Tuesday, September 1, 2015
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Aloe Cadabra in Flavors, Scents and Tingles!

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In my article on the best body-safe lubes, “Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants – Part 2,” I briefly reviewed Aloe Cadabra natural lubricant along with a few other lubes. I gave it an A+ rating and said “it just may be the best lube I have ever tried.”

Well, the more I use this lube, the more I stand by that statement wholeheartedly. This stuff is super-fantastic, and I don’t say that in a review, ever.

But! Aloe Cadabra also makes 4 more lubes with flavors, scents and tingles. Will these lubes be as good as their natural lube?

Let’s find out…

All Natural

Like the natural lube, Aloe Cadabra’s specialty lubes are made with organic Aloe Vera (95-97% of the product is Aloe Vera in fact) and all natural ingredients including Vitamin E which is great for the skin. The flavored lubes use Organic Stevia, which is a natural herbal sweetener, instead of glycerine or sugars, which means, no worries of bacterial infections for women. For preservatives they use Citric Acid which is a natural preservative, as well as Xanthan Gum, which is a natural thickening agent. Also included are food grade Sodium Benzoate and Potassium Sorbate, both of which have very low toxicity and are naturally occurring in berries.


The thickness of these lubes is perfect. It is a thick, clear, slightly cloudy gel, which reminds me of boy cum. It won’t run, and stays thick and slippery during use. It absorbs naturally into the body leaving absolutely no residue, or stickiness. My partner said it was the best lube he has ever tried: “lasted a long time, felt like real “pussy” juice,” when used during a hand job. We used these lubes for penis to vagina penetration, oral sex, hand jobs and fingering as well as vulva massage, and in every instance the lube lasted a long time, never got sticky and stayed super slippery. Just perfect! I’m sure it would be excellent for anal play as well for those very reasons.


I normally dislike flavored lubricants. Often this is because they taste so unnatural, and are overpowering. But, Aloe Calabra uses all natural flavoring which makes a huge difference in the subtlety of the flavor. These lubes are mildly flavored and taste like real flavors, because they are real flavors.

Tahitian Vanilla flavor has a hint of natural organic vanilla in it and tastes like vanilla. The flavor is very mild and slightly sweet. It smells like ambrosia, and is delicious. Tastiest lube I have ever tried! In addition, Vanilla has been used as an aphrodisiac since ancient times. Certain studies on aromatherapy have proved that vanilla can increase sexual desire by boosting testosterone levels in men. Its aroma induces feelings of pleasure and satiation. As an anti-inflammatory agent, it vanilla has been used to calm and soothe the skin.

Piña Coloda flavor uses organic Piña Coloda flavor concentrate. It is again, very mild and tastes slightly sweet with a coconut flavor, much like organic coconut oil. The scent is slightly more powerful than the taste, but still very subtle. Tastes great!


French Lavender scent uses organic lavender oil. It smells exactly like fresh lavender cut from a bush, yet not quite as overpowering as the real thing. Still, more scented than the Vanilla and Piña Coloda flavors. I was a bit weary of trying a scented product on my vulva because I am so sensitive. However, lavender oil is great for the skin and has been used for centuries for its natural healing properties (as an antiseptic and antifungal agent) for the skin to soothe cuts, burns and skin irritations. It also promotes skin oxygenation and flushes the skin with blood, which is great for the genitals. As a scent, it has stress-relieving and relaxing properties.

And, it felt very soothing as a sexual lubricant and was great for masturbation and I had no issues with any type of irritation after use. In fact, I would recommend using it as a daily moisturizer for the vulva and vagina, especially for women who are aging and have issues with natural lubrication. It also makes a great hand moisturizer, just saying!


Peppermint Tingle uses organic peppermint oil. Again, I was a bit hesitant about trying it, as I have had issues with other tingling products that used peppermint, mint, or menthol. Again, I didn’t have any issues with using this product on my genitals. My partner used it as well and really enjoyed the tingling feeling it gave him.

It has a slight cooling sensation when applied which gets a bit stronger as it penetrates. I didn’t necessarily enjoy the cooling sensation myself, as I prefer to be warm, but it didn’t take away from my pleasure either, but rather heightened sensations. I think this would be a great product for men to heighten sensation as well as prolong arousal.

