Monday, April 23, 2018
Authors Posts by Domina Doll

Domina Doll

Domina Doll is a sex writer, sexpert, and sex toy diva at as well as an aspiring Passion & Pleasure Coach. She has dabbled as a fetish photographer, sex toy peddler, and jill of all trades, but her passion is teaching others about positive sexuality, intimacy and how to have passion-filled relationships. Her work has been published in several sex related magazines including Women's Health, Lover Magazine, Whiplash!, SMUT, Good Vibes, Carnal Nation, SexLifeCanada and Blog Her (Sex). She is also the go to sexpert gal at, where she answers questions about sex toys and sexuality in general. Domina has also ghostwritten sexpert e-books as well as her own sex guides including: "Jillin' Off: A Girl's Guide to Solo Sex". Her favorite quote: "Sex is emotion in motion." by Mae West.  Happy Orgasms xxx Domina

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Dr. Ava Spreads the Word About Sexual Healing

We reported on March 8th, that Dr. Ava was honored by Sexual Health Magazine with a featured cover article [read about it here] called “From Sex Symbol to Sex Guru”, where Editor-in-chief Ariana Rodriguez interviewed her about how her life journey from a refugee, to orphan, to sex symbol to sexpert led to a successful career in sexology, her new sexual healing book, what’s new with Sexycises and her pheromone jewelry line with Eye of Love.

Read the full article here on Sexual Health Magazine.

In addition to her cover article, Dr. Ava was interviewed in two other magazine features below!

In the VoyageLa interview, Dr. Ava talks about her early beginnings and how she was inspired to teach about love and sex, and become a Sexologist. She also talks about her passion for training other aspiring Love and Sexuality Coaches worldwide, as well as her charity work and other projects she is working on.  Read more below…


In Naluda Magazine, Dr. Ava talks about her work as “a world traveler and … sexual healer.”  The article also gets personal, asking fun questions about what a normal day in Dr. Ava’s world is like, what music she likes to chill to, 3 things she can’t leave the house without and more!

You can check out the article below:

Naluda Magazine.


How to Last Longer in Bed – His and Her Guide

One of the most common questions I get asked is, “How long should sex last?”, usually followed by “What advice do you have for me (or my man) to last longer?”. So we thought it was time to create the definitive guide for couples about this common sexual issue.

Do Couples Even Want to Have Longer-Lasting Sex?

I did some research and found that the length of time of sex is a common complaint among both men and women in the many sex surveys done by a variety of publications, including  Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, and Esquire. In the Cosmopolitan article Here’s How Long Sex Should Last for a Woman’s Maximum Enjoyment, author Laura Beck studied the topic and writes:

“A 2004 study published in the Journal of Sex Research found study participants enjoyed 11 to 13 minutes of foreplay followed by seven to eight minutes of intercourse. That’s pretty good but not as good as what the participants wanted: double the time for the sex! So maybe it’s that women want a good amount of foreplay and then an additional 14 to 16 minutes of doing the deed.”

This theme of a desire for sex in the 20+ minutes is quite common, while the average man only lasts 5-6 minutes.

So That Makes Most Men Premature Ejaculators, Right?

If both men and women want sex to last longer, and the termination of sex almost always coincides with male orgasm (the frustrating truth for many women), then most men would be considered premature ejaculators, wouldn’t they? Yes – but do we have to use that phrase? No moniker strikes more fear into men than that one. But it shouldn’t be that way. Why is it called premature if it’s so common? How about we just strike “premature ejaculation” from the conversation and let’s just say that there’s plenty of couples that want to have longer-lasting sex.

Isn’t It Just Mind Over Matter?

For those of you not old enough to remember the world of men’s sexual health prior to the introduction of Viagra in 1998, there was issue called “impotence” – the inability to obtain and sustain an erection. Nowadays, it is called “erectile dysfunction”. Men with ED spent countless hours and money visiting therapists, reading books, and watching VHS tapes (back then) with mental trickery that could supposedly solve the problem. None of it worked. Viagra changed everything. No one is talking about psychotherapy to fix ED anymore.

Fast forward 20 years and we have a similar situation with premature ejaculation. Men continue to spend lots of money on therapy and “training” and, just like with ED, none of it helps men last longer during sex. Sure, therapy can help men cope with PE but I have scoured the literature and I cannot find a single study that shows psychotherapy helps men delay orgasm.

What Causes Male Orgasm?

If we’re going to advise you about how to delay orgasm, we should first try to understand what causes a man to ejaculate.

It’s quite complex, involving the central nervous system and mostly two organs – the penis and the brain. Many of you out there may think that once a man is aroused, his brain shuts off and the penis takes over! Seriously, though, drugs like alcohol and opioids that depress the central nervous system generally result in delayed orgasm. Numerous studies have shown that men who take anti-depressants in the form of SSRIs that increase serotonin levels in the brain will delay ejaculation during sex. Nevertheless, penis sensitivity is considered the key factor in a man’s ejaculation control. And some men have a higher penis sensitivity than others and a small percent are hypersensitive. It’s also the easiest to manage.

After ejaculation, men lose their ability to sustain an erection. The time until he can once again achieve an erection is called the refractory period.  For young men with refractory periods of less than 10 minutes, early ejaculation is often not a problem as he can often keep his partner sexually aroused until he can begin intercourse again. A man’s refractory period lengthens with age and the opportunity for a quick recovery diminishes such that he typically only has a single ejaculation in a sexual session. Thus, the emphasis for most men on climax control.

Ways to Last longer in Bed Right Now

Here are some sure-fired ways (and a few duds) on how to last longer in bed.  Mostly for him but she can also participate, if not directly, then with patience and support.

Long-term Prep: Drugs and Exercises

I’m not in favor of prescription drugs for having longer-lasting sex as there are so many other good methods and treatments.  Exercises? I have yet to see any proof that they work. In an effort to provide a complete list, here are the ways you can extend the time to climax:

  • Anti-depressants – an off-label prescription of a daily SSRI (e.g. Zoloft, Paxil) will help most men delay ejaculation. Side effects are numerous including, of all things, loss of libido. My least favorite idea.
  • Tramadol – Some men have obtained improvement when using this opioid and, for some men, taken only hours prior to sex. It’s falling out of favor as new topical desensitizing medications are effective and have very little side effects. Did I mention it’s an opioid?
  • Priligy / Dapoxetine – for those living outside the US, you can probably obtain this fast-acting anti-depressant that is taken 1-3 hours before sex. It’s popular in other countries but a recent study showed that 90% of men stop using this drug within a year.
  • Kegel Exercises – While this method may help (studies are contradictory), you have to do a lot of kegels for a long time consistently before you would see any results.


