Sunday, May 19, 2019
Authors Posts by Domina Doll

Domina Doll

Domina Doll is a sex writer, sexpert, and sex toy diva at as well as an aspiring Passion & Pleasure Coach. She has dabbled as a fetish photographer, sex toy peddler, and jill of all trades, but her passion is teaching others about positive sexuality, intimacy and how to have passion-filled relationships. Her work has been published in several sex related magazines including Women's Health, Lover Magazine, Whiplash!, SMUT, Good Vibes, Carnal Nation, SexLifeCanada and Blog Her (Sex). She is also the go to sexpert gal at, where she answers questions about sex toys and sexuality in general. Domina has also ghostwritten sexpert e-books as well as her own sex guides including: "Jillin' Off: A Girl's Guide to Solo Sex". Her favorite quote: "Sex is emotion in motion." by Mae West.  Happy Orgasms xxx Domina

How to Use Sensation Play Toys for Valentine’s with Your Lover

I’m really excited today to share with you this special Valentine’s day review on “How to Use Sensation Play Toys for Valentine’s with Your Lover”.  I also want to give a BIG thank you to Sportsheets today for providing the products for this review.

What is Sensation Play?

Technically speaking, Sensation Play in BDSM is a class of physical activities that deliver erotic sensations upon your partner, that are sensual in nature.  Usually this is a light form of erotic teasing, to provide pleasure to the person receiving (the bottom).  Many couples who do not identify as kinky, use sensation play as part of their sexual repertoire as a form of stimulating play to spice up their relationship.  Sensation play can also include rougher play and pain, but for the purposes of this article, we will be mainly talking about pleasurable sensations and light sensation play.

Types of Sensation Play

There are two main types of sensation play: Sensory Deprivation and Sensory Stimulation.

Sensory Deprivation is essentially removing one of the senses, such as using a blindfold, bondage restraints or tape, hoods, ear plugs, a gas mask, latex cat suit or even a vacuum bed and mummification.

Sensory Stimulation is the opposite and is used to arouse the senses (usually the sense of touch) by applying a wide variety of contradictory sensations to a person’s body.  This can include temperature play using hot and cold, pain and pleasure, textures like rough versus smooth, scratching, erotic tickling, silk scarves, nipple clamps, feathers, pinwheels, ice, stimulating balms, warming massage candles, floggers, paddles, electro-sex, fire cupping, spanking and pinching.

Sensation Play for Lovers

In Vanilla Land, sensation play is a sensual way of touching your lover that is a wonderful form of erotic foreplay that usually leads to sex.  It can consist of tying someone up and tickling them with a feather, rubbing fur or silk over their flesh while blindfolded, pouring hot candle wax on your partner’s skin to turn up the heat, using ice cubes to awaken and entice, or applying a pinwheel or other sharp instruments of torture to add an element of danger and excitement.  Sensation play adds a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure as you are swept away by the power of touch.

Sensation Play deals with all or a few of the senses (sight, smell, sound, taste and touch) and the ways our bodies perceive the organic world around us.  Heightening our senses during sexual intimacy or foreplay enhances all sexual experiences and puts our bodies in tune to pleasure.  Developing all of your senses to their highest sensitivity allows you to experience the pleasures and ecstasies of sex to the extreme.

The Sense of Touch

Touch is a “haptic” sense and one of the most obvious senses that enhances sensual pleasure.  Unfortunately, most people don’t spend much time on the sensual exploration of touch, before rushing off to the main event.  Erotic touch produces a hormone called oxytocin (also known as the love hormone) which leads to arousal, a rush of endorphins and kick-starts our libido by producing more testosterone.  For women, touch and foreplay are especially important as women take longer to become aroused and are less stimulated visually than men.

To heighten the sense of touch, you can “remove” stimuli to the other senses.  The easiest way to do this is to use a blindfold.  Bondage also works well to take away your partner’s ability to move while under your “spell”.  Creating a sensual play space could include using soft candle light, low soft music, and incense to heighten other senses as well.

Midnight Lace Blindfold

The Midnight Lace Blindfold is a part of the Midnight Lace Collection from Sportsheets.  It is made of polyester, spandex and elastic.  The front is has an antique lace rose pattern which is quite beautiful and the back padded side is satiny, so nice and sensual feeling against the skin.  Two elastic straps secure the blindfold which molds to your face and effectively removes sight to heighten your senses.  It is fairly sturdy and well made.

Black Ostrich Feather

Sportsheets has lots of feather ticklers on their site, but I opted for the plain black Ostrich Feather.  It has a long plastic wand (16”) and a single long Ostrich plume which is soft, thick and beautiful.  Perfect for light tickling, or sensual caresses.  It comes with a small card with sexy games on the back.  But, use your imagination and I’m sure you will find many sexy uses for it.

Midnight Feather Tickler

The Midnight Feather Tickler, also from Sportsheet’s Midnight Collection was voted Sex Toy of the Month by Cosmo Magazine.  It is made with soft, black Marabou feathers (which is soft down under-feathers from a turkey) that is super soft and sensual like goose down.  It features a lovely handle with a woven satin rope, silky black bow and looped handle.  Very delicate and feminine and feels like fluffy fur against the naked skin.

Midnight Jeweled Chain Tickler

This stunning Midnight Jeweled Chain Tickler is another innovation from Sportsheet’s Midnight Collection and is absolutely gorgeous.  It has a gem-encrusted crown made of cubic zirconia on the top of the nickel free metal handle, and ten elegant chain tails that can be used for tickling or impact play.  Because it is made of metal, it can also be cooled in the freezer for temperature play as well.

Midnight Bling Flogger

The Midnight Bling Flogger is also a part of the Midnight Collection and is dazzling.  It features a cubic zirconia encrusted bling handle (4” in length) with metal cap embossed with hearts and a nylon hand loop on the end.  The flogger end has forty soft, supple falls (8 ¼” in length) made out of vegan vinyl that feel very sensual when stroked across the body.  You can also use this little hand flogger for impact play to produce a nice thuddy sting.  A sensual delight!

I love Sportsheets’ Midnight Collection!

These are just a few of the products in the Midnight Collection, but I’d love to have them all. The are sexy, elegant, playful, frisky, well-made and shiny shiny bling, perfect for any fetish Fashionista, or couples who want to add more sexy sensation play to their date nights to create an incredible erotic experience to remember.

Again, a BIG THANK YOU to Sportsheets for providing these sexy toys for review. Sportsheets doesn’t only carry these beautiful sensation play toys, but also specializes in award winning Restraint Play, Sexual Positioning, Sex in the Shower and Strap-on sex toys, plus so much more!

You can purchase all these products at’s sex toy shop, including other exciting Sportsheets products and the entire Midnight Collection.




Fetish Fashions

Today is International Fetish Day, so today we wanted to take a look at some fetishes that many people enjoy as part of creating their sexual fantasies.

Sexual fetishes or fetishism used to be considered a paraphilia (previously known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) and were regarded as pathological or a mental disorder that needed to be treated.  These days, most fetishes are considered more of “an unusual sexual interest” rather than a paraphilic one (or deviant), and there is a debate over which fetishes, if any, should be classified in mental disorders diagnostic manuals at all.

So, if you have a sexual fetish, you don’t need to feel ashamed or guilty about it.  In a 2014 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 26.3% of women and 27.8% of men admitted to having fetish fantasies.[i]  Sexual fetishes are only dangerous if they cause “significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life”[ii], or harms another being.

According to Wikipedia, fetishes that include clothing of some kind, or fabric, are the most popular fetishes (58.3%).

The most popular Fetish Fashions include:


Rubber, Latex and PVC is a fetish attraction to latex clothes.  Rubberists is the term many rubber fetishes use to label themselves with.  Popular types of rubberwear include corsets, catsuits, hoods, thigh high boots, and inflatable clothing.  But, the item doesn’t always need to be erotic.  Some people are just attracted to the PVC itself including plastic raincoats, shower curtains and clear PVC items.  Liquid latex body paint allows you to paint on a second skin of latex on your body and be naked underneath.



