Sunday, February 9, 2025

Tantric Masturbation: Sex Magic for One

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Welcome to May–Masturbation Month! This is the start of a series of articles celebrating sexual self love!

The goal of Tantra is to explore sacred sexuality as a spiritual act of love and pleasure, to undergo personal transformation, and to find the balance within through mystical consciousness or connection with the divine. Again, this is not goal-orientated, at least to begin with, but more about exploration. Go slow and just enjoy giving yourself pleasure.

How to Do Tantra for One

Lay comfortably on your back, arms at sides, palms pressed lightly against the floor.  Close your eyes and breathe deeply from the stomach and chest, feeling the tension flow out of you with each exhale.  Your breathing should be slow, rhythmic and peaceful, not forced or unnatural.  Feel yourself grounding into the earth and connecting with earth energy.

Practice conscious breathing by placing the heels of your hands to the sides of your rib cage, against the bottom ribs.  Become aware of your breath for a moment, and allow it to become slow and rhythmic. As you breathe slowly through the nose, concentrate quietly on how the ribs move in and out, pressing your hands in gently into the ribs and then release with the exhale.

One you have practiced this, continue to breathe, making your breath circular: Inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth making the breathing completely “circular” with no pauses between inhales and exhales.  This type of breathing is especially good when trying to cycle orgasmic energy through your body.

Begin to stimulate yourself through masturbation until you reach the edge of the plateau stage, the point of no return or last possible moment that you can abstain from orgasm.  At this point, stop stimulating yourself and breath very slowly and deeply until the desire to orgasm fades.  This is called sexual “edging”. Continue to do this several times, each time reaching the edge of orgasm, then pulling back and not allowing yourself to climax.  This technique takes practice, so don’t worry if you go over the edge the first couple of tries.  Through practice you will be able to slow down stimulation, rather than stopping completely and continue to build this heightened state of awareness.

Continuous Orgasm

You can learn to have long continuous whole-body orgasms via Tantra masturbation. Continue to edge your orgasm and while doing so, contract your PC muscles and move your hips, imagining as you do that the orgasmic energy is circulating through your body with the breath.

When you do finally orgasm see if you can keep the orgasm going, continuing to stimulate, and ride the orgasm out in longer and longer waves.

Enjoy!

Why Women Choose Masturbation Over Sex: Is it More Fun

Whether there is a partner or not, sometimes lying in bed desire like a flood swept you will masturbate? The advantages of masturbation and general sex are different and bring different good feelings, so what are the benefits of masturbation than having sex?

The threshold is very low

Boyfriend? No need, Contraceptive measures? No need, complicated position changes? No need. You don’t even need to care how another person is feeling before and after you do it to embrace the most comfortable time of sexual bliss. Masturbation requires very little preparation, as long as a bed, a few comfortable pillows, and sometimes sex toys are also very good options. If you have not used the gadgets, then I recommend you try the rose adult toy, definitely give you a wonderful masturbation.  

Just need to please yourself

The trouble with sex is that it is also considered a kind of human interaction, you need to take into account the feelings of another person. In order not to let each other sad, you may have to tell a little lie, pretend to scream or perform a little orgasm, the end of the whole round with a stage play as tired.

But masturbation is different, you only need to please yourself is enough, when to start and when to end, the pace can also be controlled. You don’t have to worry about the little embarrassment at the end of the day, you don’t have to worry about being turned down for sex, and you don’t have to go through all the trouble of dressing up beforehand.

Yes, some people are so unlucky to run into one or two unqualified bed partners, infected with STDs and still have sex with you. Although sometimes the other party is also quite innocent, may be inadvertently in the dirty public toilet infected, but in the end is the two people together bad luck. When masturbating, you don’t have to worry about the risk of contracting a disease! Unless you do not clean the prop, it is basically quite safe and hygienic.

You know your own body best

Yes, you are your own master, you know how to make yourself climax, where the sensitive zones are located, do not need to bother to guide another person to reacquaint yourself with your body.

