BE NICE

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May 3, 2022

Ok kids, it’s story-time. Sit right down here at Uncle Ralphie’s knee and let me regale you of yet another tale of mystery and imagination (to steal from one of our greats) from the world of writing.

I had finally finished writing a book that was very near and dear to my heart. A non-fiction exploration and review of what I feel are thirteen overlooked 1970’s prog-rock albums; this tome was as much a labor of love as it was, I knew, far and away, from what I usually write and have come to sell (albeit slightly) and certainly in no way what this column is about, my usual output of erotica. But for what pumps deep in my heart, my connection to 70’s music, the songs I write, sing, and record, the full lot of being a musician as much as I am a writer of fiction/essays/blogs and plays speaks to what makes me me.

And I have indeed done a fair amount of music writing (check out www.vintagerock.com if you are so inclined).

My long-story-short explanation here is that this new book meant a lot to me.

I also knew/know it covers a niche subject, and if I were/will find a publisher, I have to come across a press specializing in this sort of thing. And yes, there are some out there, but they are few and far between. It would also help, I knew, to exploit (in the best way possible) any relationships I may have made through my reviewing/musicical connections. And I did just this, contacting an author I quite admire, who seems to pound out music books (and long detailed ones at that) monthly. He usually tackles one subject at a time—a famous band’s history, an unusual off-shoot genre of rock—and because I have interviewed him for Vintage Rock and have had occasion to buy some of his books, we have emailed a bit in the past.

I figured, let me ask his advice about my new book. Did he know of a good publishing house I could drop my 30 thousand + words with? Anything really that might help pivot slightly in the right direction?

He category refused to help.

His email was cordial enough, but he actually said, “I don’t do that,” when I asked him to recommend a publisher and more or less told me my book was dead in the water (and I barely even hinted to him what it was about).

Ok, so that’s just one guy Ralph; what do you care?

I care because I care about you, gentle readers of this column (and if indeed there are any readers of this column, I just know you are gentle). I want to protect you, best I can, from what’s ‘out there’ poised for the unknowing novice scribe. You have seen (again, if anybody actually does ‘see’ anything I write here) my cautions in previous columns. I hope you do learn from my lessons and your way is made a little clearer because of them. But what I am imparting today is more a way for you to act if you don’t act this way already, as opposed to cautioning you against some publisher or practice.

When that big-time music author emailed me back in that way (and I still don’t get his, “I don’t do that.” Did he mean I don’t recommend other music book writers to possible publishers because I don’t want the competition? This dude is light-years ahead of anything I could ever possibly catch up to…and with one book even), it took me aback. Ok, we weren’t friends, he doesn’t owe me dick (there’s a word for this usually naughty writing column), but a little advice or encouragement would have been nice.

Nice.

I’ve said it before, and I will say it again, and I will end this longer-than-usual column with this one word of advice and what I most wanted to imparted when I began scribbling this screed.

BE NICE. To whomever emails you. Say hello at a book signing (be you lucky enough to have one and it’s attended by anybody but your family and friends). Be cordial and give a moment of your time to someone who might want to gab a bit after your “How To Write Dirty Words” class at a kink convention.

This is not even a ‘don’t burn a bridge’ lesson, which is something I do completely believe you should never. I am just saying, BE NICE, for no reason at all other than to BE NICE.

BE NICE.

And that, kids, is all I have for you today. Just BE NICE.

What is Love

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Tiffany Wharton

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February 20, 2025

Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash

What is Love?

According to Merriam-Webster.com, there are many definitions to what love is.

Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
Love is an attraction based on sexual desire and tenderness felt by lovers.
Love is devotion based on admiration, benevolence (disposition to do good), or common interests. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of solicitude towards a person.
Love refers to a feeling of strong attraction and emotions.

The emotions can be positive and negative. Love can mean trust, commitment, overwhelming feelings, joy, admiration, enjoyment and more. Love is powerful, genuine, exciting, passionate, healing, valuable, and intense.

There are 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation

Words of Affirmation are words of praise and appreciation to express love.

Physical Touch

Physical Touch is ways of showing love through touch.

Acts of Service

Acts of Service is love expressed through actions rather than words.

Receiving Gifts

Receiving Gifts is love being expressed by giving gifts.

Quality Time

Quality Time is spending time together and given attention to them.

There are quizzes online to help determine which one is your love language. Discovering your love language with your partner is a great for your relationship. If you each know what your love language is, your partner can take the time learning about you and using your love language in your relationship.