Corsets and tightlacing are quite common among the fetish scene, in particular corsets worn by female Dommes, and tightlacing as a masochistic practise made popular by Fakir Musafar.


Cosplay or Roleplaying

Cosplay (meaning costume play) is a hobby where people dress up in costumes for role-playing.  As a sexual fetish, role-playing scenarios could include secretary, schoolgirl and teacher, doctor and nurse, or a sexy maid.  Dressing as furry animals or Furries is another type of Cosplay fetish.



Uniform fetishism, much like Cosplay, is a sexual attraction to someone dressed in a uniform.  The most popular uniforms include: doctor, schoolgirl, police officer, nurse, French maid, sports player, waitress, cheerleader, Playboy Bunny and nuns.



Shoe fetishism or retifism, is the sexual attraction to shoes (usually women’s shoes) including stilettos, boots, sneakers, socks and other footwear.  This fetish is related to foot fetishes and Chinese foot binding.



Leather fetishism is people who get turned on by wearing leather themselves or by others wearing leather.  The smell and feel of the leather is often an erotic stimulus, while leather uniforms and shining leather such as boots or patent leather are also popular. “Leather Culture” is a term used to describe the sadomasochism subculture of gay men, whereas pony fetish use leather bridles and other equestrian gear.



Fur fetishism refers to a sexual attraction to fur or wearing fur.  It was popularized by the novel Venus in Furs (1870) by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch whose name is synonomous with masochism.



Underwear fetishism is a sexual fetishism for undergarments, either by wearing them, handling those used by others (such as dirty panties) or looking at someone wearing undergarments.  Lingerie is fairly mainstream and definitely sexualizes the person wearing it.  Popular lingerie items include panties, fishnet stockings and woman’s hosiery, bras, garter belts and more.



A glove fetishism is a sexual fetishism where the individual is aroused by another person wearing gloves, or wearing them oneself.  Often this fetish is enhanced by the material: leather, latex, PVC, or nylon. Visual stimulation is further enhanced by the act of putting on or removing the gloves. Smell of latex, rubber or leather can also be a factor.



Spandex fetishism is a sexual arousal to people wearing stretchy fabrics like leotards. Spandex are skin-tight and act like a second skin, leaving little to the imagination of the nude body underneath.  Superhero outfits, gymnast’s leotards, and zentai bodysuits are all popular spandex fetish fashions, in which the wearer may also enjoy erotic objectification.


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[i] Joyal, C. C., Cossette, A., & Lapierre, V. (2014). “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?”. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 12 (2): 328–340.

[ii] Sexual Fetishism. Accessed 1/18/2018.

Fun in the Tub: Sex Toys for the Bath Tub

Did you know that January 8th was National Bubble Bath Day and January 13th (that’s today!) is National Rubber Duckie Day?  No, neither did we!  But, now that we do, we decided to celebrate by taking a look at all the sex toys you can use in the bath tub.  Rub-a-tub-tub!

photo by Shannon Brooke Imagery

Well, not exactly ALL of the sex toys.  We are leaving those specifically for the shower for National Shower with a Friend Day (February 5th).

Rubber Duckie You’re the One!

The I Rub My Duckie® by Big Teaze Toys is the first vibrating rubber duckie that hit the market and started the revolution of discreet personal massagers. The quiet 3 speed motor provides waves of pleasure up and over the head and tail to soothe the stress and tensions of your day. Waterproof and playful, I Rub My Duckie® is the most adorable and entertaining bath companion one could wish for.

And, now you can get your I Rub My Duckie in various colors, sizes, and collectable assortments, like the I Rub My Duckie® Paris, Bondage Fashionista, Kitty Hoodie and Pirate (Ahoy Matey!).  One for every different type of personality (well almost).

Vibrating Mesh Sponge

The Vibrating Mesh Sponge by Sport Sheets Sex in the Shower series can also be used in the bath for playtime fun.  The vibrating bullet inside the bath scrunchie is 100% waterproof, so you can give yourself a vibrating massage while washing your entire body.  Single speed push button design is easy to use with slippery fingers.  Don’t forget to wash your erogenous zones for sexy, orgasmic bath time pleasure!

Treasures of the Sea Bath Salts

Back when I worked as a brick and mortar sex toy store pleasure consultant, Kama Sutra Treasures of the Sea Bath Salts was one of our number 1 sellers.  Not only did our customers love it, but everyone who worked at the store was addicted to these luxurious bath salts as well.  These salts foam up in the bath and create a paradise of tropical, blue water, so you feel like Aphrodite herself being birthed by orgasmic sea foam.

Made with skin nourishing sea minerals and a skin softening formula that leaves your skin radiant and moisturized.  Let the soothing scent of ocean breezes lull you into a state of deep relaxation.  Perfect for solo baths to relax or feel sexy before date night, or during date night for a couple!  Includes a seashell scoop.

Kama Sutra Luxury Bathing Gel Wild Clove

Another product I got to review and grew to love was Kama Sutra’s Wild Clove Bathing Gel.  I love Kama Sutra’s bath products, and was curious about what this bath gel would be like.  The scent of cloves and ginger is spicy, warm and sexy, yet also very stimulating.

Cloves is a natural aphrodisiac, as well as having antioxidant and antifungal properties so great at helping with skin conditions like acne and also works for relieving stress. Blended from 10 natural vegetable extracts and Vitamin E-rich wheat germ, leaves you silky smooth and seductive.

Waterproof Vibrating Sex Toys

Just about any type of sex toy can be used in the bath tub these days.

There are thousands of sex toys that both vibrate and are waterproof like the ones shown below.  Make sure before you purchase a product that it actually says Waterproof and not just Splashproof, Water Resistant or Water Repellant.  Many toys will say they are ok to go in water, but they can’t be immersed.  Only waterproof toys are fully immersible.

So that’s it for sexy time in the bath tub.  Stay tuned for more sexy ways to use sex toys coming up in the next few weeks.

Meanwhile, go check out the toys at our!

Best Sex Toys of 2017

Welcome sex toy fiends to the last sex toy review blog of the year.  Fireworks are just around the corner (and coming soon to a bedroom near You!), and as we reflect on the good, the bad and everything naughty and nice in 2017, we would like to present you with our Best Sex Toys of 2017!


To put together this list, I scoured the internet for the bestsellers of 2017 with the best reviews from real customers just like you.  So, this list is not based on my personal favs, but on consumer favorites, award winners, and the top best sellers of the year.

I think you will find some awesome finds in this list for everyone, including men, women, couples, singles, gay, lesbian, transgender, beginners, and pros, those into kink and vanilla folks as well.

Best Vibe for Beginners – Satisfyer Penguin

The Satisfyer Pro Penguin is actually one of the best vibes of the year for beginners and pros alike.  But, I chose the Beginner’s category, because it is so simple to use and will get any clitoris humming.

This vibe is actually a clitoral sucker which provides pulsating clitoral suction, without direct contact.  It is a real crowd pleaser and is guaranteed to give you quick, amazing orgasms in less than 1 minute! 11 vibrating functions, waterproof, and rechargeable.

Best for Couples – We-Vibe Sync

The We-Vibe Sync is the latest in couple’s vibes, now with an adjustable fit that customizes to your unique shape to pleasure both the clitoris and G-spot during partnered sex.  Takes couple’s sex lives to a whole new level of WOW! Connects with the We-Connect App for more features.

Best for Lesbians – Feeldoe

The Tantus Realdoe Feeldoe features a strapless strap-on design, which allows the wearer to get pleasured while they penetrate their partner.  Much more intuitive than a regular strap-on, it also has a spot to insert a vibrating bullet.

