) “Change up the routine. Have sex in a new place, or a new time.” (On the tennis court anyone?)
3.) “Spend time snuggling and kissing.” (Contrary to popular belief, many men are huggers.)
4.) “Write your partner love notes. Intimacy is the goal, not necessarily intercourse.” (If you’re texting a man, text him something like “I can’t wait until you get home so I can do stuff to you.” Works every time.) If you’re texting a woman, tell her you can’t wait to get home and kiss her. It builds up romance and anticipation, something we can all use more of.
5.) “Have sex or self-pleasure regularly.” One study says that married couples need to have sex at least once a week to maintain happiness. And to the self pleasure seekers out there; go for it. The more pleasure you have, even if its with yourself, the happier you will be.
And finally, can we really train ourselves to become happier? The science says yes. According to Happify, “You have the power to take control of your happiness by choosing your thoughts, behaviors, and actions. Recent research into the types of exercises, designed to promote positive emotional qualities, such as kindness and mindfulness, suggests that such qualities may be the product of skills we can learn through training–in the way that practice improves our musical or athletic abilities. Over time, we can build lasting habits that increase our resilience and improve our happiness levels.”