Sunday, May 19, 2019
Authors Posts by Domina Doll

Domina Doll

Domina Doll is a sex writer, sexpert, and sex toy diva at as well as an aspiring Passion & Pleasure Coach. She has dabbled as a fetish photographer, sex toy peddler, and jill of all trades, but her passion is teaching others about positive sexuality, intimacy and how to have passion-filled relationships. Her work has been published in several sex related magazines including Women's Health, Lover Magazine, Whiplash!, SMUT, Good Vibes, Carnal Nation, SexLifeCanada and Blog Her (Sex). She is also the go to sexpert gal at, where she answers questions about sex toys and sexuality in general. Domina has also ghostwritten sexpert e-books as well as her own sex guides including: "Jillin' Off: A Girl's Guide to Solo Sex". Her favorite quote: "Sex is emotion in motion." by Mae West.  Happy Orgasms xxx Domina

Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants – Part 2

Last week, in my article Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants – Part 1 I talked about some of the not-so-nice chemicals that can go into personal sexual lubricants.  Thankfully, most lube manufacturers heard the roar of the consumer and jumped on the “natural”, “green” and body-safe product movement, which is great for us.

Most lube manufacturers now omit parabens and glycerin from their products, or have special products for sensitive skin.  But, there were a few companies that did this right from the beginning and make all their products body-safe, and here they are.

These Are a Few of My Favorite Lubes!
Aloe Cadabra

Aloe Cadabra (Natural) is a truly superior personal lubricant made from 95% organic Aloe and other natural ingredients.  It claims to be “a magical liquid gel for intimate pleasures” and while not magical, it just may be the best lube I have ever tried.

Aloe Vera, as you know is a small succulent plant that has been used for its healing properties since like, forever.  Both Cleopatra and Nefertiti were said to have used Aloe on their skin to enhance their beauty.

Aloe Vera contains “mannans, lectins and anthraquinones, all of which are thought to support healing and promote wellbeing.  Topical application of the gel is thought to reduce inflammation and skin irritation, by soothing the epidermis… [and] has antiseptic properties which can assist in reducing infection for minor skin complaints.”—The Health Benefits of Aloe Vera Gel

Aloe Cadabra’s main ingredient is Aloe Vera, so it is incredibly soothing on the skin.  This lubricant feels very natural, just like a woman’s own body fluids and is silky smooth.  Aloe Cadabra’s formula is pH balanced to the vagina’s pH so will not disrupt the vagina’s natural environment.  It didn’t get sticky at all when I used it and lasted quite long time.  All the ingredients are food grade, so it is not harmful if ingested.  This means it is just as good for oral sex as it is for penetrative sex and masturbation.  It has no discernible flavor and a slightly clean pleasant odor.

Aloe Cadabra contains no parabens, sugars, chemicals or glycerins.  What it does contain is all natural body-safe ingredients including 95 percent certified organic aloe vera, citric acid, xanthan gum (a polysaccharide used as a food additive), vanilla essential oils, potassium sorbate (a food preservative) and sodium benzoate (a preservative, which limits the growth of bacteria and fungi).  All the ingredients rated extremely low (1-2 out of 10) in the Cosmetic Database.

PS: Aloe Cadabra also makes natural flavored lubes.  Review coming soon!

Sliquid Water-based Organic Lubricant

Sliquid Water-based Organic Lubricant is an excellent product that is safe to use with all materials.  It has no taste and has a slightly fresh organic smell that is barely noticeable.  It is a very thin lube that makes a slick surface on the skin that is perfect for toy play or intercourse.  Like most water-based lubes it does dry up, but does not become sticky.  If it does dry up during use, you need to simply reapply or emulsify with water.

It is made with all botanical and natural organic ingredients such as Aloe, Flax, Vitamin E and Green Tea.  Best of all, it is glycerine and paraben free, and does not contain propylene glycol & glycerol, sugars or artificial sweeteners.  In addition it is vegan-friendly, American-made and the bottle is 100% recyclable.


Purified Water, Plant Cellulose (from Cotton), Aloe Barbadensis*, Natural Tocopherols (Vitamin E), Cyamopsis (Guar Conditioners), Extracts of Hibiscus*, Flax*, Green Tea* & Sunflower Seed*, Citric Acid (Citrus Fruits), Phenoxyethanol (Rose Ether).