Best for Gay Men – Tom of Finland P-spot Vibe

Tom of Finland P-Spot Vibe is an ergonomic P-Spot stimulator that comes with a powerful vibrating bullet for more stimulation. Perfectly angled to hit the prostate, the flared base will keep it in place while the angled head applies direct pressure and vibration to your P-Spot.

Best for Women – Magic Wand

Magic Wand Rechareable

The Magic Wand Rechargeable is just about the very best massager style vibrator on the market.  Most powerful, reliable, and now rechargeable, your just can’t beat the Magic Wand.

Best Trans Toy – Buck-Off Buck Angel FTM Stroker Black

The Buck-off, official Buck Angel stroker is the first product designed specifically for transmen to engage in stroking fun. Made with Perfect Fit’s ultra soft SilaSkin the Buck-off feels like real flesh, and is sized perfectly for transmen who have started their transition FTM. As Buck Angel says, “Loving your new body is what it is all about.”

Best for Men – Blewit

The Blewit Pleasure Trainer is so cool it gives me penis envy… well almost.  It is a uniquely designed masturbator that mimics the sensations of partnered sex and can be used both for pleasure and as a training tool to improve sexual performance. This toy features a hands-free vacuum stroke with intense suction, which it what makes it so awesome.

For a perennial round-up of men’s toys, I recommend Men’s Toys Hub, where you can find comprehensive info, reviews and discount codes for the best collection of men’s toys out there from pumps to prostate toys and blowjob machines to extenders!

Best for Kinky Play – Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload 10 Days Of Pleasure

I’ve featured the Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload 10 Days Of Pleasure kit before, but it also made it to this list as well because, it is pretty amazing, and it has everything you need to get started for an entire weekend of kinky play.  Includes: small pleasure whip, blindfold, feather tickler, butt plug, vibrating ring, bullet vibrator, Ben Wa style ball and satin restraints.  Let’s play!

Best for Sensual Play – Sex & Mischief Feather Tickler

Some products are the best just because they are so simple.  It is hard to improve on a feather tickler for sensation play, and Sex & Mischief by Sportsheets makes the best there is.  Made with 7” long feathers.

Best Sensual Accessory Product – Desir Metallique Collection Gold (Bijoux Indiscrets)

The Desir Metallique Collection Gold by Bijoux Indiscrets is what I would call elegant bondage.  It won the Best Sensual Accessory Product last year at the Xbiz awards.  It is sexy, cool, metallic and luxurious. Metallic mesh collar and metal bracelets in gold sold separately.

Best Kegel Exerciser – Lovelife Krush (OhMiBod)

Let’s not forget the importance of doing our kegels!  The Ohmibod Lovelife series Krush Kegel exerciser helps strengthen the pelvic floor, with built in sensor technology and a strong motor for deep vibrations.  The Krush measures the pressure, control, endurance, and grip of your PC muscles to enhance kegels. Comes with a TASL App that has: Quick start guide, Pelvic training courses, Voice guided training, Exercise activity training, Goal setting and rewards. App locking feature for extra security.

Best Anal Toy – B-Vibe

I don’t know who comes up with these innovative products, but the B-Vibe is a sure winner.  This B-Vibe is a Rimming Anal Plug, that incorporates rotating beads for a rimming sensation and powerful tip vibration for orgasmic stimulation. Comes with wireless remote control and features five vibration and rotation intensity levels and six vibration patterns. Waterproof.  Rechargeable.

Best Couple’s Vibrating O Ring- Ohare

The majority of couple’s vibrating cock rings on the market are okay, but not necessarily awesome.  Basically, the Ohare vibrating ring turns a penis into a vibrating rabbit, with flexible rabbit ears and a super powered motor.  Also, wireless, because, well, why not?


As usual, you can find all these toys and more at our shop for the BEST Sex Toys anywhere on planet earth! xo

The 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians—Part 2

So, Cosmo put out the “11 Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Couples” two weeks ago.  Then, last week, I decided to do my own list for “REAL” Lesbians, like the real lesbians above in “Orange is the New Black”.  So, I added “The 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians—Part 1”, which had the first top 10 best lesbian sex toys in it, here.

Today I give you, the next 10 awesome, amazing, sexalicious lesbian sex toys for REAL lesbians and their REAL Lesbian Lovers.

Without further ado… Here are the toys!

Voulez Vouz Edible Massage Candle Fondat Au Chocolat for Vagetarians and Muffers

I love candles, especially candles you can use during sex, or foreplay.  These sexy massage candles are made from soy, which means they have a low melting point so are safe on skin, are edible, and moisturizing.

To use, light the candle to create the atmosphere and allow the aroma to awaken the senses. Wait about 20 minutes and the melted candle wax has now become a warm massage oil that you can pour all over your lover’s body, rub in and lick off.  Make oral sex that much better. Yum!

This edible massage product is made in Paris.  The container has a convenient pour spout so you don’t spill it where you don’t want it.  The flavor is delicious: Chocolate Fondue.

*Note: I’ve tasted a lot of sexual edible products in the past like flavored lubes which usually taste plastic and simulated, kind of like fake lesbians.  So, make sure you get the real thing! 😉

Her Anal Kit for Anal Attentive Queers

What’s a girl gotta do to get a good anal kit these days?  Usually they are all pink, have 3 different sizes of anal plugs and that’s it, or they might have a vibrator, but it doesn’t have a flanged bottom, so not safe for anal.  What’s up with that?

I decided to scour the shelves so I could present you with this really cool anal kit, which is great for beginners or intermediates, and has everything you need to get started and enjoy an orgasmic anal play date.  Plus, its not pink.

Okay, so what’s inside the Her Anal Kit?

  • A Superior Silicone Rocker Probe with curved base for comfort and fit.
  • A Silicone Glider Probe with tapered end and retrieval loop.
  • A set of Silicone beginner anal beads that are pliable and durable.
  • A Powerful multi-speed bullet vibrator to stimulate all your zones.

What really cool about this kit is that you can share it with another anal lover, because it has two anal probes.  And, all products are made out of silicone (except bullet) which can be sterilized, and safely shared.

Sex & Mischief’s Heart-shaped Silicone Anal Beads for Molly Dykes

If you are not quite ready for a whole anal kit, but want to try out anal play, then the Sex and Mischief Collection Silicone Anal Beads are the way to go.

Notice these beads are heart-shaped, which means they have a flat end at the top, which allows them to stay inside easier and also produces more intensity when pulled out.  Plus a pointed end for easy insertion.

These beads are made from high quality silicone so can be sterilized before and after use.  Use with a water based lube only.

Crystal Delight Kitty Medallion Plug for Glamour Puss Dykes

Then we have the ultimate in anal bling with Crystal Delight’s Kitty Medallion Pink Butt Plug for Glamour Puss Dykes. Yeah, sorry about the pink 😉

Created out of beautifully handcrafted glass, this pleasure purroduct is available in either clear or pink, and features a stunning image of a Kitty in rhinestones on the base. This saucy Kitty toy comes with her very own handcrafted pouch for storage and travel.

Sex & Mischief Feather Slapper for Bambi-sexuals

Perhaps your sexual fantasies are more along the lines of a bit of slap and tickle?  Well, Sex and Mischief from Sportsheets has you covered with this Feather Slapper.

This slapper features a sturdy crop for lusty smacks on one end, and a luxurious soft featured tickler on the other end, to tease and ease the blows.

Pro Tip: Use a blindfold to keep her guessing about what is coming next!

Red Dragon 5 Piece Satin Bondage Set for BullDyke Tops and Fairy Lady Bottoms

This Red Dragon 5 Piece Satin Bondage Set by XR Brands is to die for.  I just love the sensual and elegant Asian design reminiscent of Geisha and ancient courtesans.

This is definitely a playful love slave set, rather than a hardcore bondage kit, meant to be used to seduce your lover with sensory play and tease her to exquisite orgasm.

Made of silky satin with easy to use Velcro closures and corset style laces.

