We often think of sex as an immensely intimate activity between at least two consenting adults. Even when we freely talk about sex, the way our language has so many euphemisms for things that relate to sex tells you about how private it all is despite the openness. Before writing about sex, I never really thought about the idea of people needing help with sex, let alone asking for that help from a trained professional. I figured that it was something that came instinctively, something that you kind of picked up along the way and with trial and error.
I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Do we even really know how to have sex?
Our collective idea of sex has always been heavily influenced (dare I say dictated?) by how Hollywood and TV portrays it. On the other end of it is hardcore pornography setting up unrealistic standards for how sex actually goes with its uncomfortable positions and unusually long erections. Since we can’t all have sex therapists as moms like Otis from Sex Education, all we have are these two sources of information to sort of figure out how to have sex. I mean, the typical sex ed at school didn’t really help either.
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Looking up on these topics on the Internet was often met with a certain tinge of disgrace. Which is totally ridiculous. (Though to be fair, it is kind of funny to type up “how to give a blowjob” on Google.) No one becomes a master lover by reenacting porn in the bedroom. If it weren’t for the sex writers, I think I’d still be cluelessly and irresponsibly feeling my way around my lover’s body. Which is why I want to be one.
Becoming a Sex Writer
Writing about sex isn’t necessarily finding out all the ways that you can spice things up in the bed a la Cosmo or weaving steamy erotica Fifty Shades style, but it definitely sounds like it’s as exciting as it is fulfilling. It surprisingly involves a lot of introspection and research. In combining a psychological and sometimes spiritual understanding of the act of sex, sex writers and coaches can guide you towards a more satisfying sex life.
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What a lot of people don’t realize about sex is that it involves a significant amount of dealing with your own issues. Whether it’s too much guilt over watching too much porn or a deep-seated issue that’s affecting your performance, you’ll find that these things can be easily amended by asking for a little bit of help.
Aside from this, it’s an actual viable career option. Imagine getting paid to help people have better sex, and you get to choose when and how you want to work. Admittedly, it requires a lot of self-branding and it might be a slow start, but once you get the ball rolling you’ll have loyal clients who’ll be recommending your teachings to their friends. Plus, sex on the Internet always sells.
The one big hurdle in my perfect career plan is my personal fear of being an impostor. Sex and helping people with it is as much an art as it is a science, and heaven knows that I’ve only ever had sex my way. I didn’t want to be limited by my own experiences, because that would be boring and leave my insights ungrounded. I don’t want to be just another writer who only ever talks about themselves or someone who rounded up the many kinds of orgasms one can have in a listicle.
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Though there aren’t a lot of colleges or universities that offer Advanced Sexpert training as a degree. So, I was really glad to find that Loveology University made it easy to get certified.
Mastering Sex
Like I said earlier, our usual idea of sex is a sort of gut-feeling that helps us find our flow while we’re in bed. Breaking down the many aspects of sex sounds rather robotic, but looking at how Loveology University’s curriculum is designed makes me realize that this really is how we should be approaching getting better at sex: without any fear of humiliation, only a serious and genuine want to improve.
Stripping sex of the taboo that surrounds it makes it easier to really see it for what it is. It’s an intimate activity that involves very specific aspects, all of which is explored extensively in the Master Sexpert course. Everything from kissing to sex toys to back door play is covered, but what I appreciate the most about the curriculum is its emphasis on establishing safety protocols and boundaries during sex.
This makes me think about how important it is to create a healthy relationship with sex and with your partner/s, despite it being a frustrating and emotionally-taxing process if you didn’t know how to handle it. The course is holistic, telling us that while anyone can learn how to get better at sex, not everyone can have healthy sex.
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Anyone who wants to be a sex writer needs to understand this. Learning from the pros can give you quite the advantage, since it helps you underscore your personal insights and revelations with everything you’ve learned from your mentor. Again, sex is much an art as it is a science. In the same way research helps us move forward by standing on the shoulders of giants, getting certified as a Master Sexpert can help you empower people to enjoy the sex they want to have.
Isn’t that a noble profession?
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Founded in 2007 by Dr. Ava Cadell (Clinical Sexologist and AASECT Certified Sex Counselor), Loveology University (LU) is an online love coach training school that has trained and certified thousands of aspiring coaches worldwide, with our cutting-edge love, sex and relationship coaching programs. LU offers the most comprehensive Love Coach, Master Sexpert and Relationship Coach training programs online, teaching you everything you need to know about love, romance, relationships, intimacy and sexuality so you can to help your clients thrive romantically.
Graduates are eligible to get international accreditation by becoming members of The American College of Sexologists and CE’s towards AASECT https://www.aasect.org/
You can sign up for Loveology University’s cutting-edge courses on their website. They’ve got a special discount on individual and bundled courses right now, so now’s a good time to start earning your Sexpert Certification.
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