Blossom Organics Natural Moisturizing Lubricant

Blossom Organics Natural Moisturizing Lubricant is just what is says: Pure and Simple.  It has no harsh chemicals including parabens, petroleum by products, hormones, flavors or fragrances.  The main ingredient is Aloe, which has long been revered for its soothing, moisturizing, and healing properties.  This lube is also water-based so does not contain silicone.  Water-based lubes are the only ones that can be truly “natural”.

The lube itself is clear, odorless and I couldn’t discern any taste what-so-ever.  The consistency is between a liquid and a gel, but more thick than runny.  Actually, it is very close to natural female juices.  It feels great on the skin, like natural Aloe Vera right from the plant and absorbs into the skin like a moisturizer.

For a sexual aid with vaginal sex or masturbation, it performed very well, and lasted for as long as I needed it and did not get sticky.  Like any water-based lube, if you need more just reapply.

Overall, a super sexcellent personal lubricant for women.

INGREDIENTS: Organic aloe barbadensis leaf extract, sorbitol, hydroxyethylcellulose, hyaluronic acid, organic stevia rebaudiana extract, tocopherol (vitamin E), sodium citrate, potassium sorbate, organic extracts of paeonia albiflora (peony) root & passiflora incarnata flower.

Intimate Organics

Intimate Organics Hydra Lube is a water-based lube made with a blend of organic extracts including aloe, Goji Berry fruit extract, and lemon grass.  IO Hydra is extremely slick and silky for a water-based lubricant, naturally nourishing the skin, and lasts longer than most water-based lubes.  It is the perfect lubricant for using with sex toys, for as we know, sex toys tend to be a bit drying, and it is of course compatible with any toy material.  Hydra also makes a great lube for partner sex and enhances penetration by staying slick until it naturally absorbs into the skin.

Hydra is almost completely odorless but has a slightly tangy, bitter aloe flavor, which reminds me a slight cosmetic taste. It is paraben, animal glycerin and DEA free, vegan, cruelty free, and made with certified organic extracts.


Aqua/Water/Eau, Propanediol (Natural Humectant), Cellulose Gum, Phenoxyethanol, Benzoic Acid, Phenethyl Alcohol, PPG 2 Methyl Ether, Methylisothiazolinone, Alcohol, Lycium Barbarum (Goji) Fruit Extract, Cymbopogon Schoenanthus Extract, Aloe Vera (Aloe Barbadensis) Extract, Sodium Hydroxide.

So, those are my top four body-safe lubes that you can get in North America.  I omitted a few lubes on this list because they are hard to get in the US or were not “natural” water-based, but still good lubes.  These include Hathor Aphrodisia Lubricant Pure (Canada), Yes! Lubricant (UK) and Uber Lube (Silicone & Vitamin E).

Please note:

This article is from a woman’s perspective and about the best lubes (as I see it) for vaginas and vulvas.  Just because I personally am partial to water-based lubes, doesn’t mean that silicone lubes are bad.  Silicone lubes are great for all kinds of sexy scenarios; I only prefer water-based lubes on my genitals because they are more compatible with the vagina’s natural flora and are also moisturizing which soothes the vulva and helps prevent vaginal atrophy.

I hope I have inspired you to treat your body nice and only use body-safe products.  Remember to read labels and research ingredients lists to make sure what you are using, eating or putting in and on your body are safe.  Now if only someone could come up with an aphrodisiac smoothy that is great for sex!

Happy Orgasms!

Using Condoms: Safer Sex Is Sexy!

We all know condoms are sexy, because they prevent the transmission of STDs and HIV, which are not sexy at all.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) states that: “Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS [and] other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).”

But here are some more sexy tips to make sure you are using condoms correctly as well as the different types you can use. This article is about male condoms, but there are also female condoms and dentals dams that can be used for penetrative or oral sex on ladies.

Boy Condoms

The basic male condom is a thin, often clear stretchy tube (insert penis here). Male condoms come in various different sizes, shapes, textures, flavors, lubed and un-lubed. Most are made of latex, but for people with latex allergies there are also condoms made of medical-grade polyurethane or polyisoprene. However, avoid Natural Lambskin condoms if you want to avoid STDs as they only protect against getting pregnant.

Size Matters!

In the case of male condoms, choosing the right size is very important. Condoms sizes vary in length from 3” to 11.9”. Rule of dick: If the condom is too tight it might break, and if it is too loose and it may slip off during sex. Not cool.

