The holidays are quickly coming upon us and if you live in the northern hemisphere, that means cold, snow and winter. Winter is traditionally not so sexy. Everyone is bundled up, you tend to have less energy, and the sun sets early making you feel like going to sleep, rather than having sex.
But, there are still ways you can heat up the holidays with some romance and make this the season for sexy fun.
Here is a list of 25 Sexy Ways to Heat Up the Holidays with love, intimacy, romance and of course, hot sex! Instead of the 12 Days of Christmas, think of it as your playful guide to the 25 days of XXXmas sex!
By the way, if you winter down south, you can still apply many of these ideas to your sexy holiday to-do list 😉
Sexy Holiday Scents
To many people, Christmas has a distinct assortment of smells. Scents can be a very powerful way to evoke the feeling of love and even rev up the libido. Spruce and pine and Christmas trees are refreshing scents that reduce stress and make you feel calm. Cinnamon, cloves, ginger and vanilla are spicy sweets scents that are naturally sexy. Vanilla, cinnamon and pumpkin pie spices are natural aphrodisiacs, libido enhancer and the spices of love!
Ways to bring these scents into the home, especially if you don’t have the real thing, include scented candles, essential oils, and potpourri. Or decorate your love den with spruce and pine bows to create a sensual winter retreat.
Pheromones are another way to bring sexy scents into the bedroom.
Pheromones are chemical hormones that are released from the body. These sexual pheromones “arouse and stimulate our senses and signal to the opposite sex our desirability, or readiness to mate… and subconsciously they can trigger a sexual response in the opposite sex.” From my article called: Pheromones – The Scent of Sex.
There are many pheromone products on the market, some unscented and others that are mixed with an erotic fragrance like Eye of Love products, which we have reviewed here on Sexpert before.
These pheromone scents are all delicious using natural arousing scents like vanilla, chocolate, sandalwood, musk, jasmine, and lily, all known aphrodisiacs.
Sexy Holiday Drinks
Other ways to arouse your senses this season is through your taste buds. A great way to celebrate the holidays and share some cheer is with cocktails (or mocktails).
This site has a lot of great ideas for holiday drinks including the Red Stag Dirty Shirley, Peppermint Hot Cocoa, Cinnamon Candy Apple, Whipped Caramel Hot Cocoa, Salted Caramel Martini, and Santa Hat Martini. https://www.brit.co/christmas-hot-drinks-recipes/
Here is my recipe for Naughty XXXmas Eggnog that you can make in a blender!
- 4 large fresh organic eggs
- ½ cup granulated sugar
- ¼ tsp of cinnamon
- ¼ tsp of nutmeg
- 1 ½ cups of milk (use Almond Milk for a rich flavor)
- 1 cup heavy cream
- 6 oz of your choice of spirits (spiced rum, Irish whiskey, cognac)
- 1 oz of peppermint schnapps, mint chocolate or cinnamon Baileys
- 2 cups whipped cream for topping
- 4 cinnamon sticks or peppermint sticks for stir stick and garnish
Add ingredients one by one to a blender and blend until combined. Pour into cocktail glasses and top with whipped cream, a sprinkle of nutmeg or cinnamon and add stir sticks. Enjoy!
Aphrodisiac Hors D’Oeuvres
One of my favorite romantic treats for the holidays is to put together a plate of Aphrodisiac Hors D’Oeuvres to stimulate the senses.
Try cheese and crackers, smoked oysters, olives, hot peppers, strawberries dipped in chocolate, avocado slices, baked garlic cloves, baked asparagus dip, crab dip, smoked salmon and cream cheese, baked brie with sliced almonds, and small dill pickles. Serve with red wine or champagne.
Check out our Loveology course on Aphrodisiacs.
So, we’ve gone through a few of the senses: smell and taste, but let’s not forget sight! Sexy lingerie is a great way to dress up (or down) for the holidays, and slip into something a little more sensual. This is especially true if you don’t wear lingerie very much. The holidays can be a good excuse to try out a new sexy outfit, just because, to indulge yourself, make you feel sexy and give your lover some naughty eye candy.
There are lots of different types of sexy wear, from sensual baby dolls and corsets, to clubwear and fetish wear, and sleep and lounge wear. Of course, red is a hot color for the holidays, but just a sexy little black dress can be more classic and sophisticated. Or how about a pair of high heels and just a big red ribbon? Maybe you are the present under the tree this year!
Roleplaying is a kinky adventurous way to try something a bit different with your lover.
What kind of roleplaying scenarios can you think of with a holiday theme?
Well Santa and a naughty elf comes immediately to mind. Maybe you haven’t made your quota of Christmas gifts and Santa has to punish you to spark your productivity?
Add a bit of bondage and or spanking and you’re all set!
Check out our Loveology course on Fantasies and Roleplaying.
Sexy Xmas Shopping
Christmas is all about the spirit of giving, and shopping for gifts for your lover can also be a sexy way to spend time together.
Instead of the traditional holiday gifts, why not shop together for some sex toys that can spice up your play time together?
