Cuckold Relationships

“My Husband told me that he wants me to have sex with other men.”

As a sex therapist, I have heard this more often than you would think. There is a small population of men and couples that engage in “cuckold” relationships.

The term cuckold first appeared in English Literature in 1562.  Cuckold refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know about his wife’s infidelity. This also refers to a tradition claiming that in villages of European time, the community would gather around to collectively humiliate a man whose wife gave birth to a child that was not his own.  According to this legend, a parade was held in which the hapless husband was forced into wearing antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife’s infidelity.

The term cuckold in modern times has morphed into what some refer to as a sexual fetish, or for some couples, a lifestyle.  As a clinical sexologist and intimacy counselor working with clients in cuckold relationships, I’ve observed that the practice is usually male driven, not anything like the unwanted humiliation of the past.  With the couples I counsel, the husband derives sexual pleasure from watching his wife have sex with other men.  The husband’s “victim” role is definitely a major element of the kink. In the fetish cuckolding subculture, the female is typically portrayed as being sexually dominant while the man takes on a submissive role, only becoming involved with her or her lover when she permits it—sometimes remaining completely celibate in the marriage altogether. One of the main ingredients in the cuckold marriage is the practice of humiliation, and for the husband’s sexual release to be withheld until his wife decides to allow him to climax.

In some marriages, the husband may even wear a male chastity belt as a way of his wife controlling his orgasm, playing out the fantasy that he is not capable of controlling it himself. Part of the sex play is also the comparison of penis size, and humiliating him for not having a large enough penis to give her full enjoyment of penetration.

Many times the concept of cuckold gets confused with swinging or polyamory, but cuckold is different. For most men that want their wives to join them in a cuckold relationship, it takes the pressure off to perform sexually. Indeed, the majority of the men who enjoy the cuckold lifestyle do have some form of sexual dysfunction.  They feel that they are not able to please their wives sexually, so they want another man to do it for them. They are also obsessed with the size of their own penis in comparison to other men.  They feel that their penis is too small to please their wife, regardless if whether that is true or not.

Often times because they are insecure with their penis size or sexual performance, they begin to fantasize about a cuckold relationship.  Some men even reported that after they had been in a prior relationship with a woman who cheated on them, instead of getting upset, they found that the idea turned them on.  Some experts could say that part of this is deeply hurt feelings turned into a sexual fetish. As this theory goes, the man thinks that because of his small penis or failure to please his partner, she cheated on him.  Although when pressed further, many men admit that they themselves created and perpetuated the idea in the woman’s head so that she would go out and cheat. Is it the chicken or the egg? It’s complicated, which is partly why it’s been designated as a fetish.

Another aspect of this fetish is sexual domination and punishment by the wife.  She may spank him, paddle him, or flog him and shame him for lack of fulfillment of her sexual desire.  This may become a part of just the sexual play in the couple’s life or this may become a way of life for the couple, depending on the degree of the cuckolding in the marriage.

For a man that is already married and wants his wife to engage in this fetish with him, it typically does not end well.  Most women do not understand why their husband would want another man to have sex with them, so communication and intimacy break down. Occasionally a wife will go along with this cuckold relationship to please her husband and / or because she has an open mind and an adventurous spirit.  At some point though, the end result of this behavior is that she falls in love with the other man, or realizes that she is not okay with this fantasy at all, and is in fact harboring resentment toward her husband.  The few relationships that have had some success with cuckolding are the ones where both the husband and wife were interested in the concept before marriage, and set up boundaries with clear communication beforehand.

For more information or to seek help with a cuckold relationship e-mail Dr. Dawn Michael at dawnm42@gmail.com

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Dawn Michael has a diverse background as well as education in various fields. As an undergraduate in speech communications, Dawn competed nationally on the speech and debate team for three years as well as coached college debate for one year. The art of communication is an important aspect of any profession, especially one that involves helping others to communicate more effectively. Dr. Michael then earned her M. A. Degree in Marriage Family Counseling while working at her family business as an interior designer, and licensed contractor. Dawn did her internship at a psychiatric hospital, a drug diversion counselor, and marriage counselor completing her 3000 clinical hours. Utilizing her communications background, and marriage counseling background, she developed couples interior design teaching classes and workshops for 10 years. She published several hundred articles in magazines, websites and became the L.A. Love and Marriage Examiner where she continues to write articles today. As her audience grew, it became clear to her that many couples had issues with intimacy. Dawn went back to college and earned her PhD in Human Sexuality from The Institute for Advanced Studies in Human Sexuality and a certified member of ACS. Dr. Michael continues to work with couples and individuals in private practice, as well as continuing her interest in teaching, writing, lecturing and developing systems in the field of sexuality, psychology, communications and relationships.

49 COMMENTS

  1. Modern Cuckold fetish is neurosis which is caused by watching porn movies. He find more arousal watching sex act then doing it himself hence some men unable to have sex with their wives/girlfriends. Now such guys start fantasizing their wives having sex with other man and that man must be like the one that they prefer to see as male porn actor in porn movies. If husband like MM F porn movies then he want her wife to do MM F type sex. If husband like black bull then he wants her wife to have sex with black bull like man. If husband like gang-bang sex then he expect her wife to be ganged banged. Any husband want sex pleasure from his wife. Now his taste of sex has changed he turned by watching sex act rather than having it himself so when he want to have sex pleasure from his wife then he want to watch his wife having sex with man whom he find similar to porn actor he likes. His feeling of Honor and modesty which is supposed to stop him doing this, get perverted to arouse him by making his way to do so. I think this is the most indecent, shameful sex pervert/fetish. To cure from this fetish man should read literature watch movies that are related to praise of masculinity, honor, modesty, chastity. He should also study and practice such religion like Islam which teaches honor of man, role of man. The importance of women hijab etc. This is how he get rid this satanic fetish. Man who do is utterly stupid person because he may loose his relationship, his wife’s love for him. He blocks his own seeds two spread and end up rearing the offspring of stranger man.

  2. I think cuckolding is natural. Afterall, shouldn’t a woman always be looking for the best dick to breed with? In primative times, I’m sure this was the case and man after man in the tribe slid up behind her at the bonfire to deposit his sperm inside her. Now in more modern times she has the latitude to decide if she wants to get pregnant or simply satisfy her natural cravings for orgasm. The natural need to find the best and a hardest cock is still driving her libido. My wife frequently states to me she needs a hard cock and not mine that only lasts a minute. And a woman can easily accomodate more cocks in a day than only one. I believe the vagina was designed for multiple dicks so the best sperm will get planted. It goes without saying a vagina can have many more dicks in a day than hardons a man can achieve so the woman should be the leader of the family or the husband risks being shown the door. Most women divorce thier hubby in thier 30s now anyway and seek a new mate. Final thought on women, isn’t the oldest profession in the world based on a woman giving herself to multiple encounters with a variety of men? I think whoring, cuckolding and female led relationship make a lot of sense for society and we would be a calmer society if women openly entertained multiple suiters in public and at home whether married or single.
    Next, a man proposes marriage on his knee in a subservient position. He intends to be a good provider and faithful to his woman, family, in all her needs. So a man should know his woman has already had several partners before he woos her. It is only expected that she will occasionally desire others as time goes on. So a woman who cucks her husband and then has casual partners for sex is in keeping with how our biological needs and natural desires are designed IMHO. A really good husband will help find good sex partners and see that her needs for sex are well met. Cuckolding to me is the best form of marriage.

    • You do not understand the primal urges of men or women if you think they looked for the best dick to breed with all the time. They look for the best mate and then want to mate for life. MEN on the other hand want to fuck any and all they find attractive, which is why they can ejaculate baby making items about 8 times a day instead of once a month. Women also produce a chemical when they are fucking meant to mentally attach them to the man who is fucking them. They would not have that chemical production unless evolution “decided” it was advantageous for them to do so. The thing that bothers me the most about you candi asses is the fact that you truly think your degenerate ways are the way we all should be. I am not coming from a moral high ground either, fuck morals, I have none, but the idea that its normal for you to go around a look for guys like me to put loads in your wife so you can eat them out is almost too comical to put into words. What biological imperative does that serve for the man getting the dicks for his wife? I know what is does serve, it serves as a way to delete your defective genes out of the gene pool….. where they belong.

  3. I’m a gay man and I live with my partner for 13 years. Seven years after we started dating I found out that he cheated on me. I was very jealous, but at the same time very aroused, like I’d never been before, what made me really confused. With time I figured out that the idea of him sleeping with another man really turned me on. We talked a lot about this and sometime, while we were having sex, we both fantasised about him having sex with another guy. It turned us both on. One day he finally did it. Since then we do it once in a while. He goes meet another guy and later, while we have sex, he tells me everything about it and how much he enjoyed it. I still feel jealous in a way, there is some amount of pain, but there is also this great sense of liberty and arousal about it… I wouldn’t want it any other way. Unfortunately there is almost nothing written about cuckolding in the gay community, but I’m a living example that it exists!

  4. We are in a cuckold relationship and it has only strengthened our bond. Our sex life has become much better and I can get a bigger cock whenever I want without feeling guilty. We both love it but it does require communication.

    • For us it was almost an evolving case. We first tried swinging, but since Sven is rather small down there and could not get it up most of the time, it was usually only me who ended up having sex. After a few encounters like that we both realized that he was probably a natural cuckold. I have had sex with six different guys in the last year. All six were larger than my hubby and amazing lovers. I feel really lucky and our relationship has also become much close. So far only positives.

  5. My wife said to me, “Don’t be nervous. My love for you is unconditional. I know you can’t help it. You are who you are. So if you believe being a cuckold epitomizes your inner self. If you know it defines you. You should accept it. You should be proud of it. Your declaration will be the ultimate act of liberation. I promise to enable your every need. I’ll honor and support your proclamation as a symbol of commitment to our relationship and my love will expand in ways you can’t imagine.” -FH

  6. An excellent explanation, and the cautions at the end are valuable. Men are often characterized as greedy pigs in bed, and many inexperienced ones are. However, in general and in the context of a relationship, men are keenly focused on pleasing their partners. Cuckolding is a way of accomplishing two things: (1) attempting to please his partner in ways that he cannot; and (2) especially if his penis is small (mine is) sexualizing longstanding and persistent fears and insecurities about his sexual capability and harnessing all that negative energy into positive sexual energy. Dr. Michael, I loved this posting.

    • It has nothing to do with satisfying the wife. That is what the hubby uses to look good when actually it is completely driven by his fantasy and fetish that brings him a lot of physical pleasure. If if he had a conscience and wanted his relationship to succeed he would find other solutions. Since he is strictly driven by his own pleasure when he masturbates in those situations, he ignores reality, the fact that it may work for a while but will eventually like everything based on personal gratification, evolve and end badly. Of course he ignores the warning signs because they actually heighten his pleasure and the couple implodes.
      Your post indicates clearly that you have not understood this posting.

  7. Wives rarely capitalize on this because they simply don’t understand the dynamics of penis size to men. Most women married to small endowed men usually refrain from pointing out their husband’s obvious lack of manhood, either because they are truly content with him, or, as mentioned above, are afraid to hurt his feelings.

  8. when most men are looking for hot ladies or having affair outside the marriage, why not women? Cuckolding is a concept that should be encouraged. Not only because it’s a practice of fairness for women but it also allows more sexual freedom for women. Men should not be always the only species to have this kind of sexual freedom

    • What a contradictory statement. Howcom cuckold is practice of fairness? you are talking about open marriage rather than cuckolding. In the cuckolding, man is often denied the chance of fucking his own wife let alone any other women.

  9. Found out my wife has cheated during our marriage. I am not a big or strong lover and I can understand her need for more. However, I would rather that she pursued this in more of a cuckold manner than going behind my back. Since I understand that she needs more than I have to give sexually, I would have liked experiencing these encounters with her.

  10. Cuckolding is, in my opinion, a very natural thing. I am living since 5 years in a successful cuckolding relationship, after all – on my blog, LovinsmallPenis, I talk about how I as a small endowed man enjoy this lifestyle!

  11. I think that most men who are cuckolds are made by a woman and I think that usually the woman wants her man to demonstrate total acceptance and what better way than to help her have sex with other men. There is nothing so submissive for a man than to accept his wife having sex with other men except cleaning her after or finding the other men for her. Being a cuckold means being owned by a woman and most cucking follows a pattern. The woman makes the man think it is his idea and she gradually breaks him down by sexual manipulation. She may start playing with his ass while talking about group sex or sharing and milking him at the same time. This progresses to penetration and eventually her doing him anally whenever she wants. Some women use humiliation to further reduce the mans resistance to being dominated. The funny thing is that her other lovers are cuckolds as well and provide sex on demand but are not valuable enough to have any deep relationship with. If you are a cuckold you are valued by your wife and loved but also dominated and sometimes abused. One of the reasons most cuckolds are not allowed to have other women is that their owners fear other females may steal their property.

    • Do you have any suggestions on how to approach this subject with my boyfriend. It took us breaking up a while back, because I thought he was accusing me of cheating, before I realized this was what it was really about. He has indirectly made comments, I just didn’t pick up on it at the time. I’m okay with it but he does not communicate well and I don’t want him shutting down.

      • During sex, you get him to tell you his fantasies- no limits. Then throw in some hints of you dressing skimpy and showing a little here and there- where he can see them watching you. Let him be in control at first – you are helping to turn him on- and make sure you are doing that physically as well as with the story. You never know. Most of us want to be the third party watching secretly.

      • you may want to gradually start dominating him and eventually use a dildo on his ass. This will change the emotional balance in your relationship and he will become submissive and supportive and accepting of you having other men and you will feel empowered to have whatever you desire, just treat him well and keep him involved by having him participate

  12. WAW!!! What an eye opener. I’ve been married for 21 years and my husband told me he is a cockold. Wtf??? I’ve never heard the term. Disgust, jealousy trust issues and rejection surfaced FAST!!! After some research I found it exists and is very dam real. How does a normal wife introduce this into her life and not thinking it’s crazy? How do I get back my husband the way he was before around 3 years ago.
    It’s caused a lot of pressure for me and I simply don’t understand it. Can our relationship ever go back to how it was but include our unconditional love we have received throughout this weird but very real fetish.
    Or do I except and please him(because I really want him happy) or do I try and learn and help him through this.? Is this potentially damaging to our relationship??

    • Yes it is like it wa said cuckolding fetishes are basicly escapism, a method to escape his deep insecurities and fears, he is going around his fears instead of breaking them. Help him, tell him how big he is even if he is not, tell what you like about him, suggest him to start going to the gym with you. This type of fetish is a rape fetish in my opinion only accepted because it is funny in this society to esmasculate men.

  13. This last post struck a chord with me! We are exactly in the same place. My wife says it doesn’t turn her on to talk about this. She does not find it sexually stimulating. She response is what about me? What about what turns me on? Yet, when I ask her, she talks about romantic settings, but not anything specific. Once she talked about Bell and Bill a western couple that are very hot for each other.

    So, how do we proceed? This fantasy arouse in me many years ago because of an indiscretion she revealed to me. At first I was shocked then really, really turned on. Growing to love the idea of her having sex with another man. I’d be happy if she would just entertain that in fantasy.

    She once did by wearing tight leather look pants while I fantasized about guys hitting on her and getting turned on by her.

    What to do?

    Thanks for any comments that might help. We are committed to each other.

  14. Hi,
    I live in India and my name is Gaurav Roy Bose. Before I put forth my case, I will like to discuss with you about my family history.

    My father and mother originally belonged to Bangladesh, from Sirajganj. Now there are and were many atrocities happening on the minority Hindu community in Bangladesh and that made my parents to leave Bangladesh and settle in India. On their return journey to India, they were attacked by goons and all their belongings were looted. Luckily my mother and father were saved by a Naib Subedar of the Indian army and in the refugee camp, my mother mated several times with the Naib Subedar who saved her life from the goons behind my father’s back. Eventually my mother had a baby from the Naib Subedar, who happens to be my elder brother, Sourav Roy Bose. The Naib Subedar never accepted the child and my father upon several requests from my mother accepted the illegal child and gave him his name. I was born almost 6 years after the incident. I came to know about my family’s past from my mother’s diaries. I always had the habit of spying into someone’s personal lives.

    Now the problem is that my girl friend had also known about my family’s past and now she is demanding that I be with a Femdom and cuckolding relationship with her or else she calls quits. I dearly love her, and I don’t want to leave her. I also want that she be mine and only mine. We are planning to get married, but she is demanding to be a open marriage from her side. I just can’t understand how I can accept someone mating my girlfriend and accept that its not a cheating.

    Can anyone please help?

  15. Getting cuckolded is a great thing for men – many love it !
    I have been reading in my blog (lovinsmallpenis.wordpress.com) for years about it.

  16. hai ,i have confused about cuckold sex, i spoke to my wife cuckold sex,,but its right or not ????any relationship problem will comes our life ???? i involve or not??? plz explain clearly

  17. I never heard the term cuckolding when I met the girl of my dreams and eventually married but I began fantasizing about it even before I knew there was even a term for it. The “cuckold” fantasies started manifesting shortly after my fiance “Kim” (now my wife) introduced me to one of her coworkers “Josh” at a holiday party. To me he seemed to be a very nice and and confident guy with a great sense of humor but after Kim had a few drinks in her it became a bit obvious that she had some kind of office crush on him, especially after he told us that he’d just broken off his current relationship with his girlfriend. It’s hard to put into words but Kim’s reactions to his confidence and his sense of humor were that of an infatuated school girl. Heck, even when he was mingling with others I noticed Kim frequently looking in his direction and whenever I returned from a smoke break or restroom break I’d find them together. Naturally I felt strong twinges of jealousy and panic but I tried brushing them off, convincing myself that it was just silly paranoia. In the weeks that followed that party I began thinking about the possibility of Kim cheating on me and it was arousing me sexually! I couldn’t understand why that aroused me so much but I couldn’t get it out of my mind. Finally, shortly after we got married I asked her about Josh, (Nothing sexual) just conversation about him and their daily interactions. Again, while talking about him I had the feeling that she “likes him” a lot but then she joked that he was still an eligible bachelor so I better be on my best behavior! WOW! I knew she was just joking but that was when I realized that my observations weren’t just paranoia so I broached the question. I asked her if she was sexually attracted to him. She said no at first but then I told her how obvious she is when she’s around him but that’s okay. I also confessed my fantasy and said that if she ever gets the opportunity to be with him to go for it, just as long as she tells me in advance and shares her experiences. About a month later Kim and Josh went out on their first date and my cuckold fantasy became a reality.

