Saturday, April 27, 2024

Leather, Fetish or Fashion? My Obsession with Leather

Image by Khusen Rustamov from Pixabay

I’ve always loved leather.

I bought my first leather jacket when I was 14 years old, and wore it everywhere. It made me feel good, powerful, confident, at an age were in reality I was shy and awkward.

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Leather fashion stared with the biker gangs, and has since been incorporated by many different subcultures and mainstream ones too. From the gay scene as early as the 40s and 50s, where many were inspired by Marlon Brando’s character in The Wild One, to the rock and metal music scene, and now more than ever, by the mainstream fashion industry too. Today celebrities grace magazine covers and appear in music videos dressed in what would have once been seen as fetish attire.

The gay scene is where leather as fashion first took a turn into the world of sex and kink. As early as the 40s wearing certain leather items could indicate a sexual preference or an interest in BDSM, even just the term leather could indicate an interest in kinky sex. The community catered for this fashion with leather fetish nightclubs and parties becoming increasingly popular in the 70s all over the world. The leather look signifying the ultimate feeling and expression of masculine sexual liberation and an alternative way of life.

Image by Igor Link from Pixabay

Traditionally it has always been the more dominant roles that wore the leather, a female Dominatrices nearly always portrayed head to toe in leather or latex. And in the world of BDSM these roles may still be in place a lot of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that a straight guy with a leather fetish wants to be dominated or that people who love wearing leather should be stereotyped as being into certain things.

Leather fashion started with the bikers, and to this day they still wear it for practical and fashionable reasons. It’s no coincidence that the origin of the term Heavy Metal came from the biker anthem Born to be Wild inextricably linking bikers to heavy metal and therefore heavy metal to leather.

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Goth and alternative fashion is also influenced heavily by the leather and biker style, but also BDSM in general, taking it one step further with more overtly sexual accessories, such as leather chokers, chains, and straps, a fashion style that definitely crosses over into the world of kink.

Why do I like wearing leather?

It’s hard to say. I like how it feels on my skin, being laced tightly into a leather corset feels a little like I’m being bound. It clenches in my waist and pushes up my breasts, it’s sexual. I like how it makes me look, it gives me confidence. Wearing leather high heels, a leather jacket and pants, I’ll walk with my head held high feeling sexy and knowing I look good. I’ve never been an extroverted person, but I feel I can express my true personality through my style.

I enjoy it in the bedroom too, leather whips, riding crops, paddles, chokers, lingerie. It sets the right tone for what I’m into, bondage and kink.

For me is it a fetish?

I’m not sure…

Dita Von Teese

For someone with a fetish seeing someone dressed in leather may ignite a feeling, whether it just be excitement, appreciation, or a strong sexual desire. For me I guess maybe I want to be the one being looked at and thought about in that way.

However, does the sound of a leather whip on flesh, or leather belt being unbuckled turn me on? Yes, so maybe there is a sort of fetish there.

With the fashion industry bringing leather more and more into the daily lives of everyone, and faux leather options making it more accessible and affordable for all, there are multiple reasons why someone might enjoy it. And although when worn as fashion it’s not necessarily classed as a fetish, it’s a look that remains dark, mysterious, and undeniably sexual.

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Some may feel those that wear leather are hinting at their sexuality, maybe they are more likely to be open minded, or experimental, not afraid to show their raw character or desires.

Gone are the days of having to buy DVDs or top shelf magazines to get a glimpse into the world of kink, for most its now as easy as following a hashtag on your phone. With social media making it easier than ever for different fashions and fetishes to be shared and seen by many it’s a look that may become more and more normalized, however it’s always kept its sexy and powerful image, and always will.

Why Couples Who Dress Together Stay Together

Couples who dress together stay together. 

A Japanese couple in their late 60’s, married for 41 years, wear matching outfits. Every day. Unlike a lot of couples who can’t even get their guy to ditch the baseball cap he’s worn for 20 years, this couple has it going on.

With more than 826,000 followers in less than 200 posts, the couple (“Bon” and “Pon”) became an instant hit on Instagram with their numbers meteorically climbing everyday.

The happy couple looks like they are having fun with it, keeping it casual, and inspiring us all. They have taken the matching sweater pic for the Christmas card to a new level.

Someone (we’re not sure who) has been snapping arty photos of them in front of fun backgrounds like art installations and art galleries, fashion windows, and locations with architectural or textured backgrounds. Some of the photos look like travel shots meet staged fashion photo. Whoever took the shots has an art gallery show all ready to go.