If your love language is quality time, your partner will know how important their attention and time is to you. Intimacy together is quality time spent together to express love and appreciation.

Love consists of friendship, trust, respect, passion, and communication. Without love our world would not go round. We all experience love as a part of our lives whether it’s a person or material items. Unfortunately, material items cannot love us in return. We work hard for what we want and love the things we have. It’s important to appreciate the simple things in life.

We should always love and put ourselves first. Loving on ourselves first helps us to learn how to love others in our lives. Taking the time to experience love with yourselves, tells us how we deserve to be loved. We learn how special we are and what we are worth.

When we are in love, we release oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Oxytocin is a feel-good brain chemical that helps you bond emotionally with others. Oxytocin reduces stress and increases trust. It is also associated with dopamine and serotonin. Serotonin stabilizes your mood as well as feelings of happiness. Dopamine plays a role in your increasing pleasure, motivation, learning and imprinting memories.

These neurotransmitters are usually referred to as “happy hormones”. When we’re attracted to and/or care about someone, the three work together. Our brain releases dopamine, our serotonin levels increase, and oxytocin is produced. When we’re in love, all these neurotransmitters make us feel happy and loved.

What is Not Love?

Love is not dishonesty, a weapon, sex, lust, obsession, jealously, or possession.
Love should never be used to force someone to do something they don’t want to do.
It should never be used as a weapon against someone.
Someone being jealous or controlling is never love.
Always know what love is and is not to you.

What is lust?

The definition of lust is having an intense desire for another person. When someone is in lust, it can be confused as love. Lust stems from physical attraction and sexual chemistry. When couples combine love and lust together, there is a combination of emotional and physical chemistry. They can experience capability and enrich their lives together.

Love is experienced from our loved ones, friends, and even strangers we just met. To experience love daily, creates happiness and many emotions for you to share to show to others. Learn to love yourself first before you learn to love others.

Tiffany Wharton, Tiffany’s Exotic Treasures

Websites used:

https://www.psycom.net/oxytocin

https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-serotonin-5189485

https://www.loveuniv.com

How to Boost Love, Passion & Happiness!

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Dr. Ava Cadell

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September 26, 2022

Dr. Ava Cadell has opened the Loveology Retreat, in Maricopa, Calif described as a “Magical Property,” and an extension of the long-running online Loveology University, which she founded in 2007.

The retreat will offer weekly Yoga, Meditation, Hiking and Stargazing by the Stupa with a variety of accommodations to choose from and meals will be included.

There will also be programs with workshops on, “Boosting Your Passion, Love and Happiness,” on Friday Oct. 14th – Sunday Oct 16th. In addition to Dr. Ava, speakers will include renowned Therapists: Dr. Shannon Chavez, speaking on building emotional intimacy; Dr. Hernando Chaves, speaking on enhancing sensual pleasure; Sabrina Jackson, demonstrating the use of sensual movement for healing of trauma; and Kundalini Yoga, Meditation and Sound Bath Guru, Ram Kirin.

“It has always been my dream to own a retreat where I can deliver my seminars to students, couples, families, widows and widowers, instructing and empowering them to learn how best to live and love,” said Dr. Ava. “In addition, this retreat can also serve as an ideal location for filmmakers, as well as for weddings and other family and couples-friendly events.”

The retreat will also include meditation, yoga and hiking. For more information on “Boosting Your Passion, Love and Happiness,” click here. A video tour of the retreat, narrated by Dr. Ava, can be viewed here. Visit the Loveology Retreat online and follow Loveology University on Twitter

When the Kite Won’t Fly: A Closer Look at Book Banning

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Megan Hussey

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April 5, 2023

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It seems that every day throughout the nation, and even more so in my home state of Florida, more books are being pulled from school libraries as opposed to added. And while some book banners claim that their only concern lies in the shielding and protection of innocent eyes from the dangers of obscene material, one look at any given list of banned and challenged books suggests otherwise.

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison. The Diary of Anne Frank. Biographies of historical luminaries such as Harriet Tubman and Ruby Bridges–the later being a 6-year-old who distinguished herself as the first Black child to attend a segregated school.

None of these books would in any way be considered smoking hot reads. Yet when it comes to banned books lists, they take their place alongside sex education manuals, books featuring LGBTQ characters, and other texts that do indeed address the topic of sexuality.

As the author of more than 30 erotic books, I indeed have been threatened with the suppression of my work–but not always on the basis of erotic content.

