What is Pegging? Is Pegging Gay?

March 3, 2022

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What is Pegging? Haven’t heard of pegging? I’d be surprised – but hey – that’s why I’m here to help!

To put it simply: pegging is when someone wears a strap-on harness and dildo – and has anal sex with another person.

Pegging, most often, takes place between a heterosexual couple. The penis-owning person receives the dildo anally while the vagina-owning person wears the strap-on harness and dildo. That doesn’t have to always be the case, however.

Some people use the term “pegging” to describe all strap-on sex – and many non-binary or non-heterosexual couples use the term “pegging” to describe their experience during strap-on sex as well – even if it’s done vaginally.

One thing tends to remain constant though: somewhere within the experience, someone is wearing a strap-on harness and dildo!

Pegging is traditionally done with a strap-on harness wrapped around the hips. It doesn’t have to be a hip harness, but as hip harnesses are widely available and the first thing most people imagine when they think of pegging, hip harnesses tend to be the most common choice.

While pegging can simply seem like making hand-held dildo use slightly more complicated, the complexity is usually worth it for the people enjoying the pegging. That’s for a few reasons:

Full-body contact. While you can hand-hold a dildo and use it on someone, it doesn’t have the same contact points as pegging. Pegging presses hips together and bodies together – and it requires the same physical abilities as penis-in-vagina intercourse.
The Man is the “Receiver”. For better or for worse, it’s still taboo in a lot of societies for the penis-owner to receive anal sex from a partner. Being the “recipient” – as opposed to the one being the penetrator – can bring out a lot of feelings – especially those of submission. On the flip side…
The Woman is the Penetrator. For better or for worse, society doesn’t encourage vulva-owners calling the shots during sex – so strapping on a dildo is a huge change of pace from being the “agreeable” receiver. It can be a real power thrill for a lot of people.

Of course, if you were born with a prostate, pegging can provide some amazingly powerful sensations. Especially if you go with a curved dildo that can hit the prostate, pegging can be the stuff of hands-free, unexpected orgasms for prostate owners. Even without those unexpected orgasms, though, prostate stimulation can feel amazing to a lot of people – and it’s something that pegging can target.

On the giver’s end, a few strap-on harness wearers are able to orgasm via clitoral stimulation by rubbing on the base of the dildo. This isn’t common, but it’s workable for some! There are even toys out there designed to help. If engaging in pegging, it’s probably best to assume you’ll pleasure the harness wearer in another manner to ensure everyone has a fantastic time.

Femdom Pegging?

Pegging isn’t femdom. While, presumably, pegging has a female-identifying person wearing a strap-on harness and dildo, that doesn’t mean that they’re in a dominating position. As I’ve said time and time again, simply having “the penis” doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re in charge – or that you’re the dominant partner.

So while pegging can be an amazing part of femdom kinks and femdom relationships, the act of pegging, in itself, isn’t necessarily femdom.

Feel free to explore pegging as an activity with equal footing as you explore different ways to be intimate with one another. Pegging doesn’t have to include power exchange – but it certainly can if you want to!

Is Pegging Gay?

Unfortunately, especially by those who are afraid of the “ramifications” of what it means if they end up enjoying pegging, some people stereotype “pegging” as being a gay activity.

We’re not really sure how that works. If you’re enjoying pegging as part of your heterosexual relationship with a woman, there isn’t even another man in that equation. How can pegging be gay?

Unfortunately, though, there’s an entire camp of people who believe that anything related to anal pleasure is “gay” – and pegging happens to fall into the “related to anal pleasure” camp.

Don’t worry, though: pegging doesn’t make you gay any more than eating a banana or touching your own penis does. Enjoying the (seriously orgasmic) sensations an erogenous zone can provide doesn’t change your sexual orientation in the slightest.

Are you still attracted to the opposite sex – with or without a strap-on harness? Well then, you’re probably not gay.

Chastity? Pegging? What Do They Have to Do With One Another?

At their core, chastity and pegging really have nothing to do with one another. Chastity is the act of orgasm denial – occasionally with the help of metal devices that make penis stroking impossible. Pegging is anal sex with the help of a strap-on harness.

However, a lot of people who enjoy chastity also happen to enjoy pegging – so the two kinks get lumped in together pretty often!

Especially since the prostate can lead to hands-free, penis-free orgasms, a lot of people in chastity enjoy foregoing the typical focus on the penis – and using their prostate to provide the orgasms. Since pegging can easily hit the prostate, a lot of chastity players tend to include pegging within their kinky toy box – especially since the penis may be locked out and out of commission anyway!

Pegging Beginner

Are you new to pegging? Is this your first time pegging? If so, I recommend doing a bit of research and reading before hopping right into it. You definitely can jump right in (if that’s your personality!), but since pegging involves interacting with a strap-on harness and the butt (which you may not have done before!), getting a bit of knowledge under your belt can help everything go more smoothly – and pleasurably – when you do it.

Some of the resources I’d recommend: