As a sex writer, I get a lot of free sex toys, lubes, condoms, whips, and sometimes even chains thrown my way. Often times, I’m simply too busy to try them all and they end up in their special three-drawer cabinet file, which I like to call my own personal Island of Misfit Sex Toys, until I need to write about them.
But when I received Dr. Kat’s Flutter Ring ($29.95, phthalate and latex free, waterproof) I instantly gave it a go based on looks alone. First, vibe rings are my favorite category of toy, so it’s always fun to try something new. They get right to the point, fit nicely in a nightstand, and travel well in my carry-on luggage (I once got stopped by TSA at the airport because apparently my dildo looked like a bomb). But, don’t let the name fool you. It’s a ring for your or your partner’s finger — not a cock ring that goes around the base of the penis.
Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a board certified sexologist, host of the podcast Sex Chat with Dr. Kat, and author of the book, The Married Sex Solution: A Realistic Guide to Saving Your Sex Life, also had me at her unique “flutter” look and technology. It’s a super-soft silicone pink finger ring with a vibrating bullet inside featuring four “wings” and a small little hole in the middle where the head of your clit goes.
What makes it stand out from the plethora of other vibrating rings or mini magic bullets on the market is that the vibrating “wings,” which quite literally flutter like a butterfly’s wings, vibrate and stimulate the larger area surrounding the clit. Most vibe rings focus on the clit’s head, a.k.a., “the little man in the boat,” a.k.a., “the love button.”
But, clitoral stimulation can come from the shaft (which can be about 4″) and legs of the clit — yes, your clit has legs. The legs, or clitoral crus, extend out from the shaft in the shape of a wishbone.
Dr. Kat’s research showed that most women have increased orgasmic response with indirect stimulation versus direct. The ring, which measures about 3.75″ x 2.75′ and features 10 vibration speeds and functions that go from fast to slow and continuous to pulsating, surrounds the clit with vibration from each side instead of just directly on the tip. This is great news for women who are too sensitive on the tip, or for those whom which direct clitoral stimulation causes pain. It also teases the labia and creates vibrations that roll through that area from the outside in. It’s a great way to discover what other areas of your clitoral region can bring you pleasure.
I gave it a go and it was total information overload for all 8,000 nerve endings down there. And, yes, the fluttering effect was so novel and exciting that by the time I could say “butterfly kisses,” I was done. It’s relentless, simple, and, well, direct in its indirectness!