  • Whiskey Dick – Maybe the worst last-longer sex hack.  Alcohol depresses the central nervous system and generally makes your body, including your penis, less sensitive to stimulation. There are many better ways to delay ejaculation. I only mention it specifically to discourage men from considering this stupid idea.
  • Masturbate prior to having sex. This is a very effective way to last longer. Ejaculate as close in time as possible to when you plan to have sex, but careful; make sure it’s a longer time than your typical refractory period.
  • What about marijuana? There’s been only one study in Australia and the results appear inconclusive. Given that marijuana warps the perception of time, maybe men think they’re lasting longer.
  • Use a desensitizer, often referred to as a delay spray. These products use a formula with an active ingredient of either benzocaine or lidocaine delivered in a small spray bottle. Apply directly on the penis to reduce sensitivity. They work great but with the wrong product or improper application, both partners can lose sexual sensation. Our favorite is Promescent – its advanced absorption formula allows the man to maintain great sexual sensation with virtually no transfer to his partner.

There’s clinical data on Promescent’s performance and their website also has a wealth of information about male sexual health including information about how to last longer in bed.

  • Stamina Pills – I have serious doubts that any of these products actually work, especially when many of them have been caught lacing their powders with sildenafil (generic Viagra) – FDA Warning of Tainted Sexual Health Products. Stay away.
  • What about ED drugs? PDE-5 inhibitors such as Viagra, Levitra and Cialis won’t make men last longer but they can shorter a man’s refractory period, and he will then have a much better chance to ejaculate twice in a single sex session and last much longer the second time around. Consult a physician before taking one of these prescription drugs.

During Sex

If you’re 100% dedicated to a natural method, try these.


  • Start / Stop Method – This one has been around since couples started having sex for pleasure rather than just for procreation. Doesn’t need any explanation except guys – don’t wait until just before you’re ready to ejaculate to stop. When you get close to the point of no return, you won’t last a minute when you get going again.
  • Squeeze Method – Just like it sounds. When the man gets close to ejaculation, he or is partner squeezes his penis hard enough to decrease sexual desire. Pain is stronger than pleasure!
  • Sandwich Technique – I learned this by reading sexual medicine expert Dr. Michael Werner’s Maze Men’s Health (see Treatment Options). For men with short refractory periods (men under 30), “sandwich” foreplay between two orgasms. Start sex with rapid stimulation to an intended quick ejaculation; then foreplay until he achieves erection again.
  • Distraction Techniques – The only good that I can say about this idea is that there aren’t any side effects other than bad sex. Can we just stop this myth once and for all? And even if it did help, who wants to be thinking about his grandmother naked while having sex?

And the Winner is … I recommend a topical desensitizer. They’re very effective, easy to use, low cost per use, have minimal side effects and don’t need a prescription. They are gaining tremendous popularity.

© 2018 Absorption Pharmaceuticals

How to Choose a Condom and Types of Condoms

In honor of National Condom Month, I thought it would be appropriate to do a post on condoms, all the different varieties, and how to choose a condom.

Condom Overview

Condoms are 99.9% effective in preventing the transmission of HIV and other STIs if used consistently and correctly for sexual encounters.

STI Facts and Statistics

According to the United Sates Department of Health and Human Services, about 19 million new sexually transmitted infections are thought to occur each year. These infections affect women and men of all backgrounds and economic levels.

There more than 30 different bacteria, viruses, and parasites that can cause an STI. Bacterial STIs include chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and bacterial vaginosis. Viral STIs include genital herpes, hepatitis B, HPV and HIV. Parasitic STIs include trichomoniasis.

How to Protect Yourself Against STIs

One of the best ways to protect yourself against STIs, apart from abstinence, is to use condoms: male condoms, female condoms and dental dams.

Male Condoms

Male condoms are one of the most popular forms of birth control out there. They are placed over the male penis to prevent pregnancy and lower the risk of STIs by keeping the males sperm inside the condom and out of your vagina.

The male condom is rolled over the erect or hardened penis and prevents against direct contact between the penis and vagina. The condom must be removed before the erection ends or the sperm can leak out.

Male condoms come in a variety of brands, types of rubbers, shapes and sizes to choose from, with lube and without, which is why it is extremely important to find the condom that works for you and your partner.

It’s important to note that latex, polyisoprene, polyurethane are the only condoms that protect against HIV & STI. Polyurethane and Polyisoprene offer great alternatives to people with latex allergies. Also, keep in mind that natural/lamb skin condoms are only useful for pregnancy prevention and NOT HIV or STI prevention.

Types of Male Condoms

So, now that you have decided between male condom, female condom or dental dam, let’s explore the wide arrange of male condoms that are available on the market.

Latex Condoms

Latex condoms are the most common type of male condom.  They are reliable in helping to prevent STIs and pregnancy.  Many people have latex allergies however, so this type of condom should be avoided if you experience a rash, itchiness, irritation or redness after condom sex.  Your doctor can also give you an allergy test to see if you are allergic to latex.

Non-latex Condoms

There are non-latex condoms on the market made out of synthetic materials such as polyisoprene, and polyurethane, as well as made out of lambskin.  However, non-latex synthetic condoms have a higher rate of breakage, so are effective 95% of the time.

Lifestyles Skyn Condoms are made with polyisoprene.  Trojan Supra condoms are made from polyurethane, a latex alternative.

Lambskin condoms protect against pregnancy, but are not as effective as regular latex condoms, and do NOT protect against STIs and HIV because they have small pores that allow some viruses to pass through.  Lambskin condoms are made by Trojan NaturalLamb and are a natural animal material made of real lamb skin.  The provide heightened sensitivity and are roomier than regular condoms.

Spermicidal Condoms

Spermicidal Condoms usually contain a spermicide called Nonoxynol-9 which reduces the number of active sperm, thereby decreasing the risk of pregnancy if erection is lost before withdrawal and some semen spills outside the condom, or if a condom breaks.  However, Nonoxynol-9 has been shown to irritate the cells in the vagina or rectum causing tiny tears in the mucus membranes which could potentially increase the risk of getting an STD or an infection, including increased chances of getting the HIV virus. Check labels and avoid condoms with N-9.

