Wednesday, July 26, 2017
Authors Posts by Domina Doll

Domina Doll

Domina Doll is a sex writer, sexpert, and sex toy diva at as well as an aspiring Passion & Pleasure Coach. She has dabbled as a fetish photographer, sex toy peddler, and jill of all trades, but her passion is teaching others about positive sexuality, intimacy and how to have passion-filled relationships. Her work has been published in several sex related magazines including Women's Health, Lover Magazine, Whiplash!, SMUT, Good Vibes, Carnal Nation, SexLifeCanada and Blog Her (Sex). She is also the go to sexpert gal at, where she answers questions about sex toys and sexuality in general. Domina has also ghostwritten sexpert e-books as well as her own sex guides including: "Jillin' Off: A Girl's Guide to Solo Sex". Her favorite quote: "Sex is emotion in motion." by Mae West.  Happy Orgasms xxx Domina

Thunderstick Power Wand Is Our November Giveaway!

What Sex Toy is Guaranteed to Leave You Thunderstruck?
The Thunderstick… Whoa, whoa, whoa…
I was shaking at the knees
Could I come again please
Thunderstruck… by the Thunderstick!

I bet you got that song in your head now don’t ya?

Hey Lovers!  We are super excited this month to giveaway… the One, the Only, the Thunderstick Power Wand, compliments of

HealthyandActive is a shop that focuses on sex toys and adult products to enhance couple’s lives and create more intimacy.  Online since 1999, every product in their store is carefully selected for quality and the most pleasurable experience. At H&A, they believe in the importance of sexual health and wellness, and will help you find the right products for intimacy and orgasmic bliss!

The Thunderstick is just such a product.  It is one of their most popular products as it appeals to everyone regardless of gender or if using it solo or partnered.  It has attachments for female oriented bodies, and male oriented bodies, and everyone in between.  Got an erogenous zone?  Then the Thunderstick has you covered.


First of all, it is a very powerful vibrating wand that plug ins (hence the power).  It features a variable speed dial that goes from way down low to OMG super freaking intense. (Some say even more powerful than the Hitachi Original Magic Wand).

Don’t believe me (or them)?  Watch the video below!

This super charged power wand has lots of 5 star reviews and promises the most intense level of stimulation available on the market, with state-of-the-art high powered motor.  Made of ABS plastic, the body is very durable and the pivoted head (made of TPR) is phthalate-free and provides pinpoint vibration for power orgasms.

Want one?  Then don’t forget to enter to WIN!


Enter To Win Our 4 Book Spooktacular Dark Erotica Giveaway!

This month, we have a bunch of spine-chilling erotica to give away, with sexy horror-filled stories to keep you company during the cool fall nights and hot sex to warm you up between the sheets featuring… ghosts, and witches and vampires, oh boy!

Our spooktacular giveaway features four terrifying, lusty tomes: two novels (Dispelled by Terri L. Austin and Haunted by Sommer Marsden); as well as two erotic anthologies: (Bound for Trouble: BDSM Erotica for Women by Alison Tyler and The Sweetest Kiss: Ravishing Vampire Erotica by D. L. King), both from Cleis Press.

First we’d like to thank the authors and Cleis Press for donating their succulent fiction to our giveaway and to you, our readers, for entering.

So, without further ado, here is what you could win!


Dispelled is the 10th novel by Terri L. Austin, a well-loved author known for her scorching romances and charismatic characters.  This book isn’t even out yet, so one of our lucky readers is going to get an early copy!

Dispelled follows Holly James—a null who renders other witches and sorcerers powerless.  Holly must aid an arrogant sorcerer, Cade McAllister, in a witchy murder mystery in order to solve the secret of her mother’s disappearance.  The only problem is Cade McAllister, or, more accurately, Holly’s irrational longing for him even though he resents her very existence.  What fiery passions may burn between this unlikely duo as they are forced to work together to solve this case?

oct-giveaway-hauntedHaunted is a fan favorite by “…one of the top storytellers in the erotica genre”, Sommer Marsden, whose short erotic works have been printed in over one hundred and twenty-five anthologies.

Haunted brings together two lost souls: Maddox, a photographer who haunts places that reflect the emptiness he feels inside, and, Olyvia, a ghost hunter who seeks supernatural answers after a painful loss.  They meet up in Screamland, an old abandoned amusement park that has a dark history.  Will they have the luxury of exploring their deep erotic connection together as they try to survive the night fighting off a revengeful ghost?

oct-giveaway-sweetest-kissThe Sweetest Kiss: Ravishing Vampire Erotica is a multi-author anthology edited by D. L. King with 19 “fangtastic” erotic vampire stories by writers who are at the top of their genre, including Thomas S. Roche, Maxim Jakubowski and Sommer Marsden.