Because fantasy is always much better than reality

You know, when masturbating, you can put any object you like in your head, but when sleeping with someone else, it’s embarrassing if you can’t help but call them by the wrong name! If you have a good sex life with your significant other, of course, it’s good, but if it’s not that enjoyable, it’s better to have a little fantasy on your own than to flunk the sex.

 If you haven’t tried to enjoy masturbation, you haven’t enjoyed the best part of your life! Anyway, it’s great to be able to make your beloved partner feel happy through sex, but also to pamper yourself at the right time, after all, like masturbation is so simple and low cost to enjoy the act of orgasm, everyone should try it! If you have a need for sex toys can go officialtherosetoy to buy.

How to Celebrate National Masturbation Month

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Brief History of Masturbation Month

National Masturbation Month got its start in San Francisco in 1995 after former U.S. Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders told the audience at the United Nations Worlds AIDS Day in 1994 that masturbation had the potential to discourage early sexual activity. She was also forced to resign for telling the audience that “(Masturbation) is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught.”

If you plan on celebrating National Masturbation Month, here are handy tips to truly make it a party for one.

For the ladies …

The Three-Way

Use a small vibrator while flicking your clit with one hand and teasing my teasing your anus with the other hand.

The Tennis Ball

Lie on your stomach and place the ball between your legs and press it against your clitoris. Cross your legs tightly at the ankles. Squeeze your inner thighs together and work the ball in a humping motion so that it is pressing against your clitoris. As you climax, continue to squeeze with your thighs.

String of Pearls

Take a long synthetic pearl necklace and string it between the backs of two chairs suspended at crotch height. Step across, position the cord along your vulva and walk backward and forward. Soft rope or cord works well for this, too.

Flo-Rida (Floor Rider)

Strip down and lie on the floor face down. Press your pubic bone into the floor as hard as you can and rock your body like you are trying to crawl but don’t work hard enough to actually move from the spot. The flesh on your pubis will be alternately pulled tight and made slack. This transmits to your clitoris through the outer lips and feels great after a minute or two. The extra bonus is that it’s a good exercise for your waist too.

For the men …

The Cold Climax

Masturbate as you normally would, but when you feel the sensation of ejaculation coming on, grab hold of some ice cubes or crushed ice with the other hand, then continue masturbating to completion. The feeling of cold in one hand, heat in the other, and the sensation of ejaculating will enhance the experience.

Ring Around the Penis

Cover both your hands with lube, and form a ring with your thumb and forefinger. Place it around the base of your penis. Slide the ring up to the base of the glans (where the head starts). Now form a ring with the fingers on your other hand and do the same thing. Keep stroking with one ring at a time until you climax.

The Palm Rubber

As soon as you’re erect, place some lube on the inside of one hand. Rather than rub your penis with your hand, keep rubbing the tip of your penis against the palm of your hand until you orgasm.

The Ball Holder

The next time you’re masturbating and feel like you’re just about to ejaculate, put your other hand over your scrotum and lightly squeeze and pull it down (or more aggressively, if you like that sort of thing). That way, you get to feel your semen traveling through your body, making its way to the exit.

Screw Your Hand

While standing, twist your lubed-up hand (whichever you’re most comfortable using) so that your thumb is against your belly button. Wrap your hand around your penis and rather than stroke with your hand, move your pelvis to pump in and out of your hand. It’ll make you feel like you’re actually penetrating a vagina. Okay, maybe kinda, sorta.

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This article was previously published at- http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/how-to-celebrate-national-masturbation-month/

Change Up Your Masturbation Techniques

Getting bored with your masturbation routine? Try out some of these techniques. They’re sure to make you feel like your alone time is truly all about you.

For Women

• Get in the tub, light some scented candles, and pour yourself a glass of wine. As you soak in the warm water, your muscle tension will melt. You’ll be more responsive to touch when you’re relaxed. If you don’t have a waterproof sex toy, use a hand-held shower head. Vary the settings to find the right one to find a sensation that you can’t replicate with your fingers. If you don’t have a hand-held shower head, as the tub is filling, scrunch up close to the water as it pours out of the faucet.

• Borrow an oral sex tip from the guys: write the alphabet with your pinky on your clit or trace the number 8 over and over with a lubed fingertip on or around the clit and your inner labia.