Pocket Dungeon Kit for U-haul Lesbians

The Pocket Dungeon Kit is one of the coolest BDSM toys ever invented.  It has EVERYTHING your need to create an experienced bondage or D/s play scene… all in one, teeny-tiny little kit made out of napa leather.  So, yes, perfect for U-haul lesbians!

The Kit includes:

  • Benyi Jou Kubton: A unique, versatile tool that is a telescoping, multiple sensation toy to be used with its multiple attachments.
  • Cane: Tuck the poles into each other to increase the weight for more options in sensations go from light sting, to heavy thud.
  • Riding Crop: Slide the pole into the tube at the bottom of the leather crop tip attachment for lots of fun with your pony or princess.
  • Ball Chain Flogger: six 4 inches stainless steel falls of sensuous chain.
  • Leather Flogger: six 5 inches soft suede tendrils of luscious leather.
  • Benyi Bull Whip: 20 inches Adjustable leather fall with a 5 inches nylon cracker.
  • Two Cotter Cuffs: Very comfortable adjustable leather cuffs that when secured with the cotter buttons allow you to attach wrists to each other or to the door jams. The cotter cuffs come with two options for securing: padlocks or carabineers.
  • Two Door Jams: Leather straps with D-rings attached, to secure your lover to a door frame and allows their body to become your canvas to play with.
  • Two Light bombers: These flashlights have been included to keep the door jams in any door, and to give you light options of red and white.
  • Blindfold: You have the option of eyes open or closed with this custom designed, cushioned, leather blindfold.
  • Knife: Used for sensory play.
  • Five Claws: Adjustable 5 stainless steel claws slip easily on the fingertips leaving your finger flesh exposed. Now your play can range from loving strokes to lightning strikes!

Under the Bed Restraint System for Femme Dommes and SAMs

As far as restraints go, the Under the Bed Restraint System by Sportsheets is a #1 bestseller.  It is portable, easy to set up and use, and will transform any bed in to a sexy bondage dungeon.  Great for travel!

You can also use theses restraints to enable various sex positions for exciting new ways to have sex.

Pro Tip: For SAMs (Smart Ass Masochists) use with a ball gag!

Mystim Pure Vibes eStim Unit for Kikis

Not many couples are into electro-stimulation.  I think this is because they’ve never heard of electro-sex, they don’t know what it is, or they fear it.

But with Mystim’s Pure Vibes eStim Unit, there is really nothing to fear, because it is completely safe to use.*

The kit creates an “electric” current through the skin that can be mild and tickling to an abrupt intense zap.

Use the digital controller with 2 channels to change the intensity, speed and rhythm of the pulses.

The Mystic also sells several attachments including dildos, vibes, anal plugs and more, for electo-sizzling sex! Check out these Magic Gloves (shown above)!

*Warning: Current must never flow through the heart. Do not use if you have a pacemaker, are pregnant, if you suffer from epilepsy, or on any broken or inflamed skin.

King Cock Deluxe Inflatable Vibrating Hot Seat for Strum Queens

If you want to get a toy that will guarantee hours of fun and orgasms, then the King Cock Deluxe Inflatable Vibrating Hot Seat is for you.

Basically, it is a bouncing toy for adults, that features a large (choose between 6” or 8”) vibrating dildo on top to insert and bounce upon.

I know what your mind is thinking…  “Yehaw, ride em cowgirl, giddy up!”

Yes, indeed.  Your sexy bouncing stallion awaits.  Plus hours of fun for your lover too, as they watch you self-pleasure on your lively stud. Or visa-versa.

Be careful though, this toy could be addictive.
*Hot Seat holds up to 300 pounds.


So, that’s it for my round-up of the 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians for today.  If you missed last week’s other 10 Best Sex Toys for REAL Lesbians it is here.

Check out all these toys and more at our shop for REAL lesbians and their friends!

The 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians—Part 1

The L Word

So, Cosmo put out the “11 Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Couples” last week.  Some of the choices were good, and then some of them… well, I wonder if they actually test the toys before recommending them?  No offense, but a jelly rubber (PVC) double-dildo is something you see in so called “lesbian” porn movies which are based on male fantasies and don’t even feature real lesbians in them.

So, I wanted to make a list for REAL lesbians, you know like those in “the ‘Real’ L Word” or the movie “Bound”.  Something two cis-female lovers would use together to enhance their sex lives.  And, yes, I did try all these toys, just in case you are interested, and yes, many of them with a female partner.  Thanks for asking and checking up on my research!

So here is the first 10 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians and Their Real Lesbian Lovers for the Best Real Lesbian Sex Ever.  Part 2 (coming next week) will have the next 10, so stay tuned!

Okay, let’s get to the toys, shall we?

Lube for Slippery Queer as Sex Peeps

Yes, lube is my number one recommendation for all queer and non-queer peeps. While lube is not literally a sex toy, per se, it is one of the most important sexual tools you can use to get all juicy for any kind of sex.  For cis-women, the kind of lube you use is especially important because we want to keep our beautiful vulvas (and vaginas) moisturized, without adding harsh chemicals or messing with the delicate flora that keeps our vaginas healthy and happy.  Also, penetrative sex toys like dildos tend to be drying, so you will want to use lots of female-friendly water based lube with toys to keep the penetration slippery and sexy.

I have reviewed Aloe Cadabra Natural Aloe personal lubricant before and I champion it every time I can because it is simply the best lube EVER, at least IMHO, and I have tried 100s of lubes.

Aloe Cadabra is 95% organic aloe, enriched with vitamin E, and is free of parabens, glycerin, and petrochemicals. It is one of the most all-natural, body-safe lubricants you can buy without making your own from scratch.

A Lipstick Clitoral Sucker for Lipstick Lesbians

The Womanzier 2Go is an Orgasm on the Go.  I have reviewed the Womanizer’s clitoral sucking vibes before where I called them the “crack cocaine of sex toys [because] they are seriously addictive… [and] most effective orgasmic clit-blasting pleasure toy ever made.”

Well, the Womanizer 2Go has all the features of the larger versions, but in a small, discreet little package.  I mean, how cute is that thing?

The Womanizer 2Go works without touching the clitoris. Instead, it surrounds the clitoris and sucks it into the device with “Pleasure Air Technology”, which stimulates via pulsating pressure waves.  Let’s just say, 1 minute orgasm anyone?  And, yes you can have multiple orgasm with this sucker too, for an entire night of orgasmic delight.

Made using phthalate free materials Silicone, ABS plastic. Waterproof. 6 intense vibrations levels. USB rechargeable. Run time 4 hours. Charge time 2 hours. Colors: White, Gold. Made in Germany.

Double Trouble for Dual Penetration Androgynous Lovemaking

Okay, so I made fun of double dildos above, because seriously, I’ve never seen anyone outside of porn movies actually use one.  However, if you did want to try a double dildo, I recommend one made out of body-safe materials, like these borosilicate glass wands, called the Crystal Collection Eclipse.

Why glass?  Glass is one of the best materials for penetrative sex toys if you want to stimulate the G-spot, because it is hard and applies deep pressure to the G-spot area.  The G-spot, for most women, enjoys deep, firm rubbing or penetration into the G-spot itself.  Also, glass is non-porous so can’t harbor bacteria, can be sterilized, and is totally body safe, so perfect for sharing.

Also, this wand has a nice curve which makes hitting the G-spot much easier, and features a rounded bulb on each end, to massage the G-spot with.  It is 8” in length so can be used with a partner as the average G-spot is 1”-2” inside the vagina.  Rather than pushing in and out with this dildo, you and your partner would rock it (like a see-saw) up and down to press into the G-spot and massage it to orgasm.

Glass toys can also be used in water-sex-play scenarios, and can be cooled or warmed for temperature play.

Sounds pretty hot to me!