The Sweetest Kiss features stories of vampire lust as it “takes readers into shadowy alleys, dark bedrooms, and more mysterious spaces to experience the frisson of terror and delight that only a vampire can produce.”  Set in both contemporary and period locations, this anthology features a vast array of vampy characters of all sexual persuasions that are sure to fulfill your deadly appetites.

oct-giveaway-bound-for-troubleFor all you readers into shades of grey, we swapped ghosts and ghouls for dominants and submissives in Bound for Trouble: BDSM Erotica for Women a kinky anthology edited by Alison Tyler.

Bound for Trouble features 23 stories by Teresa Noelle Roberts, Graydancer, D. L. King, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Sommer Marsden and Alison Tyler, and many more, all written around the theme of bondage. This diverse selection—all “glimmering examples of the ultimate in erotic writing”—has something for everyone regardless of your kink or gender preference including stories about Femdom, male Dommes with female submissives, as well as gay and lesbian scenarios.

Thanks again to the authors and Cleis Press for donating to this awesome giveaway.  Please help support them by buying their books!

12 Top Lingerie Picks To Keep You Hot On Cold Nights!


I’ve been thinking about what I wear for my partner… Something sexy, something that will inspire his libido and something I can give to him on our date night. We are going away to Whispering Waves cottages on the seaside this winter. Still a bit chilly for skinny dipping, but they do have an indoor Jacuzzi. Bonus!

So, what do get him? Well, me of course! Dressed up in some sexy lingerie. Oh Yeah!

There are so many different styles to choose from, virtually something for every taste, fetish, or style.

And, if you don’t have a romantic partner to wear it for, that’s okay too. Give it to yourself, as an expression of self-love, and make yourself feel hot and sexy anyway! (In all honesty, these gifts are more for me than him because he could care less how I dress. It’s more how I undress… So wearing sexy lingerie is more to make me feel good).

To set the mood, I’ve decided to check out a new online store called for the latest and hottest lingerie styles. They have everything from cute bra and panty sets, to sassy baby dolls, titillating teddies, sexy sleepwear, drop-dead gorgeous dresses, kinky fetish-wear and erotic costumes.

So, let’s check out my Top 12 Sexy Picks!

I started with a nice pair of black lace boyshorts that should be a staple in any girl’s underwear drawer. Nothing too fancy, fairly classic, can be worn for special nights, or every day. These are one size fits all (also available in plus size) and are made of 80% nylon and 20% spandex, so are stretchy enough to fit most sizes. Because I have a short waist, I love the low hipster style, which is sexy on most shapes whether you are curvy or slim.

Lingerie bootyshorts

Next, I went with a 3-piece Bra and Panties set. From Fantasy Lingerie’s Tease collection, this red lace ensemble includes a red mesh bra (fits from 32”B-38”D), cute ruffle shirt and G-string thong. The red mesh is decorated with sexy black lace and cute little ribbon bows. Definitely hot, under a sexy black dress, or, if you dare, trench coat!Lingerie 3-piece-bikini-skirt

While I love to be sexy, sometimes I want a more innocent look. I LOVE this Ivory Lace and Satin Babydoll Set by Coquette (comes in small and large). While it is perfect as bridal lingerie, it can be worn anytime you want to feel uber-feminine and frilly. It features a classic empire waist (very slimming for plus sized gals), satin ribbon, padded demi cups with underwire and a lacy overlay. The dress part is embroidered with delicate lace details. Satin ribbon also has a detachable bow, in case you don’t want to be that frilly. Comes in small or large (sizes 12-14) for women up to 180lbs.

Lingerie babydolls

Being innocent is sweet, but now I’m ready to get naughty with this risqué chamber maid outfit. I’ve been wanting one of these for a while so I can dress up and role play with my partner. This costume comes from the Bedroom Fantasy Collection and features a halter dress, apron, lace choker, wrist cuffs and g-string. The fabric is sheer black fishnet with white lace. Comes in sizes M & L. Ooh lala!

Lingerie maid

I love lingerie (or clubwear) that you can wear in the bedroom, or anytime you want to feel sexy, like this goth Seamless Skull Long Sleeve Dress in OS. This hot little black mini dress is made by Seven ‘Til Midnight and features a low scoop neck line to show off your cleavage, a super short hem, to show off your best “Basic Instinct” pose, and a cool mesh skull cut-out in the back, to show off your sexy back muscles. Made out of spandex, it features removable garters and comes in one size fit most.

Lingerie skull-dress

Okay, who says sleepy time can’t be sexy? Yes, I’ll admit I love my fuzzy onesie with built-in footsies, but sometimes I want to have a little more animal magnetism for my lazy lounge around days off. And, you don’t have to exchange cozy comfort for sexy style, as this Leopard Robe <> with red satin accents is super comfy in microfiber as well. Comes in OS and also available in plus size.