• Use your index and ring fingers to hold open your labia. This frees up your middle finger to stroke the tip of your clitoris.

• Don’t have a clitoral stimulator? The back end (non-bristle) side of a battery-operated toothbrush works as a great, inexpensive stand-in. Just make sure that you keep in in your nightstand or wherever you store your sex toys so you won’t accidentally use it for what it’s intended.

For Men

• To keep your erection after ejaculating, stroke to the point that you are ready to ejaculate – but then do not touch your penis and relax all of your muscles. The orgasm will be less intense, but you will stay erect and can continue, and you will not lose the excitement in your body.

• Using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. Using a good amount of lube can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around), you’ll recreate the feeling of having sex rather than just jacking off.

• Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm, but not hot, towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. (Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here.) Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate.

• Using both hands, one at the bottom and one at the top of the penis, gently wring in opposite directions. Use the motion from bottom to top as if you were wringing out a cloth — squeeze the semen out, not in.

• On a comfortable surface like your bed, sit on your heels with each heel gently spreading your butt cheeks comfortably, don’t overstretch. Masturbate as you wish, using your favorite technique. When you are about to ejaculate, spread your cheeks and feel the deep orgasm stem from your perineum. There’s a pressure point in the center of the perineum that creates intense orgasms.

For Women and Men

• Can’t be together? Get a smartphone tripod to leave your hands free to do other things while you’re sharing some Skype time or Face Time and enjoy some sexy phone or video sex together long distance. You can even add new sex tech devices and toys that can be used remote across long distances.

• Know your lubes. Silicone lubes last longer than water-based lubes. However, because of their long-lasting properties, you’ll want to clean up with soap and water afterward. Also, don’t use silicone lube with silicone sex toys. Silicone lube will damage silicone sex toys. If you’re not sure what your sex toy is made of, stick with water-based lube.

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This post was previously published at http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/change-up-your-masturbation-techniques/

Health Benefits Of Female Masturbation

Masturbation IS Good For You!–But We Already Knew That 😉

Here’s why…

Although most people think masturbation is some variety of nonsense that describes immaturity, experts, especially counselors and clinicians specializing in the area of gender and relationship therapy, say that women can learn about their own sexual responses through masturbation and even pass on what they know to their spouses. As such, it is not usually a common topic between girlfriends, but sometimes women compare notes in a discreet manner about vibrators and how they make them feel good. Aside from being a taboo in some societies, masturbation among women is valuable and is an integral component of healthy sexuality. Hence, here are some health benefits of female masturbation.

Natural infection fighter

It is noteworthy that women who masturbate on a regular basis develop higher resistance to cervical and vaginal infections. When a woman masturbates, her cervix contracts and thus allowing for the freeing of trapped and stagnant fluids that cause yeast and urinary tract infections. Moreover, it replenishes the cervix and the vagina with fresh fluids that promote the growth of healthy bacteria. Hence, to achieve the most out of the adventure it is important to avoid using saliva as this may contribute to the interference of vagina’s natural bacteria balance.

It improves a woman’s sex life

Statistics say that about 75% of women fail to reach orgasm during sex, thus masturbation is a good way of achieving sexual climax. Enjoying sex is essential in a healthy relationship and this goes a long way with the two partners getting satisfied, which implies that with a woman masturbating, she can identify her arousal points and make the partner aware. The partner can use that to the advantage of the woman achieving sexual climax during sexual intercourse which can boost their relationship.

Aids sleep and rest

Most women masturbate as a means of unwinding after a hectic day. Little do they know that it helps them to fall asleep at night. Basically, masturbation makes the body to trigger the production of dopamine, the “feel good” hormone, especially when there is an expectation of sexual climax. After orgasm, it is normal to experience a calming effect that is always attributed to the release of oxytocin and endorphin hormones that makes them warm and hence easy to fall asleep.

Improves a woman’s mood

The production of hormones in the body, such as dopamine and epinephrine during sexual arousal can help a great deal in boosting a woman’s mood. As well, it helps relieve stress since it gives a woman a moment to feel good, thus getting sexually gratified, feeling self-satisfied and improving the quality of life. Additionally, masturbation makes a woman become sexually satisfied without having the worry of getting pregnant and STDs. This can accord her with self-esteem necessary for her to stay strong, stress-free and happy at all times.

It’s a perfect pain reliever

Although masturbation has been said to sometimes cause migraine headache, it is also helpful in relieving it especially when orgasm is attained. It also helps in relieving menstrual cramps and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms that include crankiness and irritability. In fact, scientists have come out to support the idea that there is a factor that is associated with orgasm that suppresses pain and even migraine process.

It strengthens the pelvic floor

Masturbation is a good pelvic exercise that keeps it strong and resistant to involuntary urinary incontinence. The reason is that the production of spasms during orgasm can help in getting the whole pelvic region keep fit and lifting its floor, which is an essential in experiencing better sex and guaranteeing an improved urinary health. Furthermore, it makes the pelvic muscles to be a bit tighter as a woman enjoys a moment of sexual satisfaction.

Masturbation boosts a woman’s immunity

There is a common belief that masturbation also has the ability of boosting a woman’s immunity. This is because it helps in flushing toxins that could have otherwise caused diseases out of the body system as well as improving blood flow and body organ functioning. Hence, women that masturbate become less vulnerable to attack by diseases that include cardiovascular diseases, headaches, cold, flu and even diabetes among other diseases.

In summary, masturbation in women is potentially helpful both mentally and physically and it is not harmful as most people think. Therefore, whether a woman will use her fingertips, dildo or vibrator, she can improve her well-being, relationships and health through regular masturbation.

So low the lights a little, light some candles, just relax in the hot tub and let the games begin.

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This article was written by Brenda Panin and previously published at- http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/guest-post-health-benefits-of-female-masturbation/

Masturbation: How to Do a Yoni Massage

Genital massage not only aids in sexual stimulation, but it promotes blood flow to the vulva which is beneficial for genital health.  So by taking the time out to relax and give yourself a genital massage, you are doing your body as well as your sexual libido a favour!

How to Give Yourself a Yoni Massage

Find a quiet room and lock the door so you won’t be interrupted.  Put on music, light candles or incense to get you in the mood.

Lie down in a comfortable position, propping yourself up with pillows beneath your back and letting your legs hang loosely open, or try lying on your stomach to aid in accessing the genitals easier.  Immerse yourself in erotic thoughts or simply concentration on your body’s sensations.  Breathe deeply, for this increases the flow of blood to the genitals and helps you to relax.

Next, use a mirror to explore the beauty of your own vulva, opening the labia lips and finding the clitoris as your massage yourself.  Betty Dodson recommends trimming or shaving beforehand for a heightened sense of awareness, but that is totally up to you.

Your hands should be clean and nails should be trimmed or kept away from soft tissues by using the pads of the fingers.  Begin with a very light touch on the genitals, using one hand for stimulation and the other to hold your labia lips open.  Some women find direct stimulation of the clitoris painful, or ticklish, so slowly increase the amount of pressure only as you become more aroused.  Use a lube, which enhances all sexual activities by making the genitals slick and slippery.

Rest the heel of your hand on the pubis mons, where the pubic hair begins.  You can begin by stimulating the labia lips with your fingers, using light rubbing and tickling techniques.  You can gently grasp the shaft of the clitoris and slide the hood back and forth or gently move the tissue under your finger around in small circles.

Gradually, you can increase the stimulation and may be able to apply pressure to the clit itself by tapping it lightly.  Many women find that the top, right side of their clitoris is more sensitive than other areas.  You can work around the clit in a circular motion as well.  You can try inserting a finger or two into the vagina and using your palm to stimulate the clit. Experiment with different strokes or speeds to see what feels best, building a repetitive rhythm.

Other techniques include:

Womb drumming: where you lightly drum over your womb area, thighs and labia with the palms of your hands to stimulate blood flow.

Pussy Petting:  This technique uses both hands to alternately stroke up the vulva in a slow, rhythmic motion, warming up the tissue to get the blood flowing.

The Squeeze Tease:  This technique involves softly pinching the outer labia together, working up and down the lips.