Strapless Strap Ons for Penetrative Sex for Bicurious and Bisexual Babes

There are strap-ons and then there are strapless strap-ons.  Confused yet?

Strapless strap-ons are strap-ons that don’t use straps or a harness to hold the dildo in place.  Instead, the are designed somewhat like a double dildo with two penetrative ends: an egg-shaped bulb that is worn by the Top, or penetrator, and a longer phallic shaped dildo that is used to penetrate the bottom, or receiver.

The Feeldoe made by Tantus is one of the most popular types of strapless strap-ons and, when used solo, works great for G-spot stimulation, especially if you are massaging the cock back a forth like a man masturbates.  Once inserted, the Feeldoe acts like an extension of your body, basically a faux penis, as it molds so completely to the curves of the vagina and vulva, so feels more intuitive when used in strap-on sex with another partner.  It is easier to guide it into your lover, and feel the motion and rhythm of sex.

Tantus dildos are made in the USA from the highest quality silicone you can get, so are one of the best and safest sex toy materials on the market.

Magic Wand Rechargeable for Powerful Orgasms on Baby Dykes

Magic Wand Rechareable

In just about every round-up review I do, I include the Magic Wand Rechargeable.

Why?  Because it is that versatile and is the most powerful massager on the market.  For cis-women, that means more orgasms, because 70% of women get off on clitoral stimulation, rather than penetration.

In fact, I have a very good friend (incidentally, she is a Baby Dyke) who can’t orgasm from any other toy, but the Magic Wand.  Betty Dodson also helped 1000s of women find their orgasms during the 1970s using the Magic Wand as her tool of choice and she still champions it today.

Sure, I could recommend another shinier, newer, prettier massager, but the truth is, the Magic Wand Rechargeable works and is reliable. I have used fakes, rip-offs and other types of massagers only to have them break down, wear out, or just not be as powerful as the “original”.  The Rechargeable is my go-to vibe for quick tension release orgasms, and I call mine “O, Come Yee Old Faithful”.  LOL.  I had to put a holiday pun in here somewhere.

Boy Boxer Briefs for Packing a Faux Penis for Chapstick Lesbians and Dykes

The Strap U Mod Strap-On Harness with O Ring is a pair of stylist boy shorts like men’s boxer briefs that houses an O Ring for strap-on play and packing.  Made from a cotton-spandex blend, these shorts are super comfortable and you just feel very suave-sexy wearing them as you tune into your masculine energy.  They feel like you are just wearing underwear, because… well you are… except you can insert your favorite packing dildo to wear under your 501 button-up jeans and it will stay in place.

The O Ring stretches to accommodate most sized dildos with a flat base.  The elastic waistband is thick and strong so will support the weight of your strap-on, and allows for greater mobility and position versatility.

Machine washable. Sizes M/L and L/XL. Materials Cotton, spandex, rubber. Color Black. Note dildo not included.

Finger Dildo for Finger Banging G-spot Orgasms for Pillow Queens and their Lovers

The Simple and True Extra Touch Finger Dong (say that 3 times fast!), is a finger dildo that works like an extension of your hand for fingering fun.  It is curved to reach the G-spot and long enough to hit the deep spot way inside the vagina.

If you have ever fingered someone, you will know how hard it is to keep up the stamina without getting cramps.  This extension allows you to bang away without fatigue or cramping so is ideal for Pillow Queens, or more essentially, their Lovers, since they are doing all the work!

This toy fits your finger like a glove, and is flexible to give that perfect come-hither motion that produces G-spot squirting orgasms.

Made of body-safe silicone, you don’t have to worry about nasty phthalates or yucky chemical additives in your sex toy. One size fits most.

(Incidentally, a Pillow Queen is someone who likes to be on the receiving end of sex, being pleasured yet not reciprocating.  Basically a selfish “bottom”.)

The Muse for GenderQueer Femmes

The Muse vibrator is an awesome clitoral stimulator for GenderQueers, Femmes and just about anyone who has a clit.  But it is kind of cute and girly, so perfect for feminine queer folk.

What is so awesome about the Muse?  Well, aside for the 10 function vibrations, it has these rabbit ears that snuggle the clitoris from both sides (or top/bottom, whatever you prefer) to give you crazy clitoral stimulation and amaze-balls orgasms.

Use it as a foreplay tool, or during g-spot fingering and/or anal play for blended orgasms.

Made of body-safe silicone, is waterproof for shower and bath play and rechargeable. Available in Black, Pink, Red and Purple.

Max Twist Triplets Nipple and Clit Suckers for Tit Kings

If you and your partner are into breast play and nipple “torture” or stimulation, then you may want to try out XR Brands Size Matters Twisted Triplets Nipple and Clit Suckers.  Personally, I like to call them the “Twisted Sisters”.

These babies can provide mild to extreme suction (so use with care), to suck the nipple deep inside the clear cylinders 4” in length.  Easy to use, these suckers don’t need a pump.  They produce suction with a simple twist of the tightening key at the top.

Lube around nipples and/or clitoris for a smooth strong seal and twist top to vacuum to secure in place, sucking your sensitive flesh inside.  Makes nipples and clitoris increase in sensitivity with blood flow.

Fifty Shades Darker Adrenaline Spikes Metal Pinwheel for BullDyke Butches

Okay, so I couldn’t end this review without adding at least one Fifty Shades product into the mix.  It seems that the Fifty Shades brand by LoveHoney makes something for everyone, including lesbians and dykes.  And, while I am not a fan of the books, the toys are well-made and great for beginners who want to experiment with kinkier play.

This “Adrenaline Spikes Pinwheel” is from the “Darker” series and is your average Wartenberg wheel made out of metal featuring 22 spokes on a little wheel.  While it looks dangerous, and could be nasty if used the with force, it is mainly used for erotic stimulation and sensory play.  The little spikes don’t really hurt unless you press them hard, but rather tickle and tingle the area you are stimulating.  Greats for nipples, and other sensitive erogenous zones.

If you do use them with force they will dig in and leave a trails of tiny pricks in the skin, so be forewarned. Designed for couples of all kinds. Comes with a satin storage bag. Logo etched on handle.


So, that’s it for my round-up of the 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians for today.  Stay tuned until next week when I feature Part 2 and then next 10 toys.

Incidentally, if you want to purchase any of these products (or the 50K variations we have in stock!) go to and take a look around!


This review is meant to be sardonic.  I don’t actually endorse the use of stereotypes or labels. Their use in this review is in fun and to show the “diversity” of the sex toys that “real” gay women could use. And, no offense to the movie “Bound”, the TV show “The L Word” or Cosmo Magazine who may have been criticized by others in the past for glamorizing authentic lesbian culture.

Thanks to these sources for lesbian slang usage and terms:

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Last Minute Sexy Shopping Guide – Sexy Stocking Stuffers

Ho, ho, ho!  The holidays are coming and we only have a few days left before the last shopping day online (Dec 10th for standard US shipping), in order to get your gifts to you by December 24th. So, if you are looking for those last-minute gifts, then this guide is for you!

If you missed the Top 5 Sex Toys for Men it is here and the Top 5 Sex Toys for Women Holiday Gift Guide is here. Check out our full Sex Toy Holiday Guide here in our store.

Top Ten Sexy Products for Stocking Stuffers

Eye of Love Pheromone Perfumes

I recently reviewed the Eye of Love Pheromone Perfumes here where I tell you all about pheromones and how they work. In my review I said, “I would highly recommend them if you are into scents, as they are evocative, sensual and provoke a desirable ambiance.  I feel sexy just wearing them!… Plus, the scents did evoke a sensual/sexual response and seemed to arouse the senses, and they appear to work well to set the mood for lovemaking.”

So if you would like to experiment with pheromones and your sensual sense of smell, I recommend trying the Eye of Love products, as they are high quality scents designed in France and last a long time.  Plus, you can get them in sample size packages, so you can try them out without investing a lot to see which ones you like best!  Great for stocking stuffers too.