My first brush with book banning, after a fashion, took place in a high school creative writing class. When assigned to write a children’s book, I presented a story called Tia’s Kite; a chronicle of a girl living in a foreign country, who dared–not only to enter a kite flying contest open to boys only–but to win the whole shebang.

After hearing my story, my teacher and classmates promptly rejected it–also forbidding me to read it to a class of elementary schoolers who would serve as the primary audience for our stories.

Their reasoning? The book’s feminist themes, they argued, could inspire young girls to mistreat and disrespect young boys.

This, despite the fact that Tia wins her contest fair and square–not by beating the tar out of her male competitors or making off with their kites.

As an adult, I have indeed been targeted with discrimination based on my status as an erotic author. While researching a book about women who worked in silent film, I encountered one expert on this subject who refused to be interviewed for my book, based on my experience as an author of ‘those books.’ This, despite the fact that my entire mission in writing Ladies in Silver (not Ladies in Lingerie) was to showcase the careers and accomplishments of women who wrote, directed and produced silent films–not their personal lives and affairs, as so many other books have done.

I’ve seen fellow and sister writers invited to library book sales, where I was not welcome–for fear that I might bring ‘those books’ that feature cover photos of men without their shirts on–though some of them did have fins, to cover their lower halves.

I mean, seriously folks, I reside in Florida; a state in which you can pretty much see men walking around with their shirts off all the time-a good number of them considerably less hawt than my cover models. Just sayin’.

I was temporarily banned from a women’s social media group because I listed one of my job titles as ‘erotica author.’ This same site later touted the membership of and interview with a singer who’d enjoyed a longtime creative partnership with a recording artist multiply accused of hideous crimes against children.

And the book trailer for my erotic holiday book Noelle’s Nocturne was banned from a social media video site–one headquartered in a country that was not the United States of America.

Now, one could argue that, as individuals and private entities, the people and groups that I mentioned had the right to exclude me from their channels and events, at their discretion. And yes, I myself have chosen not to interview or promote a few erotic content creators whose work I felt was demeaning to women. I had no power to ban their work, just as my oppressors had no power to ban my work.

Today, though, a select group of censors is actively exercising this power.
And these days, a number of kites–taking the form of thoughts, concepts and ideas–are being denied the freedom to fly.

`Playful Pick

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Debra Shade

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December 9, 2023

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Choosing anal toys can be a playful pick, but is not a simple task. There are a lot of products on the market, so finding the right one for you may take some time. Here are some suggestions to pluck yours out of the crowd.

There are two types of anal toys. Prostate-specific and inflatable. Flared base toys are a MUST.

Anything that you place up into your rectum should have a flared base that can be held at all times. Many items can be sucked inside of your anus. Your muscles will suck things up into your intestines which could be life threatening. Know that anytime you place something in, it must have a T-shaped base to hold it on the outside.

Prostate-specific toys stimulate the P-spot directly. If you were born with a penis, then chances are, you have a P-spot -the prostate – reached through the anus and perineum stimulation. They are about three inches into the anal canal. On the front wall towards the penis and are the size of a walnut.

This is good to know when selecting the toy’s length. To use a prostate-specific anal toy, you should be entered at an angle to ease discomfort. Once you feel comfortable, let your partner know it is OK to proceed. They should continue to thrust at an angle. You may feel the urge to pee or orgasm. It is impossible to do both, so relax into your orgasm thanks to the PC Muscle.

Inflatable anal toys are an excellent choice for some.

They work like a balloon; you insert them while they are small and then pump them up with air to stretch the sphincters and muscles of the anal canal, putting pressure on the prostrates. Always start by pumping slowly. You do not want to force the anus open or use hard pumps to fill the toy too rapidly. Release the air by using the little valve until it is back to its original size and slide it out gently.

Anus owners can place anal beads in their rectum while being penetrated or receiving a hand job.

They are small to medium-sized balls and are super easy to use. They are a series of ABS plastic or silicone beads that are linked together and are used to stimulate the walls and canal of the anus. The beads start small and grow larger. It is the smallest beads that go in first, press the toy into the anus and remove them when finished.

Vibrating anal beads give you added sensations. Some or all of the beads can vibrate for extra sensations during anal. You should cover these beads in a water-based lube to make insertion smoother and pleasurable every time. Butt plugs can be weighted, vibrating, or non-vibrating cone-shaped toys. If vibrations are too intense you can always use the plug without turning it on until you get used to the sensation.