Lingerie robe

Back to clubwear, or more appropriately, fetishwear, this fishnet shirt (OS only) made of 95% Nylon, 5% Spandex, is perfect for under a corset, or as is over a sexy bra. I’ve had mine for a few years and have worn it many times and it is very durable, plus looks super hot when paired with jeans or wet look leggings. You will certainly stand out with these racy rubber leggings, with corset style lace-up backs. Hot!

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Speaking of corsets, this Matte Panel Waist Cincher with Buckles is a perfect choice for giving you an hourglass figure and is very versatile. You can wear it as is with pasties or a push-up bra, or wear it over a fishnet dress or other sexy t-shirt as clubwear. Made of durable polyester, spandex and vinyl, this cincher has buckle up and zipper front with lace up corset back.

Lingerie cincher

Now, if you really want to get kinky, try out this Dominatrix look, with a sleek leather-look catsuit teddy adorned with zippers. This would look amazing with fishnet stocking and thigh high boots. All you need is a crop, to top it off. Available in sizes XS-XL.

Lingerie bodysuit

Finally, my last two picks let you look hot while you workout. The Strike a Pose Reversible Yoga Shorts and Sport Mesh Performance Bra feature trendy yoga wear styles that allow you to mix and match. The shorts are also reversible and made of snug and absorbent cotton/spandex which are comfy to wear and stretch with you. The bright neon pink sports bra features racer back straps and removable pads for best fit.

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With most lingerie, it is hand wash only and lay to dry. I really enjoyed shopping at for their larger selection of different types of under-wear from lacy to racy. The site is very easy to navigate and I love the large images of the items. You can join their newsletter for exclusive deals, or be a part of their social community on FB, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Youtube.

You can shop at the regular US site (, or their plus size (, or if you are from Canada, they also have (

Currently they have a 30% Off Site Wide Sale at all their stores using Coupon Code: LOVE30.

December Giveaway! Magic Wand Original – Review By Domina Doll

The Magic Wand Original (formerly the Hitachi Magic Wand) is still the “Cadillac of Vibrators”.

And this month of December 2015, is giving one away!! Along with the hilarious new book from sex columnist Anka Radakovich, The Wild Girls Club Part 2, Tales From New York To Hollywood. December 31st is the draw! ENTER TO WIN HERE!

While the Magic Wand Original was not the first vibrator to be invented, it is certainly the oldest one that is still being used today.  It first appeared on the market during the 1970s as the Hitachi Magic Wand, and like its predecessors, was promoted as a vibrating muscle relaxer, “for soothing and relaxing sore muscles and nerves, [and] relieving tension.”

Lovingly nicknamed the “Cadillac of Vibrators,” the Magic Wand remains the most powerful clitoral and vulva sexual massager on the market today.  And, while it could never be called sexy, and doesn’t sport cute bunny ears, what matters most to the women who swear by it, is that it works.


Since its launch in 1968 to the North American market, 10s of thousands of women have been singing the praises of this modest looking sex toy, in loud orgasmic voices.

This is because, seventy percent of women orgasm via clitoral stimulation, and don’t get off on penetration.  An estimated twenty percent of women can’t reach climax at all.  Many sex counselors promote the use of the Magic Wand for women who have trouble reaching orgasm, or find it hard to get sexually aroused.

For the modern sex savvy girl, the Magic Wand is really where it’s at.  While all the innovative sex toys on the market are interesting—from pleasure objects to pocket rockets—none can truly compare to the Hitachi Magic Wand when it comes to power.

The Magic Wand has two speeds: Intense and Ultra Intense.  It is the most powerful intimate massager I have ever tried.  I have used several other plug-in massagers as well as rechargeable ones, none of which can match the Magic Wand Original* (don’t be fooled by look-a-likes!).  For many women, it may be the only vibrator that will get them off at all. *Actually, the Magic Wand Rechargeable is more powerful than the original, but it is a close race 😉

Yes, it is heavy, it plugs-in, it is loud and not too pretty.  But, for the ultimate in vibrating intensity and dependability, the Magic Wand is the Queen of female orgasms.  That is why after 40 years, it is still the best selling plug-in sexual massager in the world.

So, ladies, if you haven’t tried the Magic Wand yet, it is time to step out of the dark ages and find out what the hype is all about for yourself.  Vavoom!

November Giveaway! The Womanizer – Review by Domina Doll

It’s a vibrator? It’s a clitoral sucker? No… It’s the Womanizer! Shazam!

I don’t know what the heck it is, or care what it is called. All I know it is the most effective orgasmic clit-blasting pleasure toy ever made.

The first time I used it I came in under 5 seconds. I was like OMG! Then I tried it again within a minute afterwards and had an uncontrollable explosive squirting orgasm within 5 seconds. I lay there mystified, quaking and unable to move I was so weak. “This thing is freaking amazing!!!”

