You Never Squirt – Are You Broken

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You have heard that every vulva owner could squirt yet you have never been able to experience it for yourself. Rest easy, you are normal. You are not broken; you may just be missing the spot. There is a confusion among what is known as the Gspot and the Aspot. Both provide an awesome all over body orgasm, however, they are two different areas within the vagina and have two different results.

Orgasms have a stream of health benefits, and we should all be experiencing at least three a week. I want to give hope to vulva owners who have been attempting to have a squirting orgasm and failing. The anterior fornix (Aspot) is a spongy area located about 4-7 inches on the upper wall of the vagina, right in front of the cervix. You may even bump the cervix in stimulating this spot. You’re in the right space if this is happening. Be careful when stimulating the cervix, this could be uncomfortable to some. The sensations from stimulation of the Aspot can be very intense and provide an explosive all over body orgasm. However, it will not cause you to squirt.

There you have it. It’s not you, your normal. You are experiencing an amazing orgasm because of the stimulation; however, it does not engage the Skene’s gland which is where the ejaculation is stored. The Skene’s glans has a very important role when we look at the Gspot orgasm. The Gspot is located within the first 2-3 inches of the vagina. You need to stay very shallow in the upper wall of the vagina. It is between the legs of the internal clitoris and produce the most intense orgasm that does result in ejaculation. Your normal if you feel like you must pee as your orgasm builds. This is instinctive, a sign that you can count on that ejaculation is building.

The ejaculate flows from the Skene’s glans through the urethra and out of the urethra opening. This is what we need to understand about the creation of a Gspot orgasm. You have got to build up this orgasm, it’s a process. You must be extremely aroused and mindful of what your body is experiencing. Take the sign of having to pee and breath through it. Relax into the sensation and allow your body to let go as you continue to receive the stimulation. The feeling of urinating is coming from the fluid in the urethra, you cannot pee and ejaculate at the same time. That’s another conversation, the PC muscle, for now, know that it plays an important role in determining what is released from the urethra.

Rest easy, its not pee. It is the difference between the two orgasms. You will find that a squirting orgasm is even more pleasurable than the Aspot orgasm. If making a mess is on your mind, put down a few towels beforehand. It can be from two teaspoons and two cups or more. That is dependent on the individual, you really can’t choose how much comes out. For both orgasms breath is important. It is pleasurable to go from an Aspot orgasm to a Gspot orgasm. Change your breathing with the intensity of the stimulation. The increased breath keeps you mindful of what is going on throughout your body and you can enjoy the experience.

What I have seen the most is that both orgasms, actually many of the vaginal orgasms, are better achieved using the fingers instead of a penis or folic. I can’t say something like that without giving you a few tips of how they work so well. There are three specific motions that I teach using the pointer and middle finger. Keep them close together and work with the pads of the fingertips. You can make a come-hither motion, small circles and by flipping your hand, you can “bunny hop” by moving your fingers up and down. Depending on what you are stimulating determines which motion you make.

The Aspot responds well to lubed strokes and the circular motion. Start slow and increase speed as the receiver progresses through the stages of orgasm. Be mindful of the amount of pressure you are pushing through your fingers and the angle at which you are entering. You want to be sure you are in the right spot. The Gspot has a little wider field. I find that the come-hither motion is great for this spot. Lube is your best friend when it comes to orgasm, adding it changes the friction, thus the pleasure.

With lube you can use your curled fingers to pull them towards you or move them in circles in the shallow of the vagina. Listen to your mate and adjust accordingly. The most important thing to remember is to stay with the person through the entire orgasmic experience. So be in a position that you can keep up your play until the person has fully climaxed and is moving into the final phase. Nothing sucks more than an interrupted orgasm.

Of course, you can use these techniques and notes for masturbation as well. In fact, I encourage it. When you can find your hot spots, you can tell your mate how to get you there and have fun with it. Explore the different orgasms that you can create. Just remember, the Aspot is an intense orgasm, but the Gspot is the tsunami of orgasm.

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