How To Post A Dating Profile That Won’t Turn Women Off

I often get asked by male friends to look at their dating profiles and tell them what I think. But I  refer them to a friend who once worked for Match and now gets paid to give guys honest, “brutal” feedback on their profile pics and their profiles, which she says are usually “somewhat embarrassing.”

“They are often shocked by my feedback,” she says. “They thought their profile was just fine, but couldn’t figure out why they weren’t getting very many responses.”

It’s hard to believe that college educated men still use “your” instead of “you’re” and post pics of themselves wearing hats and sunglasses that make them unrecognizable in person. So to all of the men out there who want to date without embarrassing themselves, here are some online dating profile tips.

–No shirtless selfies in the bathroom. 1.) They look too porno. 2.) They look like you are on a male prostitution site and 3.) We can see your toilet in the background.

–Do take photos of yourself looking “successful.” One study showed that a man standing in front of a Bentley was perceived as “more attractive” than the same man standing in front of a Ford Focus. Take photos wearing an expensive suit next time you’re at a wedding, for example.

–Please don’t post group photos where we have to sit and guess which one is you, and then wonder if the hot guy sitting next to you is dating anyone.

–Don’t lie about your height. This, it turns out is one of the most frequent things men lie about on their dating profiles. One guy who said he was 5″10 was actually 5″7, and I’m 5″6 and showed up in 4″ heels.

–Do take photos of yourself with cute dogs. Women love cute dogs. You will look nurturing and sweet next to a cute dog, even if it’s not yours.

Fab photo by Simone Paget

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Anka Radakovich is a legendary Sex Columnist, Certified Sexologist, Sex Educator, Screenwriter, and Author of the book THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, PART 2, Tales from New York to Hollywood. THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, Part 2 is her third book. Her first two books, The Wild Girls Club; Tales from below the Belt, and Sexplorations; Journeys to the Erogenous Frontier were both published by Crown/Random House. She was the Sex Columnist for DETAILS Magazine for 9 years and currently writes columns for and Los Angeles Magazine. Her writing has appeared in dozens of magazines including Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Men's Journal, Seventeen, Glamour, and Maxim. She has appeared on numerous television shows including 8 appearances with Conan O’Brien. She was a Jeopardy question under the category “Men’s Mags.” As a Sex Educator and Sexologist, she is a college lecturer at Universities throughout the country who offers her unique brand of sex education. Follow her on Twitter @ankarad.


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