Lubricated Condoms

It is really important to lubricate a condom in order for it not to break via friction.  When using your own lubricant only use water-based or silicone lubricant as oil-based lubes will break down the condom material and make them ineffective.  The majority of condoms come pre-lubricated for convenience.

Ultra thin

Ultra thin condoms are thinner so therefore provide more sensation like texture and temperature and feel more like sex without a condom.

Durex has a brand called Invisible which maximizes the sensitivity between you and your partner for an amazingly Intimate and closer than close experience.

Extra Large Condoms

Extra large condoms come in XL and XXL and are for “big boys” “latex kings” and “magnum” dongs, that is, very large penises.  Small condoms that don’t fit can cut off circulation, which can make the penis go limp.  They can also rip, tear or burst open if the condom is too small, so not very safe.  Make sure you buy the right size condom for your dick.  In the case of condoms, size does matter.

Extra Head

Extra Head condoms include have more head room which allows for more friction and sensation on the head of the penis.  They are also bigger to accommodate large headed penises. Kimono Max is a good option for these types of condoms.

Textured Condoms

Textured Condoms come in Ribbed, Studded and Swirly to give the receiver more pleasure during sexual penetration.  These condoms also tend to be roomier with bulb-like tips for extra head room.

Cooling, Warming & Tingling Condoms

Cooling, Warming & Tingling Condoms were all designed to heighten sensation using various gels lubricants, like Trojan’s Platinum Pack comes with assorted condoms that contains all three types.

Desensitizing Condoms

Desensitizing Condoms make you last longer because they have a delay spray inside of them that numb the penis (partially) so the guy can last longer.

Japanese Condoms

Many people love Japanese Condoms because of their superior quality and because they are extra thin, so great for enhanced sensation. Two major brands Kimono and Beyond Seven.

Flavored Condoms

Flavored Condoms come in many different varieties such as fruit flavors, chocolate, vanilla, spearmint, cola, candy and even bacon.  They are great for giving BJs, but not so great for penetrative sex as they could cause yeast infection in women who are prone to them.

Scented Condoms

Yes, Scented Condoms, and why not, because maybe you don’t want to smell your partner?  I mean really?  If that was the case I probably wouldn’t want to have sex with them either, just saying.

Glow in the Dark Condoms

Glow in the Dark Condoms are used for when you lose your lover in the darkness?  Maybe?  Okay, maybe not, but they are fun to play with I guess.  Unlike novelty condoms, these do protect against STIs and pregnancy.

Novelty Condom

A Novelty Condom is the type that fits over your head.  These can’t be used for safer sex for obvious reasons.

Female Condoms

Credit: U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

Female Condoms are a great alternative to male condoms because it puts the woman in control of her sexual health, and she can decide to wear the condom.  They have a 95% success rate at preventing pregnancy and STIs, so just slightly less effective than male condoms.

The female condom is a pouch with flexible rings at each end. Before vaginal intercourse, the ring inside the pouch is inserted deep into the vagina, holding the condom in the vagina. The penis is directed into the pouch through the ring at the open end, which stays outside the vaginal opening during intercourse.

Warning: Female condoms and male condoms cannot be worn at the same time. The friction of intercourse will cause both condoms to break… which defeats the purpose.

Additional benefits of the female condom include:

  • Women can still protect themselves even if their partner refuses to wear a condom.
  • Women can insert a female condom for up to 6 hours before intercourse, so it doesn’t interfere with the “heat of the moment”.
  • The female condom can be used if one or both parties have an allergy to latex.
  • The female condom is available over the counter without a prescription.
  • The female condom offers additional protection as compared to the male condom because it covers the labia or the “lips” of the vagina.
  • Because the female condom is made of polyurethane, which is a slightly thicker rubber than latex, it creates a warming sensation during sex.

A little to trick to enhance sensation for the male partner is to place a little water-based or silicone based lubricant inside of the female condom. This will provide more sensation for him.

Dental Dams

A dental damn is a thin, square sheet of latex or polyurethane used for oral to vaginal sex and oral to anal sex to help prevent the persons mouth from coming in contact with any bodily fluids. During oral sex, dental dams should be placed between your mouth and the vagina. During anal sex, dental dams are placed between your mouth and the anus.

Dental dams should only be used one time and on one area of the body before being thrown away. You should never flip (or turn over) already used dental dams because that could result in the exchange of body fluids. Dental dams can also be used with lubricants for increased sensation. You can also put a bit of lubricant (that isn’t oil based) on the side of the dental dam that touches the skin to keep the latex from sticking.

Dental dams also come in a variety of glycerin free flavors to help with the taste.

Single’s Awareness Day!

Hello Sexy Sexpert Peeps!

Today is Valentine’s and tomorrow is Single’s Awareness Day.  So, whether you are single, dating or in a long-term relationship, there is reason to celebrate.

I have written lots of articles and reviews for couples including:

So, today I wanted to write a review of all the best sex toys for singles, and I also put together a list of 100 ways to celebrate with Self Love!

Top 5 Best Toys for Singles

For Girls

Clit Sucking Vibe

If you want to have an explosive tension and release clitoral orgasm in less than 3 minutes, you will want to get a clit sucking vibe.  There are several now on the market to choose, from the original Womanizer, Satisfyer, and Shegasm to several other new brands.  These vibes are amazing, and I’ve reviewed a few of them.  In one review I called the Womanizer “the crack of sex toys” because it is addictive (well kind of)!  Penguin Satisfyer shown above.

Bodywand Mini USB Massager

I always hype the Magic Wand, but there are a lot of great sexual massager out there including this favorite by Bodywand. Small, very powerful, waterproof, discreet, and body safe, this Bodywand Mini has it all.  What’s not to love?

For Guys

Fleshlight Go Surge

Every guy needs at least one good masturbator like the Fleshlight Go Surge.  Made by Fleshlight, the go-to manufacturer’s for discreet masturbators, this little beauty has a soft (flesh-like) insert, is built to last, reusable, easy to clean and ready to take on the read with you.

