Now that so many people hook up on dating apps, many of my female friends are telling me that guys are creeping out on them an hour after they met them on Tinder. “By the end of our drink date the guy was all over me and I found myself pushing him away,” says a 25-year-old girlfriend of mine. “Closing the deal through sexual coercion was the only thing he knew how to do,” she said,” it was like a weird begging.”
I stopped going on dating sites after three OKCupid dates (a site I re-named “OKStupid.”) On the first date the guy showed up and tried to make out with me 15 minutes into the date. The second date got drunk and put his fingers up my skirt and into my hoo-ha under the table. On the third date the guy picked me up at my place and tried to coerce me into a “netflix and chill” date. He was 45.
Here are a few quickie safety tips to keep the creepers at bay:
- Don’t go over to his place or let him come over to yours. Meet in a public place. I once let a guy come over who I met on Match.com, and the date ended with me swinging around a baseball bat as he ran out the door. Best protection I ever had.
- Talk on the phone first. Meeting someone on Tinder and texting each other is a joke. In five minutes on the phone you can tell if the person is a psycho.
- If he is being “creepy guy” and pressuring you in any way, just get up and leave. I tell college girls if a guy they just met is in their dorm room, and his only game is talking her into having sex with him, just get up and walk out. I wish more women would do this in all dating situations, at all ages. Male dating behavior is getting so bad and etiquette so non-existent, that if it gets any worse, single ladies will all need to buy a baseball bat.
