The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: A Review

What if I told you that you had a master seducer inside of you? Jessica O’Reilly and Marla Renee Stewart, the authors of The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay, believe that you’ve already got everything you need to navigate the seemingly confounding world of flirting. You just kind of need to tap into it.


The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay

Print Length: 338 pages

Language: English

Available as Ebook, Kindle & Paperback Print

Synopsis: Wouldn’t you like to tune into your own desires, become a better communicator, and be a more confident, passionate, and attentive lover?

Let this book take you on a journey of sexual exploration. As you explore your own learning and seduction styles (and your lover’s), you’ll discover and experiment with new and exciting ways to stimulate arousal and deepen intimacy: verbal, emotional, and digital seduction, foreplay, eroticizing daily actions, games, fantasy play, mindfulness, and more. Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of seduction.

Approach your lovers with the confidence and comfort you deserve! Whether you are adding to your repertoire for later or striving to please your current lover, you’ll discover thrilling new pathways to pleasure and intimacy.


About the Authors & Publishers

Cleis Press is the largest independent sexuality publishing company in the United States. With a focus on LGBTQ, BDSM, romance, and erotic writing for all sexual preferences, Cleis Press books are consistently changing the way people read and think about sexual behavior, culture, and education.


Jessica O’Reilly, PhD is a Toronto-based sexologist, author, television personality, and award-winning speaker. When she isn’t helping thousands of people across the globe with her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. You’ll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Find her on social media @SexwithDrJess or at


Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a lecturer at Clayton State University and a co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She is a sexologist, a professional sex, intimacy, and relationship coach, and sexuality educator. She is also the creator of Velvet Lips, a sexuality education company that works to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate, and enjoy their sexuality. She has published academic articles, conducted workshops, been featured in many radio shows, TV shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at universities around the world. You can find her on Twitter @1marlastewart or at


No-Frills Seduction 101


The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay bears a title that sounds like a heavy promise for its readers—and the great thing about it is that it lives up to it. It’s a comprehensive and inclusive manual for anyone who wants (or needs) to drill down to the basics of how to charm people in any sort of relationship, with whatever type of goal you have in mind, and at any level of sexual success.


Appropriately, it refers to seduction as an art. The book emphasizes that under the techniques and the erotic gestures is an innate feeling of curiosity and desire. With that comes a variety of needs and preferences that each person possesses, and in order to pique their interest is to have a lot of tricks up your sleeve. 




You Are The Ultimate Sexpert


“This means that you do not have to master everything at once, nor do you need to embrace every tip and technique. You are the ultimate expert in your own sex life, so if something doesn’t work for you, don’t force it.”

– Excerpt from The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay




Throughout the book, they provide several approaches that you can add to your arsenal of sexiness, ranging from emotional seduction to playful texting to hot tips for erotic oral sex. And don’t worry, none of these are dumped onto you as a litany of sex tips that probably might not even work on your object of desire anyway. The authors make it a point to ease you into these, with the chapters structured into in-depth parcels of information for the different stages and types of seduction and foreplay. On top of this, they even have a great chapter on how your learning style can be used to hone into your seduction style. At any level of intimacy, making the most of our five senses is crucial, and going into it with confidence and self-awareness will definitely tip the odds to your favor.


Strong Seduction Foundations


They even include sections called “Seduction Instructions” that function as sort of a personal exercise, complete with suggestions and questions to mull over before putting the techniques into action. These are intended to help you internalize the key concepts by applying them, and often they involve tuning into your own desires and psyche. This unique addition to the book gives its readers some strong, healthy foundations for whatever seducing endeavors they’ll be taking on.


How To Be A Good Seductee


“Mastering the art of seduction involves learning to be both a giver and taker. The desire to be a giver in bed is admirable, but it is equally important to indulge in receiving pleasure—for your own sake as well as for your lover’s.”

– Excerpt from The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay


Another thing I really love about this book is that while it breaks down the various ways you can be a master seducer, it also includes a special chapter dedicated to being the master seductee. I’m not going to include spoilers to the juicy insights from Jessica and Marla, but it’s an easy guide to keeping you in the mindset of sexy time, with a strong emphasis on sexual self-care. As the third law of pleasure goes: for every turn on, there is an equal and opposite turn off. And knowing these things about yourself and being able to communicate these to your partner/s is key to having a great time for both seducer and seductee.




Get The Book, Seriously

The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay is a great handbook to seduction. Whether you’re already getting a lot of action or just getting into it, the book is a comprehensive guide to sexual self-discovery and confidence. It’s not condescending nor is it stuffed with jargon, with friendly language that aims to do nothing but help you find sexual success in your own way. It’s an enlightening and light read, I practically finished it in a day.


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