Hot Octopuss Pulse 3 Duo

If you have ever dreamt of having your own Octopussy, well the Hot Octopuss isn’t it. It is however, the World’s first Guybrator with patented PulsePlate Technology.  Basically, that means that it delivers high-amp oscillations (wave-like vibrations) with piston action, to rev up vibrations and pleasure. Can be used on a flaccid penis and produce orgasms!  And, also stimulates the frenulum for powerful orgasms. 6 vibrating patterns. 100% Waterproof. Rechargeable via a USB Magnetic Charger.


Tantus Silk

This dildo is perfect for G-spot and prostate stimulation.  Small, curved for exact positioning, and made out of premium silicone so perfect for anal play.  Can also be used with a strap-on.

100 Ways to Celebrate with Self Love!

Okay, here are 100 ways to celebrate single’s awareness day by practicing self-love!

  1. Buy yourself a sex toy. That was a given right?
  2. Make a self-love date night with yourself and masturbate!
  3. Buy yourself flowers.
  4. List 10 things you love/appreciate about yourself.
  5. Drink more water.
  6. Read that book you’ve been wanting to read.
  7. Write a gratitude list.
  8. Meditate. Ahhh!
  9. Get more sleep.
  10. Binge-watch your fav TV show.
  11. Take a sick day and rejuvenate.
  12. Go for a walk in nature.
  13. Eat dark chocolate.
  14. Have a spa day (at home or book an appt.).
  15. Create a playlist of your fav songs.
  16. Go get a massage.
  17. Flirt with a stranger.
  18. Plan a stay-cation and focus on yourself.
  19. Have a singles party night.
  20. Try a new yoga or workout class.
  21. Forgive yourself.
  22. Post “Hello Beautiful” in lipstick on your mirror.
  23. Take a Priestess bath (sea salts, essence oils, candlelight & music).
  24. Be creative (do art, paint, write a poem, build a birdhouse, create a project you’ve been meaning to do just for fun).
  25. Treat yourself to something scrumptious.
  26. Do an Inner Smile meditation.
  27. Go on an adventure and try something new.
  28. Stretch. Both your body and your limits.
  29. Schedule daily “me time”.
  30. Do a deep breathing practice.
  31. Delegate.
  32. Say no.
  33. Ask for help.
  34. Breathe an essence oil to uplift you.
  35. Call a friend.
  36. Hang out with a friend.
  37. Get a hug. Give a hug. Two in one!
  38. Nourish your skin with premium body lotions.
  39. Buy a new top, bottom or outfit.
  40. Get a pedicure or Mani-pedi.
  41. Paint your nails.
  42. Dress up just because.
  43. Eat premium ice cream.
  44. Dance like nobody’s watching.
  45. Watch a funny movie.
  46. Learn to play!
  47. Be spontaneous.
  48. Listen to your gut or inner voice/essence.
  49. Do kegel exercises or start a jade egg program.
  50. Don’t worry, be happy.
  51. Make a gourmet supper for one or take yourself out for dinner.
  52. Stand up for yourself.
  53. Create healthy boundaries.
  54. Have a self care schedule.
  55. Celebrate your wins!
  56. Create your own daily Mantra.
  57. Dream big. Dream Bigger!
  58. Be positive and raise your vibration.
  59. Surround yourself with things you love.
  60. De-clutter your desk, bedroom, wherever you hang out.
  61. Create a mediation room/area of your home.
  62. Create a magic altar.
  63. Stop procrastinating.
  64. Slow down.
  65. Stop “efforting” and go with the flow.
  66. Live your passion.
  67. Practice self-love and body-love.
  68. Sing in the shower.
  69. Be kind to yourself.
  70. Turn off the phone, TV and internet and tune out.
  71. Take a mini-retreat.
  72. Practice being “Unperfect” and still know you are awesome.
  73. Yell, scream, cry, beat up a pillow.
  74. Get fresh air daily.
  75. Get some sun.
  76. Don’t just think about it, do it, do it, do it!
  77. Organize a closet.
  78. Focus on your food while eating and chew slowly.
  79. Stimulate your senses.
  80. Make a bucket list.
  81. Cut down on caffeine.
  82. Cut down on sugar.
  83. Buy something you’ve always wanted.
  84. Shake your booty.
  85. Take compliments gracefully.
  86. Let go of comparison.
  87. Find a mentor.
  88. Join a mastermind group.
  89. Join a Goddess Tribe.
  90. Start a self-pleasure practice.
  91. Forgive others and mean it.
  92. Stay away from energy vampires and end all toxic relationships.
  93. Step outside your comfort zone.
  94. Celebrate your uniqueness.
  95. Brainstorm.
  96. Write down your ideas.
  97. Let go of the past.
  98. Do a happy dance.
  99. Don’t quit your daydream.
  100. Celebrate Life!

So, let’s celebrate Single’s Appreciation Day with some self love and masturbation!  Check out for all your sexy adult toy needs!



How to Use Sensation Play Toys for Valentine’s with Your Lover

I’m really excited today to share with you this special Valentine’s day review on “How to Use Sensation Play Toys for Valentine’s with Your Lover”.  I also want to give a BIG thank you to Sportsheets today for providing the products for this review.

What is Sensation Play?

Technically speaking, Sensation Play in BDSM is a class of physical activities that deliver erotic sensations upon your partner, that are sensual in nature.  Usually this is a light form of erotic teasing, to provide pleasure to the person receiving (the bottom).  Many couples who do not identify as kinky, use sensation play as part of their sexual repertoire as a form of stimulating play to spice up their relationship.  Sensation play can also include rougher play and pain, but for the purposes of this article, we will be mainly talking about pleasurable sensations and light sensation play.

Types of Sensation Play

There are two main types of sensation play: Sensory Deprivation and Sensory Stimulation.

Sensory Deprivation is essentially removing one of the senses, such as using a blindfold, bondage restraints or tape, hoods, ear plugs, a gas mask, latex cat suit or even a vacuum bed and mummification.

Sensory Stimulation is the opposite and is used to arouse the senses (usually the sense of touch) by applying a wide variety of contradictory sensations to a person’s body.  This can include temperature play using hot and cold, pain and pleasure, textures like rough versus smooth, scratching, erotic tickling, silk scarves, nipple clamps, feathers, pinwheels, ice, stimulating balms, warming massage candles, floggers, paddles, electro-sex, fire cupping, spanking and pinching.