Warning: The Womanizer is addictive.

So, what exactly is the Womanizer?


It is a small hand held sex toy with a funnel shaped clitoral sucker on the end that also vibrates. The funnel/sucker fits around the entire clitoris and provides mild vacuum suction to suck the clitoral head inside. Then it also applies ‘pulsating pressure waves’ (vibrations) all around it and causes out-of-control spontaneous orgasms.

Snazzy Designs

The Womanizer comes in 8 “snazzy” designs: Red Rose, Black Leopard, Blue Crocodile, Pink Crocodile, Black Tattoo, Fuchsia Snow Leopard, Purple Crystal Dreams and Black Leopard Crystals. I think they look totally “Très chic, très hip, très sexy!


Easy Peasy to Use

This toy only has two buttons. One for ON/OFF and the big “GEM” button to cycle through the intensity settings. I think I had my setting half way up when I had the first orgasm (I can’t remember the exact setting because it blew my mind… literally). I couldn’t stand it full power, as it was CRAZY extreme.

Rechargeable, Yes!

Yes, the Womanizer is also rechargeable. Plug in and recharge for 4 hours for 90 minutes of orgasms. Whoohoo!

Body Safe Materials

These beauties are also made of 100% body safe materials: plastic case with silicone suction head. The Limited Edition Swarovski Womanizers also have Swarovski Crystals, the ultimate in luxury and sell for a measly $549.00 US dollars on

Care and Cleaning

Wash with a damp cloth, or sex toy wipes. The silicone head also comes off so you can wash it separately. Good for squirting orgasms.


The Womanizer comes in a pink plastic storage case, great for travel or storage, and is ultra sturdy so will keep this baby safe and sound.

Final Words

I don’t know what to say about this toy, other than it is utterly amazing and is the crack cocaine of sex toys. Seriously addictive…

Every woman should have a Womanizer.

Visit for more details and purchasing info.

“Woman On Fire” By Amy Jo Goddard – Book Review & Giveaway!

We are giving away this fabulous new book by Amy Jo Goddard – ENTERTOWIN this October!

Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence

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by Amy Jo Goddard

Print Length: 317 pages

Amy Jo Goddard’s new book “Woman on Fire” is a Phoenix of sexual empowerment rising from the cultural ashes of sexual shame to allow women to claim their power and erotic energy so they can emerge as whole beings who are “not broken”.

Throughout Amy Jo Goddard’s career as a sex educator and sexual empowerment coach, she has met countless women who thought they were sexually “broken”. Her message to them is that they are “NOT broken” and this book offers them the resources, sex education, and skills they need to release shame and become empowered.

This is not just a book of sex tips. It is an entire philosophy intended to weave the tattered threads of our individual (and cultural) sexuality into a complete and beautiful tapestry of self-actualization and wholeness.

Goddard teaches a holistic approach to sexuality that encompasses all aspects of our erotic evolution from physical and emotional, to psychological and spiritual. She shows us how to release past guilt and shame, nurture self-love and body acceptance, find our sexual voice and authenticity, allow ourselves permission to enjoy pleasure and desire, as well as claiming our personal power and sexual confidence, so we can become more fulfilled as human beings and learn how to thrive, not only sexually, but in all ways.

Based on twenty years experience as a sex educator, Goddard has created 9 elements of sexual empowerment that people should master so they can “live vibrantly” and enjoy a sexually gratifying life. These make up the individual chapters in her book:

  1. Voice: Excavate and Rewrite Your Sexual Story
  2. Release: Make Space for the Sexual Self You’ve Been Waiting For
  3. Emotion: Show Up as Emotionally Powerful
  4. Body: Know and Radically Accept Your Body
  5. Desire: Activate Desire and Create a Sexual Practice
  6. Permission: Give Yourself Permission to Be Erotically Authentic
  7. Play: Develop Sexual Skills and Remember How to Play
  8. Home: Build Sexual Confidence and Come Home to You
  9. Fire: Use your Dynamic Sexual Energy to Live Vibrantly

Each chapter is like a key, unlocking the secret doors into sexual awakening, that before now have been hidden in silence, shadows, ignorance and shame. Throughout the book, Goddard guides us through these elements using personal stories from women and her years of experience and wisdom. She teaches us that sexual energy is the core power of our creativity that when properly harnessed can lead to awesome transformation, empowerment and the realization of our desires.

This book is like a flame in the darkness leading us to the light so we can all experience the joy of sexual enlightenment, become empowered, experience more pleasure, and have more fulfillment in our sexual relationships.

If you feel you are sexually “broken”, then this is the book for you. It will help you find the tools and resources you need to cultivate your sexual brilliance and learn to burn brightly like a “Woman on Fire”.

Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence

AmyJoGoddard*Sharie Cohen Photography

Amy Jo Goddard on Ted Talks: “Owning Your Sexual Power”

Siri2 From Lelo – October’s Toy Giveaway! – Review By Domina Doll

We are giving away this incredible sex toy – ENTERTOWIN this October!

Today’s Product: SIRI™ 2

Price: $120-$160

Manufacturer: LELO

Material: Silicone and ABS Plastic

Size: 4” long, 2” wide

Features: Multiple Speeds, Multi Function, High Quality, Waterproof, Rechargeable.

Functions: Vibrates, Pulsates, Escalates, Sound Activated

Comes with: SIRI™ 2, Charger, Satin Storage Pouch, Warranty, Instruction Manual

Perfect For: Clitoral stimulation and arousal of external erogenous zones, as well as masturbating to music and for those who like high end luxury sex toys.

Lelo Siri 2

What device functions as a Personal Assistant, a Vocal Training Tool, a Vibrating Music Device and a Clitoral Massager?

The SIRI™ 2 by LELO of course!

Lelo Siri 2 - 2Huh?

Okay, let’s back the bus up and let me explain.

In February 2010, Apple came out with Siri, an intelligent “Personal Assistant” that “use[d] a language interface to answer questions, make recommendations, and perform actions by delegating requests to a set of Web services”.[1] But, LELO already had a product on the market called SIRI™, a very sexy “personal assistant” which had been launched a full year before. Below is an amusing comparison of the two products.

Then, in 2013, UAlberta’s Drama Professor David Ley developed the “Vibrant Voice Technique” which uses the original SIRI™ as a tool that “enhances vocal resonance and reduces the muscle tension that can lead to vocal fatigue”.[2] Imagine using a vibrator meant for masturbation to enhance vocal training. A bit of a strange concept, but that’s what they did. Go here to watch a video about that. Prof Ley’s team doesn’t actually recommend the SIRI™ 2 for their vocal massage technique, however, because of “the exponential increase in power of this device”. In other words, it’s way too strong.

This is great news for clits. Not so great for singers.

The Original SIRI™

If you had have tried the original SIRI™ when it first came out (my review) then you may have thought, “Yes, nice little vibe, more powerful than Lelo’s Nea and Lily, for sure, but doesn’t exactly blow my mind or give me earth-shattering orgasms.” In fact, I read more disappointing reviews than positive ones for the original SIRI™.

Back to the drawing board…

The SIRI™ 2 – What’s New?

  • Powerful Vibrations! SIRI™ 2 offers LELO’s strongest vibrations ever for a handheld massager, which Lelo claims is 100% more powerful than the original. I don’t know if that is true or not, but the vibrations are much deeper, more penetrating, and yes, stronger. In fact, it is the strongest small massager of this kind that I have tried so far in 7 years of reviewing sex toys.
  • 8 settings inspired by music including: Classical (steady vibration), Reggae (slow pulsing), Rumba (rapid pulsing), Folk (escalating pattern), Hip Hop (rapid escalations), Soul (variations), Techno (very fast), and Jazz (various pulses and escalations combined) so you can get jiggy with it.
  • Ambient sound control function. The SIRI™ 2 has a function that allows it to respond to ambient noise (music, voices, police sirens, dog’s barking, blood-curdling screams, 80s porn music…). However, the sound source must be fairly close for this to work well. An interesting feature, although probably unnecessary. Maybe LELO thought this was a good add-on for vocal training? Not sure…
  • Yes, you can bring it in the tub, shower, Jacuzzi, lake, beach, pool and even drop it in the toilet (shit happens!) and it won’t ruin your vibe. Good to know.

How it Works

Charge the SIRI™ 2 with its USB charger for about 2 hours for 2 hours worth of use. The ON button turns the vibe on and increases power, while the MINUS button reduces power. Use the ARROW buttons to cycle through the musical settings, and press both ARROWS to turn on the Ambient Sound Function. All the buttons are recessed and glow when in use so you can use it in the dark.

The SIRI™ 2 is a small, handheld massager that is great for vulva and clitoral stimulation. It is made of ABS plastic and resonated vibrations very well. The material is easy to keep clean, totally body-safe, and of high quality design. Comes nicely packaged in a little black box with Charger, Satin Storage Pouch, Warranty, and Instruction Manual.

Thank you to LELO for providing the SIRI™ 2 for review. Get yours today.

[1] Wikipedia-

[2] Vibrant Voice Technique –

Slap Happy Review – The “Swiss Army Knife” Of Vibrators

When I was first asked to review the SlapHappy Vibe by creator Brian Sloan, I was psyched. What girl doesn’t dream of having a the “Swiss Army Knife” of vibrators at her disposal—a vibe that can get her off both via the clitoris and internally; that can be used via penetrative sex in several positions; and one that you transform into a kinky percussion tool to top it all off.

