Thursday, July 25, 2024

Major Love for the Labia Majora

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The labia majora is part of the female genitalia that is often overlooked and underrated when it comes to foreplay and masturbation. And I’m sure there are lots of people out there who don’t know much about it.

What is the Labia Majora?

The labia majora is the proper term for the outer flaps of skin and tissue that cover the female genitalia. Their appearance differs from woman to woman. They can appear slim, thin, pillow-y, lippy, loose or meaty. They’re very rarely symmetrical.

What is normal? There is no normal. Take a look at the photos of The Great Wall of Vagina exhibit. Of the 400 plaster casts of women’s vulvas, you’ll see that they each differ dramatically.

Great-Wall-of-Vagina-Exhibit-Panel-6 by Jamie McCartney

The labia majora can be uniform in skin tone as the rest of the skin on the body or pinkish or dark brown or bluish. These variations are all normal and darker colors can appear after childbirth.

The anatomical role of the labia majora is to protect the vagina. The labia majora contains thousands of nerve endings under the skin that become more sensitive during sexual arousal. Tiny blood vessels under the surface of the skin also make the tissue swell during sexual arousal. In some women, the swelling may cause the slit to open slightly.

Pubic hair, or the absence of it, affects the sensitivity of the labia majora during sex. The skin on cleanly shaven or waxed labia majora is very delicate, soft and very sensitive to touch. However, public hair also serves a protective purpose. While it may decrease sexual sensitivity, pubic hair serves as a protectant from friction from a man’s pubic hair from all the thrusting and rubbing that goes on during intercourse.

Do note that shaving and waxing can present risks of ingrown hairs and skin infections that can get wildly out of control in such a warm, moist and covered place. Shaving, waxing and trimming should always be a woman’s personal choice and preference.

How to Pleasure Your Labia Majora

Sex Tip: Start your masturbation and foreplay with some major labia majora love. Cup it with a warm hand or run your fingers very slowly up and down the length of the lips. Use a warming lube or super slippery silicone lube to tantalize those tingly nerve endings. The longer you or your partner tease those fleshy bits of skin and tissue, the more intense the orgasms.

Also, stroke the lips with the head of a small vibrator at a low speed or a vibrator with a soft vibration. This can have a very calming effect. Masturbation doesn’t always have to lead to an animalistic orgasmic experience. This technique can be a great way to clear your mind from stress or even help you fall asleep or have a better night’s sleep … or it can be a extended prelude to bigger and bolder things to come.

Previously Published at: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/major-love-for-the-labia-majora/

Vaginal Fingering Techniques

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How to Finger the Vagina

When performing the following, make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across a woman’s clitoris or pushed inside. In most cases, proper foreplay stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones will usually avoid the problem of Dryness. Nevertheless, it never hurts to keep a “tube of lube” sitting nearby. Under no circumstance should you put pressure or blame on your partner for this if it happens; work with her to get around it.

Vaginal Massage

Most women masturbate by rubbing a finger or two over their clitoris, sometimes “through” the skin of their inner or outer lips, in a circular or back-and-forth motion. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. Lie down side by side, and put your hand over hers while she shows you what she likes. You can also try having her hand over top of yours guiding.

External

Another technique which women are very receptive of is to have your partner lie on her back, spread her vaginal lips wide apart with your outer fingers, and use your middle finger to rapidly slide up and down her vagina rapidly and lightly grazing her clitoris. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Don’t forget to use your mouth while you are fingering, keep kissing her, her neck, and all her other erogenous zones.

Internal

An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one, and later two or more, finger(s) inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. We’re talking about that fleshy ‘mound’ over her pubic bone. Your finger should have freedom to move in and out freely while the palm of your hand can add pressure against her vulva and clitoris. Once you get better, you can start moving your palm to add more stimulation.

Another, more intense motion is to position your hand so that you have one or two fingers inside her with your palm facing her body. Now bend your fingers inward and move them in rapid but short movements focusing on her G-Spot. This technique can quickly bring your woman to orgasm, especially when combined with cunnilingus.

Fingering Techniques

Labial Massage

Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.

A-One and A-Two and a-Three

Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back ‘hitch-hiker’ style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her clitoris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.

Close But No Cigar

If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.

Push Here to Start

Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she’s ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don’t insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.

Tap Dancing

Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.

Cervix Clock

A woman’s cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won’t.

From the Outside

Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner’s abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.

Off the Edge

Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman’s body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.

Ovaries

Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.

Tracing

After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman’s body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner’s feedback is positive.

Crecent Moon

Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her clitoris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the clitoris, and the external G-Spotbladder.

Four Directions

With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side.

Gentle Touch and Tickle

Tickle the clitoris extremely lightly.

Healing Thrust

Some women might need and want good, hard, deep, vigorous thrusting penetration. Be sure to keep her relaxed – don’t let her get tensed.

Pinch and Pull

Gently pinch and pull on the clitoris. This is definitely not for everyone.

Rock Around the Clit

With your forefinger make tiny circles, stopping at every ‘hour’.

Tour de France

Orbit your forefinger around between her inner and outer labia from perineum to above her clitoris.

Triple Digit Pet

Use your three longest fingers, with your middle finger gliding along the outside of her vaginal opening and your other two fingers running along the area where her thigh meets her labia.

Twist and Shout

Using one or more fingers, massage in and out while twisting at the wrist.

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This post was previously published at: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/vaginal-fingering-techniques/

Best Oral Sex Tips on a Vulva

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In some ways, this is the hardest thing for me to write since I’ve never gone down on a woman, but oral sex is one of the best things in life … when it’s done right. I’ve had some bad oral sex, too, but I don’t want to knock those guys. After all, it’s not like there are classes on cunnilingus (or at least none that I know of) and I know how you guys are about asking for directions. Even if your woman tells you what she likes, sometimes verbal communication is the furthest thing from your mind when hormones have taken over.

