Sunday, September 24, 2017
Authors Posts by Josh Bocanegra

Josh Bocanegra

3 POSTS 0 COMMENTS
Josh is the CEO/Founder of the matchmaking site, LoveRoom. He's based in Hollywood, CA.  Say hi on Facebook (http://facebook.com/joshbocanegra)

This App Could Change The Way We Sext

The Internet has made it possible to find love in the comfort of your own home. Online dating sites make it easy to meet people in many interesting ways.

LoveRoom helps single people find love by sharing a room for one week, while Tinder helps you meet people nearby by swiping through photos. Countless dating sites give you the opportunity to put yourself out there and search for ‘the one.’ Technology has been a huge time and money saver when it comes to the world of dating.

But what about those of us who are already in a relationship? Sure, there’s a ton of apps that helps us go on better dates, but there’s nothing really that interesting in technology for couples.

And what about those of us who are in long distant relationships?

It pretty much comes down to sexting.

Sexting is fun. It helps you test the waters when talking to someone new and keeps the spark alive between couples. I’ve searched the app store and the Internet to find apps that make sexting better and came across one that just might do the trick.

Sexting For Couples

Meet Vibease. Vibease is about helping those in long distant relationships maintain their intimacy. It’s basically a smart vibrator for women.

Ladies, listen up, this app allows your boyfriend to control its vibration level and rhythm from anywhere in the world. It’s going for $99 (the app is free) and you can get it in your choice of color: pink or purple.

Here’s what the founder, Hermione Way, has to say about the grand vision behind Vibease:

“The grand vision is to provide an immersive pleasure experience for women around the world so they can reach climax easier. 56% of women are not reaching orgasm during sex and the reason why is that when it comes to sex men and woman are very different. Men can reach climax using visual stimulation, women need more of their senses stimulated. Because Vibease is a bluetooth connected device, it works in sync with erotic stories, like 50 Shades Of Grey, that are in our fantasy marketplace stimulating both body and mind.

Most women don’t realize there are huge benefits to reaching orgasm including lowering blood pressure and reducing stress and anxiety. The first vibrator was invented by a British doctor in the 1800s to treat anxiety. By equipping women with the tools they need to reach orgasm easier, we are helping women become healthier and happier.”

Sexting For Singles

Although Vibease was created to be used for couples, I think it can also be used for singles. Hookups happen locally, but sexting can happen anywhere in the world.

Although I have no problem with hookups, we can’t ignore the fact that hookups can be dangerous if you’re not practicing safe sex. Unfortunately, sometimes we get caught up in the heat of the moment and take risks.

So, what if there was a way to “have sex” without exactly having sex? That’s where Vibease comes in. Instead of just sexting and sending photos to that cute guy you met online from Brazil, he can actually download the app and control your vibrator.

Think about that for a second. This can take sexting a whole new level for singles. This is where digital meets physical. Sorry fellas, but there isn’t a smart sex toy for men yet.

Still, Vibease serves its purpose more so for long distant relationships because those are the relationships that often need the most attention.

These relationships are more serious and if a couple wants to maintain their intimacy from a distance, this is a great way to do it.

How To Safely Steal Any Girl From Her Boyfriend

Sometimes, the one we love is sleeping with someone else. Sometimes, we can’t just “hope she’s happy,” we have to take her from him. However, this is a dilemma that usually doesn’t end well for the inexperienced. You or she can get into some big trouble with her boyfriend if he ever finds out. So you owe it to yourself and to her to really plan this out.

Since I was 16 years old, I’ve stolen girls from their boyfriends plenty of times. Luckily, I’ve never gotten into much trouble, but my friends on the other hand, have gotten themselves into pretty messy situations. Going after a woman who is already taken may be about “wanting what you can’t have” but on a deeper level, I believe it’s ultimately about understanding what we really want. Here’s the smartest way to do it without drama.