The taste and scent was slightly stronger than the other lubes, but still subtle. It reminded me of those mint chocolate patties. Yum!

Peppermint Oil aids in blood circulation and has stimulating effects which are great for the penis. In studies, peppermint oil increases pulse rate and blood circulation.


So, are the flavored, scented and tingling lubes by Aloe Cadabra as good as the natural one? Yes! They are all great lubes that add a lot of sensuality to your sexy time. And, even on very sensitive skin, I had no irritations what-so-ever.

Definitely awesome lubricants!

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Last week, in my article Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants – Part 1 I talked about some of the not-so-nice chemicals that can go into personal sexual lubricants.  Thankfully, most lube manufacturers heard the roar of the consumer and jumped on the “natural”, “green” and body-safe product movement, which is great for us.

Most lube manufacturers now omit parabens and glycerin from their products, or have special products for sensitive skin.  But, there were a few companies that did this right from the beginning and make all their products body-safe, and here they are.

These Are a Few of My Favorite Lubes!
Aloe Cadabra

Aloe Cadabra (Natural) is a truly superior personal lubricant made from 95% organic Aloe and other natural ingredients.  It claims to be “a magical liquid gel for intimate pleasures” and while not magical, it just may be the best lube I have ever tried.

Aloe Vera, as you know is a small succulent plant that has been used for its healing properties since like, forever.  Both Cleopatra and Nefertiti were said to have used Aloe on their skin to enhance their beauty.

Aloe Vera contains “mannans, lectins and anthraquinones, all of which are thought to support healing and promote wellbeing.  Topical application of the gel is thought to reduce inflammation and skin irritation, by soothing the epidermis… [and] has antiseptic properties which can assist in reducing infection for minor skin complaints.”—The Health Benefits of Aloe Vera Gel

Aloe Cadabra’s main ingredient is Aloe Vera, so it is incredibly soothing on the skin.  This lubricant feels very natural, just like a woman’s own body fluids and is silky smooth.  Aloe Cadabra’s formula is pH balanced to the vagina’s pH so will not disrupt the vagina’s natural environment.  It didn’t get sticky at all when I used it and lasted quite long time.  All the ingredients are food grade, so it is not harmful if ingested.  This means it is just as good for oral sex as it is for penetrative sex and masturbation.  It has no discernible flavor and a slightly clean pleasant odor.

Aloe Cadabra contains no parabens, sugars, chemicals or glycerins.  What it does contain is all natural body-safe ingredients including 95 percent certified organic aloe vera, citric acid, xanthan gum (a polysaccharide used as a food additive), vanilla essential oils, potassium sorbate (a food preservative) and sodium benzoate (a preservative, which limits the growth of bacteria and fungi).  All the ingredients rated extremely low (1-2 out of 10) in the Cosmetic Database.

PS: Aloe Cadabra also makes natural flavored lubes.  Review coming soon!

Sliquid Water-based Organic Lubricant

Sliquid Water-based Organic Lubricant is an excellent product that is safe to use with all materials.  It has no taste and has a slightly fresh organic smell that is barely noticeable.  It is a very thin lube that makes a slick surface on the skin that is perfect for toy play or intercourse.  Like most water-based lubes it does dry up, but does not become sticky.  If it does dry up during use, you need to simply reapply or emulsify with water.

It is made with all botanical and natural organic ingredients such as Aloe, Flax, Vitamin E and Green Tea.  Best of all, it is glycerine and paraben free, and does not contain propylene glycol & glycerol, sugars or artificial sweeteners.  In addition it is vegan-friendly, American-made and the bottle is 100% recyclable.


Purified Water, Plant Cellulose (from Cotton), Aloe Barbadensis*, Natural Tocopherols (Vitamin E), Cyamopsis (Guar Conditioners), Extracts of Hibiscus*, Flax*, Green Tea* & Sunflower Seed*, Citric Acid (Citrus Fruits), Phenoxyethanol (Rose Ether).