Vibrating butt plugs help relax the sphincter muscles and stimulate either the Skene’s Glands or prostrates. The vibrations work away muscle tightness and supply extra pleasure to the nerves in and around the anus.

Select a Material

You want to choose the right material for you. There are many options on the market, and you must find what fits your needs. Some points to keep in mind are knowing any allergic reactions to soft materials such as PVC, latex, rubber, jelly, or silicone. You should also be aware of how to sanitize and care for the toy. Firmer materials such as ABS Plastic, glass, metals, or wood to name a few, may not take the same amount of work as softer, flexible toys.

Soft materials are super flexible and move with your body. Some are stiff in the core and covered with a soft material. Firmer materials are used for more direct, pinpointed stimulation. Using a non-porous material that can be polished or coated wood, stainless steel, or aluminum is a great alternative to silicone if need be.

Avoid cheap toys that are porous, which means that bacteria can grow in the toy’s pores. Even cleaning with antibacterial soap or cleaner cannot go deep enough to fully sterilize the toy for future use. Body-safe anal toys are hypoallergenic, non-porous, and phthalate free and have several benefits. They are more hygienic because they are easier to clean and kill growing bacteria.

Silicone is hypoallergenic and free from plastic softening, phthalates that are in PVC, and certain types of rubber. They are firm and usually medical-grade, first-generation silicone.

Silicone is one of the safest forms of rubber that can be inserted. While it is porous, its pores are so small it cannot harbor bacteria. The skin-like texture of silicone allows the toy to offer a true life-like experience. The material warms quickly to body temperature and holds the heat, making it even more pleasurable.

Phthalates should be avoided altogether. They are often in soft or cheap anal toys and can adversely affect the reproductive system. These toys tend to smell like plastic, and it is important to read the packaging and pay attention to the safety icons before using the toy.

Toy Cleaners are specifically made to kill bacteria and clean your toy. You can use warm water and antibacterial soap, but these cleaners are made with the toy in mind. Spray some on the toy, wipe it down with a warm damp cloth, and let it air dry. Most toys should be stored in cool, dry places.

Boiling toys depends on the manufacturer’s guidelines. Heat-resistant anal toys can be sterilized through boiling only if the packaging says so. Submerge your toy in a pot of boiling water for 3 minutes.

Prepping for the myth

Feces does not hang out in the rectum. It is there when you have to void, but if this is the case, the nerves sense this fullness and then tell the brain whether this is due to gas or stool. if you have this feeling – DO NOT proceed with anal until AFTER you poop.

If you so desire, enemas and douches work in the same way. You fill them with lukewarm water, gently squirt the water into your rectum and then sit on a toilet and let nature run its course. A douche holds around a cup’s worth of water, so this choice is easier for a quick rinse of the area once inside your anus.

An enema bag holds anywhere from one cup to around a half gallon. The more water you flush into your body, the more fecal matter will be loosened, so take your time and let your intestines work.

Regardless of your choice, always practice on a day when you do not plan on having anal sex at all. It often takes a few hours for your body to fully flush itself from an anal water cleanse. Once you get the hang of it, use a small amount of water in a douche about 45 minutes to 1 hour before you have sex if you are feeling the need to get extra fresh.

Just a reminder or notice – like most sex toys, sharing them increases your risk of giving or receiving an STI. It is always safer, and it is best if you do not share your anal toys. Bacteria like E. coli and parasites can easily be transmitted through shared toys. If you happen to share, be sure to use a new condom each time.

If this article has left you with questions, feel free to reach out to me at [email protected].

How Tantric Massage Can Improve Well-Being from a Therapeutic Perspective

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Valeriam Vincent

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February 10, 2024

Feeling tense or disconnected can wear you down. Tantric massage offers more than just relaxation, tapping into profound therapeutic benefits. This ancient practice could be the key to unlocking a fusion of emotional balance and physical vitality in your life.

Key Takeaways

Tantric massage helps reduce stress by lowering cortisol levels, leading to a deep sense of calm and relaxation.
It can improve emotional well-being by releasing past hurts and promoting feelings of happiness and peace within oneself.
This type of massage enhances physical health by increasing energy flow, reducing pain, and revitalizing the body’s vitality.
Tantric practices boost intimacy and connection with partners through shared energy and deeper understanding.
Incorporating tantric massage into your life can lead to better mindfulness, self-awareness, spiritual connection, and overall holistic wellness.

