Top 10 Dating & Relationship Deal Breakers (According to Science)

From the world of evolutionary psychology comes a new research study that examines what personality traits daters and people in relationships avoid. Most studies examine the traits people desire (the “deal makers”), but this extensive study was more interested in what turns people off, (“the deal breakers”).

According to a study published by the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, the study included an even mix of single people who were dating, people in committed relationships, and married people. The study group included heteros, gays, and bi-sexuals.

The deal breakers were divided into two categories: those who were dating and in the process of “mate selecting,” (short-term) and those who were in relationships (long-term). Some deal breakers, such as “is married or already in another relationship” appeared on both lists, as many people said they hate it when thought they were in a monogamous relationship, but their partner didn’t. Often, people are willing to fill out an extensive survey about the state of their relationship, rather than just discuss it with the person they’re in the relationship with.

Here are the results:

Top 10 Deal Breakers for Short-Term Relationships

  1. Has health issues or STDs
  2. Smells
  3. Has poor hygiene
  4. Is married or already in another relationship
  5. Is currently dating multiple people
  6. Has anger issues or is abusive
  7. Isn’t good in bed
  8. Isn’t attractive
  9. Is racist or bigoted
  10. Doesn’t take care of themselves

Top 10 Deal Breakers for Long-Term Relationships

  1. Has anger issues or is abusive
  2. Is dating multiple people
  3. Isn’t trustworthy
  4. Is married or already in another relationship
  5. Has health issues or STDs
  6. Has an alcohol or drug problem
  7. Isn’t attentive or caring
  8. Dismisses your interests
  9. Has poor hygiene
  10. Smells
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Anka Radakovich is a legendary Sex Columnist, Certified Sexologist, Sex Educator, Screenwriter, and Author of the book THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, PART 2, Tales from New York to Hollywood. THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, Part 2 is her third book. Her first two books, The Wild Girls Club; Tales from below the Belt, and Sexplorations; Journeys to the Erogenous Frontier were both published by Crown/Random House. She was the Sex Columnist for DETAILS Magazine for 9 years and currently writes columns for and Los Angeles Magazine. Her writing has appeared in dozens of magazines including Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Men's Journal, Seventeen, Glamour, and Maxim. She has appeared on numerous television shows including 8 appearances with Conan O’Brien. She was a Jeopardy question under the category “Men’s Mags.” As a Sex Educator and Sexologist, she is a college lecturer at Universities throughout the country who offers her unique brand of sex education. Follow her on Twitter @ankarad.


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