Sensation Play for Lovers

In Vanilla Land, sensation play is a sensual way of touching your lover that is a wonderful form of erotic foreplay that usually leads to sex.  It can consist of tying someone up and tickling them with a feather, rubbing fur or silk over their flesh while blindfolded, pouring hot candle wax on your partner’s skin to turn up the heat, using ice cubes to awaken and entice, or applying a pinwheel or other sharp instruments of torture to add an element of danger and excitement.  Sensation play adds a level of eroticism that can bring your arousal to new heights of pleasure as you are swept away by the power of touch.

Sensation Play deals with all or a few of the senses (sight, smell, sound, taste and touch) and the ways our bodies perceive the organic world around us.  Heightening our senses during sexual intimacy or foreplay enhances all sexual experiences and puts our bodies in tune to pleasure.  Developing all of your senses to their highest sensitivity allows you to experience the pleasures and ecstasies of sex to the extreme.

The Sense of Touch

Touch is a “haptic” sense and one of the most obvious senses that enhances sensual pleasure.  Unfortunately, most people don’t spend much time on the sensual exploration of touch, before rushing off to the main event.  Erotic touch produces a hormone called oxytocin (also known as the love hormone) which leads to arousal, a rush of endorphins and kick-starts our libido by producing more testosterone.  For women, touch and foreplay are especially important as women take longer to become aroused and are less stimulated visually than men.

To heighten the sense of touch, you can “remove” stimuli to the other senses.  The easiest way to do this is to use a blindfold.  Bondage also works well to take away your partner’s ability to move while under your “spell”.  Creating a sensual play space could include using soft candle light, low soft music, and incense to heighten other senses as well.

Midnight Lace Blindfold

The Midnight Lace Blindfold is a part of the Midnight Lace Collection from Sportsheets.  It is made of polyester, spandex and elastic.  The front is has an antique lace rose pattern which is quite beautiful and the back padded side is satiny, so nice and sensual feeling against the skin.  Two elastic straps secure the blindfold which molds to your face and effectively removes sight to heighten your senses.  It is fairly sturdy and well made.

Black Ostrich Feather

Sportsheets has lots of feather ticklers on their site, but I opted for the plain black Ostrich Feather.  It has a long plastic wand (16”) and a single long Ostrich plume which is soft, thick and beautiful.  Perfect for light tickling, or sensual caresses.  It comes with a small card with sexy games on the back.  But, use your imagination and I’m sure you will find many sexy uses for it.

Midnight Feather Tickler

The Midnight Feather Tickler, also from Sportsheet’s Midnight Collection was voted Sex Toy of the Month by Cosmo Magazine.  It is made with soft, black Marabou feathers (which is soft down under-feathers from a turkey) that is super soft and sensual like goose down.  It features a lovely handle with a woven satin rope, silky black bow and looped handle.  Very delicate and feminine and feels like fluffy fur against the naked skin.

Midnight Jeweled Chain Tickler

This stunning Midnight Jeweled Chain Tickler is another innovation from Sportsheet’s Midnight Collection and is absolutely gorgeous.  It has a gem-encrusted crown made of cubic zirconia on the top of the nickel free metal handle, and ten elegant chain tails that can be used for tickling or impact play.  Because it is made of metal, it can also be cooled in the freezer for temperature play as well.

Midnight Bling Flogger

The Midnight Bling Flogger is also a part of the Midnight Collection and is dazzling.  It features a cubic zirconia encrusted bling handle (4” in length) with metal cap embossed with hearts and a nylon hand loop on the end.  The flogger end has forty soft, supple falls (8 ¼” in length) made out of vegan vinyl that feel very sensual when stroked across the body.  You can also use this little hand flogger for impact play to produce a nice thuddy sting.  A sensual delight!

I love Sportsheets’ Midnight Collection!

These are just a few of the products in the Midnight Collection, but I’d love to have them all. The are sexy, elegant, playful, frisky, well-made and shiny shiny bling, perfect for any fetish Fashionista, or couples who want to add more sexy sensation play to their date nights to create an incredible erotic experience to remember.

Again, a BIG THANK YOU to Sportsheets for providing these sexy toys for review. Sportsheets doesn’t only carry these beautiful sensation play toys, but also specializes in award winning Restraint Play, Sexual Positioning, Sex in the Shower and Strap-on sex toys, plus so much more!

You can purchase all these products at’s sex toy shop, including other exciting Sportsheets products and the entire Midnight Collection.




Fetish Fashions

Today is International Fetish Day, so today we wanted to take a look at some fetishes that many people enjoy as part of creating their sexual fantasies.

Sexual fetishes or fetishism used to be considered a paraphilia (previously known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) and were regarded as pathological or a mental disorder that needed to be treated.  These days, most fetishes are considered more of “an unusual sexual interest” rather than a paraphilic one (or deviant), and there is a debate over which fetishes, if any, should be classified in mental disorders diagnostic manuals at all.

So, if you have a sexual fetish, you don’t need to feel ashamed or guilty about it.  In a 2014 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 26.3% of women and 27.8% of men admitted to having fetish fantasies.[i]  Sexual fetishes are only dangerous if they cause “significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life”[ii], or harms another being.

According to Wikipedia, fetishes that include clothing of some kind, or fabric, are the most popular fetishes (58.3%).

The most popular Fetish Fashions include:


Rubber, Latex and PVC is a fetish attraction to latex clothes.  Rubberists is the term many rubber fetishes use to label themselves with.  Popular types of rubberwear include corsets, catsuits, hoods, thigh high boots, and inflatable clothing.  But, the item doesn’t always need to be erotic.  Some people are just attracted to the PVC itself including plastic raincoats, shower curtains and clear PVC items.  Liquid latex body paint allows you to paint on a second skin of latex on your body and be naked underneath.



Corsets and tightlacing are quite common among the fetish scene, in particular corsets worn by female Dommes, and tightlacing as a masochistic practise made popular by Fakir Musafar.


Cosplay or Roleplaying

Cosplay (meaning costume play) is a hobby where people dress up in costumes for role-playing.  As a sexual fetish, role-playing scenarios could include secretary, schoolgirl and teacher, doctor and nurse, or a sexy maid.  Dressing as furry animals or Furries is another type of Cosplay fetish.