Understanding Tantric Massage: What It Is and Its Therapeutic Benefits

Learn about the life-changing effects of tantric massage—a technique rooted in age-old knowledge that offers more than physical calm. It’s an all-around healing method where touch provides profound health advantages for both your body and your thoughts.

Reduces stress and promotes relaxation

Do you know how life can get really busy, and sometimes you feel all wound up? Well, a tantric massage could be like hitting the pause button. It’s kind of like having someone help you breathe out all that heavy stress.

Picture this: during a signature tantric massage session, the masseuse uses mindful touch and helps guide your breathing. This particular combo is excellent for making stress run away and inviting calmness to stay.

As your body starts to unwind with each stroke, there’s more going on than just feeling good. Tantric techniques work magic by lowering cortisol levels—that sneaky hormone that makes us feel stressed.

So not only do you end up chilling out during the massage, but your whole system gets a break from the hustle and bustle, too!

Enhances emotional well-being

Feeling good inside is a big part of your health. Tantric massage helps you relax and feel less stressed. It can also heal old wounds in your heart from bad times or hurt feelings.

When your body gets gentle touches and caring strokes, it’s like telling your emotions that everything is okay now. You start to let go of the heavy things you’ve been carrying around.

This kind of care also wakes up happy feelings inside you that may have been asleep for too long. Your body has pathways for energy, just like roads for cars, but sometimes accidents or traffic jams happen along those roads because of sad or scary stuff from before.

Tantric massage clears up these jams so your energy can flow freely again, making you feel lighter and more at peace.

Improves physical health and vitality

Tantric massage taps into your body’s natural energy. It can wake up the sleeping parts of you and make you feel more alive. Think of it as a way to clear out blocks that keep you from feeling strong and full of life.

This kind of touch helps get your blood flowing, which is good for your heart and muscles.

Tantra practices restore your health’s spark by focusing on the yoni or other key body points. You might notice you’re moving easier, breathing more profound, and feeling better overall.

Your body starts to heal when sexual energy gets a healthy outlet through tantric methods. It isn’t just about fun; it’s like pressing the reset button on your physical well-being.

Sensuality and Connection in Tantric Massage

Explore the essence of tantric massage, where sensuality intertwines with deep connection. It’s an elegant interaction that stirs your whole self, creating a stronger relationship with you—and possibly with a partner.

Promotes intimacy and connection

Tantric massage is a journey that brings you closer to your partner. It’s about sharing energy and creating a special bond. You feel safe, cared for, and connected as you learn about each other in new ways.

This touch isn’t just physical; it reaches deep into your emotions.

As hands move softly over the body, barriers fall away. Eyes meet, breaths sync up, and a silent language of love speaks volumes. Through tantric techniques, romance kindles into an intense closeness that is hard to find elsewhere.

Every stroke stirs energy within both of you – firing up passion and drawing you nearer with every motion.

Heightens sensory experiences

Your senses come alive with tantric massage. It’s like being in a world where touch, sound, scent, and the whole vibe combine to make everything feel more intense. Imagine every part of your body waking up as this special kind of massage stirs up your sexual energy.

You’ll notice things you didn’t before — a gentle stroke becomes an electric wave, and the scents in the room fill you up with warmth.

This isn’t just any massage; it taps into deep parts of you that regular massages don’t reach. As sexual energy flows through you during a tantric session, each sense gets sharper.

You become attuned to the slightest whisper or caress, connecting you to feelings of joy and relaxation that stick around long after the experience is over. This is what sets erotic massages apart – they turn ordinary sensations into extraordinary moments that boost your well-being from head to toe.

Cultivates internal harmony

As you delve into tantric massage, a wonderful change begins inside you. This practice fosters trust, kindness, and understanding. You begin to experience tranquility in your thoughts and emotions. You’re opening doors that might have been shut for quite some time.

Massage brings out the harmony that lives inside you.

Tantric touch aims to deepen connections on all levels—body, emotions, and spirit. It helps clear away what blocks you from feeling happy and balanced. Imagine how it feels when everything inside works together just right; this is the internal harmony tantra can bring into your life.

Through touch and connection with another person, you find a powerful sense of calmness that spreads through every part of you.

The Role of Tantric Massage in a Holistic Wellness Routine

Tantric massage could be your gateway to a more serene mind and body, dovetailing seamlessly with mindfulness practices that foster an all-embracing wellness lifestyle—dive in to discover how.

Mindfulness and meditation practices

You might be curious about how tantric massage includes mindfulness and meditation practices. These elements are essential to fully experiencing the benefits of this profound method.