Fabulous! The idea was ingenious! And, the crowd-funding video Brian made (above) for his Indiegogo campaign to raise money for its production was super entertaining and fun!

The SlapHappy promises to be “EVERYTHING YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED IN A VIBRATOR!” which is a big proclamation, but unfortunately, the video was more entertaining than the actual device.

Don’t get me wrong. The SlapHappy is not a bad toy. I just had very high expectations and it had a lot to live up to.

The Positives

Okay, first the positives that does make this toy really great.

• It is made from 100% silicone
• Totally body-safe
• Flexible
• Material feels great
• Easy to clean and sanitize
• Waterproof
• Super quiet

Plus… It is Bendable

The coolest part of this vibe, which is what makes it unique as well as gives it the ability to transform into many sex toys in one, is that it is bendable. It features a strong bendable core that can go from totally straight to curved into a U-shape. This allows the toy to change from clitoral teaser to G spot stimulator with just a quick bend, and also makes it possible to shape to your vulva during intercourse, because it is also flat, yet contoured. This flat shape makes it ideal for playful (or hardy) spanking as well.

One thing that Brian didn’t mention is that this toy makes a great sensation play toy, as the vibrator is situated at the end of the tool in the contoured bump. Running this over your various erogenous zones will definitely give you a rise.

So far so good!

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The Vibrations

The SlapHappy has one speed and six vibrating settings that go from steady vibration to various rhythms using just one button. It is easy to turn off and on and rotate through the settings, even when slippery with lube.

The vibrations themselves though are rather bleh. Think of the most popular vibrator in the word, the Magic Wand. Its biggest selling feature is what? Power. So, that would be something I would strive for, if I were to design a new vibrator. The SlapHappy doesn’t come close. Like many modern high-end luxury vibes, it regrettably fails in the power department. Even if it had a ¼ of the power of the Magic Wand, it would be a pretty great vibrator. But, alas… it is like comparing a hummingbird to a power tool.

Don’t get me wrong. I love hummingbirds, and that flirty, fluttery teasing is great for sensation play as I said above. It is also enough to add a bit of stimulation to the G spot. But, for clitoral play, it was not enough for me to get off on. It may be strong enough for some women, if they like very subtle tingling vibrations, but I think many women would prefer a bit more power.

Speaking of power, the SlapHappy takes 2 AAA batteries that should last you about 3-4 hours of use. This is probably one of the reasons it lacks power. I would consider designing it as a plug-in, with more batteries, or as a rechargeable vibe to give it extra oomph!

For Couples Play

The SlapHappy could be a useful vibe for some couples who want to rev up their intercourse a bit. But for me, I found it awkward to keep in place and I don’t need clitoral stimulation via intercourse, so it didn’t do much for me that way either.

For Spanking

I loved the SlapHappy for spanking. The silicone felt great, and you could use it to massage the buttocks first and get the area warmed up. It can deliver subtle to very strong smacks and can redden your behind quickly, if that is what you enjoy. It makes a great alternative to using your hand, which can get tired and sore pretty quickly.

Final Verdict?

The SlapHappy is a brilliant idea, and I hope Brian creates a SlapHappy 2.0 with more power. That to me is the only thing holding back this toy from greatness.

However, there are many women who don’t need that much power, so it may satisfy them, and it does have the bonus of so many other uses.

Want to win a SlapHappy for yourself? Check out our monthly contest here!

My Dirty Little Secret: Incontinence

I have a dirty little secret. During my twenties I suffered with incontinence, the loss of bladder control. Both my mother and my brother suffered from it too, as it was something genetic to our family. My brother had an under-developed bladder, so was unable to hold his urine for long periods of time. My mother, on the other hand, suffered from stress incontinence—where she would pee whenever she coughed or sneezed. I suffered from urge incontinence, a sudden intense urge to pee, and often I couldn’t make it to the bathroom on time. It was very embarrassing and I had to wear a pad all the time, because I never knew when it would happen, and often there was no warning at all.

My brother grew out of his problem by learning to gradually hold his urine. I learned to control mine by doing kegel exercises to strengthen my PC muscle.

The Pubococcygeus Muscle

The vagina—just like every other part of your body—needs regular exercise to keep it resilient, healthy and happy. Over time, the vagina and its surrounding muscles on the pelvic floor can weaken, stretch, become torn and no longer offer support due to pregnancy, childbirth, aging, being overweight, abdominal surgery or inactivity. An important part of vaginal health is exercising a muscle called the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle). It is a hammock-shaped muscle that stretches from the pubic bone to the tail bone. It forms the pelvic floor and supports the pelvic organs including the bladder, urethra and vagina.