Uniform fetishism, much like Cosplay, is a sexual attraction to someone dressed in a uniform.  The most popular uniforms include: doctor, schoolgirl, police officer, nurse, French maid, sports player, waitress, cheerleader, Playboy Bunny and nuns.



Shoe fetishism or retifism, is the sexual attraction to shoes (usually women’s shoes) including stilettos, boots, sneakers, socks and other footwear.  This fetish is related to foot fetishes and Chinese foot binding.



Leather fetishism is people who get turned on by wearing leather themselves or by others wearing leather.  The smell and feel of the leather is often an erotic stimulus, while leather uniforms and shining leather such as boots or patent leather are also popular. “Leather Culture” is a term used to describe the sadomasochism subculture of gay men, whereas pony fetish use leather bridles and other equestrian gear.



Fur fetishism refers to a sexual attraction to fur or wearing fur.  It was popularized by the novel Venus in Furs (1870) by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch whose name is synonomous with masochism.



Underwear fetishism is a sexual fetishism for undergarments, either by wearing them, handling those used by others (such as dirty panties) or looking at someone wearing undergarments.  Lingerie is fairly mainstream and definitely sexualizes the person wearing it.  Popular lingerie items include panties, fishnet stockings and woman’s hosiery, bras, garter belts and more.



A glove fetishism is a sexual fetishism where the individual is aroused by another person wearing gloves, or wearing them oneself.  Often this fetish is enhanced by the material: leather, latex, PVC, or nylon. Visual stimulation is further enhanced by the act of putting on or removing the gloves. Smell of latex, rubber or leather can also be a factor.



Spandex fetishism is a sexual arousal to people wearing stretchy fabrics like leotards. Spandex are skin-tight and act like a second skin, leaving little to the imagination of the nude body underneath.  Superhero outfits, gymnast’s leotards, and zentai bodysuits are all popular spandex fetish fashions, in which the wearer may also enjoy erotic objectification.


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[i] Joyal, C. C., Cossette, A., & Lapierre, V. (2014). “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?”. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 12 (2): 328–340.

[ii] Sexual Fetishism. Accessed 1/18/2018.

Fun in the Tub: Sex Toys for the Bath Tub

Did you know that January 8th was National Bubble Bath Day and January 13th (that’s today!) is National Rubber Duckie Day?  No, neither did we!  But, now that we do, we decided to celebrate by taking a look at all the sex toys you can use in the bath tub.  Rub-a-tub-tub!

photo by Shannon Brooke Imagery

Well, not exactly ALL of the sex toys.  We are leaving those specifically for the shower for National Shower with a Friend Day (February 5th).

Rubber Duckie You’re the One!

The I Rub My Duckie® by Big Teaze Toys is the first vibrating rubber duckie that hit the market and started the revolution of discreet personal massagers. The quiet 3 speed motor provides waves of pleasure up and over the head and tail to soothe the stress and tensions of your day. Waterproof and playful, I Rub My Duckie® is the most adorable and entertaining bath companion one could wish for.

And, now you can get your I Rub My Duckie in various colors, sizes, and collectable assortments, like the I Rub My Duckie® Paris, Bondage Fashionista, Kitty Hoodie and Pirate (Ahoy Matey!).  One for every different type of personality (well almost).

Vibrating Mesh Sponge

The Vibrating Mesh Sponge by Sport Sheets Sex in the Shower series can also be used in the bath for playtime fun.  The vibrating bullet inside the bath scrunchie is 100% waterproof, so you can give yourself a vibrating massage while washing your entire body.  Single speed push button design is easy to use with slippery fingers.  Don’t forget to wash your erogenous zones for sexy, orgasmic bath time pleasure!

Treasures of the Sea Bath Salts

Back when I worked as a brick and mortar sex toy store pleasure consultant, Kama Sutra Treasures of the Sea Bath Salts was one of our number 1 sellers.  Not only did our customers love it, but everyone who worked at the store was addicted to these luxurious bath salts as well.  These salts foam up in the bath and create a paradise of tropical, blue water, so you feel like Aphrodite herself being birthed by orgasmic sea foam.

Made with skin nourishing sea minerals and a skin softening formula that leaves your skin radiant and moisturized.  Let the soothing scent of ocean breezes lull you into a state of deep relaxation.  Perfect for solo baths to relax or feel sexy before date night, or during date night for a couple!  Includes a seashell scoop.

Kama Sutra Luxury Bathing Gel Wild Clove

Another product I got to review and grew to love was Kama Sutra’s Wild Clove Bathing Gel.  I love Kama Sutra’s bath products, and was curious about what this bath gel would be like.  The scent of cloves and ginger is spicy, warm and sexy, yet also very stimulating.

Cloves is a natural aphrodisiac, as well as having antioxidant and antifungal properties so great at helping with skin conditions like acne and also works for relieving stress. Blended from 10 natural vegetable extracts and Vitamin E-rich wheat germ, leaves you silky smooth and seductive.

Waterproof Vibrating Sex Toys

Just about any type of sex toy can be used in the bath tub these days.

There are thousands of sex toys that both vibrate and are waterproof like the ones shown below.  Make sure before you purchase a product that it actually says Waterproof and not just Splashproof, Water Resistant or Water Repellant.  Many toys will say they are ok to go in water, but they can’t be immersed.  Only waterproof toys are fully immersible.

So that’s it for sexy time in the bath tub.  Stay tuned for more sexy ways to use sex toys coming up in the next few weeks.

Meanwhile, go check out the toys at our!

Best Sex Toys of 2017

Welcome sex toy fiends to the last sex toy review blog of the year.  Fireworks are just around the corner (and coming soon to a bedroom near You!), and as we reflect on the good, the bad and everything naughty and nice in 2017, we would like to present you with our Best Sex Toys of 2017!


To put together this list, I scoured the internet for the bestsellers of 2017 with the best reviews from real customers just like you.  So, this list is not based on my personal favs, but on consumer favorites, award winners, and the top best sellers of the year.

I think you will find some awesome finds in this list for everyone, including men, women, couples, singles, gay, lesbian, transgender, beginners, and pros, those into kink and vanilla folks as well.

Best Vibe for Beginners – Satisfyer Penguin

The Satisfyer Pro Penguin is actually one of the best vibes of the year for beginners and pros alike.  But, I chose the Beginner’s category, because it is so simple to use and will get any clitoris humming.

