What is an “analgasm?”: Resources on Anal Sex

In honor of “anal sex month” in August, I thought I’d touch on the subject of “anal play.” Everyone has an anus, but no one talks about them, (except to say things such as “My boss just tore me a new asshole!”)

Many women are afraid to go down the Hershey Highway, because they think it might hurt, or they think it’s embarrassing. But it doesn’t have to be. The butt is full of nerve endings, and “butt play”, which means just hanging around the hole, rubbing it, and using a finger,  is a good way to start. And it doesn’t have to hurt. It’s supposed to feel good; relaxing and arousing.

For those into beginner’s butt play I have one piece of advice: go slow. You don’t want someone shoving a giant, unlubed fist up your ass and have to google “anal prolapse.”

Start with a book, such as Charlie Glickman’s The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. Or Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women from Cleis Press. These books will tell you to lube it up, go slow, and start with just rubbing the area in slo-mo, then stimulating the penis or the clitoris, whichever you’re working with. Once the person looks they are really aroused, you can gently penetrate the naughty spot. If you stimulate a woman’s clitoris and anus (again, slowly) at the same time, or a man’s penis and prostate simultaneously, it takes the orgasm up a notch, to a heightened “analgasm.”


Editors Note: Check out our other articles: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex and Pegging: A Guide to Strap-on Sex for Beginners, for everything you need to know about anal sex, pleasure and analgasms!

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Anka Radakovich is a legendary Sex Columnist, Certified Sexologist, Sex Educator, Screenwriter, and Author of the book THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, PART 2, Tales from New York to Hollywood. THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, Part 2 is her third book. Her first two books, The Wild Girls Club; Tales from below the Belt, and Sexplorations; Journeys to the Erogenous Frontier were both published by Crown/Random House. She was the Sex Columnist for DETAILS Magazine for 9 years and currently writes columns for Brides.com and Los Angeles Magazine. Her writing has appeared in dozens of magazines including Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Men's Journal, Seventeen, Glamour, and Maxim. She has appeared on numerous television shows including 8 appearances with Conan O’Brien. She was a Jeopardy question under the category “Men’s Mags.” As a Sex Educator and Sexologist, she is a college lecturer at Universities throughout the country who offers her unique brand of sex education. Follow her on Twitter @ankarad.


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