Mindful touch is the heart of tantric massage. It encourages you to pay close attention to each sensation as your body is being massaged.
Controlled breathing helps you relax deep into the experience. You learn to breathe in a way that calms your mind and lets stress melt away.
Present moment awareness is crucial. During a tantric massage, thoughts about past or future events fade, leaving you in a peaceful state.
Energy work goes hand in hand with mindfulness. It teaches you how to feel and move energy within your body for healing and harmony.
Meditation during the session lets you reach a deeper level of consciousness, where self-discovery and spiritual connection can flourish.

Healthy lifestyle choices

Tantric massage is not just about the massage itself. It’s also about taking care of yourself.

Eat foods that give you energy. Fresh fruits, vegetables, and whole grains nourish your body and help keep you feeling good.
Drink plenty of water. Staying hydrated helps all parts of your body work better, including your skin and muscles needed for massage.
Get enough sleep. When you rest well at night, you’re more relaxed and can enjoy tantric experiences more deeply during the day.
Move your body regularly. Exercise like walking or yoga keeps you strong and helps your energy flow, which is important in tantric practices.
Take deep breaths often. Breathing deeply calms the mind and prepares you for the mindfulness part of tantric massage.

Potential benefits for chronic pain and mental health

You might find that tantric massage helps a lot with long-term pain and keeps your mind healthy. Because it lowers stress and calms you, your body can handle pain better.

Your brain gets more rest too, which means you can think clearer and feel happier overall.

If you’re dealing with tough feelings or past hurts, this kind of massage may be good for healing inside. It lets you let go of bad emotions and find peace. You get to understand your feelings better, which makes it easier to deal with hard stuff in life.

How Tantric Massage Can Support Well-Being: A Therapeutic Perspective

Looking at tantric massage from a therapeutic perspective, you’ll find it can recharge your inner vitality and calm emotional unrest. It’s more than just enjoyment—it’s a deep dive into self-exploration and recovery that resonates with both body and soul.

Unlocking pleasure and revitalizing energy

Tantric massage taps into your deep joy and wakes up your body’s energy. Think of it like turning on a switch that lights up your whole self. You’ll feel pleasure spread through you as the massage goes on.

Your body holds onto this happy feeling, then moves it all around inside you.

This isn’t just about feeling good at the moment — it’s about keeping that pep in your step long after. Tantric techniques ensure you’re not just lit up for now but filled with a new kind of get-up-and-go.

Releasing emotional blockages

Moving beyond the joys of renewed vigor, tantric massage is a powerful tool for emotional healing. It helps you let go of deep-seated feelings that might be stuck inside.

This kind of touch therapy makes space for relaxation and stress reduction, key steps in freeing up those trapped emotions.

As you experience a tantric massage, it gently guides you to confront and release these blockages. These can often tie back to past sexual traumas or negative experiences. By working through these barriers, your emotional health gets a chance to improve.

Trust this process — it paves the way for more joy and less pain in your day-to-day life.

Overcoming pain and trauma

Tantric massage goes deep, touching more than just your body. It helps you let go of hurt from the past that’s stuck inside. This powerful approach to healing can break down the walls built by sexual trauma, freeing you in ways you didn’t think were possible.

Many people carry their pain around like heavy bags, but tantric healing gives them hope to set those bags down for good. It releases emotions hiding in your body, letting you finally breathe out old pains and breathe in new life.

Next up is unlocking pleasure and revitalizing energy—get ready to feel alive again!

Cultivating self-awareness and spiritual connection

Tantric massage invites you to dive deep within yourself. It’s like opening a door to your inner world, where you can explore who you are and connect with your spirit. You might find parts of yourself that have been quiet or hidden for too long.

This journey brings out your true feelings and thoughts, giving you a clear picture of what’s inside.

As you become more aware of yourself, something special happens; your spirit starts to shine brighter. You feel a strong tie to the here and now – every breath, movement, and touch helps build this connection.

Tantra teaches that being fully present can free up space in your heart and mind — making room for peace and understanding.

And as we talk about self-awareness – let’s also look at how keeping a balanced life supports these benefits.

Conclusion

You’ve learned how tantric massage can make you feel more relaxed and healthy. It brings closeness and joy into your life. By using it, you can heal emotionally and grow inside yourself.

Think of this massage as a helpful friend on your path to wellness. Embrace it, let the good energy flow, and watch your well-being soar!