Add Sensation

One of the biggest complaints about using condoms is that users lose sensitivity with their hot sexy package enveloped in latex. However, there are extra-thin condoms made for guys who find regular condoms too thick. Comfort fit or Extra Head Room condoms provide more movement around the head of the penis which also aids in added stimulation for sensation junkies. And, for girls, there are lots of condoms that will turn his dick into a French tickler with various textures like ribbed and studded to give you added pleasure. For guys and gals, there are sensation play condoms that have stimulating lubrication that can cool, tingle or heat up.

Flavored Condoms

For fellatio, there are lots of flavored condoms that can make oral sex much more tasty. However, I would not recommend using flavored condoms for penetration as many contain glycerin (sugars) that are not compatible with the vagina’s flora. And, while they may not have come out with a bacon flavored condom yet, there is bacon flavored lube which is compatible with latex condoms. Finally!

So condoms don’t have to be boring. Think of them as an additional pleasure object to include in your arsenal of sexy play toys.

To Lubricate or Not, That is the Question

Lubricated or non-lubricated? Which is best? Well that really depends on the person and the type of sex you are having. If using condoms for oral sex, lubrication might taste gross, unless they are flavored. However, for vaginal and anal sex, lubricated condoms can be ideal, especially if you don’t happen to carry a bottle of lube around with you. Beware, however of Nonoxynol-9 (or N-9). It is a spermicide that is used to aid in preventing unwanted pregnancies, and is sometimes added to lubricated condoms. However, Nonoxynol-9 has been shown to irritate the cells in the vagina or rectum causing tiny tears in the mucus membranes which could potentially increase the risk of getting an STD or an infection, including increased chances of getting the HIV virus. Check labels and avoid condoms with N-9.

Condom Tips
  • Check the expiry date of your condom as they break down over time and become less effective. Stored correctly, non-lubricated condoms should last 5 years.
  • Store condoms in a cool, dry place (not in your wallet).   Specially made condom cases like Durex’s Love Case are perfect for storing condoms in your purse.
  • Only use water-based or silicone personal lubricants that are specifically made for sexual intercourse. Do not use oil-based lubricants as they can break down the condom and cause bacterial infections in the vagina.
  • Do not use teeth, fingernails or scissors to open a condom as you could puncture it with holes making it useless. That is why they have the zigzag seals: KISS!
  • Use a condom each and every time you have sexual intercourse with someone you are not “fluid-bonded” with during vaginal, anal sex and male oral sex (fellatio) from start to finish to protect against STDs. The most common mistake people make is to use a condom AFTER sexual activity has already started.
  • Never reuse a condom. You would think this is obvious, but people still do it. So use a new unopened condom every time you have sex regardless whether it is with the same person or someone else. If, for some reason your remove the condom before ejaculation, use a new one before continuing intercourse. Condoms are cheap. Your health is priceless.
  • Do not use the same condom with multiple partners. Again, the same goes. Use a new condom with each new partner even if you are having sex with multiple partners at once.
  • Do not put a condom on inside-out as it is more likely to tear or slip during intercourse. This is one of the most common mistakes when using a condom. The condom rolled up rim should be on the outside and should fit over the head of the penis like a little cap.
  • If the condom breaks, withdraw immediately and throw away. Use a new condom. Obs!
How to Put on a Condom Correctly

If you don’t put on a condom correctly, chances are it is not going to work properly to protect you. This is the number ONE mistake most people make with condoms. Apply a small amount of lubricant inside the condom at the tip to prevent breakage. If the guy is uncircumcised, pull back the foreskin when putting on the condom. This will prevent pulling of the foreskin, will aid in sensitivity and help create a proper fit.

Place the rolled-up condom (rolled rim out) over the erect penis head, gently pinching the reservoir tip to remove any air. If the condom doesn’t have a reservoir tip, leave a half-inch space for ejaculate.

Hold the tip of the condom, while gently unrolling the entire condom down the length of the penis to the base, smoothing out air bubbles as you go to maintain a proper fit and avoid tearing during penetration. Use a small amount of lubricant to apply to the tip of the condom on the outside to aid in penetration and to avoid breakage.

condom correctly

Removing a Condom Correctly

Removing a condom properly is just as important as putting it on properly and is one of the most common mistakes when using a condom. After ejaculation before the penis becomes soft, hold the condom at the base to withdraw the penis, ensuring the condom doesn’t slip off. Gently peel the used condom down and remove from the penis head, keeping the semen inside.

