If women are wondering why they’re not having more orgasms during penetrative sex, (or men are wondering why they’re not giving women orgasms) it comes down to one thing. The clitoris; A.K.A the “happy button,” the “little girl in the pink boat,” or “the pearl in the oyster.” It just wants to be rubbed. Orgasms are not going to magically happen through thrusting penetration alone.
A new study from The Kinsey Institute not only reveals that women need more clitoral stimulation, but reveals how women really liked to be touched to induce orgasms. The study, led by Kinsey’s spectacular sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick and team, was sponsored by OMGYes, and the results were published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy. The study was called “Women’s Experiences with Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results from a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94. Yay 94! It’s never too late ladies!
Researchers asked 1,055 women through online surveys and video chats exactly how they liked their hoo-has touched. 63% said they liked “up and down” motions, 51% said they preferred “circular” touch, and 30% liked “side-to-side.”
Only 18.4% reported that intercourse alone induced orgasm, a statistic that should induce women to tell their lovers to get some finger and tongue action going. One question asked was “For you, what do you think helps some orgasms feel better than others?” which most people never ask the people they are trying to give an orgasm to. Most women preferred “light or medium” touch on the clitoris, with only 10% preferring “firm pressure.” The most popular moves were “a rhythmic motion,” “a motion that circles around the clitoris,” “switching between different motions,” and “switching between more and less intense touch.”
69% of women said they liked “indirect clitoral stimulation” by touching “through the skin above the hood,” 28% “through both lips pushed together (like a sandwich), 20% “through the skin on the right side of your clitoris,” and 19% went with the left side.
Researchers found that “Findings may inform sexuality education as related to pressure in terms of individual differences in genital stimulation, developing a trajectory of sexual pleasure among women.” The study could also “foster greater sexual pleasure as well as expand couple communication. Their advice is to “Go explore and see what you like.” It’s time to get busy on the “little lady” of pleasure. If you’re not sure what does it for you, here are some stroke suggestions from this exciting, orgasmic study: