With Halloween just around the corner, now is the time people start thinking about the sexiest ways to bring something fun to your bedroom. When it comes to your role-playing, whether you’re a Friday night lover, or a Saturday gamer, take some Do’s and Don’ts from the geek community and be prepared to role-play like you never have before!
Do brainstorm with your partner(s).
Find out what makes your partner tick! Do they have a particular character they would love to have in the bedroom? Does the idea of a sexy role-play scenario make them tremble? Brainstorm some props, roles, and costumes you want to try, and make yourself a shopping list! Be sure to also talk about the things that you don’t want to try, and make sure that you are letting your partner know if something is off limits. For some suggestions, check out this fantasy Halloween post!
Don’t let yourself get stuck into one role!
Many times, people who enjoy role-playing, can get stuck in a specific role. The beauty of fantasies, is that they become an excellent way to try new things, and to encourage a switching of roles. So feel free to try experimenting with your roles. Perhaps you are typically equal with your partner(s), maybe you can experiment with a little soft dominance and submission. Make sure you do your research with books like BDSM 101! If you like, you can even try playing with gender roles and exploring things that are out of the norm for you. Role-playing can be an excellent time to start toying with the idea of pegging, or acting out fantasies!
Do play around with costumes, props, and toys.
If you’re playing a naughty housekeeper, dress the part with a feather duster. If you have one that is clean, you can even use it to tickle your partner(s). Are you playing a sexy cowhand? get a little bit of rope to lasso your partner(s) in. You can even use that rope later to practice your bondage skills! Don’t be afraid to role-play with costume pieces you didn’t think of! Clark Kent’s tie can easily become a blindfold when he’s Superman. You can absolutely make use of old costumes, new costumes, and even your own closet for role play!
Don’t allow your body type or gender to decide what you role-play.
If you’re feeling sexy in what you’re wearing, or you are enjoying your fantasies and role-play with your partner(s) don’t allow your body to get in the way of that! If you want to be a male bodied Wonder Woman, do it! Feel free to rock that Lara Croft costume regardless of your body type. The best thing about role playing is that it doesn’t have to be for anyone else but you. You can enjoy the fantasies, the acting, and the scenarios without needing approval from anyone. So go ahead and pick up that pirate hat, and enjoy yourself!
Do act out your favorite fantasies!
Role-playing is an excellent way to try out new things without a lot of commitment. Are you feeling a bit more submissive, and want your partner to take the reins? Ask them! If you want to role-play that you’re a naughty school student, and your partner is a teacher, don’t be afraid to enjoy it. Between consenting adults, the taboo can include extraordinary pleasure. It is important though to respect your partner’s boundaries of comfort, and don’t push them into trying something that makes them feel uncomfortable!
Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do.
Just because you have a specific fantasy doesn’t mean you want to act it out, and that is okay! It’s okay to have boundaries regarding what you’re willing to or not willing to do. It’s also okay to allow those boundaries to change. Sexuality is fluid and flexible, and allows for change and growth. If you were okay with something and then change your mind, that is absolutely allowed. Making sure you check in with your partner regularly to ensure that they are also enjoying themselves is important too. I recommend trying a Yes/No/Maybe list with your partner to outline things that you like, dislike, and want to try! Check out this Yes/No/Maybe list for some ideas!
Do get into the mindset
If getting into a dominant character for your means painting your nails black and layering on the dark eyeliner, do it. If in order to really role-play a character you need to act like that character all day, give it a shot! There’s no script to follow in erotic role-playing, and no one to tell you that you’re doing it wrong. You get to decide how your role-play scenes go and what makes you feel good when playing them! Make sure you are in the right space for a role-play, and if you’re not feeling it that night, let your partner know that you’d rather try something else.
Don’t be afraid to go all out.
If you fantasize about giving a sexy massage with a happy ending? Pick up some of your favorite massage oil (may I recommend Southern Butter) and set up your room. Making the bed, setting out towels for your partner to lay on, and playing relaxing music. Really make sure to set the mood for your scene. If you’re Role-playing an office assistant and an employer, clean up your desk, and make sure you dress the part!
Whatever you’re doing, whether you’re role-playing a character, a part, a role, or simply dressing up in a costume, give it your all. Try to explore new things, but at the end of the day, make sure you don’t get so wrapped up in the role-play that you forget to have fun!