Advantages of Good PC Health

Exercising your PC muscle has numerous advantages because it strengthens the pelvic floor. Strengthening this area will help prevent prolapse (slipping or sagging of the uterus), incontinence (loss of bladder or bowel control) and constipation. For women who are pregnant, a fit PC muscle will help relax muscles during birth allowing for easier deliveries through the birthing canal. After vaginal births, working the PC muscle will benefit you by restoring vaginal muscle tone and promoting perineal healing (the area between the anus and vagina that can stretch or tear during birth).

Some women suffer from painful disorders like vaginismus (pain from vaginal insertion), dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and female sexual dysfunction (loss of sex drive or diminished sexual satisfaction). Working your PC muscles will help make your vagina and pelvic floor stronger and more elastic which means it will stretch easier during sexual intercourse.

Bonus! Kegels of Sexual Pleasure

Training your PC muscle is not only for women who suffer from disorders. PC workouts are very beneficial for all women, regardless of your age, your vagina’s physical condition, or whether or not you have given birth. Why? Since the PC muscle also encircles the outside of the vagina, a healthy PC muscle will improve sexual arousal, allow you to feel your partner more fully during intercourse and intensify your partner’s pleasure by tightening the vagina cavity, thus enhancing lovemaking for both of you. And, that’s not all. A strong PC will allow you to reach orgasm more easily, experience more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and may even help you achieve multiple orgasms as you learn to better control and respond to your sexual arousal. A fit PC muscle also improves G-spot stimulation and can help you learn to experience G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Rhythmic squeezing of your PC muscle during intercourse will help increase lubrication, stimulate the clitoris, and massage your partner’s penis to take him to new heights of sexual ecstasy.

Men Can Do Kegels Too? Sure They Can!

Although kegels are chiefly related to women, men can enjoy the benefits of better sexual function by performing regular kegels as well. According to studies in sexual health journals, kegel exercises for men help prevent premature ejaculation because the PC muscle participates in the ejaculatory reflex. Strengthening this muscle helps men control ejaculation and additionally assists in achieving extended orgasms for men. Other studies have shown that performing kegels on a regular basis can help strengthen erections, and improve erectile dysfunction problems in men by increasing circulation. In fact, a strong PC muscle can create more intense, stronger orgasm for men as well.

Finding your PC Muscle

It is very easy to find your PC muscle. You use it on a daily basis without even being aware of it. It is the muscle you use when you stop urinating mid-stream. The muscles of your pelvic floor tighten and your vaginal muscles clench when you activate this muscle. A method of locating the PC muscle is to insert a finger or two inside your vagina and squeeze until you feel the muscles gripping your fingers. So now that you’ve found it, how do you exercise it?

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are how you work the PC muscles, strengthen the pelvic floor and restore muscle tone to this area. Named after Dr. Arnold Kegel, kegels consist of contracting and relaxing the muscles in rhythmic intervals. There are different types of kegels and different methods for exercising them. Regularity when doing kegels is more important than how many you do in sequence. It is therefore recommended to do any exercise at least three times a day.

Basic Kegel

The Basic kegel is a slow, controlled squeeze of the PC muscle, as you draw upward and inward. Imagine that you are sucking water up through your vagina (you can actually do this in the bathtub when your PC muscles are strong). Each time you do this hold for a count of 3-5 seconds, then slowly release and relax the PC muscle as you push out. Repeat 10 times, 3 times daily.

Tools to Help

Doing kegels without resistance training (something to squeeze around) can be a bit difficult. I recommend get a resistance trainer like the Intensity which actually stimulates the muscles to contract around the stimulating device. Not only that, the Intensity is also a G-spot and clitoral vibrator in one, so you get the benefit of doing kegels and are rewarded by orgasms! You will never be bored doing kegels again!

For men there is the PrivateGym which is like having a private trainer for your privates. Men who practice Tantra know the benefits of having a strong PC and have learned the art of having expanded orgasms. I’m so thrilled that there is finally something for men to learn how to strengthen their PC muscle, as it aids in erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, increases stamina, sexual performance and pleasure, as well as helps cure incontinence and improve prostate health. So, whether or not you suffer from incontinence as a man, there are many benefits to working your sex muscle out!

For both men and women there is the website which features kegel tools for men and women. Similar to the Intensity, there are few products like the Apex, which is designed specifically for patients suffering from stress urinary incontinence and is a proven stress urinary incontinence treatment. The InTone is a similar device used to cure incontinence in men.

Doing kegels on a regular basis worked to fix my incontinence problem and has helped me learn to achieve bigger, better and more intense, longer lasting orgasms. Not to mention I am the known as Gspot Girl, because I can have Gspot orgasms on command (whenever I want). Yeehaw!

So, if you want to cure incontinence, and have better overall pelvic health, plus increases sexual function, pleasure and orgasm, start working your sex muscle (PC) out, stat!

