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Dr. Diana Wiley

Dr. Diana Wiley has over 30 years experience as a Board-Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California and Washington. She was a sex therapist at UCLA’s Female Sexual Medicine Center and is Clinical Assistant Professor for the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Florida. Respected, fascinating and fun – Dr. Wiley specializes in sexual therapy and baby boomer sex. She also dedicates her time at the Northwest Institute for Healthy Sexuality. In addition, Dr. Wiley was the Clinton-appointed delegate to the White House Conference on Aging where she was the only delegate to speak about sexuality. Her views on relationships, sex and erotica make her a true “Sex Doc”, and her versatility and breadth of expertise have brought her to LU as a lead Love Coach. Dr. Wiley hosts “Love, Lust and Laughter” on the Progressive Radio Network. Her practical, positive, empathic approach to a sexuality filled with love, laughter and lust is perfect for people of all ages, including individuals and couples of all sexual orientations. She has been the keynote speaker at the Lifestyle Convetion and for EO in Seattle. Her media appearances include the Playboy Channel on "Great Sex Over 40." Dr. Wiley is available for public speaking, media, product endorsements, and one on one private sessions. For a private session with Dr. Wiley the options are in person, phone, Skype, or email.

Love, Lust & Laughter Radio Podcast Featuring Dr. Ava!

Pleasure and passion is a sign of health – one of the vital signs, like your pulse rate. Dr Ava Cadell and Dr. Diana discuss the health benefits of sex – a longer life, improved heart health, pain relief, better sleep, reduced stress, an improved immune system, and improvements in your appearance and relationships. Dr. Ava also talked about her favorite female and male health devices. The Intensity delivers women pleasure with a purpose! Listeners can get $50 off the device with the PROMO code 50free at For men, Dr. Ava recommends the Private Gym, for which listeners can get 20% off with the PROMO code sexpert20 at This interview includes vital info from Dr. Ava’s many books and seminars.

Discovering pleasure with a partner is like pouring cement into a foundation. Physical touch that leads to ecstatic release not only releases hormones and endorphins that promote health and longevity, but also serve as the basis of biological bonding.

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The ‘Boom Doctors’ Review ’50 Shades of Grey’ On ‘Love, Lust & Laughter’ Podcast

Dr. Patti Britton, a nationally board-certified clinical sexologist and world renown sex coach, is the author of hundreds of articles and four amazing books. Dr. Robert Dunlap is a seasoned media expert, with appearances in over 400 commercials, and in print, film and television. He is also the filmmaker of “Beyond Vanilla” and “Xaviera Hollander: The Happy Hooker.” As a clinical sexologist with a specialization in BDSM/kink and fetish populations, he and his partner Dr. Patti were perfectly poised to discuss “Fifty Shades of Grey.” Because they were so disappointed in the film, for them it was retitled “Fifty Shades of Lame.” The Doctors Diana, Patti and Robert discussed the film and its possible (dangerous) sexual ramifications. Dr. Patti & Robert continue to run SAR’s (Sexual Attitude Reassessment & Restructuring Trainings) in this country and internationally through Sex Coach University – with the next one being held in Poland.  Information can be found here. Their weekly radio show is called The Boom Doctors. No matter your age, they serve as role models for sex-positivity, sexual empowerment, sexual health and sexual success. Dr. Patti’s credo is “Celebrate your sexual self!” Indeed, that’s what “Love, Lust, and Laughter” is all about!



Red carpet photo from nbcnews

Dr. Diana Wiley Interviews Ginger Swanson About Being ‘The Other Woman’

The other woman might be history’s most reviled female, or the most misunderstood.  Dr. Ginger Swanson’s research helps us understand the dynamics of the triadic relationship from the other woman’s point of view.

Dr. Ginger’s motivation and inspiration to delve into this topic was from her personal experience as the other woman. The research helped with her own healing, opening the floodgates of compassion for anyone involved. She explored The Other Woman through 100 years of film…deception, the Hays Code, Forbidden Hollywood Films.

Dr. Diana and Dr. Ginger also discussed Sabina Spielrein who was the other woman in Carl Jung’s life – and Anais Nin, a very sexual woman in Henry Miller’s life. Listen to this program for fascinating information – perhaps leading to a more enlightened point of view!