Blossom Organics Natural Moisturizing Lubricant

Blossom Organics Natural Moisturizing Lubricant is just what is says: Pure and Simple.  It has no harsh chemicals including parabens, petroleum by products, hormones, flavors or fragrances.  The main ingredient is Aloe, which has long been revered for its soothing, moisturizing, and healing properties.  This lube is also water-based so does not contain silicone.  Water-based lubes are the only ones that can be truly “natural”.

The lube itself is clear, odorless and I couldn’t discern any taste what-so-ever.  The consistency is between a liquid and a gel, but more thick than runny.  Actually, it is very close to natural female juices.  It feels great on the skin, like natural Aloe Vera right from the plant and absorbs into the skin like a moisturizer.

For a sexual aid with vaginal sex or masturbation, it performed very well, and lasted for as long as I needed it and did not get sticky.  Like any water-based lube, if you need more just reapply.

Overall, a super sexcellent personal lubricant for women.

INGREDIENTS: Organic aloe barbadensis leaf extract, sorbitol, hydroxyethylcellulose, hyaluronic acid, organic stevia rebaudiana extract, tocopherol (vitamin E), sodium citrate, potassium sorbate, organic extracts of paeonia albiflora (peony) root & passiflora incarnata flower.

Intimate Organics

Intimate Organics Hydra Lube is a water-based lube made with a blend of organic extracts including aloe, Goji Berry fruit extract, and lemon grass.  IO Hydra is extremely slick and silky for a water-based lubricant, naturally nourishing the skin, and lasts longer than most water-based lubes.  It is the perfect lubricant for using with sex toys, for as we know, sex toys tend to be a bit drying, and it is of course compatible with any toy material.  Hydra also makes a great lube for partner sex and enhances penetration by staying slick until it naturally absorbs into the skin.

Hydra is almost completely odorless but has a slightly tangy, bitter aloe flavor, which reminds me a slight cosmetic taste. It is paraben, animal glycerin and DEA free, vegan, cruelty free, and made with certified organic extracts.


Aqua/Water/Eau, Propanediol (Natural Humectant), Cellulose Gum, Phenoxyethanol, Benzoic Acid, Phenethyl Alcohol, PPG 2 Methyl Ether, Methylisothiazolinone, Alcohol, Lycium Barbarum (Goji) Fruit Extract, Cymbopogon Schoenanthus Extract, Aloe Vera (Aloe Barbadensis) Extract, Sodium Hydroxide.

So, those are my top four body-safe lubes that you can get in North America.  I omitted a few lubes on this list because they are hard to get in the US or were not “natural” water-based, but still good lubes.  These include Hathor Aphrodisia Lubricant Pure (Canada), Yes! Lubricant (UK) and Uber Lube (Silicone & Vitamin E).

Please note:

This article is from a woman’s perspective and about the best lubes (as I see it) for vaginas and vulvas.  Just because I personally am partial to water-based lubes, doesn’t mean that silicone lubes are bad.  Silicone lubes are great for all kinds of sexy scenarios; I only prefer water-based lubes on my genitals because they are more compatible with the vagina’s natural flora and are also moisturizing which soothes the vulva and helps prevent vaginal atrophy.

I hope I have inspired you to treat your body nice and only use body-safe products.  Remember to read labels and research ingredients lists to make sure what you are using, eating or putting in and on your body are safe.  Now if only someone could come up with an aphrodisiac smoothy that is great for sex!

Happy Orgasms!

When I first started reviewing sex toys and lubricants seven years ago, I didn’t realize how some products contained chemicals, irritants and toxins that were not necessarily body safe. At the time, I was working at a brick and mortar sex toy shop and wanted to better educate myself about the products I was selling to customers. So, I tried and reviewed just about everything. Eeek! My bad!

After a few yeast infections, skin irritations and a horrible chemical burn on my oh-so-delicate lady bits, I then realized, some products were better than others. But why? It was the ingredients, naturally.

I soon learned that personal lubricants, like many cosmetics, have lots of ingredients that can cause bacterial infections, may be carcinogenic (cancer causing), may contribute to chemical body burden, or cause irritations. In fact, sixty percent of all chemicals we put on our skin ends up in the blood stream and lubricants may be absorbed through the mucus membranes of the vagina and anus even more so because there is no barrier for protection. Many personal lubricants and sensual products contain hazardous chemicals that create chemical body burden which is responsible for numerous health ailments.