Making Love Alone: The Art of Masturbation

By

Valeriam Vincent

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May 24, 2024

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Making love alone, often referred to as self-love or masturbation, is a natural and healthy way to explore one’s body and experience sexual pleasure. It can be an important aspect of personal wellness and sexual health.

You must first understand what self love is and why it is important to incorporate it into your life. Some people feel they have to be with a partner to be fulfilled. That is not the case and you can experience a whole new outlook on love making alone. You should first explore to see what you like. Here are some ways to embrace and enhance this experience.

Personal Exploration:

Self-love allows individuals to explore their own bodies, understand their sexual preferences, and learn what brings them pleasure. This self-awareness can lead to more fulfilling experiences, both alone and with a partner. Utilizing sexual aids can heighten your experience.

Health Benefits:

Masturbation has several health benefits, including reducing stress, improving mood, helping you sleep better, and enhancing sexual health. It can also help relieve menstrual cramps and promote relaxation.

No Shame or Stigma:

It is important to approach self-love without shame or stigma. Masturbation is a normal and natural part of human sexuality and should never be looked at in a negative way.

Create a Comfortable Environment:

Set the mood by creating a comfortable and private space where you can relax without interruptions. This might include dim lighting, soft music, or aromatherapy. It is important to feel as comfortable as possible and clear your mind of everyday stresses. This will make your experience more enjoyable.

Use Lubrication:

Lubricants can enhance the experience by reducing friction and increasing pleasure. There are various types of lubricants available, such as water-based, silicone-based, and natural options. If you are using a pleasure product, it is important to use a good lube to avoid any issues.

Incorporate Sex Toys:

Using sex toys can add variety and intensify sensations. There are many options, including vibrators, dildos, and clitoral stimulators. Choose toys that are body-safe and suited to your preferences.

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Investing in a sex doll or torso to give you that real life feel. They are usually very lightweight and easy to use. The sex doll torsos are made of TPE or silicone. Of course, they are all very safe materials. They are designed for both male and female masturbation, depending on the design.

Mindfulness and Focus:

As we stated before, practice mindfulness by focusing on the sensations and being present in the moment. This can enhance pleasure and make the experience more fulfilling. Making love alone can be scary for a first timer, so embrace it your way.

Erotic Content:

Some people find that incorporating erotic content, such as reading erotica, watching adult films, or listening to audio erotica, can enhance arousal and pleasure. This helps to get your mindset focused of the experience instead of focusing on the day to day interruptions.

Breathing and Relaxation:

Deep breathing and relaxation techniques can help you stay calm and focused, heightening your sensitivity and pleasure. You can incorporate meditation to help you relax and enjoy the experience.

Masturbation can be done at anytime. It all depends on the person, there is no right time. It is important to find a balance that feels right for you and doesn’t interfere with daily responsibilities or relationships. Self-love is not just about physical pleasure; it also contributes to emotional well-being. It can boost self-esteem and foster a positive body image.

Approach self-love with self-compassion and kindness. It’s a form of self-care and a way to honor the needs of your body and desires. Embrace body positivity and appreciate your body for its capacity to provide pleasure. Every body type is unique, and learning to love and accept your own is crucial. Educate yourself about sexual health and wellness. Understanding your body and how it functions can enhance your self-love experiences and promote overall well-being.

In summary, making love alone, or self-love, is a healthy and natural part of human sexuality. It offers numerous physical and emotional benefits and can enhance your overall well-being. By creating a comfortable environment, exploring different techniques, and approaching the experience with self-compassion, you can enjoy fulfilling and pleasurable moments of self-love.

Product Review: Ohwii™ by Wicul

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Tamara Bell

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May 15, 2025

Photo taken from: https://www.biird.co/products/ohwii

Product Review: Ohwii™ by Wicul

A Stunning Double-Ended Glass Delight by Biird™, a female-led pleasure positive brand born in the Netherlands.

When I first saw this package, I thought it was a basic glass wand. I was in total shock when I opened the box. The product is the Ohwii™ double ended glass wand. It is a collaboration between pleasure innovators and glass artistry that turns every solo or partnered session into a luxurious experience.

This double-ended glass dildo is as stunning as it is satisfying and the case it comes with is just as beautiful as the piece itself. There are two distinct shapes tailored to meet your personalized pleasure needs. One end is sculpted with a thicker curve that hugs the G-spot with precision, while the slimmer end is ideal for P-spot exploration—or vice versa! That’s the beauty of Ohwii: you decide what feels right.