  18. I’ve been a cuckold for well over 20 years. It started out as a fantasy for me in my twenties. It was a kink for me long before I knew the terms for it: cuckold and wittol. I can only speculate where it started. Among the many kinks I have, I’ve always been a voyeur. I definitely found MMF and gangbang porn to be my favorite. I’ve had bisexual tendencies since I was a teenager, probably since I hit puberty. It was love at first sight for me and my wife and I find her incredibly attractive. A total MILF/Hot Wife. My wife of 20 years now, dated on and off for many years. She had sex with other men while we were apart, but she also cheated on me at least once while we were dating. I was certainly hurt when it happened, but as time went on it was incredibly arousing and I started fantasizing about her having sex with other men. She was a bit of a slut as a teenager and would tell me stories of her having casual sex with people she just met and it just fueled my arousal. After we got married, we had a threesome with my best friend at the time and I became obsessed with it. I encouraged her to have sex with him as often as possible. It got to the point where every time we went out, she would suck his cock and swallow. We went to a few swing clubs, so I could watch her have sex with other men. Humiliation wasn’t really a part of it in the beginning, but it is a huge part of it now. I’m almost 8 inches, so I’m not small, but the idea of someone stronger, better looking, with a bigger cock that can satisfy her is now a big part of the turn on. I’m told it’s common for a women not to cum during intercourse, but that is part of it for me when another man can make her cum when I can’t. The biggest turn on of all for me and something rarely mentioned in articles is her making me eat her lover’s cum. I don’t think I can explain how much that turns me on beyond anything I’ve ever done. I’m pretty obsessed by the thought of a man cumming inside her and her holding my head and sweetly encouraging me to clean it up. The humiliation of her asking me if I like eating another man’s cum and if I like the taste is intoxicating. I’m guessing that’s more rare. It may sound odd, but I completely love and trust my wife. If I didn’t, I couldn’t do it. If I thought she would fall in love with another man and leave me, it wouldn’t be a turn on. It works because I’m not jealous of anyone. I’m confident that she loves me just as much as I love her. I certainly worship her more and I’m more the submissive. The slightly odd part is that she is also submissive, so she’s a sweet and loving dominant to me. She’s never mean about it. I feel incredibly lucky that my wife is so willing to indulge me. I’m guessing there are many cuckolds out there that aren’t in a situation where they can share their desires and my heart goes out to them.

    • Thank you for this comment. I have been considering a cuckold relationship with a man that I have fallen deeply for and this was wonderful to read.

    • Congrats that you lasted 20yrs. She undoubtedly loves you very much. But there is a danger!!!! When or if she finds that special “bull” who becomes a “boy friends”. What can happen an”attachment” is started and they fall “in love”This is called a “triangle”and never works for long. Someone is this triangle WILL get hurt!!!!

  19. I have a hard time calling my husband a cuckold although our relationship does fit into what people consider a cuckold marriage. That is: I have sex with other men but my husband is completely faithful to me. No, I don’t go around screwing just any guy but there have been a few.
    The first was about five years into marriage. Our sex life had become very, very boring. As for me, I was out there growing up. I had my first sexual experiences very young and very often. My husband was raised in a very traditional family and he was very closely watched by his mom to keep him away from bad girls or ones that just wanted his sperm. How I slipped by I don’t know, maybe it was because I was very good at acting like this sweet innocent. At least until she caught me giving him a blow job. Somehow I convinced her he talked me into it and I only did it because I loved him and didn’t want to lose him. A few tears helped.
    I didn’t tell her I actually had probably sucked a dozen or so before her sweet baby boy had stuck his in my mouth. Actually I had just done another guy the night before. That brings that up. I was not at all faithful to my husband during our dating. He of course had no idea.
    Anyway, back to our marriage and the first time I had sex with another guy in front of my husband. It was after a party, not too wild but I did see a few couples use some bedrooms. I really was getting horny and wanted to see what that swinging thing was all about but we had one big problem: my husband is really not all that good in bed. I love him but he has no imagination and compared to most men I have been with not all that well equipped and he knows it.
    He does give GREAT head though. He is better at that than any other guy I have been with but sometimes a girl has to have something big, hard and get it rough and nasty. That brings in Tom. He is an ass. Yes, an ass and a womanizer a player whatever but he is an extremely good bang. He was at the party alone, he had just broken up with a friend of mine mostly because he had played around and once or twice with me.
    He was drunk as Tom usually is so my husband being the really good guy he is offered to drive him home. Tom passed out on the way and could not tell my husband where he lived. I could have but how would I explain that one away? We took him home and put him to bed. Didn’t want him sleeping in our clean sheets in pants so I unbuckled them and my husband pulled off his shoes and pulled the pants at the cuffs. Of course this bit thing fell out of his boxers and surprisingly it was hard!
    My husband just stared, I didn’t know what to do so I reached over and pulled it back into his boxers. I looked up at husband and his eyes where huge! We walked back into the bedroom and got undressed. We laid there, my husband was very aroused and asked what if felt like to touch that thing? We talked more and that is when he admitted to being turned on thinking about me screwing other guys. I was getting so hot about this time it didn’t take me but a moment to say: Honey if you want me to go in there and fuck him so you could watch just say so!
    He didn’t answer but by now I just wanted it. I knew you could wake Tom up dead drunk and fuck him. I had done it but hubby didn’t need to know. I got up and walked out the bedroom and down the hall. I put my hand on the doorknob and turned so hoping hubby followed me. He did but if he hadn’t I don’t know if I could have stopped.
    I walked in and Tom was still out. I sat next to him, pulled his cock out, took one last look at husband and sucked it. After that I almost forgot husband was in the room. I on top and at the end under Tom who has no problem screwing in front of other people. Finally after several very good orgasms, helped of course by knowing I would not have to screw behind my husbands back anymore, I fell off Tom and looked over at my husband. He was sitting there with his pants down and cum all over himself. He had masturbated watching us!
    Usually he is done after cumming once but after we got back to our bedroom he wanted to screw. I let him but after Tom it was a bit of a let down. He did cum quick again and then again in the morning. We got up and Tom was gone. I was going to pull the sheets off and wash them but my husband told me to leave them on so we could make love in the same spot. That I thought was a bit creepy but hell, he just gave me the OK the screw other men so what the hell.

  20. I didn’t know I was cuckold until my wife came home late one evening, and I slipped my fingers inside of her. I knew immediately she was usually not that wet, so I moved down and licked her pussy. It didn’t take a genius to figure out I was eating another man’s cum. The next day we talked about it, and from that point on I encouraged her to fuck who ever she wanted, as it made me horny as hell. We developed to the point where I would watch, suck his cock hard for her, and since she doesn’t like anal, I was the recipient of that. I of course had to keep her licked clean when she had cum in her, either from other men, or myself. It made us a lot closer in our relationship.

  21. I became a cuckold long before I knew about it. After ten years of marriage I began to notice a sudden change in my wife. Dressing more sexy and being a bit evasive at times. I also noticed how happy she had been lately and how our sex life had picked up.
    I was to be out of town for a few days for work. A cab took me to the airport and I flew out. As soon as I got there I found out everything was cancelled. I got on a flight late and decided not to call. A cab took me home and as soon as I walked in I knew something was off. The music was still playing and a couple of glasses where on the table next to the couch. Then I noticed a pair of men’s shoes tucked under the table. Much too big to be mine.
    I walked towards our bedroom but long before I got to the door I could hear them. She is never quite having sex but I had never heard her that loud. I just looked thru the open door and there she was, riding him with her back to me. She is good on top and when she gets going she does not stop until she finishes.
    I just stood there, I could clearly see his erection sliding in and out of her. I could also clearly see he did not have a condom on. I should have yelled and stopped them but I just froze. I knew she was almost there but the only thought I had was is he going to cum in her? Of course she did and then he did and he was not quite about it.
    I had no idea who it was inside my wife until I looked over at the pile of clothes on the chair. Instantly I knew, it was this guy down the street. I had even seen him wearing that stuff as I left that day for the airport. He was much younger than me. He was even ten years younger than my wife! And he was known in the neighborhood as being a bit of a man slut.
    I stepped away and leaned back against the wall out of sight. What was I going to do? Confront them and get angry? I knew punching him was out of the question, he was in very good shape and much bigger than me. I could hear them talking and my wife asking if he wanted a beer. It took a few seconds for it to register but she was going to have to walk right past me! I walked to the office in the room next to our bedroom.
    There is a door between the two and when she came back I could hear them very clearly. She was giggling and then it got quite. I very carefully opened the door a crack and she was on top of him again kissing. Her hips where moving in a slow grinding motion making her breasts sway back and forth.
    This is when I began to get aroused. I reached down and rubbed myself thru my pants. I was ashamed and confused but could not help myself. I pulled it out and my pants dropped to the floor. I must have been a sight, a husband peeping thru a crack in the door masturbating while his wife was screwing another man.
    I shot in a few seconds blowing all over the door. Of course the guilt and shame washed over me at once. I pulled my pants up and didn’t even bother to zip them. I stopped at our home bar and grabbed a bottle. I went outside and into my workshop and got drunk. I woke the next morning laying on my workbench with an empty bottle and feeling sick as hell.
    I went in and found them laying naked on the bed. Now even thru the fog and sickness of my hangover I began to get aroused again. She had her arms around him and I could see he was erect under the sheets. I could also understand why she enjoyed him so much, he was well endowed.
    I grabbed another bottle and headed back to the workshop and masturbated, got drunk and passed out again. That is how she found me later that day.
    We had talk after talk and she promised never to cheat again. Now my fantasies all revolve around watching her screw other me. A few days ago I admitted that to her and told her what I had done that night, masturbated watching her. I think she lost all respect for me, she called me a pervert and told me I needed help.
    Last night she did not come home and I know she is out with another man.

  22. Our relationship has always been very honest. We tell each other everything, life goals, joys and fears. I was single and he was divorced before we got married. After a couple of years, finally more of our previous love life came up. I told him I had a three of previous relationship and they were all passing fancies. It was actually 12 or 15, I just thought three would make him feel better. Then I asked him. He was shy at first but he told me that he had 5 previous girlfriends and of course his ex-wife. He told me everything. His honesty just poured out. He said that all his previous girlfriends and his first wife cheated and relatively openly. I was shocked. He seemed to need to tell me more so I asked him to be specific. So he told me every detail of his cheating girlfriends and ex-wife, a very hot large-breasted redhead, who I knew before I married him. I saw her with other men in bars and at a private house party with a tall, well built, well as they say tall, dark and handsome man who was a bass player in a very popular local jazz band. I was really amazed and really curious. So I asked more about them and how they accomplished their escapades. I even asked him to tell me how he felt about it. I really did not need to ask. It was obvious considering how turned on he got relating it all. Is this normal? Funny thing is that his story really got to me too. Does he want me to be like them and cheat too? The thing is, I would never leave him. I think it would be great to have someone to willingly approve of my sexual independence.

  23. When my girl friend, now my wife, confess she suck the pennis (and sperm) of her ex boy friend several times, while dating with me, I was so excited that asked her, several times, to describe the scene, the size of the pennis (bigger than mine, according her), how many times per date, how good was to swollen the sperm. From this day on, we fantasy I was the former boy friend while fucking her from behind and our pleasure increased a lot. At certain point, excitation was such I openned the doors for her to fuck him, with my presence or even without, if she compromises to tell me later all details. I even offer all facilities (clothes, shoes, lingeries, spa treatment) for her to be as beautiful and sexy as possible to fuck with the guy, even allowing her to have a honeymoon trip. I told her that, once started, she will be the dominant fator in our relationship and she will be in conditions to have as much sexual pleasure as possible. At this time, she refused as the does not want to put our marriage, which is very good, on risk. The former boy friend pass away and now she regret, when we are in our fantasy, why she did not accept my proposal…..

  24. I’m a married, submissive crossdresser. My wife knows of my crossdressing, but does not participate or encourage. I keep my body and legs smooth shaven, and would love my wife encouraging, better still, ordering me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis, seeing as I keep my legs so feminine. She might even tease me about my crossdressing, calling me her feminine husband, and “husband bitch”. Thus; I would enjoy her in a dominant role in our marriage. I’ve also always had the fantasy of her flirting with, and being in an intimate relationship with another man. I’ve had this fantasy and desire since before we were married, but never found a way to tell her. I didn’t want her to think I didn’t love her, and didn’t think she could be open-minded or accepting enough to include this in our marriage. I’ve had so many thoughts and fantasies with my crossdressing that she’d never accept, and loose respect for me. She’s one great woman. Too little; too late I suppose!

  25. I’ve always been curious about cuckold marriages. My wife knew I was a crossdresser before we were married. She does not participate or encourage me in any way. I keep my body and legs smooth shaven, and would love for my wife to encourage, even better, order me to wear sheer nylons on a regular basis for her inspection, seeing as I keep my legs so feminine. She could also tease me about my crossdressing, calling me her feminine, “bitch husband”. Thus; I would enjoy a dominant side to her nature. Also; I’ve always had thoughts and fantasies of my wife openly flirting with other men, and having an intimate relationship with another man. I’ve had these thoughts and feelings since before we were married, but could never tell her, as I didn’t want her to think I didn’t love her. Also; I didn’t think she could be open-minded or accepting enough to include this in our marriage. Maybe too little; too late.

  26. I enjoyed reading this thread and gaining knowledge. It seems cuckolding is its current form is rarely a cut and dry situation and some couples have found it as a hot benefit to their sex life while for others it does not work.

    I have had fantasies of my wife getting pleasured by other men. Idk why, my back ground does have a considerable amount of porn I was probably considered an addict at some point. I have had a lot of sex in my younger days with many women as well. My performance is not what it used to be and I do not get horny as often and have become a short timer but I get horny thinking of non-traditional things and her getting fucked by a big hard cock and me watching or participating. I have a conservative Asian wife who is understanding I am not great at sex anymore. I talk about it with her sometimes as I’m fondling her or we are having sex and she does seem to get a little wet at the thought. I tell her mmm wouldn’t like a big hard one to fuck you good so you can cum all over it. I think if I knew someone clean and good looking that we could do it with and never see again she might try it but for now its just talk.

  27. It is a very complex fetish. I was in a wife sharing relationship for 5 years. We both were from conservative families and we went from best friends in high school to college lovers to marriage in 3 short years. We had We had 4 children by the time we were 28. Our sex life waned as my wife (not blaming her – how she was raised) became the 1950’s mom. We loved being mom and dad but we lost us. Everything we did was centered around the children. I went from the guy that swept her off her feet to the “Dad”. When we had sex it was great sex but we would go 3,4,5 months with no sexual relationship. I would get frustrated she felt pressure. What was wrong? I was in great shape and I am not lacking down under…. Maybe I just didn’t do it for her anymore.

    10 years into our marriage and 4 children later we went on a cruise. 7 days no kids no contact with the outside world. I found my best friend again and fantasies were shared. Surprisingly one of her recurring fantasies was a threesome with 2 men. My fantasy had become “if she could have the ultimate sexual experience she would be more interested in sex”… to me a woman with two men would be her ultimate experience.

    For the next 10 years we grew to depend on that fantasy and it grew branches until it almost became the focal point of our sex life. IT was the catalyst to our sex life. When our fantasy sharing time was strong we communicated like song birds but otherwise it was the same old same old.

    We eventually decided to act on it. I was surprised because it was her idea to take it from fantasy to reality. “We have to do this or it is going to drive us crazy” was her opening sentence when we met for lunch. I thought I knew what she was talking about but I played it cool. She was serious.

    To make a long story short. We tried it and there were failures and successful adventures. When we were starting out it was bliss. We were communicating so well. We had our rules. We had our code words for Yes and No when we met guys. All IM’s were recorded. Completely open communication. We were so very happy. The problem was that we associated the “act of sharing her” with this new found joy. Looking back the joy was due to the one mindedness and communication.