What I found out, was natural, water-based lubricants tended to be the most body safe, and the ones with the less ingredients were by far the best.

Here are a few of the ingredients that are in some lubes that you may want to avoid.


Parabens (including Methylparabens and Propylparabens) are a group of chemicals used as preservatives for their bacteriocidal and fungicidal properties. Studies have found that parabens can be absorbed through the skin and can mimic the hormone estrogen, which has been linked to breast cancer. Parabens have also been known to decrease the sperm cell count in men, and promote allergic reactions on the skin such as burning and itching. Grapefruit seed extract (although natural, also called Citrus seed extract and Citrus grandis) is a paraben and should be avoided as it has known to be an eye irritant in low concentrations.


Diethanolamine is a chemical wetting agent in cosmetics that helps keep a creamy consistency in lotions and creams. DEA can react with other ingredients in cosmetic formulations to form carcinogens that are readily absorbed through the skin and has been linked with stomach, esophagus, liver and bladder cancers.


Glycerine (a close relation to glucose or sugar, also called Glycerine or Glycerol) is used as a sweetener and preservative in cosmetics and has been linked to yeast infections in women who are prone to them. If more than 5% or more is contained in a product, then it can damage mucus membranes.


Synthetic menthol as well as natural Peppermint Oil can be irritating and drying to a woman’s genitals and damages mucus membranes.


Petrochemicals in oil-based products such as Mineral Oil (Liquidum Paraffinum), Petrolatum (petroleum jelly), Paraffin oil (lamp oil or premium Kerosine) or Paraffin wax, coat the skin halting its normal functions and are linked to cancer or other significant health problems. Petrochemicals have been restricted in cosmetic manufacturing.

Propylene Glycol

Found in brake fluid, anti-freeze, paint solvents, and polyester compounds, Propylene Glycol is used as a solvent in many pharmaceuticals, and is used as a humectant food additive, emulsification agent, and moisturizer in cosmetics. The oral toxicity of propylene glycol is low, but large quantities can cause perceptible health damage in humans. Some people may obtain irritation from it including women with yeast infections and may cause intense burning and is an irritant to the eyes and skin.

Polyethylene Glycol (PEG)

PEG is used as a thickener and is the basis of many skin creams, as cetomacrogol, and sexual lubricants, frequently combined with glycerin. It strips the skin’s natural moisture, is an eye and skin irritant, a possible carcinogen and can produce severe acidosis, central nervous system damage and congestion.


L-Arginine an amino acid and plays an important role in the healing of wounds, immune function, and the release of hormones. Like the drug sildenafil citrate (Viagra), L-arginine is thought to enhance the action of nitric oxide, which relaxes muscles surrounding blood vessels (vasodilation) supplying the penis. As a result, blood vessels in the penis dilate, increasing blood flow, which helps maintain an erection. The difference in how they work is that Viagra blocks an enzyme called PDE5 which destroys nitric oxide and L-arginine is used to make nitric oxide. People with genital herpes should not take L-arginine because it may aggravate their symptoms.

Aluminum Sulphate

Aluminum Sulphate (also known as Alum) is an inorganic salt used in “tightening” products such as shrink creams and antiperspirants, as well as food pickling and baking powder. This compound has an astringent property which causes the vaginal tissues to dehydrate and swell, and may be an irritant. Adverse effects of aluminum are currently known to be far more chronic (occurring over the long term) than acute (occurring in the short term) because it accumulates over time. Aluminum has been shown to be a neurotoxic compound if it is allowed to enter the bloodstream. Long-term exposure of patients may cause encephalopathy (defect of the brain) and/or bone mineralization disorders. Aluminum has also been suggested as a cause of Alzheimers disease, Lou Gehrig’s disease and other forms of senile dementia.


Nonoxynol-9 is an abrasive detergent and was developed as a spermicide used in condoms, lubricants and sex toy cleaners. It was also shown to help kill the AIDS virus in clinical tests (in test tubes). However, it has been found to leave abrasions and lesions in the vagina and to strip away the protective rectal lining in the anus, both of which could potentially increase chances of getting AIDS, STDs and skin irritations.