There are lots of sex toys that couples can use and share together. You can shop in person at your favorite local sex shop, or shop online from the privacy of your own home.
Another fun idea is to try out a sexy game for lovers. There are ones you can make up yourself like Truth or Dare or sexy Strip Poker, and also one you can get like naughty board games for lovers.
You can also slip some naughty sex coupons in your lovers stocking, and they can scratch to win erotic foreplay or sex acts for you both to perform.
Another exciting idea that you can do together with your lover or solo, is to take a sexy course or workshop to learn a new type of sexual play. Many sex toy shops offer these types of workshops from roleplaying and bdsm, to oral sex moves or how to pleasure your partner.
At our sister site, Loveology University we have lots of exciting single intimacy courses and bundled erotic courses you can take online as well, including this awesome Tantra for Lovers course that will teach you all about tantric sex, orgasmic kissing, multiple orgasms, tantric massage, tantric sex positions, and much more!
Sex Under the Tree
There are lots of easy ways to heat up the holidays that don’t cost a dime. Have you ever had sex under the Christmas tree at night with all the tree lights on? It can be super hot and a great way to make use of the tree, other than for presents.
Simply plug in the lights, and add a plush sleeping bag and pillows, maybe even a few candles (try not to burn down the tree though), and let the holiday magic seduce your senses.
Sex Before the Fireplace
Mmmm… This is one of my favorites. Sex in front of a big fireplace on a faux bearskin rug. The heat is hot enough so you can get comfortably naked and the flames from the fire paint dancing light across your naked flesh. Add some sensual holiday music, some glasses of champagne and turn up the heat.
If you don’t have a real fireplace, you can always buy a fake electric one. Not exactly the same, but still serves the purpose.
Sex by Candlelight
If you don’t have a fireplace (even an electric one), you can always get a dozen or so candles and create an erotic sanctuary for making love.
I like to do what I call “camping out” in the Livingroom with my lover by bringing down a mattress, pillows and sensual blankets, lighting candles all around us and turning up the heat.
There is something about seeing your lover by candlelight that is super arousing and I find it also allows you to feel sexier.
Sexy Bath Time Fun
Water and sex go together, and a hot way to play together is to have slippery bath time sex. Enjoy a sensual bath together with bubble bath or essential oils, candlelight, and erotic smelling soaps or body washes.
If you have a hot tub or jacuzzi you can really turn up the heat and try different weightless sex positions. Make sure to get some silicone lube to remove any friction between the genitals, and you can even run coconut or massage oils on your body to make it extra slippery sex.
I once made love on New Year’s Eve in a heated pool outside in the mountains which was surrounded by snow. Let’s just say, we made our own fireworks that night!
14. Erotic Massage
Once you are finished with your bath, why not take it up a notch and give or receive an erotic massage.
It is amazing how turned on you can get when your lover slowly teases you with super light touch all over your body, just grazing around your erogenous zones until you are ready to burst.
By the time they touch you THERE (that super hot spot), you are ready to orgasm just from their touch alone!
You can also try Nuru massage where you use your naked body to massage your lover’s body using hot massage oils that are warmed up.
Even better, how about making some exotic chocolate massage oil made from real cocoa?
- 6 tbsp of almond or apricot oil
- ¼ tsp honey
- ¼ tsp vanilla
- 1 tbsp cocoa butter
- 1 tsp dark chocolate (at least 70% cocoa)
- ½ tsp Vitamin E
Heat up the oil in a double boiler. It needs to be hot enough for the cocoa butter and chocolate to melt. Stir in Vitamin E, vanilla, and honey after you take the post off the heat and it is starting to cool.
Apply while still warm to touch and massage over your lover’s body. Lick, taste and eat them up!
Learn some sensual massage tips in our Erotic Massage course for lovers.
Luxury Hotel Getaway
If you can’t make an erotic getaway at home, maybe you can get away for a night or a weekend and book a luxury hotel sexy vacation.
Get pampered in the hotel spa, make sure you get a jacuzzi in your room, and a big vibrating bed (who knows) and have a sexy night with your partner. Alone! No kids, no phones, no computers, no work, no obligations. Just the two of you enjoying each other’s sensual company together.
16. Log Cabin
One of my favorite places to go in the winter is a log cabin in the woods. Something about being in nature in a rugged cabin with a fireplace and raw wooden beams brings out the wild woman in me.
Lots of cabins have romance packages for the night or weekend. One where I live features a lobster dinner, champagne and chocolate truffle for dessert. Of course, the best dessert is what you do with your partner afterwards!
17. Nature Walk
Maybe you can’t get away for a whole weekend, but perhaps you could both go for a leisurely walk on a nature trail.
It’s a crisp sunny day and a light snow is falling as you walk down a snowy path amidst huge evergreen trees. You can smell the spruce and pine and the fresh air makes you dizzy with delight. You are dressed warm and snuggly as you walk hand and hand. You find a quiet place to sit and listen to the birds and drink in nature.
When you get back home you are revved up and feeling energetic, ready to heat it up between the sheets!