This vibe is actually a clitoral sucker which provides pulsating clitoral suction, without direct contact.  It is a real crowd pleaser and is guaranteed to give you quick, amazing orgasms in less than 1 minute! 11 vibrating functions, waterproof, and rechargeable.

Best for Couples – We-Vibe Sync

The We-Vibe Sync is the latest in couple’s vibes, now with an adjustable fit that customizes to your unique shape to pleasure both the clitoris and G-spot during partnered sex.  Takes couple’s sex lives to a whole new level of WOW! Connects with the We-Connect App for more features.

Best for Lesbians – Feeldoe

The Tantus Realdoe Feeldoe features a strapless strap-on design, which allows the wearer to get pleasured while they penetrate their partner.  Much more intuitive than a regular strap-on, it also has a spot to insert a vibrating bullet.

Best for Gay Men – Tom of Finland P-spot Vibe

Tom of Finland P-Spot Vibe is an ergonomic P-Spot stimulator that comes with a powerful vibrating bullet for more stimulation. Perfectly angled to hit the prostate, the flared base will keep it in place while the angled head applies direct pressure and vibration to your P-Spot.

Best for Women – Magic Wand

Magic Wand Rechareable

The Magic Wand Rechargeable is just about the very best massager style vibrator on the market.  Most powerful, reliable, and now rechargeable, your just can’t beat the Magic Wand.

Best Trans Toy – Buck-Off Buck Angel FTM Stroker Black

The Buck-off, official Buck Angel stroker is the first product designed specifically for transmen to engage in stroking fun. Made with Perfect Fit’s ultra soft SilaSkin the Buck-off feels like real flesh, and is sized perfectly for transmen who have started their transition FTM. As Buck Angel says, “Loving your new body is what it is all about.”

Best for Men – Blewit

The Blewit Pleasure Trainer is so cool it gives me penis envy… well almost.  It is a uniquely designed masturbator that mimics the sensations of partnered sex and can be used both for pleasure and as a training tool to improve sexual performance. This toy features a hands-free vacuum stroke with intense suction, which it what makes it so awesome.

Best for Kinky Play – Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload 10 Days Of Pleasure

I’ve featured the Fifty Shades Freed Pleasure Overload 10 Days Of Pleasure kit before, but it also made it to this list as well because, it is pretty amazing, and it has everything you need to get started for an entire weekend of kinky play.  Includes: small pleasure whip, blindfold, feather tickler, butt plug, vibrating ring, bullet vibrator, Ben Wa style ball and satin restraints.  Let’s play!

Best for Sensual Play – Sex & Mischief Feather Tickler

Some products are the best just because they are so simple.  It is hard to improve on a feather tickler for sensation play, and Sex & Mischief by Sportsheets makes the best there is.  Made with 7” long feathers.

Best Sensual Accessory Product – Desir Metallique Collection Gold (Bijoux Indiscrets)

The Desir Metallique Collection Gold by Bijoux Indiscrets is what I would call elegant bondage.  It won the Best Sensual Accessory Product last year at the Xbiz awards.  It is sexy, cool, metallic and luxurious. Metallic mesh collar and metal bracelets in gold sold separately.

Best Kegel Exerciser – Lovelife Krush (OhMiBod)

Let’s not forget the importance of doing our kegels!  The Ohmibod Lovelife series Krush Kegel exerciser helps strengthen the pelvic floor, with built in sensor technology and a strong motor for deep vibrations.  The Krush measures the pressure, control, endurance, and grip of your PC muscles to enhance kegels. Comes with a TASL App that has: Quick start guide, Pelvic training courses, Voice guided training, Exercise activity training, Goal setting and rewards. App locking feature for extra security.

Best Anal Toy – B-Vibe

I don’t know who comes up with these innovative products, but the B-Vibe is a sure winner.  This B-Vibe is a Rimming Anal Plug, that incorporates rotating beads for a rimming sensation and powerful tip vibration for orgasmic stimulation. Comes with wireless remote control and features five vibration and rotation intensity levels and six vibration patterns. Waterproof.  Rechargeable.

Best Couple’s Vibrating O Ring- Ohare

The majority of couple’s vibrating cock rings on the market are okay, but not necessarily awesome.  Basically, the Ohare vibrating ring turns a penis into a vibrating rabbit, with flexible rabbit ears and a super powered motor.  Also, wireless, because, well, why not?


As usual, you can find all these toys and more at our shop for the BEST Sex Toys anywhere on planet earth! xo

The 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians—Part 2

So, Cosmo put out the “11 Best Lesbian Sex Toys for Couples” two weeks ago.  Then, last week, I decided to do my own list for “REAL” Lesbians, like the real lesbians above in “Orange is the New Black”.  So, I added “The 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians—Part 1”, which had the first top 10 best lesbian sex toys in it, here.

Today I give you, the next 10 awesome, amazing, sexalicious lesbian sex toys for REAL lesbians and their REAL Lesbian Lovers.

Without further ado… Here are the toys!

Voulez Vouz Edible Massage Candle Fondat Au Chocolat for Vagetarians and Muffers

I love candles, especially candles you can use during sex, or foreplay.  These sexy massage candles are made from soy, which means they have a low melting point so are safe on skin, are edible, and moisturizing.

To use, light the candle to create the atmosphere and allow the aroma to awaken the senses. Wait about 20 minutes and the melted candle wax has now become a warm massage oil that you can pour all over your lover’s body, rub in and lick off.  Make oral sex that much better. Yum!

This edible massage product is made in Paris.  The container has a convenient pour spout so you don’t spill it where you don’t want it.  The flavor is delicious: Chocolate Fondue.

*Note: I’ve tasted a lot of sexual edible products in the past like flavored lubes which usually taste plastic and simulated, kind of like fake lesbians.  So, make sure you get the real thing! 😉

Her Anal Kit for Anal Attentive Queers

What’s a girl gotta do to get a good anal kit these days?  Usually they are all pink, have 3 different sizes of anal plugs and that’s it, or they might have a vibrator, but it doesn’t have a flanged bottom, so not safe for anal.  What’s up with that?

I decided to scour the shelves so I could present you with this really cool anal kit, which is great for beginners or intermediates, and has everything you need to get started and enjoy an orgasmic anal play date.  Plus, its not pink.