*illustration courtesy of BackInMotion Physiotherapy & Pilates

Couples Chemistry – Our July Giveaway! Review by Domina Doll

Couples are always looking at ways to spice up their relationship.  Often, these issues stem from lack of communication about their sex lives, or just not knowing what each other’s turn-on’s are.

Now there is an easy and confidential way to find out.  It’s called

And this is’s July giveaway – so ENTER TO WIN your COUPLES CHEMISTRY kit now!

How it Works

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Step 1: Couples Chemistry Quiz

First, one partner takes the online “Couples Chemistry Quiz” which has 100 questions.  The questions range from basic demographics to your sexual turn-ons and turn-offs.  Questions like what gender roles you prefer to play, the sexual style you enjoy (slow & gentle vs. aggressive, playful, etc…), parts of the body you like to be touched, and your intimate desires (exhibitionism, voyeurism, sensual, intellectual, playful, variety, toys and games, dirty talk, masturbation, role playing, breast play, oral sex, porn, spanking, sensation play, anal, 3-somes, dominance/submission, rough sex, s/m).  You rate these on how receptive you are towards exploring them with your partner from HIGH to NO WAY.

Step 2: Invite Your Partner

Then, you invite your partner to come fill out their questionnaire.  The quizzes and your profiles are confidential, so neither of you know what the other is filling out (unless you shared them).  So, no worries about feeling uncomfortable revealing your most intimate, secret desires.

Step3: Couples Chemistry matches your areas of mutual desire

Next, you’ll get a free report that reveals your shared interests so you can start the communication process and start exploring your fantasies and desires together.  Answers that didn’t match, or that both of you disliked are discarded.

The Result?  Better communication, deeper intimacy, more stimulating sex life and the “OKAY” to explore sexual activities together than you may not have discussed before.

How cool it that?

But, that’s not all.

Based on your results, Couples Chemistry creates a customized Love Kit based on your preferences that you can purchase to help turn your shared sexual fantasies into reality!  And, the cool thing is, what is in the kits will be a total surprise to you and your partner until you get it delivered to your house.

The whole surprise element I found rather exciting, and I couldn’t wait to get my custom kit and start exploring with my partner.

What’s in the Mysterious Love Kits?

Lots of cool stuff actually.

Vintage porn/erotica prints from the Kinsey Institute Archives.
Vintage men’s magazines and erotic comics (my guy loved these).
Tips cards on how to explore your erotic adventures together.
An Adult DVD to inspire and instruct.
Adult toys to play with.
A deck of 52 “Talk To Me” conversation cards designed to foster intimate communication and insights.
A booklet on what’s going on under the covers — a condensed summary of the latest research on what couples are doing in the bedroom.
A booklet on the links between communication, intimacy, and sex, and how to foster a closer relationship with your partner.
And, much more…


”Your customized Couples Chemistry Love Kit contains everything you need for unforgettable nights of open conversation, sexual exploration, intimacy, romance and pleasure — adult toys, erotica, helpful tips, visual materials, and intimacy aids — all tailored to your relationship and all reflecting only those areas in which you and your partner have indicated the highest common interest. Your Love Kit is designed to stimulate all of your senses and it will include items about your shared fantasy.”

Both my partner and I were happily surprised by our kit and its contents.  I got the DVD “Kinsey” (2004) starring Liam Neeson, all about Alfred Kinsey’s life and research which was great.  The vintage artwork was amazing and Chris really enjoyed the vintage comics.

My only disappointment was some of the toys were low quality.  With a kit like this I was expecting not really high end toys, but at least medium quality.  But, the other contents more than made up for the lack of quality toys, and being a toy slut (I mean sex toy reviewer), I already have an arsenal of adult products to play with.

My partner and I are already very open with our sexual turn-ons, so we didn’t really learn anything new.  But the quiz did spark some new ideas and really emphasized our top shared sexual pleasures.

How Does Couples Chemistry Know So Much About Sex and Intimacy?

Couples Chemistry has advisors (Dr. Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, and the Kinsey Institute) who helped them formulate the quiz and kits based on many years of sexual research.

So you are not just filling out a silly sex quiz with no basis in reality.  The kits are really designed to give both you and your partner something fun/sexy/exciting to enjoy.  Plus, their tips, info, and conversation cards all have great ideas on how to create intimacy and better sex for you and your partner.  And, if you are not communicating about your sexual preferences with your partner currently, this would be a great way to start.
The results of the quiz are free, whether or not you decide to buy the custom Love Kit later.  So, you have nothing to lose by trying it out!

I highly recommend  It was a fun, enlightening, sexy experience and made for a few hot date nights as well. has generously offered to give away a custom kit to one lucky winner! ENTER NOW! If you win, CouplesChemistry will send you a promo code to login with after you fill in the quiz portion, which helps them customize your kit.