Buy Eye of Love here

Screaming O Vibrating Cock Rings

Screaming O is the name in vibrating cock rings.  When I worked at Night Magic, a brick and mortar sex toy shop many moons ago, Screaming O vibrating rings sold like penny candy in a corner store.  Why are they still hot sellers?  Because they are a toy that couples can try together and both can receive stimulation during partnered sex.  Even if they have never tried sex toys before, these cock rings are not in the least intimidating, so perfect for novices.  And, LBGTQ folk can use them too, with a faux penis or strap-on.

Buy Screaming O Vibrating Cock Rings

Feather Ticklers

Oooh, feather ticklers are so much fun to play with.  And they come in different varieties, from feathers, to fur, to faux fur, to create different sensations on the body.  I love ticklers because they are amazing for sensation play while using a blindfold, and a great way to get into kinkier sex play without going extreme.  Plus, they make a great cat toy, LOL!  They make a perfect stocking stuffer because they are fairly cheap to buy and are sensual and sexy!

Buy Feather Ticklers

Nipple Nibblers

I first tried Nipple Nibblers years ago at a sex toy home party and I bought a stash.  They have menthol in them so create a tingling sensation on the nipples, clitoris or head of a penis.  Most are tingling, but they also have cooling varieties as well.  I found they really work well at heightening sensation on your various erogenous zones, and they also work great as a lip balm, to make your lips fuller, plumper and more “perky”.  Oh, ya, they do that to your nipples too!

Buy Nipple Nibblers

Bondage Kits

With the whole Fifty Shades phenomena, bondage is becoming very popular with couples.  So, bondage kits are a great add-on to your current toy collection, whether you are just trying them out for the first time, or are a pro.  Kits are designed for a diverse range of interests, from soft and sensual to hardcore and extreme.  We have all the Fifty Shades kits from Darker to Freed, as well as Dr. Ava’s How To Couples Instructional BDSM Kit , which includes an instructional video with Dr. Ava and two couples to show you the ins and outs of bondage play.

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Gift Sets

If you are not sure what to get your lover, a gift set is always a great choice.  We carry everything from massage oil kits, to bath and body, Kama Sutra, sex toy play kits, and even kits with cuddly teddy bears in them!  This is my favorite time of year to get great deals on lots of bath and body products I love such as Earthly Body, and their Miracle Oil Shampoo & Conditioner Pack.

Buy Gift Sets

Sexy Games

Games are always a fun choice when it comes to the holidays.  What better way to spend a few days off with your loved one (and friends) playing some sensual, sexy or fun drinking games, or using naughty coupons or sexy playing cards. We carry 1000s of games including Games for Lovers and Party Games as well, including this World’s Most Ridiculous Drinking Games  game.  Okay… Sounds like fun!  Drink responsibly people!

Buy Sexy Games

Erotic Books

If you are looking for  a way to indulge yourself for the holidays and get away for a mini play-cation solo style, maybe an erotic book would be more your speed.  Choose from a variety of best-sellers including all the Fifty Shades books (you know you wanna!), Best Lesbian Erotica and Best Gay Erotica 2017, and more.

Or, if non-fiction is more your vice, and you want to learn some new sexy tricks, try on Dr. Ava Cadell’s Sexy Little Book Of Oral Pleasure, The Anal Pleasure and Health book, Curvy Girl Sex book by Elle Chase and lots more.

Buy Erotic Books


Most women love lingerie and most guys love looking at her wearing it.  So, lingerie makes for a perfect gift that both partners will enjoy.  Lingerie comes in so many styles from baby dolls, to corsets, teddies to sleep and lounge wear.  Perfect, for there is something for every women to feel good and look great in, no matter what her body shape.  We also carry sexy wear for guys and transgender wear as well!

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Jiggle jewels, jiggle jewels! Jewelry is a traditional holiday gift, but why not make it sexy too! At we also carry lots of sexy jewelry including clitoral gems, non-piercing nipple dangly jewels, bracelets, necklaces and body jewelry.

Buy Jewelry

Check out our full Sex Toy Holiday Guide here in our store.

Top Ten Sex Toys for Creating Your Own Fifty Shades of Grey Fantasy—Part Two

Bondage and impact play used to be very taboo. But, since the launch of E.L. James’ erotic trilogy, women everywhere are looking for ways to bring the fantasies in the books into their own bedrooms. Read on to discover the top five sex toys you can use to spice up your sex life as used by Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey as well as, ideas on what to do with them and how to use them safely.  If you missed last week’s post “Top Ten Sex Toys for Creating Your Own Fifty Shades of Grey Fantasy—Part One” it is here.


“He reaches down, lifts my chin, and plants a soft wet kiss on my lips before slipping the blindfold over my eyes. I can see nothing, all I can hear is my rapid breathing and the sound of the water lapping against the sides of the yacht as she bobs gently on the sea. Oh my. I am so aroused… already.” – Anastasia Steele

Blindfolds are considered “light” bondage and are quite popular with many couples who may not be interested in other kinky activities.  Removing the sense of sight allows all your other senses to become heightened and erotically charged.  Blindfolds let you escape your inhibitions and delve more into the fantasy.  A favorite erotic fantasy for many is to blindfold your lover and feed them aphrodisiacs (remember the movie “9 ½ Weeks”?).  Or try rubbing “sensation play” materials over your lover’s skin while they are blindfolded.  Fur, silk, feathers and of course ice, can all be used to complete your Fifty Shades fantasy.  Blindfolds are perfect for playful foreplay and bring an element of suspense to your lovemaking.

This Fifty Shades pair of satin blindfolds are soft, luxurious and lightly padded with soft faux fur material on the inside for added comfort.

Bondage Restraints

” I am naked and shackled, spread-eagled on a large four poster bed. Collapsing on top of me, I feel his full weight forcing me into the mattress. I pull my tied hands over his neck and hold him the best I can. I know in that moment that I would do anything for this man. I am his.” – Anastasia Steele

Hands cuffs, soft rope, bondage tape and even silk ties are all various types of restraints.  Restraints permit the “good girl” to let go sexually with more abandon as she does so “beyond her control”.  Imagine being tied to a bed and ravished, submitting to your secret inner desires, like the sex object you’ve always wanted to be.  If you are lucky, you may even awaken your inner Goddess as Anastasia did in the book.  Real metal hand cuffs are very hard and not recommended for beginners.  Instead, try neoprene hand cuffs with Velcro for easy fastening, or silk restraints.  Just make sure not to make the restraints too tight.  Two fingers between the cuffs and the skin is a good guide.  Also, never restrain someone around the neck, but you can use “slave” collars for this purpose.

The Fifty Shades Keep Still Over the Bed Cross Restraint Kit are the most popular type of restraints, as you can turn your bed into a bondage boudoir.  The quality wrist and ankle cuffs feature a soft satin exterior, with the inside lined with faux fur for a truly comfortable experience. Fastened by secure, adjustable Velcro, the cuffs are simple for a partner to secure and remove, yet provide a highly effective restraint tool for the wearer.  Fits a double bed, easy to assemble.

Feather Tickler

“Christian trails the soft feathers over my stomach and breasts as I become captured by my desire, needing more and more. He continues to tease my naked skin, smirking with each titillating stroke.” – Ana Steele

Sensation Play.  Other ways to arouse your lover’s senses including using feathers, fur and sensation play toys. Ticklers are a fun way to explore erotic sensation play, with your partner bound and blindfolded of course, to keep them in suspense.  Try this Tease Feather Tickler with a soft plume of erotic feathers to awaken your partner’s erogenous zones, some of which they didn’t even know existed.