Sexy Condom Trick—Putting a Condom on with Your Mouth!

I once saw Midori put a condom on a dildo with her mouth at a workshop and it was uber sexy. Here’s how you can learn to do this yourself.

If you don’t own a dildo, use a banana for practice. Make sure to apply a generous amount of lip gloss to your mouth and use a non-lubricated condom for this trick.

Open the condom and place with the reservoir tip facing in, into your mouth, lips slightly parted, with the ring just in front of your teeth. Open your mouth into an “O” shape and place the head of the banana in the condom, in your mouth. Use your tongue to apply pressure to the condom to the roof of your mouth so it doesn’t fill with air when “going down”. Use your lips to roll the condom down the shaft. Make sure your teeth don’t scrape the condom or tear it. Finally, smooth your lips up and down the shaft to squeeze excess air out of the condom. Do this nice a slow and sexy.

Now try it with a real penis.

Not convinced you can do this? Check out this video with sexpert, Dr. Sue Johanson. If she can do it, so can you!


Condom Diagram-

Sexy Condom image- Image copyright Theos at Shutterstock

Your Sexy Guide To Body Safe Lubricants – Part 1

When I first started reviewing sex toys and lubricants seven years ago, I didn’t realize how some products contained chemicals, irritants and toxins that were not necessarily body safe. At the time, I was working at a brick and mortar sex toy shop and wanted to better educate myself about the products I was selling to customers. So, I tried and reviewed just about everything. Eeek! My bad!

After a few yeast infections, skin irritations and a horrible chemical burn on my oh-so-delicate lady bits, I then realized, some products were better than others. But why? It was the ingredients, naturally.

I soon learned that personal lubricants, like many cosmetics, have lots of ingredients that can cause bacterial infections, may be carcinogenic (cancer causing), may contribute to chemical body burden, or cause irritations. In fact, sixty percent of all chemicals we put on our skin ends up in the blood stream and lubricants may be absorbed through the mucus membranes of the vagina and anus even more so because there is no barrier for protection. Many personal lubricants and sensual products contain hazardous chemicals that create chemical body burden which is responsible for numerous health ailments.

What I found out, was natural, water-based lubricants tended to be the most body safe, and the ones with the less ingredients were by far the best.

Here are a few of the ingredients that are in some lubes that you may want to avoid.


Parabens (including Methylparabens and Propylparabens) are a group of chemicals used as preservatives for their bacteriocidal and fungicidal properties. Studies have found that parabens can be absorbed through the skin and can mimic the hormone estrogen, which has been linked to breast cancer. Parabens have also been known to decrease the sperm cell count in men, and promote allergic reactions on the skin such as burning and itching. Grapefruit seed extract (although natural, also called Citrus seed extract and Citrus grandis) is a paraben and should be avoided as it has known to be an eye irritant in low concentrations.


Diethanolamine is a chemical wetting agent in cosmetics that helps keep a creamy consistency in lotions and creams. DEA can react with other ingredients in cosmetic formulations to form carcinogens that are readily absorbed through the skin and has been linked with stomach, esophagus, liver and bladder cancers.


Glycerine (a close relation to glucose or sugar, also called Glycerine or Glycerol) is used as a sweetener and preservative in cosmetics and has been linked to yeast infections in women who are prone to them. If more than 5% or more is contained in a product, then it can damage mucus membranes.


Synthetic menthol as well as natural Peppermint Oil can be irritating and drying to a woman’s genitals and damages mucus membranes.


Petrochemicals in oil-based products such as Mineral Oil (Liquidum Paraffinum), Petrolatum (petroleum jelly), Paraffin oil (lamp oil or premium Kerosine) or Paraffin wax, coat the skin halting its normal functions and are linked to cancer or other significant health problems. Petrochemicals have been restricted in cosmetic manufacturing.

Propylene Glycol

Found in brake fluid, anti-freeze, paint solvents, and polyester compounds, Propylene Glycol is used as a solvent in many pharmaceuticals, and is used as a humectant food additive, emulsification agent, and moisturizer in cosmetics. The oral toxicity of propylene glycol is low, but large quantities can cause perceptible health damage in humans. Some people may obtain irritation from it including women with yeast infections and may cause intense burning and is an irritant to the eyes and skin.