    It really was fun for a few years but it became a task to find the perfect bull. It consumes a lot of energy. You have to plan get aways. You have kids to consider and the exciting new secret you share and enjoy inside jokes…. can become a burden. That is what happened to us. This can cause you to continually SEEK for that ultimate experience or “Bull”.

    As it became more of a task than a thrill we fell back into our old uncommunicative ways. If I saw her talking to a guy I would jump to “Is he a candidate?” If I wanted to take her away for a weekend … just us… she starting thinking… does he have something up his sleeve? Communication failure. We became the stereotypical couple I have read about that take part in this activity. She felt “how could someone that truly loved me let me have sex with another man”. I was “I love her so much that I want her to feel free to express this side of her with out guilt”.

    We are separated and I don’t know where this will end. I still love her like I did 30 years ago. We’ve both had relationships and this sharing theme has not been in my head at all. I do admit it pops in my head from time to time when I think about my wife… but I would never pursue it again. We are still great friends. BUT this secret hangs over my head. WHAT IF… is always there. What if we wouldn’t have done this… WHAT IF she says something to someone. The Wife Sharing – Cuckold adventures didn’t cause our marriage to fail but it was a factor. I can’t say every couple falls into this category but if you are thinking about it or if you are in it. Be sure it is not nor does it become THE CENTER PIECE of your marriage. If it does you could end up with a world of regret. Regret is far worse than uncomfortable feeling forcing yourself to have that conversation that you KNOW you need to have even when you don’t want to.

  28. I am sitting here this morning trying to sort out my feelings. We have been married for five years and up until a year ago had what I thought a good sex life. I know I was spending way too much time at work but I was moved up in the company which meant a lot more money but a lot more commitment.
    Long hours and a lot of weekend work really drained me.
    A few months ago I came home late on a Friday and my wife had left a not saying she was going out with some of her friends. I was sort of relieved, all I wanted was to stuff some food down and hit a couple of shots and then bed.
    It didn’t take me very long to crash and when I woke very early the next morning I reached over to where she was supposed to be but that side was empty. I got up and looked at my phone, she had texted that she had drank too much and was staying at a friends house that night.
    OK, well I hit the app that showed where she was just to make sure she had gotten there safely. Truly at that time I suspected nothing. Funny but it showed that she was miles away in a place I did not recognize. Worried I thought I would just drive by and see. I got in my car and went to where my phone showed.
    I say early and I mean early. It was around 3 am and the streets where very deserted. I pulled up to the house and realized it was another of her friends. Curious I began to walk up the the front door and then I heard music coming from the back. I figured they where all out in the back yard drinking and talking.
    I had been to a party here once and knew where the side gate was. I walked thru and before I could see anyone I heard male laughter. I peeked around the corner and the firs thing I saw was this guy getting out of the pool naked followed by my wife also naked.
    I leaned against the side of the house in disbelief. It was dark where I was and there was even a light shining towards them so there was no chance of them seeing me. The naked guy had an erection and my wife walked up to him and grabbed it. The other women where making comments and laughing. My wife said something like come with me and she actually pulled the guy by his penis into the house.
    A moment later a light came on in one of the bedrooms on my side of the house. I guess this would have been the time to storm in there and stop it? I went to that window and pressed my ear against it. I could not see in but I could hear everything. I knew they where screwing and I could tell my wife was really into it. She is never quite but now she was exceptionally vocal.
    All of a sudden I realized I was erect. I pulled it out and began to stroke it. As they went harder at it I got more and more turned on and finally I shot all over the side of the house. Immediately I felt the guilt and shame wash over me. I dropped to my knees and puked as silently as I could. Fortunately the music was loud enough to cover.
    I went out to my car and drove home. I went into our bathroom and looked at myself in the mirror. I had seen cuckold movies and stuff but never really considered it. I always thought I would be too jealous and way too insecure. I was but I was also turned on in a way I didn’t understand.
    I looked down at my pants and notice that some of my jerk didn’t make it to the wall, I had shot some on myself. I pulled them off and into the hamper. I then stripped and looked at myself, yes he was a lot better looking than me, he had a much nicer toned body and while his dick wasn’t that much bigger it looked super hard.
    I decided I needed a stiff one, that was the last time I ever refereed to a shot as a stiff one. Every time I thought of that phrase since I thought of his stiff one and what it had done to her. As soon as I poured it I heard her drive up, I quickly went into the bedroom and turned the lights out. I listened as she went into the shower, all the time thinking of her naked body being washed clean of another mans sweat and semen. I wondered, did they use a condom or did he just pump her full of his juices not caring if they put a baby in another man’s wife?
    Again I got aroused. This time the shame came with it but not enough to stop it. I resisted the urge to masturbate but the erection stayed. I downed another shot as I had brought the bottle with me. She finished and I expected her to come into the bedroom. I waited but everything got quite so I carefully opened the door. I went down the hall and to the spare room. The door was open so I looked in, there was just enough light to see she was in bed. I wondered, was she dreaming of the man she had just fucked or me?

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