“Do you want me to spank you, Anastasia?” says Christian Grey.  “Yes!” My voice is a hoarse whisper. Suddenly there are butterflies in my stomach. Perhaps this is what I need… this is what I have been missing. I surrender myself to his rhythm, absorbing each blow, savoring each one. – Ana Steele

Spanking is another erotic fantasy that many adults share, whether you are “kinky” or not.  Paddles are a good introduction for those interested in trying spanking for the first time.  Many are made of soft, pliable materials such as suede and some are even lined with fur.  This allows the one giving the spanking to slowly build up through sensation play, rubbing the soft material against the exposed posterior before a playful smack, while the one receiving the spanks can get used to the sensation.  To ensure that both partners get the most out of the experience, spanking should always start with a slow build up.  Start by kneading and rubbing the bottom to awaken the nerve endings, then start with soft spanks on the apple of the cheek (or sweet spot) and always gauge your lover’s response.  Continue to massage the bottom as a distraction, in-between spanks as well, to allow them to digest the pain and eroticize it into pleasure.

The Twitchy Palm paddle is softly padded satin on one side and firm faux leather on the other, to offer dual sensation, softer or thuddier impacts.


“I will use this. It will not hurt, but it will bring your blood to the surface of your skin and make you very sensitive.” – Christian Grey

In the book Anastasia is aroused almost instantly by the sight of a flogger.  A flogger is an impact play toy with a handle and several tails, usually made of soft suede or leather.  The soft tassels can be used to drag over the bound submissive to tickle and tease them.  While blindfolded, the scent of the leather can also be intoxicating.  Beginning enthusiasts should be careful using any impact toy for the first time.  Make sure not to hit the spine while “whipping” your lover into submission, and try to hit your target directly rather than allowing the fronds to wrap around the body as this can cause a nasty sting.  The buttocks, breasts, upper back, genitals and inner thighs are ideal places to flog, but do so gently, and always monitor your partner’s responses.  Make sure to mix up the rhythm of the strokes as well as pressure to heighten sexual pleasure.

Perfectly sized for travel, this Fifty Shades Please Sir shortened flogger whip is halfway between a genital flogger and a full-sized flogger, making it ideal for delivering delicious stings to any part of your lover’s body.


“This feels different than the last time—so carnal, so … necessary. He caresses my behind with his long-fingered hands, and I’m helpless, trussed up and pressed into the mattress, at his mercy, and of my own free will. He hits me again, slightly to the side, and again, the other side, then pauses slowly as he peels my panties down and pulls them off. He gently trails his palm across my behind again before continuing my spanking. I surrender myself to the rhythm of blows, absorbing each one, savoring each one … I moan loudly as my body takes over, and I come and come, convulsing around his fingers.” – Ana Steele

Crops are a bit stingier in terms of impact play toys.  However, they are easier to wield and perfect for hitting smaller, targeted areas, like the genitals or the breasts.  A good rule of thumb is it hit yourself with any impact toy first to see how it feels, before hitting your partner.  This way you can measure how hard you can hit before pleasure becomes pain.  Remember, impact play is not about pain, per se, it is a fine line that dances on the edge of pleasure and pain, thus adding more excitement and sensation to your lovemaking experience.  So, don’t go whack-happy on your partner, and always make sure not to exceed their limits for tolerance.

The Strict Leather Short Riding Crop is a classic design and very well made and sturdy. It is accented with attractive detailing on the rubber handle. Crisscrossed with elegant corset-style bands, the black contrast stripes enhance the visual appeal as well as your grip. The springy shaft is made of durable plastic covered with woven fabric. The genuine leather tip is a rounded paddle shape, bound in place with black thread.


Unlike Anastasia and Christian’s relationship, which is fictional, when playing with real people remember to communicate, set limits (and a safe word) and play safe.

The most important part when trying something new during sex is to communicate your desires to your partner and to set limits and expectations.  While something may sound great as a fantasy, in the real world you may find it is not your cup of tea.  With most of these types of play there is also a right way and a wrong way to do things. So learn as much as you can about an activity before trying it, and remember practice makes perfect.  If you are interested in getting more serious about BDSM play, try to find a group near you where you and your partner can take workshops on what interests you.  And, finally, remember this is about pleasure and making your sex life sizzle, so play safe and have fun.  It’s time to get orgasmic!

Shop the Fifty Shades Pleasure Collection HERE!

Black Friday Cyber Week Sale & Gift Guide

Top Sexy Holiday Gift Guide for Everyone

Welcome to’s Sexy Holiday Gift Guide for everyone!  Shop NOW for up to 50% Off everything in our sexy Sexpert Store.

For Couples

Here are our top picks for Couple’s Toys and what we love about them!

Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload Kit

Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload Kit has everything you need to encourage new, sensual exploits together and is the perfect introduction for beginners who want to try sensual bondage, sensation play, and naughty domination games.

Tiani 3 Couples Massager

The Tiani 3 Couples Massager is designed to be worn internally by her during partnered sex, and is wireless remote controlled for ease of operation and hands-free pleasure for new heights of intimate intensity during lovemaking.

Nuru Massage Kit

The Nuru Massage Kit by Wet. For erotic nude sensual massage and the ultimate slippery sex.

Kama Sutra Love Lights Massage Candle Trio Kits

The Kama Sutra Love Lights Massage Candle Trio Kit sets the mood for a romantic evening in with 3 sensual massage candles to awaken all your senses at once for a romantic journey to remember.

The Trinity 360 Degree Spinning Sex Swing

The Trinity 360 Degree Spinning Sex Swing is perfect for achieving challenging sex positions for deeper penetrative sex and is sure to spice up your love life.

For Women

Our top picks for Women’s Toys and what we love about them.

The Magic Wand Original and Magic Wand Rechargeable

The most powerful large intimate massager on the market, the Magic Wand is old reliable.

Even better than its plug-in sister, the new Magic Wand Rechargeable is cordless, rechargeable, has 2 speeds and 4 vibrating patterns, plus new smooth silicone head.

The Womanizer

The Womanizer is the “crack cocaine of sex toys” because it is “seriously addictive.”  The most effective orgasmic clit-blasting sucking pleasure toy ever made that will make you come in 1 minute or less.

Original Pocket Rocket

The Original Pocket Rocket is the “best selling mini massager in the world”, the Pocket Rocket is very powerful, for something so small and discreet.

Mona Wave

Mona Wave has a pivot point inside of it that allows it to curl up and down in a “come hither” fashion much like your fingers when used for G-spot stimulation.  Wildly stimulating for G-spot orgasms.

For Men

And, finally, our top sex toys for Men and what we love about these toys.

Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit STU Value Pack

The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is designed for men who want to increase stamina in the bedroom with their partner.

Tenga Flip 0 Zero Stroker

The Tenga Flip 0 Zero Stroker features a strong vacuum and intense stimulation with rippled interior for extra sensation, and the “end orb” stimulates the head of the penis from all angles.

Hugo Black Prostate Massager

Hugo is “the most powerful orgasm known to man… with the potential to increase the size and intensity of the male climax by 33%…”

Hydromax Xtreme X40 Hydropump Clear

Easy, sensual pumping with water instead of air, for the maximum in comfortable enlargement.

Optimale Rechargeable Vibrating C Ring

Featured in Cosmo, Bustle and Refinery29 as “best couple’s sex toy” the Optimale has 7 powerful settings (3 speeds and 4 patterns) and multiple design features to optimize partnered sex.

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Check out our full Sex Toy Holiday Guide here in our store.

Top 5 Sexy Holiday Gifts for Couples Guide

Okay, sexy peeps, here is our “Top 5 Sexy Holiday Gifts for Couples Guide” so you can enjoy a hot and sexy holiday with your lover!

If you missed the Top 5 Sex Toys for Men it is here and the Top 5 Sex Toys for Women Holiday Gift Guide is here. Check out our full Sex Toy Holiday Guide here in our store.

Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload 10 Days Of Pleasure

couples sex toysThe third installment of the ‘Fifty Shades‘ trilogy movies, “Fifty Shades Freed” is scheduled to be released February 9th, 2018, just in time for Valentine’s Day.  But, you don’t have to wait that long to get your Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload Kit (is there such a thing as too much pleasure?) for 10 days of passionate, between the sheets, sexy time with your love.