Listen to the full interview at Dr. Diana’s podcast site or click below:

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Dr. Diana Wiley Interviews Author Of “Penis Power”

Penis Power by Dudley DanoffValentine’s Day is right around the corner, and as the biggest romantic holiday of the year, it can create pressure and expectations on a couple to achieve the best sex ever. The timing is right:  Dr. Dudley Danoff, M.D. returned to the program with his wisdom and wit! His book “PENIS POWERThe Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health” ( addresses boredom, habituation – when sex becomes a chore. What about the Coolidge Effect? What is the Hard Dick Syndrome (where fear and performance anxiety are present)? Dr. Diana and Dr. Danoff discussed unpleasant aspects of sex including an unresponsive partner. It may be that if you’re in your head, you’re not in your body. Or, as Perls said, “Lose your mind and come to your senses!” When the Problem is Your Heart, anger and resentment need to be dealt with first, and then the Spice of Life can be enjoyed – weekends away, and realizing that sex does not have to have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Indeed, Sex is Play! In a survey of more than five hundred men about what made a woman a great lover, do you know what made the top of the list? ENTHUSIASM. You’ll want to hear this program for its enthusiasm and varied sexual information!

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And visit Dr. Diana Wiley’s site for many more archived podcasts!

Fire Up Your Love Life

Exotic techniques in the bedroom are terrific – but they won’t necessarily make you a better lover. It’s really more about developing an attitude of openness and curiosity. Here are some great lover tips:


Many relationships die from emotional undernourishment. People forget to say what they value and appreciate about their partner. Speak up! It creates good feelings, which draws us closer. And, of course, both men and women enjoy being told they are attractive. You can create an adoration list by asking your partner to write down seven nonmaterial things that would make him/her feel cherished by you, and make a similar list yourself. You might even play 20 questions: Do you know your partner’s favorite movie? Favorite song? Think of 20 things you don’t know about each other, and take turns asking questions.


Pure, non-distracted attention is so seductive and quite affirming! When your partner tells you his/her thoughts, feelings, desires – or just the things that happened that day – really listen. Another way to pay attention is to do nice things for your Love, showing that you are thinking of him/her. Bringing coffee after your mate’s shower…and the list goes on and on. Often positive behaviors precede attitude change.


Shaking up your routine, trying new things together, can help you see each other with new eyes. If you do a risk-taking adventure, river rafting for example, the experience can lead to better sex later. And, yes, put sex on the calendar! Planning a night out on the town does not lessen the spontaneity. Really what it means is taking the time to create an environment conducive to intimacy. I talk about the DINS and the TTFS Syndromes: Double Income No Sex and Too Tired For Sex…Don’t let these sexual patterns invade your relationship.


The “love hormone” oxytocin is released when we are touched – and it is a positive feedback loop because the more we are touched, the more we want to be touched. Caress, fondle, stroke, and embrace while breathing into your touch. Give each other massages, cuddle first thing in the morning, pause for a full-body embrace as one of you is going out the door, hold hands before going to sleep. You get the idea!


So many folks believe, “If you really loved me, you should know.” It’s like going on a treasure hunt without any clues. Communication is necessary – especially in the light of day when you can see your partner’s face and subtle reactions. You can say, “You know, I was reading an article and realized there are some things I don’t know about what you enjoy in bed…I want to create that kind of pleasure for you…” Describe what draws you to him or her and how that makes you feel. And, don’t hide – women tend to have body anxieties and men performance anxieties. Both rob you of the ability to lose yourself completely in the lovemaking.


Kissing is one of the least threatening, and most exciting, ways to vary your intimacy. But couples fall into a pattern where they stop kissing. Instead, experiment with playful kisses! Kiss him/her the way you enjoy being kissed. Pause in mid-kiss and say, “Mmmm, I love the way this feels.” Then say, “Hey, would you show me what it feels like to be kissed by me just now?”


Engage all your senses – smell, hearing, touch, taste and sight. Light scented candles, play pulsating music, put fresh sheets on the bed, feed each other sensual foods, watch erotic films (describing to each other what you’re watching), wear sexy lingerie, dance (& maybe do a strip-tease!), put an amber light next to the bed. Smell is especially important: nuzzle and sniff each other. Run your nose along his skin or different parts of his body and drink in the sexual aromas and potent pheromones. Sensual sex can extend your pleasure. Try making love without intercourse. Explore ways other than penetration to express your love and sensuality. For further inspiration, I narrated a Sinclair Institute sex education film for Baby Boomers GREAT SEX for A LIFETIME (


Deep emotional and sexual intimacy is rarely reached until mid-life and beyond. Sex is a way of being…and, sex is incredibly healthy for us as we age!


PRACTICE EMOTIONAL SURRENDER by reminding yourself of what you are especially grateful for in your lover. Finally, breathe and relax. Stretch. Surrender to what is truly sweet and good in yourself. Be playful and expressive. Laugh! J … I do! Dr. Diana –