Okay, so what’s inside the Her Anal Kit?

  • A Superior Silicone Rocker Probe with curved base for comfort and fit.
  • A Silicone Glider Probe with tapered end and retrieval loop.
  • A set of Silicone beginner anal beads that are pliable and durable.
  • A Powerful multi-speed bullet vibrator to stimulate all your zones.

What really cool about this kit is that you can share it with another anal lover, because it has two anal probes.  And, all products are made out of silicone (except bullet) which can be sterilized, and safely shared.

Sex & Mischief’s Heart-shaped Silicone Anal Beads for Molly Dykes

If you are not quite ready for a whole anal kit, but want to try out anal play, then the Sex and Mischief Collection Silicone Anal Beads are the way to go.

Notice these beads are heart-shaped, which means they have a flat end at the top, which allows them to stay inside easier and also produces more intensity when pulled out.  Plus a pointed end for easy insertion.

These beads are made from high quality silicone so can be sterilized before and after use.  Use with a water based lube only.

Crystal Delight Kitty Medallion Plug for Glamour Puss Dykes

Then we have the ultimate in anal bling with Crystal Delight’s Kitty Medallion Pink Butt Plug for Glamour Puss Dykes. Yeah, sorry about the pink 😉

Created out of beautifully handcrafted glass, this pleasure purroduct is available in either clear or pink, and features a stunning image of a Kitty in rhinestones on the base. This saucy Kitty toy comes with her very own handcrafted pouch for storage and travel.

Sex & Mischief Feather Slapper for Bambi-sexuals

Perhaps your sexual fantasies are more along the lines of a bit of slap and tickle?  Well, Sex and Mischief from Sportsheets has you covered with this Feather Slapper.

This slapper features a sturdy crop for lusty smacks on one end, and a luxurious soft featured tickler on the other end, to tease and ease the blows.

Pro Tip: Use a blindfold to keep her guessing about what is coming next!

Red Dragon 5 Piece Satin Bondage Set for BullDyke Tops and Fairy Lady Bottoms

This Red Dragon 5 Piece Satin Bondage Set by XR Brands is to die for.  I just love the sensual and elegant Asian design reminiscent of Geisha and ancient courtesans.

This is definitely a playful love slave set, rather than a hardcore bondage kit, meant to be used to seduce your lover with sensory play and tease her to exquisite orgasm.

Made of silky satin with easy to use Velcro closures and corset style laces.

Pocket Dungeon Kit for U-haul Lesbians

The Pocket Dungeon Kit is one of the coolest BDSM toys ever invented.  It has EVERYTHING your need to create an experienced bondage or D/s play scene… all in one, teeny-tiny little kit made out of napa leather.  So, yes, perfect for U-haul lesbians!

The Kit includes:

  • Benyi Jou Kubton: A unique, versatile tool that is a telescoping, multiple sensation toy to be used with its multiple attachments.
  • Cane: Tuck the poles into each other to increase the weight for more options in sensations go from light sting, to heavy thud.
  • Riding Crop: Slide the pole into the tube at the bottom of the leather crop tip attachment for lots of fun with your pony or princess.
  • Ball Chain Flogger: six 4 inches stainless steel falls of sensuous chain.
  • Leather Flogger: six 5 inches soft suede tendrils of luscious leather.
  • Benyi Bull Whip: 20 inches Adjustable leather fall with a 5 inches nylon cracker.
  • Two Cotter Cuffs: Very comfortable adjustable leather cuffs that when secured with the cotter buttons allow you to attach wrists to each other or to the door jams. The cotter cuffs come with two options for securing: padlocks or carabineers.
  • Two Door Jams: Leather straps with D-rings attached, to secure your lover to a door frame and allows their body to become your canvas to play with.
  • Two Light bombers: These flashlights have been included to keep the door jams in any door, and to give you light options of red and white.
  • Blindfold: You have the option of eyes open or closed with this custom designed, cushioned, leather blindfold.
  • Knife: Used for sensory play.
  • Five Claws: Adjustable 5 stainless steel claws slip easily on the fingertips leaving your finger flesh exposed. Now your play can range from loving strokes to lightning strikes!

Under the Bed Restraint System for Femme Dommes and SAMs

As far as restraints go, the Under the Bed Restraint System by Sportsheets is a #1 bestseller.  It is portable, easy to set up and use, and will transform any bed in to a sexy bondage dungeon.  Great for travel!

You can also use theses restraints to enable various sex positions for exciting new ways to have sex.

Pro Tip: For SAMs (Smart Ass Masochists) use with a ball gag!

Mystim Pure Vibes eStim Unit for Kikis

Not many couples are into electro-stimulation.  I think this is because they’ve never heard of electro-sex, they don’t know what it is, or they fear it.

But with Mystim’s Pure Vibes eStim Unit, there is really nothing to fear, because it is completely safe to use.*

The kit creates an “electric” current through the skin that can be mild and tickling to an abrupt intense zap.

Use the digital controller with 2 channels to change the intensity, speed and rhythm of the pulses.

The Mystic also sells several attachments including dildos, vibes, anal plugs and more, for electo-sizzling sex! Check out these Magic Gloves (shown above)!

*Warning: Current must never flow through the heart. Do not use if you have a pacemaker, are pregnant, if you suffer from epilepsy, or on any broken or inflamed skin.

King Cock Deluxe Inflatable Vibrating Hot Seat for Strum Queens

If you want to get a toy that will guarantee hours of fun and orgasms, then the King Cock Deluxe Inflatable Vibrating Hot Seat is for you.

Basically, it is a bouncing toy for adults, that features a large (choose between 6” or 8”) vibrating dildo on top to insert and bounce upon.

I know what your mind is thinking…  “Yehaw, ride em cowgirl, giddy up!”

Yes, indeed.  Your sexy bouncing stallion awaits.  Plus hours of fun for your lover too, as they watch you self-pleasure on your lively stud. Or visa-versa.

Be careful though, this toy could be addictive.
*Hot Seat holds up to 300 pounds.


So, that’s it for my round-up of the 20 Best Sex Toys for Real Lesbians for today.  If you missed last week’s other 10 Best Sex Toys for REAL Lesbians it is here.

Check out all these toys and more at our shop for REAL lesbians and their friends!