Benzocaine is a local anesthetic commonly used as a topical pain reliever in anesthetic ointments such as oral gels for teething babies. Benzocaine is also used as a numbing agent in anal lubes like Anal-Eze, oral desensitizing creams like Good Head Oral Gel, a pleasure prolonging condoms like Trojan Extended Pleasure. Numbing agents are potentially dangerous when used anally or orally as you may not feel pain which could result in serious injury from vigorous thrusting that could tear or damage mucus membranes or cause bruising. Additionally, over-application of oral anesthetics can increase the risk of pulmonary aspiration by relaxing the gag-reflex and allowing regurgitated stomach contents, oral secretions (or sperm!) to enter the airway. Benzocaine also is a well-known cause of methemoglobinemia, a condition in which the red blood cells cannot bind oxygen, causing shortness of breath, cyanosis, mental status changes, headache, fatigue, exercise intolerance, dizziness and loss of consciousness. Because it may be used in topical creams with a concentration as much as 20%, it is not difficult to administer a dose sufficient to cause this problem. Severe methemoglobinemia can cause dysrhythmias, seizures, coma and death.


Oil based lubes break down latex and damage condoms, dental dams, diaphragms, and cervical caps, thus reducing their effectiveness. Oils coat the vagina and anus which makes is hard for the vagina or anus to “flush” itself, leaving you open to bacterial or other infections. It can take the vagina 3-5 days to break down and get rid of oils, so oil-based lubes should not be used for vaginal or anal sex and are only recommended as male masturbatory aids. This goes for other types of oils like vegetable oils, massage oils, Vaseline, WD-40, and Crisco. These oils can cause serious irritation, clog pores, don’t allow the skin to breathe, are not condom safe and should never go anywhere near the vagina.

Buyer Beware: Claims of Natural and/or Organic

Now, you would think that any product that says it is natural or organic would be natural and organic, right? This is not always the case. Many cosmetic companies make claims to sell and market their products. Some products, such as Clairol Herbal Essences claimed to offer users an ‘organic experience,’ but the product is not organic or herbal and contains numerous petrochemicals that are known toxins. Like sex toys, personal care products are not regulated so companies are able to get away with making false claims. It is therefore important to read labels and do your research.

And, just because something is natural and organic, it doesn’t mean it is good for you or body-safe. Remember, many parabens are derived from natural sources like blueberries and grapefruit seed (see parabens above), but are known irritants to the skin. Cow shit is also both natural and organic but I wouldn’t use it as a personal lubricant. So even if a product is made of natural ingredients, it may not be body-safe.

Read the labels my friends! And keep your vagina, anus, penis and oral parts happy.

Okay, now that I have scared the HELL out of you and you have sworn off personal lubricants and gone back to spit, let me help reduce your anxiety. Stay tuned to next week’s post: Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants—Part 2, to learn about the lubes I love to use that are body safe.










Sex toys need lube to make them feel smoother and silkier as you insert them. So, don’t make the mistake that I made when I was invited on the Howard Stern Show and gave him a realistic vagina as a gift, without telling him to use lube. Howard was mad as hell and ranted on about how he got the vagina stuck on his penis and when he finally was able to pull it off, his pride and joy was bruised. Needless to say, I wasn’t invited back because I nearly broke his penis.

Now I’m emphatic about telling everyone to love lube and put it on before you need it. Of course, the wrong lube can lead to disastrous results, so do your homework. Never use household ingredients like cooking oil, or well known products like Vaseline, bath oil, suntan oil, massage oil or anything that has petroleum because it will break your condoms and could lead to a nasty infection.

Have a lube love fest by testing out as many different types of lubes as you can from water-based, which are the most versatile and easiest to clean off with water, to flavored ones which can enhance an oral sex experience, to silicone based ones that you can use in water and they are also great for anal pleasure. But be warned that you cannot use silicone lube on silicone toys as it can melt them and that’s not a pretty sight.

Sex toys feel better with lube whether its a vibrator, dildo or cock ring and it’s safer to use.  But be sure to clean your sex toy with soap and water or toy cleaner before and after each use.