The New York Times Wants To Hear Your Stories Of “Miscommunicated” Sexual Encounters

The New York Times, which has done a great job of telling stories that needed to be told– including reporting on Harvey Weinstein and other sexual harassers, has decided to get some sex stories from its own readers.

“We’re looking for stories about sex that was troubling or awkward, hilarious or profound, from people of all ages, races, gender identities, sexualities and abilities,” they posted. “The point of this project is to bring our inner voices out, shedding light on where communication about sex breaks down and why.”

With the way people act these days, they should have plenty of ridiculously awkward dating and sex stories. Like a first date I had where a guy told me he was “in love with my toes”, “couldn’t keep his eyes off them,” and asked me to wiggle them in my sandals. Dude, my eyes are up here. Check please.

“Sometimes, we leave sex thinking, “What exactly just happened?” noted the Times. Me too. Join the club. “Stories of how we communicate about sex and intimacy are rare,”
they said. “That’s where you come in.”

I love this, as the real problem we have concerning sex is communicating about sex. Either too many things are left unspoken in a relationship or people turn each other off with TMI on the first date.

“The New York Times is seeking your stories of miscommunication around sex for multiple projects, including an episode of our podcast The Daily. Share your story at (212) 556-8300.”

“Are you a young person who had an intimate experience that was anything but intimate?” the Times asked. (Yep, I started to have sex once when I was 21, and noticed a pair of eyes peeking out from a closet. It was the guy’s nosy roommate.)

“Divorced and confused after a night with someone you met on a freshly downloaded dating app?” they wondered. (I didn’t go out with him, but the first (and last) time I went on Tinder, I saw my neighbor’s husband on there.)

“Married and have that thing you just never talk about?” (Not married, but the guy I was in love with forget to tell me he was also in love with someone else.)

“Or perhaps you can tell us a story that exemplifies how sexual communication has changed since the first time you had sex,” (“Young men these days have no idea how to romance the girls,” according to my Mom. “They just want to text and then screw.”) Mom was just sayin’.

Now I can’t wait to see how other people answered these questions.

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Anka Radakovich is a legendary Sex Columnist, Certified Sexologist, Sex Educator, Screenwriter, and Author of the new book THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, PART 2, Tales from New York to Hollywood. https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Girls-Club-Part-Hollywood/dp/0990462129/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= THE WILD GIRLS CLUB, Part 2 is her third book. Her first two books The Wild Girls Club; Tales from below the Belt, and Sexplorations; Journeys to the Erogenous Frontier were both published by Crown/Random House. She was the Sex Columnist for DETAILS Magazine for 9 years and is currently a Sex Columnist for BRITISH GQ and Brides.com. Her writing has appeared in dozens of magazines including Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Men's Journal, Seventeen, Glamour, and Maxim. She has appeared on numerous television shows including 8 appearances with Conan O’Brien. She was a Jeopardy question under the category “Men’s Mags.” As a Sex Educator and Sexologist, she is a college lecturer at Universities throughout the country who offers her unique brand of sex education. She lives in New York City. Follow her on Twitter @ankarad.

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