Ah, dating, could it get any more ridiculous? In the name of empowered dating, we rounded up a few dating trends that most people didn’t even know were trends. Our advice: if you don’t buy into them, you don’t have to deal with them. We say: create your own dating rules instead of following someone else’s.
For singles out there, it seems like everyone is playing dating games. Dating apps and sites have created a more casual, (and confusing) environment for everyone involved. First there was “ghosting” where you meet someone online then they disappear, then there was “haunting,” where someone breaks up with you but then creeps your Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, occasionally liking your posts. Empower your dating life by ignoring the ghosters and haunters and moving on! (We also recommend actually meeting people the old fashioned way: in person.)
“Cushioning” on the other hand, is something we don’t have a problem with. In the beginning stages of dating where you are non-exclusive, it actually makes sense to keep your dating options open. It’s a dating technique that may prevent you from getting hurt. (“Cushioning” may explain the “ghosting” phenomena. This is when the someone you are chatting and flirting chickens out right before meeting up because they are already dating someone else–or are married!) Just another reason not to give your heart too quickly to someone you’ve just met.
According to urbandictionary, the “top definition” for cushioning is “A dating technique where along with your main piece you also have several ‘cushions’, other people you’ll chat and flirt with to cushion the potential blow of your main break-up and not leave you alone.”
John: Hey Jack, how are things going with that girl Jill you’re dating?
Jack: Idk man, I know she’s seeing other guys, and I think I’ve been benched.