Polyethylene Glycol (PEG)

PEG is used as a thickener and is the basis of many skin creams, as cetomacrogol, and sexual lubricants, frequently combined with glycerin. It strips the skin’s natural moisture, is an eye and skin irritant, a possible carcinogen and can produce severe acidosis, central nervous system damage and congestion.


L-Arginine an amino acid and plays an important role in the healing of wounds, immune function, and the release of hormones. Like the drug sildenafil citrate (Viagra), L-arginine is thought to enhance the action of nitric oxide, which relaxes muscles surrounding blood vessels (vasodilation) supplying the penis. As a result, blood vessels in the penis dilate, increasing blood flow, which helps maintain an erection. The difference in how they work is that Viagra blocks an enzyme called PDE5 which destroys nitric oxide and L-arginine is used to make nitric oxide. People with genital herpes should not take L-arginine because it may aggravate their symptoms.

Aluminum Sulphate

Aluminum Sulphate (also known as Alum) is an inorganic salt used in “tightening” products such as shrink creams and antiperspirants, as well as food pickling and baking powder. This compound has an astringent property which causes the vaginal tissues to dehydrate and swell, and may be an irritant. Adverse effects of aluminum are currently known to be far more chronic (occurring over the long term) than acute (occurring in the short term) because it accumulates over time. Aluminum has been shown to be a neurotoxic compound if it is allowed to enter the bloodstream. Long-term exposure of patients may cause encephalopathy (defect of the brain) and/or bone mineralization disorders. Aluminum has also been suggested as a cause of Alzheimers disease, Lou Gehrig’s disease and other forms of senile dementia.


Nonoxynol-9 is an abrasive detergent and was developed as a spermicide used in condoms, lubricants and sex toy cleaners. It was also shown to help kill the AIDS virus in clinical tests (in test tubes). However, it has been found to leave abrasions and lesions in the vagina and to strip away the protective rectal lining in the anus, both of which could potentially increase chances of getting AIDS, STDs and skin irritations.


Benzocaine is a local anesthetic commonly used as a topical pain reliever in anesthetic ointments such as oral gels for teething babies. Benzocaine is also used as a numbing agent in anal lubes like Anal-Eze, oral desensitizing creams like Good Head Oral Gel, a pleasure prolonging condoms like Trojan Extended Pleasure. Numbing agents are potentially dangerous when used anally or orally as you may not feel pain which could result in serious injury from vigorous thrusting that could tear or damage mucus membranes or cause bruising. Additionally, over-application of oral anesthetics can increase the risk of pulmonary aspiration by relaxing the gag-reflex and allowing regurgitated stomach contents, oral secretions (or sperm!) to enter the airway. Benzocaine also is a well-known cause of methemoglobinemia, a condition in which the red blood cells cannot bind oxygen, causing shortness of breath, cyanosis, mental status changes, headache, fatigue, exercise intolerance, dizziness and loss of consciousness. Because it may be used in topical creams with a concentration as much as 20%, it is not difficult to administer a dose sufficient to cause this problem. Severe methemoglobinemia can cause dysrhythmias, seizures, coma and death.


Oil based lubes break down latex and damage condoms, dental dams, diaphragms, and cervical caps, thus reducing their effectiveness. Oils coat the vagina and anus which makes is hard for the vagina or anus to “flush” itself, leaving you open to bacterial or other infections. It can take the vagina 3-5 days to break down and get rid of oils, so oil-based lubes should not be used for vaginal or anal sex and are only recommended as male masturbatory aids. This goes for other types of oils like vegetable oils, massage oils, Vaseline, WD-40, and Crisco. These oils can cause serious irritation, clog pores, don’t allow the skin to breathe, are not condom safe and should never go anywhere near the vagina.

Buyer Beware: Claims of Natural and/or Organic

Now, you would think that any product that says it is natural or organic would be natural and organic, right? This is not always the case. Many cosmetic companies make claims to sell and market their products. Some products, such as Clairol Herbal Essences claimed to offer users an ‘organic experience,’ but the product is not organic or herbal and contains numerous petrochemicals that are known toxins. Like sex toys, personal care products are not regulated so companies are able to get away with making false claims. It is therefore important to read labels and do your research.

And, just because something is natural and organic, it doesn’t mean it is good for you or body-safe. Remember, many parabens are derived from natural sources like blueberries and grapefruit seed (see parabens above), but are known irritants to the skin. Cow shit is also both natural and organic but I wouldn’t use it as a personal lubricant. So even if a product is made of natural ingredients, it may not be body-safe.