The Fifty Shades Freed 10 days of pleasure gift box has everything you need to keep it hot during those long winter nights. Tantalizing mystery doors—designed to be opened each day like a Christmas calendar—reveal a new sexual adventure, uncovering sensual pleasure toys and bondage play accessories with items for him, her and both of you to enjoy. This extra-sensory gift is designed to encourage new, sensual exploits together and is the perfect introduction for beginners who want to try sensual bondage, sensation play, and naughty domination games.  The Fifty Shades Freed luxury pleasure gift set includes a small pleasure flogger, satin blindfold, feather tickler, silicone mini butt plug, vibrating c-ring, weighted nipple clamps, 10 function bullet vibrator, silicone Ben Wa style Jiggle Balls and silken restraints.

Get The Fifty Shades Freed Kit HERE.

Tiani 3 Couples Massager

The Tiani 3 Couples Massager is designed to be worn internally by her during partnered sex, and is wireless remote controlled for ease of operation and hands-free pleasure.  The SenseMotion™ remote pad allows you to adjust the intensity with the flick of a wrist.  Tiana is U-shaped, and each end features dual-motor powerful vibration to stimulate her clitoris externally, as well as internally massage her G-spot, while transmitting pleasure the whole way along his length while you make love.  The vibrations elevate the sensations for both partners at the same time and offers a fuller, comfortable, more substantial feeling, for new heights of intimate intensity during lovemaking.

The Tiani 3 bends and flexes to suit all body shapes for a luxuriously comfortable fit.  It is waterproof, made from body-safe silicone, and rechargeable.

Inside the sleek black sexy storage box you will find the Tiani 3 Couples Massager, Wireless remote controller, Charger Set, Satin storage pouch, Warranty Registration Card (1-Year Warranty and 10 Year Guarantee) plus Detailed Instruction Manual. Takes 2 AAA batteries for remote, not included.  Available in black, pink and purple.

Get The Tiana 3 HERE.

Wet Nuru Massage Kit

Do you Nuru?  Introducing the Nuru Massage Kit by Wet.

What is even better than an erotic massage?  A nude erotic massage where you slide over your lover’s body with slippery oil and massage them with your sensual body parts!

Seriously, if you haven’t tried slippery sex before, you definitely should add it to your sexy bucket list.  It is a BLAST!  Wildly sexy and erotic, it is also fun (yes you may end up with a case of the giggles), super sensual (everything just feels so much better when you are slathered in warm slippery oil sliding over each other), and hot!

Nuru is a style of massage that originated in Japan. It is a sensual massage between partners using full body contact to relax the body and stimulate mutual sexual appetite. The massage is done with both partners fully nude, using a thick, ultra slippery massage gel.

Warning!  Slippery sex can be very messy, so wear your hair up if you have long hair, don’t get it on your face unless you like racoon eyes (or don’t wear make-up) and make sure to use the king-sized plastic bed sheet to cover your bed.

Wet® Nuru™ Massage Gel is made in the USA with the highest quality ingredients, featuring pure water based gel with moisturizing Aloe Vera, Seaweed and Grapeseed Extract and as well as soothing Chamomile Flower extract.  These formulas are designed for long lasting play, plus it is clear, odorless, tasteless, and non-staining.  This is massage gel, so is not intended for intimate play, but it is water-based so should be safe against your vulva.  It does contain glycerin however, which is a sugar, so if you are prone to yeast infections keep it away from the vagina (internally). Easily washes away with warm water. The Kit comes with 1 Wet Nuru body on body massage gel concentrate, 1 Wet Nuru massage sheet that fits up to California King, and 1 Instructional DVD.

Seriously, if you want to try something new, exciting, sensual and fun with your partner, then a Nuru massage is the perfect way to heat things up in the bedroom this winter.  Watch the video for sensual ideas on how to Nuru!

Get The Nuru Massage Kit HERE.

Love Lights Massage Candle Trio Set

The Kama Sutra Love Lights Massage Candle Trio Kit sets the mood for a romantic evening in with 3 sensual massage candles that softly illuminate, smell delicious, and can be used as warming massage oil, to ignite your senses in 3 ways.  Add in soft music and sensual edible delights, and awaken all your senses at once for a romantic journey to remember.

Ignite the flames of passion with this tropical trio of petite massage candles formulated with skin conditioning Coconut Oil, Shea Butter and Vitamin E. These candles are wax free and naturally burn at a low temperature so they won`t burn the skin, and the beautiful container has a convenient pour spout.

How to Use:

Remove lid and trim wick one quarter of an inch before burning. Light and let wick burn until a warm pool of oil forms approximately 5 minutes to 10 minutes. Extinguish the flame and use the pour spout to pour the warm oil onto the skin. Massage the warm, relaxing oil onto the skin with slow, even strokes for a sensual, romantic massage.

Includes 3 petite Massage Candles:

  • Tahitian Sandalwood Candle creamy vanilla with exotic sandalwood.
  • Coconut Pineapple Candle sweet pineapple and creamy coconut.
  • Island Passion Fruit Candle juicy passion fruit, succulent papaya and sweet mango with a hint of crisp melon.

The melted massage oil feels luxurious and creamy when smoothed on the skin, and the exotic fragrances enhance erotic desire.

Paraben and sugar free, as well as vegan. Made in the USA by Kama Sutra.

Get The Kama Sutra Candles Trio Kit HERE.

Trinity 360 Degree Spinning Sex Swing

Kalyana Malla, author of the Ananga-Ranga, an Eastern text that includes the Kama Sutra, believed that couples grow bored of sex with each other because of the lack of varied sexual pleasure and monotony.  The cure, he believed, was a healthy sexual imagination, as well as varying sexual positions.  Yet, many of these sexual positions are extremely difficult to do unless you are a yogi or an aspiring porn star, and the most difficult positions often provide the most stimulation and sexual satisfaction.

So, someone in ancient India got the idea to invent the first sex swing to facilitate different positions.  These swings were pretty crude and expensive by today’s standards and required many attendants to help use them with multiple ropes and pulleys.  They looked more like devices for torture than for pleasure.

Luckily, today sex swings are pretty simple to both set up and use.

Getting a sex swing was one of the best things my partner and I ever did to spice up our sex life.  It is really fantastic, especially for partners who are proportionally challenged (I’m 5’1” and he’s 6’3”), or overweight, or not flexible.  Great for her because she can just lay back and enjoy the ride, and awesome for him because it makes having sex much easier, almost effortless, so he can last much longer and not get winded.

The Trinity 360 Degree Spinning Sex Swing is very well made and super sturdy and holds up to 400lbs (200lbs with spring installed).  It has all the sexy metal hardware you need to screw it into your door jam or ceiling including a huge spring and torque support bar.  The harness is made of strong quality nylon strap with neoprene padding for comfort.  It is pretty easy to install, comes with instructions and takes about 20 minutes to set it up, and then you are ready for fun.  Make sure to install this swing where there is a beam so it will take your weight which can be easily found using a stud finder.  Simply screwing it in the ceiling is not enough.

The spinning sex swing features two padded straps for support, one to sit on, the other to lay back on and a set of padded stir-ups.  It is fairly comfortable and allows you to easily get into positions that your normally wouldn’t be able to without it, such as challenging positions you’ve only dreamed of that offer deeper penetration possibilities.  Plus, the feeling of being weightless while having sex is amazing and it is fun to spin around in as well.

If the Spinning Sex Swing doesn’t spice up your sex life and take away the monotony, then nothing will!

When you are not using the swing, you can hang a pretty plant on the eyelet screw. Wink! Wink!

Materials: Nylon, ABS plastic, Metal.

Get The Trinity Spinning Sex Swing HERE.

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