Build Anticipation

In most cases, the pussy is the last thing you want to play with during foreplay. I know, most men would be thrilled if a woman comes right up to him, unzips his pants, and immediately gets to the business of sucking his cock. But most women need to have their minds and bodies warmed up before you plunge your tongue down below. Build anticipation by leading a trail of kisses from her lips and down her neck, sternum and belly. Take your time teasing her by swirling your tongue in her belly button. If you start from the bottom, caress, kiss and lick your way slowly up the insides of her thighs.

Start Softly and Slowly

Whatever you do, don’t rip into her labia majora (the outer lips) and the labia minora (the inner lips) like a bag of potato chips. The inner lips are very delicate and packed with nerve endings. Short, slow licks with the tip of your tongue will get her wetter and feel tingly quicker than devouring her like Larry the Cable Guy at an all-you-can-eat country buffet. Gradually work up to giving her longer and broader strokes with the palate (flat end) of your tongue. Pay attention to the way she moans, squirms between your cheeks, and raises her hips before you start with more aggressive tongue and mouth action.

Licking Her Clit

Just because her clit can get as hard as a pebble doesn’t mean that it can take a pounding. Suck on it softly. Flick it lightly and quickly with the tip of your tongue as if it’s a wing of a hummingbird. Barely part your lips and blow on it. Blowing on it up and down and back and forth is even better.

Match Your Mounts

Make sure your mount is properly placed on her pussy. A man’s (or woman’s, if she’s giving) mount is the area of his upper lip just above his teeth. A woman’s mount is the center of the pubic bone. You’ll know when you have it right; it’s a natural fit and it allows you to get to all the places you need to be.

Getting in Deep

In some ways, a man’s tongue can feel more exciting than his penis. Don’t just stick your tongue inside of her vagina; play with it. Push it in and out like you’re fucking her. Dart it in as far as it can go. Swirl or circle your tongue around her inner walls. Wiggle the tip of your tongue around as if you’re tickling her when you’re lapping up her love juices.

Change Things Up

Don’t just stick to one area or one technique. Change things up between clit, labia and vaginal play. Go faster. Go Slower. Don’t forget to let your fingers to some of the caressing, fondling and prodding some of the time. Rub her clit in a circular motion.

Other Techniques

Cup your mouth over her vulva when you’ve got your tongue inside of her. Suck on it as if your mouth is a giant suction cup.

Place the flat end of your tongue on her vulva and over her labia and let her ride your tongue.

Pull your tongue back and then lick her senseless with long and fast diagonal strokes with quick bursts of energy. Pull your tongue back again and return to her pussy with a still tongue until she pants and begs for more.

Invest in a vibrating tongue ring.

Savor; Don’t Gnaw

Whatever technique you’re using, use finesse. Think of eating pussy like licking an ice cream cone or sucking on a marshmallow. It’s not a hamburger, and it’s certainly not beef jerky. And teeth have no role in savoring this delicacy.

Stay Hydrated

Keep your mouth, lips and tongue moist by keeping a glass of water on the nightstand in case you need it, especially if you have been drinking alcohol or smoking weed. Dry mouth can be a real deal breaker both for her and you.

Show Your Enthusiasm

Even if you don’t say how much you enjoy going down on her, she can tell by the way you are totally into the act. If you’re going down on her just for the sake of getting it over or just to get her wet enough to fuck, she’ll sense that and chances are that you’ll be cheating yourself out of ultimate pleasure.

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Previously published in- http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/female-oral-sex-what-your-wife-or-girlfriend-probably-isnt-telling-you/

Product Review: What is Squirting? Taught by Lola on beducated.com

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Have you ever wondered what squirting is all about?  Is it possible to learn this technique or is it a natural act.  There are so many questions asked about this phenomenon, but no one talks about it.  I happen to fall upon the number one resource for sexual health and happiness and found the best teaching and explanation of squirting in terms anyone can understand.

As a sex educator, I found that some people need additional explanation and visuals to understand and learn how to squirt of if they in fact can squirt.  I found this site and there was a course on there that teaches people the act of squirting.

The act of squirting is taught by Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Instructor and Coach, Pro Domme, Wrestler, and Writer, Lola. She brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Through her course, she helps individuals to stop making excuses and unlock who they are and what they deserve. Lola teaches classes all over the world on a variety of topics including squirting, oral, and pegging. Her knowledge and personality truly shine in her teachings which makes her courses fun and incredibly engaging.

So, what is squirting?  Squirting is when fluid expel from the vagina during orgasm. Not all people with vaginas squirt during orgasm, and those who do may only squirt some of the time.  It sometimes involves secretions from the skene’s gland. The skene’s glands are sometimes called the female prostate because they function similarly to the male prostate.

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Why do we care about it? Can you make someone squirt?  In her course, Lola answers all these questions and more.  She explains her teaching approach, and shares her world-record-breaking experience.

Her teachings discuss the common myths of squirting, such as:

  • Is squirting just pee?
  • Does squirting have anything to do with how hydrated you are?
  • How messy is it?
  • Is squirting an orgasm?
  • Can everyone squirt?

She dives into exploring tools and techniques, and understanding how our bodies make squirting possible. The lesson is dedicated to helping you recognize and appreciate all the body parts involved, from clitoris to the nervous system, areas we sometimes overlook.  Many women stress over why they do not squirt and feel that something must be wrong with them.

There are many toys available to that could help you to squirt. You will get to look at which ones may work best, and which ones can help you work on your pelvic floor. 

In the video in her course, Lola demonstrates pleasure techniques that are likely to help you squirt. She covers:

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