Read the labels my friends! And keep your vagina, anus, penis and oral parts happy.

Okay, now that I have scared the HELL out of you and you have sworn off personal lubricants and gone back to spit, let me help reduce your anxiety. Stay tuned to next week’s post: Your Sexy Guide to Body Safe Lubricants—Part 2, to learn about the lubes I love to use that are body safe.


Toy Review: The Fascinator Throe by Liberator for G-spot Play

If you are into G-spot play and female ejaculation, then you will know that it leads to very wet, messy fun. And, while that can be cool for the shower or hot tub, wet sex in the bedroom is less than desirable after all is said and done. No-one wants to sleep in a soggy puddle. That’s where the Fascinator Throe by Liberator comes in handy.

The Fascinator Throe is basically a sex blanket, but is designed to be so much more. It literally absorbs all of the wet, juicy love drippings, spurts and spills you can throw at it. I first saw the Fascinator reviewed on someone’s blog where they poured a full cup of water on it and it instantly “evaporated.” The water didn’t actually disappear, but was soaked up by the inner moisture barrier that is designed to protect your bed, couch or sheets from wet sexy fun.

But, that’s not all. The Fascinator is beautifully designed with sensual fabric. One side features a luxuriously soft “furry” side made of microfiber or shag, while the other side is smooth and satiny. Both fabrics feel wonderful against your naked body and get you in the mood for sex. The Fascinator is also very fashionable, and even comes in funky designs like leopard and tiger-print, so when not in use can be thrown over the bed as a chic topper or as a throe over your couch. It looks so stylish no-one but you and your lover will know that you use it for sex. It is also completely machine washable (and keeps it shape perfectly after multiple washes), so clean up is a breeze.

The Fascinator is intended for those spontaneous moments when you want sex right now. So having a few handy (maybe one for your living room and one for your bedroom) is perfect when you just want to get right at it but not worry about clean-up afterwards. Simply throw in the washer and voila!

From my experience, I can say that the Fascinator does exactly what it claims, and is the ideal accessory for girls who like to ejaculate—a lot! I’m impressed at how quickly the Fascinator sucks up fluids so I don’t have to worry about using a towel under me. The Fascinator’s inner layer keeps the wetness away from me and saves your expensive sheets, duvets, or couch fabric from stains and wet spills. I love my Fascinator Throe!

You can get your own Fascinator Throe by Liberator and while you are there check out their other fabulous sexual accoutrements for bedroom adventures!

Bootilicious Anal Toys For Beginners

Am I the only one who has noticed that the number of couples wanting to try anal sex has risen with celebrities flaunting their big booties and twerking? It may be a coincidence, but I don’t think so…

Either way, there are lots of men and women who are becoming more interested in trying anal sex for the first time. But, before you go plunging ahead into the darkness, where no-one’s gone before, may I suggest Anal Toys for Beginners?

Why? Because anal sex should be explored slowly and using anal sex toys either solo or with a partner is a fun, exciting, and safe way to begin.

For Guys—Aneros

Anal sex for guys who want to try it can be especially orgasmic because hiding inside the anus is a wonderful little walnut sized gland called the Prostate (otherwise known as the P-spot and Male G-spot), which has been known to give some men exquisite pleasure and mind-blowing orgasms. Find more about the prostate here.

Aneros Progasm
Aneros Progasm

One of the bestselling anal sex toys for men is made by a company called Aneros. Aneros makes a wide range of prostate toys in various sizes, but they all have a similar shaped design which allows for hands-free pleasure. To use, you simply insert the tapered tip of a well lubricated Aneros into the anus where it will position itself against the prostate with a smaller arm positioned over the perineum. Then, using your sphincter muscles and anal contractions, you can move and pivot the Aneros inside the rectum to directly stimulate the prostate, perineum, and entire anal canal. Look Mom, no hands!