Crafted from premium borosilicate glass, Ohwii™ is not only gorgeous to look at but also a dream to use. The surface is silky-smooth, glides effortlessly with just a drop of lube, and adjusts naturally to your body’s temperature—or can be heated or cooled for temperature play.

Whether you’re exploring deeper sensations or teasing erogenous zones, the weight and firmness of the glass add an extra layer of intensity you just can’t get from silicone.

For anyone curious about glass toys, this is the perfect introduction. It’s elegant, versatile, and easy to clean—just rinse with warm water and a gentle cleanser. Plus, it’s body-safe and built to last.

Who is Wicul?

Behind Wicul is Edwige!, a psychiatric nurse and sex therapist who runs one of the most recognized sex education accounts in France. Fun, non-judgmental, and caring, she’s on a mission to revolutionize sex education!

Biird™ is a female-led pleasure positive brand from the Netherlands. Their mission is to dispel the taboo surrounding sex toys and other products designed specifically to make you feel good. They are the 2022 winner of the European Product Design Award.

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They were a big surprise to the industry and after working with industry-leading pleasure brands for more than 20 years, they’ve come to know the restrictions and barriers placed on sex toys all too well. They crafted beautiful sex toys, made with only the highest quality body-safe materials and have made them affordable and available for everyone to enjoy.

Conclusion:
Ohwii™ is a sculptural pleasure piece that invites exploration and self-discovery. If you’re seeking a toy that’s as functional as it is beautiful, this double-ended delight deserves a top spot in your collection. Whether you’re new to glass or a longtime fan, Ohwii™ is ready to elevate your play.

I give them two thumbs up and a fist bump for their packaging, innovation, and powerful clit stimulator. This is a must have in your toy box.

Erika Jordan’s “Advice For Men” Can I Make My Penis Bigger

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Erika Jordan

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April 27, 2020

If you are like 80% of men you are obsessed with size. And many have wondered is it possible to make ones penis bigger! No prosthetics, weird pills, crazy pumps or surgery is needed. But is there something you can do to supersize your package? Let world renowned love coach Erika Jordan guide you to a bigger penis. With Erika Jordan’s “Advice For Men” Can I Make My Penis Bigger the answer is truly in your hands.

For those that do get the results they desire there might be an urge to show off. But first check out Erika Jordan’s “Advice For Men” Dick Pics.

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How To Listen To A Woman

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Erika Jordan

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November 13, 2020

Let’s talk about listening.

I know men are often overwhelmed when listening to a female. They feel obligated to fix all of her problems. Sure it would be great if you could fix all of her problems however most women see conversation as a productive end in and of itself. What does that mean that means that if she feels sufficiently heard she doesn’t necessarily need to take it any further. The fact that she has been listen to soothe her anxieties and dolls the pangs of negative feelings.

Sharing with someone who understands and loves her heels her from the inside. This equips her with the emotional tools necessary to handle the trials of the outside world. Women tend to understand the emotional parts of messages more effectively than men. This is probably because research indicates that women process messages on both sides of the brain more so than men. So men tend to process more on the left side of the brain and emotional information is processed on the right.

Here are a few listening tips:

1. Women feel the need to express everything, I mean everything, in order to provide you with the most information about the situation, please be patient. Women often feel that men don’t care about what they are saying due to the lack of reaction, so be involved. Don’t assume what they are saying is not important because the subject is not important to you. If she is taking the time to talk about it, she wants you to take the time to listen to her.

2. Find the perfect balance between logic, empathy and our emotions. What is really happening? Why is she telling you to do the dishes. Does she feel disrespected or unappreciated? Put yourself in her shoes.

3. Check your emotions. Why are you so angry that she’s asking you to do the dishes. Why did you react that way. Taking a moment to rise above the situation and view it neutrally will transform your world.

Communication is the most important thing in any relationship. Improving your communication skills will improve every area of your life. From making you more successful in business to improving family relations and increasing intimacy with your significant other.

It requires work to keep your relationship strong. After the initial serotonin and oxytocin rush wears off you’re left with feelings of boredom. It’s a normal transition because everything seems boring compared to that new relationship energy. You might not be able to maintain the excitement you felt during the first few weeks but much like cocaine you can continuously pursue that initial buzz but no amount of cocaine will get you there. You have to find a buzz you can sustain (like eating healthy and getting adequate sleep.) If you want a relationship to last you have to be aware of the inevitable ups and downs and be able to adjust accordingly.

Communication and listening is a primary skill for a successful relationship. For more on needed skills let Erika Jordan guide you with Advice For Men Skills.

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