Outer and Inner Labia Massage: This method involves opening the labia and squeezing along each side of the outer lips.  This is then repeated with the inner labia.

The purpose of Yoni Massage is to awaken your libido, get to know your beautiful pussy in a more intimate and loving manner, to explore your genitals slow and sensually and to find new ways to stimulate yourself (especially if you rely on a vibrator for masturbation).

Try to just enjoy the experience of getting to know your Yoni/Vulva/Pussy better, and maybe even learn new ways to give yourself pleasure!

Making Love Alone: The Art of Masturbation

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Making love alone, often referred to as self-love or masturbation, is a natural and healthy way to explore one’s body and experience sexual pleasure. It can be an important aspect of personal wellness and sexual health.  

You must first understand what self love is and why it is important to incorporate it into your life.  Some people feel they have to be with a partner to be fulfilled.  That is not the case and you can experience a whole new outlook on love making alone.  You should first explore to see what you like. Here are some ways to embrace and enhance this experience.

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Personal Exploration:

Self-love allows individuals to explore their own bodies, understand their sexual preferences, and learn what brings them pleasure. This self-awareness can lead to more fulfilling experiences, both alone and with a partner.  Utilizing sexual aids can heighten your experience.

Health Benefits:

Masturbation has several health benefits, including reducing stress, improving mood, helping you  sleep better, and enhancing sexual health. It can also help relieve menstrual cramps and promote relaxation.  

No Shame or Stigma:

It is important to approach self-love without shame or stigma. Masturbation is a normal and natural part of human sexuality and should never be looked at in a negative way.

Create a Comfortable Environment:

Set the mood by creating a comfortable and private space where you can relax without interruptions. This might include dim lighting, soft music, or aromatherapy.  It is important to feel as comfortable as possible and clear your mind of everyday stresses.  This will make your experience more enjoyable.

Use Lubrication:

Lubricants can enhance the experience by reducing friction and increasing pleasure. There are various types of lubricants available, such as water-based, silicone-based, and natural options.  If you are using a pleasure product, it is important to use a good lube to avoid  any issues.

Incorporate Sex Toys:

Using sex toys can add variety and intensify sensations. There are many options, including vibrators, dildos, and clitoral stimulators. Choose toys that are body-safe and suited to your preferences. 

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Investing in a sex doll or torso to give you that real life feel.  They are usually very lightweight and easy to use. The sex doll torsos are made of TPE or silicone. Of course, they are all very safe materials.  They are designed for both male and female masturbation, depending on the design. 

Mindfulness and Focus:

As we stated before, practice mindfulness by focusing on the sensations and being present in the moment. This can enhance pleasure and make the experience more fulfilling.  Making love alone can be scary for a first timer, so embrace it your way.

Erotic Content:

Some people find that incorporating erotic content, such as reading erotica, watching adult films, or listening to audio erotica, can enhance arousal and pleasure.  This helps to get your mindset focused of the experience instead of focusing on the day to day interruptions.  

Breathing and Relaxation:

Deep breathing and relaxation techniques can help you stay calm and focused, heightening your sensitivity and pleasure.  You can incorporate meditation to help you relax and enjoy the experience.

Masturbation can be done at anytime.  It all depends on the person, there is no right time.  It is important to find a balance that feels right for you and doesn’t interfere with daily responsibilities or relationships.  Self-love is not just about physical pleasure; it also contributes to emotional well-being. It can boost self-esteem and foster a positive body image.

Approach self-love with self-compassion and kindness. It’s a form of self-care and a way to honor the needs of your body and desires.  Embrace body positivity and appreciate your body for its capacity to provide pleasure. Every body type is unique, and learning to love and accept your own is crucial.  Educate yourself about sexual health and wellness. Understanding your body and how it functions can enhance your self-love experiences and promote overall well-being.

In summary, making love alone, or self-love, is a healthy and natural part of human sexuality. It offers numerous physical and emotional benefits and can enhance your overall well-being. By creating a comfortable environment, exploring different techniques, and approaching the experience with self-compassion, you can enjoy fulfilling and pleasurable moments of self-love.