If you live in the country you may be able to get away with having a sexy bonfire, or fire in your fire pit. You can have hot chocolate or mulled apple cider, and roast marshmallows to make smores.
Sitting together in front of a dancing fire with the stars glistening above is a recipe for love.
Drive Around Looking at Xmas Lights
Another favorite of mine is driving around at night and looking at all the Christmas lights people put up. Again, have the hot chocolate ready and some snacks, and drive (or walk) around looking at the beautiful (and sometimes kitschy) Christmas displays.
Maybe if you are lucky you can find a look off point where you can look down on your city or town and see all the beautiful lights as you park for a heated quickie.
Horse and Carriage
This may be a bit tougher to find, but many cities still have horse and carriage rides where you can ride around and look at all the lights. This is much greener than using your car and much more romantic as well.
Don’t forget to bring a warm throw and the “Cristal”.
21. Sexy Sleigh Ride
This is the equivalent to the horse and carriage, but instead of the city, you take a sexy sleigh ride in the country.
Just like the song says:
“Just hear those sleigh bells jingling, ring tingle tingling too.
Come on, it’s lovely weather for a sleigh ride together with you.
Our cheeks are nice and rosy and comfy and cozy are we.
We’re snuggled up together like two birds of a feather would be.
Sleigh rides were made for romance!
Ice Skating or Snow Tubing
Okay, I’ll admit it, I suck at ice skating. My ankles wobble and I can barely stand up on those blades. But for some people ice skating can be a fun date.
Snow tubing (an alternative to tobogganing) is great fun and will remind you of what it was like to play and be free as a child.
Any physical activity you can do will raise your libido and make you fit for having great sex. Plus, ice skating and sliding down a huge hill is exhilarating fun that will leave you in tears of laughter. Sharing a fun experience brings people closer together and makes way for intimacy and love.
Winter Wonderland Retreat
If you don’t have a winter wonderland at home, there are plenty of winter wonderland retreats you can go to. Choose from a skiing package, spa retreat, snowmobiling, cross country skiing, outside jacuzzi, mountain top or lake side chalet. Don’t forget the ice wine!
Okay, so maybe you are done with winter and would rather go on an exotic retreat down south.
Sand, sun, beach, waves. Maybe that’s your ideal way to spend the holidays. Surfing, snorkeling, boating, jungle waterfalls, grass huts and drinks with little umbrellas in them.
And, if you want to spice it up even more, there are hedonist retreats (like Hedonism.com) and exotic lifestyle pleasure resorts, swingers retreats and nude beach and clothing-optional getaways where you can live out your erotic fantasies. Try new kama sutra love making, tantric massage, a pleasure palace, sexy spas, outdoor pools and hot tubs in exotic locations.
25. Desire Cruise
Okay, so our final destination for 25 Sexy Ways to Heat up the Holidays, is to take a Desire Cruise. Similar to the exotic Hedonism Resorts above, a Desire Cruise is a clothing-optional, couples only cruise.
The cruise goes to several different destinations. This year, they are sailing to the French Riviera, Oooh-la-la! Or perhaps you’d prefer the Greek Islands, Lisbon, Rome or Athens.
These “luxurious cruises” will seduce the senses with “gourmet dining, first-class staterooms, provocative entertainment, and even features an erotic playroom.”
“Embark on an erotic adventure full of sensual experiences that will enrich the imagination, bringing your wildest fantasies to life at sea.”
Take me there!
26. Mistletoe – BONUS!
This one seems pretty obvious. Put a mistletoe up in your home, somewhere where both you and your partner go a lot, like the kitchen, bedroom, what-ever… And, then steal quick or passionate kisses with your lover every time you get a chance.
Why? Well not only can kissing lead to the big event, but kissing itself is pretty hot! It helps release feel-good hormones that light up the pleasure centers in the brain and make you feel love, infatuation and turned on; it helps men bond better so they don’t stray; and it increases relationship satisfaction.
“Kissing causes a chemical reaction in your brain, including a burst of the hormone oxytocin. It’s often referred to as the “love hormone,” because it stirs up feelings of affection and attachment… According to a 2013 study, oxytocin is particularly important in helping men bond with a partner and stay monogamous.”
“Dopamine is released when you do something that feels good, like kissing and spending time with someone you’re attracted to. This and other “happy hormones” make you feel giddy and euphoric. The more you get of these hormones, the more your body wants them. For some, this may be more apparent at the start of a relationship — especially if most of your time is spent in a lip lock.
You may even have a more satisfying relationship. In a 2013 study, couples in long-term relationships who frequently kissed reported increased relationship satisfaction.”
Saliva also has testosterone in it, which can increase her libido and sex drive, making her more partial to sexy time, like right now!
So, get kissing to boost your libido and spice up your sex life.
I hope you’ve enjoyed Sexpert’s list of 25 Sexy Ways to Heat Up the Holidays. And, I hope you have a few naughty ideas on how you can heat up your holidays with more love, romance, intimacy and sensual lovemaking this season.