“Because the Aneros Massager is suspended unstably within the anal canal, the slightest muscular action and even the pulsing of blood vessels infiltrating the anal canal and surrounding the prostate is detected by the Aneros and directly transmitted to the anal canal, prostate and the perineum acupressure point. These sensations are positively relayed back to the anus, and this chain reaction accelerates to a nearly explosive point. This area is a treasure trove of erogenous stimuli.”—Aneros

For Everyone—Tantus Flirts

Tantus makes great anal toys called Flirts. They come in different sizes so you can work your way up to larger ones to eventually prepare yourself for penis to anus sex. I love Tantus toys because they are made out of 100% medical grade silicone. Silicone is one of the best sex toy materials for anal play because it is non-porous (so can’t hold bacteria inside the material’s pores) and also can be sterilized (you should always thoroughly clean and sterilize your anal toys before and after play).

Tantus little flirt
Tantus Little Flirt

Flirts are butt plugs, which are perfect for anal beginners, as they are small and sleek and can stay put to stimulate your anus while you and your partner pleasure yourself via other types of sex and foreplay. Many people use butt plugs for anal training as well, to get them used to the unique sensation of having something up your butt. Flirts have a softly pointed head for easy insertion, a gently curved body to help ease the toy inside the sphincter muscle, and a flared based to keep it in place (so it won’t get lost inside).




For Everyone—Bendy Beads by Fun Factory

One of the best anal toys for beginners are anal beads. There are lots and lots of anal beads on the market and then there are Bendy Beads by Fun Factory. Bendy Beads are very high quality superior toys.

First of all, Bendy Beads are made out of high quality silicone. They measure 10” in length and have 5 silicone oval beads along the length with a silicone connection string in-between each one and a “royal” curl on the end which acts as a retrieval cord. The beads are graduated from smallest to largest, from 3/4″ to 2″ widthFun Factory bendy beads

To use, lube the smallest bead up well with a good thick water-based lubricant (don’t use silicone lubes with silicone toys!). Next, insert the smallest bead and continue slowly inserting each bead, until the entire length of beads is inserted. Pulling the beads slowly out during orgasm is amazing and intensifies the experience.




For Guys & Gals into Pegging—RodeoH

Pegging is when a woman penetrates her male lover. This activity has become increasingly popular as men and women have become more comfortable switching active roles, and men have become more interested in exploring their prostate. While it is not for everyone, there are still lots of couples who enjoy this activity together.

There are several quality strap-ons, and then others not so great. When it comes to using a strap-on, it is worthwhile to get something that is good quality, that fits you very well, that is comfortable to wear and easy to handle (manipulate).

Enter RodeoH. You cannot get a more comfortable strap-on harness, because essentially, these are just a part of boy shorts made out of 95% cotton and 5% spandex, with a flexible o-ring opening/attachment in front. They come in every size imaginable from XXXS to 3XL. Best of all, they are compatible with any of your favorite strap-on dildos that have a flanged base.


“Every once in a while a “sex toy” product comes on the market that is utterly brilliant. And, the new Rodeoh strap-on harness is exactly that. Brilliant in its simplicity and innovation, I have to wonder why no-one has invented this until now? No more straps, buckles or belts to try to adjust, just slip on your Rodeoh briefs and get packing your hard on.”—from my review on

Read’s Guide to Pegging on ideas on how to do it right.

For Gals & Couples—Intro to Anal Kit

I have seen lots of anal beginner kits around, by none as sexy as this one by Dr. Ava Cadell. This one comes with “how-to” educational DVD that explains everything you need to know about the art of anal sex for women. The DVD features explicit live demos of couples showing you different tips and techniques, plus how to use all the toys in the kit.

Anal Sex kit

The toys in the kit include an anal vibrator, anal beads, anal lube, sex toy cleaner and an anal vibrator “enhancer” which turns any standard vibrator into an anal safe toy by adding a flared base to the bottom. Very cool!



And, remember, the number one commandment for anal sex play is use LUBE. Lots of lube!

I hope you have enjoyed these reviews. Until next week, play safe and have fun.

Happy Orgasms!

Halloween Sex Toys to Get Your Freak On

Halloween is the time of year for sexy costumes. But, there are also other adult tricks and treats to celebrate the season with as well. Get into the creepy groove with these ghoulish-inspired sex toys that are sure thrill you to the bone.


Death by Orgasm

I just love these “Death by Orgasm” bullet vibes that come in cute mini coffin cases. Great for travel or carrying in your purse, you can choose from The Scorpion, the Mummy, the Zombie, the Vampire and the Werewolf. These ultra-powerful little bullets have 3 speeds of vibration and are waterproof as well. I can’t think of a better way to go. La petite mort!

