The holidays are upon us – a great time to reflect and give great gifts! This season also happens to be the anniversary of when I started my Passion Parties business 12 years ago, so I couldn’t help but think about how sex toys have evolved in just the last decade.
I’d like to share the top 3 sex toy innovations and some great products to consider for your gift list, whether you’re buying for someone nice or naughty!
Pulse, Wave, Echo, Tide, Crest, Bounce, Surf, Peak, and Cha Cha Cha. These are all official names of the patterns of vibration of the We-Vibe 4 Plus, though if you don’t like them, We-Vibe even lets you design your own pattern. Patterns have become such a staple feature of quality toys with many toys even having multiple vibrators within to pass the sensation around. Patterns keep stimulation new, fresh, fun, and customizable. 12 years ago, you were lucky if your toy had more than one speed. Being able to turn it up or turn it down was a big selling point! I remember when we got a pulsating bullet and it was such a huge hit because patterns were quite the novelty.
The kids are in bed, your work day is over, you have a few minutes alone and your toy has been waiting for you, neglected for months. Finally you pull it out and turn it on……nothing. Damn. Ok, time to change out the batteries…..the battery drawer is empty. Fine! You steal the batteries out of the Remote Control and open your toy….only to discover a crusty mess. The battery acid has leaked out all over the battery compartment of your precious vibrator. No saving this one. How much did you pay for it? Into the trash it goes!
Enter rechargeable toys! Never again will you ruin your toy by neglect. Most rechargeable toys can hold a charge for months and when active can run for hours! The lack of a battery compartment has the added bonus of making it easy to design toys to be water resistant or even waterproof. Not only that, but in order to help conserve power, many toys now have a “3 Second Rule” where you can turn them off by holding the button down for 3 seconds. Some toys even require you to hold the button to turn it on so it won’t accidentally get bumped in your bag and embarrass you in the elevator on the way up to a Bachelorette Party in a posh hotel. Don’t ask. Moving on.
Material & Design
“Why does it have a face?” “Is that a beaver or a bear?” “Why does it smell funny?” I’m so incredibly thankful that I don’t have to field these questions anymore. Passion Parties has completely eliminated toys from our line that contain Phthalates, a plasticizer that had a strong rubbery odor and only in the last ten years was labeled a carcinogen and had the potential to leach chemicals into the body when used in toys. Silicone is now the preferred material for sex toys gaining more and more prominence due to its non-porous nature and high heat resistance (toys melting into each other was also a fun discussion topic I don’t miss).
However, more than the material, the rechargeable batteries, or the patterns, the thing I am most thankful for is how the design of toys has changed. Toys like the We-Vibe paved the way for a whole new generation of devices that are shaped for how they stimulate rather than the former phallic array we had to choose from. Emphasis is placed on all the spots a toy can reach, how it curves, where the clitoral stimulator might lie, and if you want something pretty to look at, many toys have colorful lights or simple bold pinks, purples, or turquoises.
We are also finally free of the faces and the animals. Early on in sex toy evolution, someone decided that women like cute animals, so why not make all clitoral stimulators look like bunnies, or turtles, or dolphins, or elephants or beavers (yes beavers)? Then there were the faces. I can’t honestly say how true the story is, but rumor had it that some of the toys were designed in Japan where it was illegal to make penis shaped toys so they put faces on them and labeled them “action figures.” Clients would sometimes get freaked out by this feature, but I’d just remind them that if you’re looking at the face, you’re doing something wrong. That’s not where it goes!
So next time you pull out your beautiful Lelo Soraya or have a few minutes to play with your Jimmy Jane Form 2, take a moment to be thankful for all that the sex toy industry has done to improve the quality of these toys. What will the future hold? Maybe We-Vibe has a hint…. Did you know there’s an App for that? Oh yeah.