Relationship-wise, we like their “couple project”, something they did together for fun with a tangible result. Followers post comments like #relationshipgoals or “I want to be like them!” The couple pushes their look with hashtags like #whitehair, #greyhair, and #over60. What ever happened to those Gap ads? I’m sure someone has offered them a reality TV show by now.

Since the official honeymoon phase only lasts about a year, studies have shown that couples who do things together (non-sexual things) are happier. In one study, couples who tried “new and exciting” things together reported “higher satisfaction rates” with the relationship. “Exciting” activities (such as staging photo shoots in public places), as opposed to “pleasant” ones (like doing the crossword puzzle together) proved that a couple’s “self-expansion model” of “sharing stimulating activities” will bring a couple closer. Researchers found that “shared activities” and “causal direction” will “reduce boredom and enhance marital satisfaction.”

The couple holding hands. Their body language indicates that they are close and respect each other.

Nice product placement. Toyota should pay them for this. Or put them in an ad. Or maybe Toyota is behind this all.

People can’t get enough of this homey pair, as their Instagram followers increase substantially every day. We’d love to know who the photographer behind the photos are. And who the mystery couple is.

To get some matchy matchy fashion tips, follow the cute couple here on Instagram. We wish them 41 more happy years of matching outfits.

Photo credit: BONPON511/Instagram

Designer Penis Jewelry Anyone?

For those who love jewelry as much as they do penis, designer brand Yves St. Laurent has created a matching set of penis earrings and a penis necklace. Priced at $345, the “penis dangle earring” in “patinatated golden brass”, is completely sold out online, but is available at YSL’s 29 stores across the county. For pierced ears only, the earrings are marketed to women.

Although we love penises, especially matching ones, the black stuff around the head of the mini peens looks kinda funky. Despite this, these things are flying off the shelves. Each penis is engraved with “Saint Laurent Paris” on each side so everyone knows its the real thing.

photo: YSL.com

The “penis pendant”, also in “golden brass”, sells for $795.00 and sold out immediately online. The chain is adjustable so you can move the little weiner up and down on your neck, as your friends  point and laugh at it.

Legendary fashion designer Yves St. Laurent was at his height in the 1960’s and 70’s, and according the The Telegraph, was “the King of radical chic.”

According to his obituary in The New York Times, “During a career that ran from 1957 to 2002, he was largely responsible for changing the way modern women dress, putting them into pants both day and night, into peacoats and safari jackets, into “le smoking” (as the French call a man’s tuxedo jacket), and into leopard prints, trench coats and, for a time in the 1970’s, peasant-inspired clothing in rich fabrics.”

“Mr. Saint Laurent often sought inspiration on the streets, bringing the Parisian beatnik style to couture runways and adapting the sailors’ peacoats he found in Army-Navy stores in New York into jackets that found their way into fashionable women’s wardrobes around the world.”

For anyone who wants the designer “knock off” version of St. Laurent’s penis jewelry, Etsy has tons of jokey penis earrings, necklaces, and dangling jewelry for a guy to wear directly on his family jewels. There is one called a “Dick Thang”, to “adorn his penis” for only $14.99.

Someone else is selling a shiny penis brass keychain ” for only $9.90 and another penis lover offers a fancy mini “penis ring” for $11.72. Many of the descriptions of the jewelry say stuff like “Perfect for church on Sunday or brunch with Grandma.” And from the number of reviews on some of these phallic items–reviews in the hundreds and thousands, X-rated penis jewelry is apparently “in.” Who knew?

Lingerie For Guys? Yes!

Do real men wear lacy lingerie? Apparently so. A new lingerie brand for dudes takes gender specific undies and disrupts what men’s underwear has traditionally looked like. Menagerie says they have introduced “A new era of male intimate wear that combines masculine styling with fabrics traditionally reserved for the most elegant ladies’ wear. The line was “created to revolutionize how men feel about intimate apparel” and it “intends to change the way men think about their underwear.”

The underwear includes boxer briefs that look like black lacy Spanx with a codpiece, and a corset waist trainer for guys who who want to maintain their guyish figures. For anyone judging, the lacy boxers are sold out!

The company’s name was inspired by the definition of the word “menagerie,” which means “a collection of wild animals kept in captivity for exhibition,” or “a strange or diverse collection of people or things.”

The silk boxer shorts are something anyone of any gender would find sexy. And their black silk kimono robe is luxuriously sexy and looks like fun to roll around in. We also like their black “sock garter belts” that look vintagey and slightly fetishy.

 

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Garter belts for guys.

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A “Playguy” bunny!