Over 50? Rediscover Your Sexual Self for Women

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Libido and Menopause

If you’re over 50 or have passed the menopause threshold, you probably assume that leading a sexy and delicious life is for the twenty and thirty-something porn stars and red carpet divas.

If you’re one of those women who thinks that way, you couldn’t be more wrong.

First of all, take a look at yourself. Do you look like your mother or grandmother at their ages? Are you doing the same kinds of things they did? If you grew up taught to believe that “good girls don’t”, haven’t you gotten to a point in your life to think for yourself?

The Female Body Was Made for Pleasure

The fact is that the female body is designed to enjoy pleasure and sex for a lifetime. Start by reading about the pleasure points of your body starting with your clitoris and vagina, and the many types of orgasms a woman can have. Spend some “me time” getting reacquainted with your sexual self. If you’re no stranger to masturbation but have gotten bored with the same old routine, try some new tricks.

Look into some sex toys. The choices go far beyond the cheap hard plastic phallic “personal massagers” you probably started out with as a young woman.

Vaginal Dryness

If vaginal dryness is a problem, have some fun trying out some lubes. The choices go far beyond what you can find at the health and beauty aisle of your local drug store or megamart. Needing lube is not a sign that you’re losing your sexual mojo. If you’re new to lube, you’ll probably wonder why you haven’t been using it all along. It makes sex in all of its wonderful ways so much more amazing.

Sex, Aging and Men

Remember that age has brought on some changes in your spouse or partner’s sexual self, as well. I’ve found that men over 50 have a different outlook on sex. They usually aren’t lusting after or looking to hook up with some young sexpot. They want someone they can actually talk to and connect with. They’re often more into taking things slower and more sensually.

Men over 50 often have physiological issues of their own. If so, be supportive in urging him to visit a physician. If the “little blue pill” doesn’t always do the trick, there are alternatives he can explore. Or maybe this is a great time to try out some new sexual techniques like erotic massage or tantric sex. Exploring new sexual options will have you feeling like newlyweds all over again.

Get in Shape

Perhaps you feel that your body can’t keep up with your newfound sexual self. After all, sex is a physical activity. It’s never too late to get in shape. If my 69-year-old lover can find a newfound obsession with running, so can you. If running isn’t your thing, yoga is a great no-impact way to regain some strength and flexibility and get your body into shape for some sexual positions you didn’t think were possible.

Always remember that sexy isn’t an age; it’s an attitude.

Always remember that sexy isn’t an age; it’s an attitude. If you’re finding that your new-found sexual self isn’t matching how you look, visit a cosmetics counter at your local department store for a makeover. Sometimes what dates us is hanging onto the same makeup routine that you got into decades ago. Maybe it’s time for a new ’do. Get a recommendation for a new hairstylist who will work with you like a blank slate. Put him or her to task with these three words: make me hot!

Sexy Lingerie

There’s no age limit to wearing sexy lingerie. If you’ve put a few pounds on over the years, there are lots of plus-size options out there that are just as sizzling if not the same as those that come in smaller sizes. We all have physical assets that turn on our partners and spouses. Flaunt them!

Previously published at: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/over-50-rediscover-your-sexual-self/

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Bobby Morgan was a prolific and dedicated sex blogger, sexuality advocate and beditor-in-chief at A Good Woman's Dirty Mind (2012-2015), as well as creator of #AdultSexEdMonth (2013-2015). She was well loved and know by the sex-positive educator's community. She died suddenlt in 2015 at the age of 52, leaving a large body of work behind her. Before she died, she made me an Admin of her FB page, and gave me permission to syndicate her articles. So much of her writing still resonates today, so I am making her work available via Sexpert to share with a larger audience. "[My blog] was built on the inspiration of the love affair of a lifetime between me and my lover, Parrot... If only we could teach, bottle, sell or share our secrets of our great sex, romance and relationship, more people would be happier and more fulfilled. Like the way Parrot and I talk with each other, A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind is open, frank, and nakedly explicit in the way it talks about sex and relationships... In short, A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind is all about real sex — and really great sex at that — for real people." Website:  http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/


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