The Vamp

The Vamp is a sexy dildo by Tantus that comes in a deathly pale moon-tone that sparkles in the sunlight (like that Twilight guy?). This dildo features a realistic shaft of 6 ½ inches, a flanged base perfect for anal or strap-on sex and is made from Tantus 100% Ultra-Premium Silicone so is completely body safe. Put in the fridge for a corpse-like cool and you are sure to be bitten by lust.

Sugar Skull Vibe

The Sugar Skull Vibe is ideal for your Day of the Dead celebrations, featuring 3 candy-colored sugar skull tattoos on slick black ABS plastic with 6 inches of multi-speed vibrating pleasure. Pretty sweet!


Devil`s Delight Vibe

Get your freak on with the Devil`s Delight vibe, a dual action vibrator similar to the Rabbit, but oh-so-devilish with a serpent tongue tail to stimulate the clitoris and smooth red shaft for internal pleasure. This wicked vibe has 3 speeds of vibrations and reverses directions. Pure evil!

The Wolfman Dildo

Have you ever fantasized about sex with a Wolfman? Well, this realistic replica of a wolf penis (oh, my!) is sure to make your dreams come true. This ferocious lupine features a thickened shaft at the bottom for a more fulfilling sensation and suction cup base for hands-free orgasms, as well as 9 inches of insertable length. Sure to make you howl at the moon this Halloween.

Ruff Doggie Skull Crop

Ruff Doggie makes whimsical crops, paddles and floggers that are as practical as they are decorative. I love this Skull Crop in quality black leather with red accents on the skull head slapper, making it quite dreadful indeed. Whack-ity-whack!

So, while you are celebrating All Hallow’s Eve this year, don’t forget these nefarious pleasures to titillate your sinful flesh and keep all malignant spirits at bay.

Sexy Costume Trends That May Be Stranger Than Sexy

In the race to be the most innovative and create the To-Die-For costume of the year, some costumes may be pushing the idea of “sexy” a bit too far. Whatever happened to sexy nurses, maids and schoolgirls? Yes, they are a bit passé, I’ll admit, but they are actually sexy.

Sexy Costumes 1 has come out with the Sexy Lobster this year (yes, the sexy lobster), and predicts that this crustacean cutie will be the “it” costume of 2014.[1] Last year’s offering was the Sexy Pizza (what a slice!) that earned the model a trip to the Playboy Mansion’s Halloween Party. Also, trending from Tandy is the Three Boobs Girl, based on the viral news story last month about Jasmine Tridevil, the “Woman Who Claims to Have 3 Breasts”.[2] I can see the unusual allure of the 3 boobs girl. Yes, having an extra breast may have its erotic advantages. But, a lobster and a slice of pizza as sexy? Um, no.

Sexy Costumes 2

Then we have artist Rebecca Cohen’s tongue-and-cheek drawings of “Anything Can Be a Sexy Halloween Costume”[3], satirizing some of the “sexy” costume ideas that retailers come out with. Sexy Late Stage Syphilis anyone? No, I didn’t think so. Sexy Poo? Um, not so sexy either.

Finally we have’s sexy costume trends of the year. And, while the sexy schoolgirl is still one of their bestsellers, these costumes are a bit more unique while still maintaining a somewhat sexy appeal.

Sexy Costumes 3

Imperial Dragon Costume

First up is the Imperial Dragon Costume. I have seen these Japanese street clothes inspired costumes[4] with monster hoodies and furry legwarmers everywhere. I have to admit they are a bit sexy in a Manga kind of way.

Sugar and Spice Cupcake Costume

Next, we have the Sugar and Spice Cupcake Costume , which is almost cute enough to eat. If you want to be the sweetest costume at the party, make sure to get this cupcake vibrator to complete your costume. Well, at least you’ll have a back up if you can’t find a date.

Day of the Dead Doll

Now, the Day of the Dead Doll is pretty cool if you don’t mind being both a doll and dead at the same time. Which… come to think of it is impossible, unless a doll could be alive, which would be totally creepy.

Giggles the Clown

Last we have Giggles the Clown . Pretty sexy right? Uh-uh! Because, we all know that clowns are just downright scary, no matter how sexy they try to be. That is just their trick to lure you in, just before they stab you to death with a pair of rusty scissors. Okay, maybe I’ve been watching too much of American Horror Story this season. But clowns are NEVER sexy.

What is your take on sexy costumes? Would you wear any of these? Do you think clowns are sexy?

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