  1. Be her friend on Facebook. You have to be her friend on Facebook in order for this to work. It’s easiest and safest way to do it.
  2. Don’t “Like” any of her selfies. If you did already, it’s okay, but stop. You have to be so smooth, that she wouldn’t even see you coming.
  3. Like / comment on “some” of her posts. Publicly compliment her intelligence — not her looks. Your comments should be less than 140 characters long (Like tweets), otherwise, you’re probably saying too much.
  4. Find mutual friends and use that to break the ice in a private message. If you already messaged her before, skip this and see #5.
  5. Send her messages with questions — not statements. Make her suspect (don’t tell her) that she’s interesting to you. Finding out what she’s interested in will serve you well when you proceed to #6.
  6. Support what she’s interested in by sending her links to relevant stuff on the Internet. An example message might look like this: “Hey since you said you like x, I found this article about x that I thought you’d might like”. As a pro tip, use StumbleUpon for help with finding cool stuff to send her.
  7. Don’t ask for her phone number. The name of the game is to just be her friend — with (seemingly) no strings attached. ONLY ask for her number when it’s time to meet.
  8. Don’t talk about her boyfriend unless you know what she has to say is negative. If it’s negative, don’t criticize him, just comfort her. If she has nice things to say about her boyfriend, don’t talk about him much more.
  9. Eventually, it will be time to meet with her. This is the biggest step of all. Go to a coffee shop or a park — somewhere casual. You MUST flirt a little to stay out of the friend zone, but not too much. Now is the time to compliment her looks. It’s always best do this in person. Always look directly into her eyes when you compliment her. This… my friend, is where the magic happens.
  10. Remember this important fact. Since she’s in a relationship, this may take a period of about 3 to 4 months — sometimes less, sometimes more. You have to be patient. It doesn’t matter how long she’s been in the relationship, 3 to 4 months is usually the time-frame.

If you think this is a form of manipulation — maybe so, but if a man is willing to work for 3 or 4 months to try to get you, don’t you think he just might be worth it?

Besides, if a man can take a woman from another man, the relationship was probably not so strong anyway. You can take any woman from her boyfriend as long as she’s at least attracted to you (and doesn’t read this post). Oh and by the way ladies, it also works vice versa 😉

Ex With Benefits? The Perfect Song For Your Backslide Sex

What’s harder: Letting go or moving on? I think most of us can agree that it depends on the person. But I don’t think our love and sex lives have to be so black and white.

Unless your ex was abusive or has done you wrong in some serious way, you may still be friends – or at least following each other on Instagram. That’s where I suggest you consider expanding the grey area in the dynamics of the relationship.

I’d like to introduce a new idea (backed with its own theme song) called Ex With Benefits (or EWB). Let me elaborate on the benefits:

You know Your Ex

You’ve already had sex with your ex – you guys aren’t strangers. If you’re going to have sex with anyone, why not someone you know instead of someone you just met on Tinder?

Besides, you don’t want to move too fast when it comes to dating new people. So, if you think you can do it, satisfy your sexual urges with an ex.

Of course though, you have to make sure that you and your ex are clear about whatever is expected. If one of you thinks this means you’re getting back together and one of you thinks it’s just great sex, that’s a problem.

What I’m suggesting is very much like having friend with benefits. In this case, I call it: Ex with Benefits

The Sex Is Great

Love is complicated, isn’t it? One day you’re toasting to an ideal future with the one you love and the next day you’re kicking him to the curb because he cheated on you.

So often, love turns to hate. But it doesn’t have to. Sure the relationship went sour, but how was the sex? If the sex was good, who says “hanging out” every now and then is a bad thing? In fact, you’re both saving yourselves the trouble of finding a new booty call, while remaining free to keep looking for someone better. It’s a win-win.

Unless of course, the sex was never great. In that case, you don’t need to read any further.

The Perfect EWB Song

It’s a soul ballad by Sade called “Is It A Crime.” If you’ve never heard it or don’t like it, perfect! Use this song as background music when you’re alone in that old familiar place together exchanging flirtatious remarks. Someone is going to get in the mood.

And since it’s not a modern pop song, no one should be distracted with the urge to sing along to the lyrics. (Believe me, this is an unfortunate truth for 20 somethings). Plus, the constant sax solos are so old-school nostalgic that your backslide action will seem downright fresh in comparison.

Watch the clip above for the best song to listen to while having sex with your ex (or to send to your ex to encourage the booty call).